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CrazyQuinn:
No I'm not part of those girls I don't need a guy to take care of me financially and emotionally, I can take care of that myself

Masterclass32:
You, detective, you've already snooped on her.

Whether the gist ist true or false may not matter, another person going through such might still be encouraged by my submission. These things happen on a daily.

Talking about favours and draining, what if the girl had also done him some favours too? (gifts on his birthday or some other favours), how does he pay back? It cuts both ways, remember?

If they are going to part ways based solely on the sex issue, then so be it.

Oluwalosheleyi:
STAND BY YOUR DECISION GIRL.even if this post is a super story cooked up by you,another girl can still gain from it.but lets just imagine its real,you cant get so attached to a guy,no one is irreplaceable,try to convince him to share your beliefs and if he doesn't change move on,maybe you were not meant to be,what if you marry him and he dies shortly afterwards? shiat happens sis,get ready to let go. I have a similar problem; most girls want to roll in the hay nowadays before marraige or they dont take you serious and I swore an oath to God to refrain from sex years ago and its been so tough but i've discovered i am stronger than i thought.

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

falconey:
first paragraph - ofcourse not, just inform your lover once a while and see if he'll keep assisting. if he does it means it wasn't about sex. how many will do that? knowing it may impair his assistance.

second- no but in boyfriend and girlfriend relationship that's the farthest assumption, isn't receiving from boys the reason girls accept their proposal? and same to guys with the expectation of enjoying intercourse. both are not strangers who met on a subway and the guy chooses to help her pay for the train ticket.


2nd paragraph- whatever principle a lady coddle when a guy approaches her, she need to inform him and constantly remind him, I have been in a no sex relationship ,I stayed for two years, we romance, do all sort but never had sex because I respect her cannon and had other reasons to stay.

a balance must be maintained in a relationship, it is not necessary a lady should offer sex, if a guys sees other benefits he may stay. perhaps her humour,company and assistance. the fact is a lady must give me a reason to STAY.

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

Datkachi:
is the guy an ATM machine? Girls of nowadays see guys as a poverty allalleviation programme

falconey:
why don't ever your gender want to compromise? is he Santa Claus for supporting her emotionally,physically and financially?

my advise was optional, she either give it to him because from the story the dude is getting sick of her principle or she remain adamant and end up losing him to a girl who can. do not forget she claims she is in love with him, if she chooses the latter she will be at the losing end, she will be heartbroken and loses all his supports.

relationship is a two way context, a balance must be maintained.

stuffs4me:
He should respect her decision but she doesn't have to respect his decision. Did you even read the part where the OP said she had been collecting financial, physical and emotional assistance from the guy? You are just a hypocrite. So she can keep the guy as a maga and drain him of his hard earned money abi until she goes to the next victim.

You girls always think you are smart. A girl was bathed with acid some years ago in Kaduna, I really felt sorry for her then, but she could have prevented such irreversible damage to her face if she didn't think she was too smart.

thekingisback:
then she should be ready to return everything the guy has spent on her. Both gifts and money.

JustHere2Observ:
If you are not ready to have sex with him, then dont. He should respect your decision not to have sex until marriage whether you are a virgin or not, so my advice if you dont want to dont do it.

Oliviaarims:
If truly you've resolutely decided to abstain, the need to create this thread wouldn't have arisen. Your resolve isn't strong enough, you're having second thoughts and that's where you've begun to lose the battle.

Abstinence is good. Don't allow anyone tell you that because you're no longer a virgin, you must continue indulging in premarital sex.

schumastic:
what are you saying, okay let's face reality and talk like matured and educated people.

am 99% sure that the reason she used he is acting up is because he is not being committed anymore in terms of financial,physically and advices like she said.

the problem with some of our ladies especially Naija ladies is that they don't say their mind from on set..why didn't she tell the guu from on set that she is a celibate, so he knows what he is getting himself into.

let's assume she doesn't want to have sex till after marriage, Oya let her tell the guy to go and she should stop being selfish by trying to tie him down with fake love and affections.

if the next man should come, she should make him know from day one she is a celibate and let's see how things play out.

thekingisback:
deny my foot? When she was collecting stuffs she didn't deem it fit to deny the guy? Seriously you girls are very greedy. Now I'm beginning to see reasons with those who rape people like that.

herald9:
Erm.. But really, in what ways do ladies contribute to a relationship?

JustHere2Observ:
How do you know she didn't tell him, it's not everything one can put down in words here. I remember telling one idiot I wanted a no sex relationship and he agreed until months later he started pestering me for it and saying that's the only way I can prove I love him. I threw him to the curb, don't have time for bullshit. So yea sometimes when you tell a guy this is what you want, they agree with the hope you change your mind. Sex does not prove love especially when the other person is not ready for it.

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

2odd:
taaa!!! I know u are giving it to ur bf steady ,how can a girl that love a guy call him supermarket boyfriend , this is simple logic ,the girl is damn greedy and wicked .what do most Nigerian girls have to offer.
Aunty OP are u a virgin?? ,

Naso some idiotic girl go tie a guy down without giving him the punna while she's one riff raff olosho

Glory12345:
Actually this is my first post on nairaland,I'm a comment reader and a post reader and I have observed how people do things here and I feel I should share my story,please don't criticise me or anything, I just need your help or advise,and please do read carefully to understand,and i am also sorry if i dont type this well,i'm not much of a writer.Thanks in advance

There's this guy I met at 3chub Ikeja,I actually went to ask if there was any standard rechargeable fan because i have been scammed alot by all these "fairly used" rechargeable fan,so i decided to buy a new one because they sell home appliances there,even though people say fairly used items are better which I chose to decline because this is 2016,and this buhari regime doesnt accomodate an extravagant spending.

I work in Lagos but I stay in mowe,and the electricity there isn't too good so that's why I'm getting the fan so even when the gen is off,i would have an alternative,so when I got to the store,the sales ambassadors offered me different brand rechargeable fan,but i later got a syinix rechargeable fan,because I was impressed with the number of months the warranty covers so I purchased it with my ATM card since I just came to inquire and not buy and I was cashless,I had to just use the POS *I'm only explaining all if these to give you a clearer understanding of the issue on floor*

After purchasing the fan,there was this guy that came to buy a gas cooker and we happened to meet and we both exchanged contacts with eachother and few months later we developed feelings and we had a relationship and we were doing the normal relationship vibe,until this week,he started acting up because I said no sex until marriage...he's a very nice person anyway,he helped me in so many ways(advices,financially,physically) but just because I said no sex until marriage,he's acting up already,although I have my reasons for abstaining until marriage anyway but my story is sad,and I don't know who to tell and I feel more comfortable telling people online because someone that knows me physically might not say the truth to me,because they don't want to hurt me,please I need matured comments even if it will hurt,just tell me

Although we aren't kids,but I'm just troubled because I love him a lot and I don't know what to do.

I'm a loner right now

falconey:
if you truly love him give it to him if you are not a virgin, in love you compromise, he did helping in the mentioned ways,now do the same for him.

if you don't, with time he will start a relationship with someone who can. BOYS GAT NEEDS

schumastic:
abstainance is good quite all right but you ladies should say It from day one that you are a celibate. that way, it will be the guy's decision to stay or leave..not when he has shown too much commitment n sacrifices then you will now start singing songs of celibacy and if he wants to leave, you will start crying that he is only there for the sex just to tie him down for selfish reasons.

Oliviaarims:
If truly you've resolutely decided to abstain, the need to create this thread wouldn't have arisen. Your resolve isn't strong enough, you're having second thoughts and that's where you've begun to lose the battle.

Abstinence is good. Don't allow anyone tell you that because you're no longer a virgin, you must continue indulging in premarital sex.

LaserFocus:
If a boy wants to fulfil his needs, he knows what to do. Go and pay her bride price. Stop looking for osho free.