FrustratedNigga:
you're so right, I can relate to this. She told me if I love her I should respect her chastity. I accepted but the day I realized that she fu*cks all Tom dick and Harry in her school was the worst day of my life. For the first time I felt so cheated.

tellwisdom:
Nigerian gurls are very foolish and dull. If he had refused you all these assistance, would you have come here to say "he's very nice"?? You scored him nice because he was able to help you financially and physically. I no blame you, na the eddiot wey leave him mama for village dey take care of a total stranger i go blame...Onye ara jati jati

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

tellwisdom:
Nigerian gurls are very foolish and dull. If he had refused you all these assistance, would you have come here to say "he's very nice"?? You scored him nice because he was able to help you financially and physically. I no blame you, na the eddiot wey leave him mama for village dey take care of a total stranger i go blame...Onye ara jati jati

Oliviaarims:
If truly you've resolutely decided to abstain, the need to create this thread wouldn't have arisen. Your resolve isn't strong enough, you're having second thoughts and that's where you've begun to lose the battle.

Abstinence is good. Don't allow anyone tell you that because you're no longer a virgin, you must continue indulging in premarital sex.

JustHere2Observ:


Good for her, better to loose someone who feels he is paying you to sleep with you. How are we sure he will stay even after sleeping with her?

TeeFriz:
Erm and you receive his financial Aids...lol Tit for tat...
Most Ladies Neva Fink About Y A Guy Spends On Dem? If Its Not 4 Lov, Den Its 4 Sex!!

KingCheezyPuff:
So yer condoning his rape scenario?
••••••wow ,they should just lock you 2 up now.

Sweetpenis:




Haahahhahaha,dis is y they tear their pants...u don cop buh no wan make guy man chop..lols

rman:
Guys would stop drmanding for sex if girls stop being emotional and financial burdens.

They expect the bf to recharge their phones, call them, sponsor birthrdays, take them out to movies , eateries, buy shoes, cloth etc however all she has to do is be there to enjoy..majority offer nothing.

At a point, the boy realises, if she leaves, money spent is down the drain. And the chances of girls leaving u is very high, especially when they are still young. They rarely pass up the opportunity to upgrade their BFs..

Demand for sex is just a consolation for the guys..a guy that is genuinely in love with u will still hurt when u leave,even when he has slept with u.

So a more balanced relationship is what will dowse the tension for sex..buy him gifts, genuine ones not boxers. Call him up and take him out and be responsible for the cost sometimes. Sponsor his brithdays, yes , it won't kill u. And remind him of how lucky u are to have him in your life..He may still want sex but won't ne angry if u refuse.

Lastly, true love is genuinely unconditional. However, setting conditions ensures no one gets hurt or cheated. Girls want true love, if that is true, sex is an important ingredient of true love. The moment u do not want to do that, then u have accepted reality and stepped out of fantasy land. There is no unconditional love.

herald9:

Is the topic about rape?

did you see his comment
shouldn't you be concerned with it and not my callin' out of him the logic here.

VikingsOO7:
Sex is overrated. Tell him You've made up Your mind- No sex till marriage. If he's still pushing it, kindly end the relationship and stop collecting his money.

Sermwell:

Olivia the truth here is that the Op called for that silly demand of her boyfriend! Why was she busy relying on him for her needs when she's not down with the probable consequence? Most girls just want to eat their cake and have it! Would she not be acting up if the guy had refused her emotional and financial needs?

Nelito1472:


Ha! U want guy man to buy shoe without knowing the size? I can't afford buying over/under size shoe

moneyMouthed:



@ Op, truth is bitter. Don't ignore the few right advice. My advice is that u forget the majority and do what this qote says. If a man truly wants to marry u, he'll wait till he does so before he demands sex, otherwise, he only wants to use and dump you. Be wise, what u term 'kindness' could just be his ploy and scheme to land u in bed and thereafter dump u sad and broken hearted. Take no gift from him again. You are wrong when u receive a gift from a man u don't want to have sex with, a man who's not ur hubby. Flee henceforth from every gift from a man. Above all, never offer to visit him in any secret venue especially his house for any reason. Use your head, stay safe. God bless u my sister.

Peace!

thekingisback:
deny my foot? When she was collecting stuffs she didn't deem it fit to deny the guy? Seriously you girls are very greedy. Now I'm beginning to see reasons with those who rape people like that.

JustHere2Observ:
If you are not ready to have sex with him, then dont. He should respect your decision not to have sex until marriage whether you are a virgin or not, so my advice if you dont want to dont do it.

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

anumide:

mehn, we learn everyday o. yesterday I learnt that when you visit a guy unaccompanied, you want sex.
Today I have learnt that men expect you to use sex as payback for whatever you get from them.
issorrait