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Sincere4u:
How u take know.

Intuition as well as being a graduate of the school of hard knocks.

Ishilove:
See as the lady dry like panla fish.

Lolzzz , am not laughing.

2dugged:
the last guy that sent me a dm and we dated for a while kept insisting I always say yes to every dm /pm I get,so just imagine if I was the one that sent him a dm first, e kukuma use me do mop self, because he will think I send dm to every cute guy I see.Ladies please don't try this in naija, you will only get used and dumped, he sends you a dm first yet still dumps you,what will happen if you send him a dm first, you just fueled his ego and cornered yourself into a position to be used and dumped

There is nothing called used and dumped. It's a fallacy used by people who don't have value to communicate to others rather low self-esteem people.

Adeinfo:
There is nothing called used and dumped. It's a fallacy used by people who don't have value to communicate to others rather low self-esteem people.

then what is the word for it?,a situation where you manipulate a person's emotions to suit your needs and you are willing to put up that charade, for as long as your needs are met,give me the right word,Mr high self-esteem

HungerBAD:
I am happy for them honestly.

I try as much as possible not to judge people's taste,in who they date or even get married to.

Because as they say,beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Would HungerBAD be caught with a lady dressed like the one I am seeing in this pictures in Public?no.

Let alone even making her a wife.

There are a lot of things the White people took from us Africans when they Colonized us. They took us as slaves,they stole our artifacts,they forced their religions on us,they forced us to speak their languages.

But one thing they did not take from us is our Culture and Beliefs. The African Culture teaches our women how to dress respectfully by covering themselves up decently.

Ishilove come here.

I have started gathering money to move from Sango to Agege for us. If this is how you dress,tell me make i use my money start pure water business.

I don't think African culture teaches people to cover themselves properly! I have picture evidence of cloth-less Africans roaming around with their husbands with the bweast dangling. Sometimes I wonder why people think white made us to be baring our bodies. They rather brought us clothings

crotonite:

Ur head dey there. They zo f*****g annoying to chat with. when you meet them physically, they become talking drum.

Those ones only know how to speak. They aren't good in written English. If they start typing you won't want to meet them physically.

mercichoco:
I have sent alot of dm, pm or whatever but i don't seems to get response

Na lie idontbelivu. Who go ignore fine girl like u. Unless he is married.

Truth is African women need to be emotionally and finanacially independent before making the first move in a dating scenario. Look at female celebrities who have married more than once like Funke Akindele and Monalisa Chinda,they know their onions and can never let any man toy with them.
I am also very confident with a high self-esteem which is boosted by my financial independence. My exes keep calling after so many years because they know my worth(priceless). Btw i always end the relationship first. That way,they keep running after me. Lol! Ladies,forget about marriage as a do or die affair and focus on getting financially stable. Trust me,any man who knows your value would always appreciate you!




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mercichoco:
I have sent alot of dm, pm or whatever but i don't seems to get response

As you fine reach? Na wa ooooo...

mercichoco:
I have sent alot of dm, pm or whatever but i don't seems to get response

have u sent me any?

soberdrunk:
Nigerian girls go gree hear!!!?? All dem sabi nah "how did you get my number", "how did you get my pin" like say dem buy phone to dey call and ping themselves". The number of girls way don miss der husband cos of "how did you get my number" "how did you get my pin" eheen, after dem go dey roll 4 ground 4 Shiloh like say husband go fall from up! Them go see fine boy, instead make them make move, dem go dey wait make man come toast them like say them be 'shoprite bread'...............

lol but honestly can't blame em. Some guys just exchange pins n nums with their friends with only one intention, just for relation not relationship.
But then how u u separate weed from chaff?

2dugged:
then what is the word for it?,a situation where you manipulate a person's emotions to suit your needs and you are willing to put up that charade, for as long as your needs are met,give me the right word,Mr high self-esteem

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I understand your point. The truth of the matter is no one can manipulate your emotions if you don't accede to it. No matter how someone pretend, something will always sell the person out provided you are observant. That's why Intelligent reasoning and logic first before emotions..... in other words, use your head first before taking a binding decision.

HungerBAD:
I am happy for them honestly.

I try as much as possible not to judge people's taste,in who they date or even get married to.

Because as they say,beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Would HungerBAD be caught with a lady dressed like the one I am seeing in this pictures in Public?no.

Let alone even making her a wife.

There are a lot of things the White people took from us Africans when they Colonized us. They took us as slaves,they stole our artifacts,they forced their religions on us,they forced us to speak their languages.

But one thing they did not take from us is our Culture and Beliefs. The African Culture teaches our women how to dress respectfully by covering themselves up decently.

Ishilove come here.

I have started gathering money to move from Sango to Agege for us. If this is how you dress,tell me make i use my money start pure water business.

There's a different form of colonisation going on bruh and it's even more dangerous... Television and Social media Colonisation. We keep trading our decency and cultural values every day for their immorality, thanks to Junk TV/music and of course fb/insta/snap.
But who am I to complain, I just sit down with a fine wine and enjoy the nudity.

bro dem go bark naaa when one bros dey carry correct igboloko correct bone pass dem..and dem dey h..

Ishilove:
Rotfl!

HungerBAD:
I am happy for them honestly.
The African Culture teaches our women how to dress respectfully by covering themselves up decently.

lol you don't know much about Africa culture and dressing, don't quote me till you find out

Adeinfo:
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I understand your point. The truth of the matter is no one can manipulate your emotions if you don't accede to it. No matter how someone pretend, something will always sell the person out provided you are observant. That's why Intelligent reasoning and logic first before emotions..... in other words, use your head first before taking a binding decision.

don't make having emotions sound like a disease or a let down, the brain controls all part of human responses and every human who has a brain is bound to have emotions, when the brain the fails to process logical information in situations as falling inlove, drug addiction, and other strong emotional attachments which is controlled by the dopamine receptors of the brain, it doesn't make the individual unintelligent in the general view, infact such an individual is still capable of performing duties and function, it's just that as far as that particular emotional attachment is concerned the brain finds it difficult to cross back the the logic zone, and btw I asked for the right word, all you could say was that you understand my point?, you give me the word I should then use, since only people with low self-esteem use the word, Mr high self-esteem, simple stop being evasive, just give me the word, I want to learn

mercichoco:
I have sent alot of dm, pm or whatever but i don't seems to get response

Try sending me one. Perhaps we can forge from there.

Tiny23:
na so

But I avnt seen ur dm yet

ouzo1:
Am implying that u ain't capable of liking someone online let alone asking them out

If I understand you correctly, who ever that's behind a keyboard is a robot!!

Ishilove:
Nairaland no go kee person with laf

Na wa oo. U be hotcake here o..

Creamish:
Na wa oo. U be hotcake here o..

My sister, na local champion levels

Ishilove:
My sister, na local champion levels

Make i chill somewhere de observe..

2dugged:
don't make having emotions sound like a disease or a let down, the brain controls all part of human responses and every human who has a brain is bound to have emotions, when the brain the fails to process logical information in situations as falling inlove, drug addiction, and other strong emotional attachments which is controlled by the dopamine receptors of the brain, it doesn't make the individual unintelligent in the general view, infact such an individual is still capable of performing duties and function, it's just that as far as that particular emotional attachment is concerned the brain finds it difficult to cross back the the logic zone, and btw I asked for the right word, all you could say was that you understand my point?, you give me the word I should then use, since only people with low self-esteem use the word, Mr high self-esteem, simple stop being evasive, just give me the word, I want to learn

You seem to be agitated. Just calm down, this is not a word game. Moreover, I'm not being evasive. The truth is if you have a stand point you communicate to people about what you believe. Two things will happen, it's either they agree or treat you like an outcast. No one can force you to do something if you don't consent to it. In general, there is nothing like use and dump. It's either you're involved or don't get involved. Learn to take responsibilities for your acts and action and be prepared for the consequences either good or bad. That's maturity of mind

funny!

HungerBAD:
I am happy for them honestly.

I try as much as possible not to judge people's taste,in who they date or even get married to.

Because as they say,beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Would HungerBAD be caught with a lady dressed like the one I am seeing in this pictures in Public?no.

Let alone even making her a wife.

There are a lot of things the White people took from us Africans when they Colonized us. They took us as slaves,they stole our artifacts,they forced their religions on us,they forced us to speak their languages.

But one thing they did not take from us is our Culture and Beliefs. The African Culture teaches our women how to dress respectfully by covering themselves up decently.

Ishilove come here.

I have started gathering money to move from Sango to Agege for us. If this is how you dress,tell me make i use my money start pure water business.

Adeinfo:
You seem to be agitated. Just calm down, this is not a word game. Moreover, I'm not being evasive. The truth is if you have a stand point you communicate to people about what you believe. Two things will happen, it's either they agree or treat you like an outcast. No one can force you to do something if you don't consent to it. In general, there is nothing like use and dump. It's either you're involved or don't get involved. Learn to take responsibilities for your acts and action and be prepared for the consequences either good or bad. That's maturity of mind

I am not agitated, I detest self righteous superhuman acting people like you, if you feel it should not be tagged as use and dump, then provide another word for it, since you obviously know better, simple, and please I am being my calm self, if you don't understand the word manipulation then go and check your dictionary, because you can be made to do what you ordinarily should not do, same reason why a person will strap a bomb to himself,maybe you have also heard of brainwashing, hypnosis,seduction, so please don't make that fallacious statement that you can't be forced to do anything without you giving your consent, because you can even without you even knowing it

ngobaby2264:
I'd never try it again. I'm kind of an unconventional person. Very open minded but from the experiences I've had I won't try it again. Most guys would just take the opportunity to break your heart and say after all, where you not the one that made the first move. First time, I had this close guy friend. I started developing feelings for him, after much effort I opened up to him on how I felt about him, he lied that he felt the same way about me. He just saw that as an opportunity. Until later I realized he had a girlfriend and he didn't deny it. Previously I asked if he had a girlfriend and he said no. The two other guys I tried to dm don't even notice me. So I've just given up on love for now. If it happens fine, if it does not life goes on. I'd just keep on being the best version of myself. P. S please is there a special way to understand guys? Especially when they tell you they love you but don't want to commit at the same time?

depending on the kind of guys you meet.

from your write up you have been meeting the wrong kind of guys all your life.

most of our ladies tend to see and likes guys base on what there wear (clothing, phones and so on) and tend to over look the one guy who is so simple minded, in other world materialism that's what is disturbing ya people.

on Facebook case or social media don't always DM the guy who have more that 200 friends and above. how will that guy take you serious

also in social media there are the shy ones who don't tend to have so many frds. but in the end ya women will be having close to 1000 friends on social media! why will we take you girls seriously.


check nairaland here you will be following up to 299 male moniker and you expects someone to DM you the unserious ones will always DM you people.

in summary look beyond materialism and try to understand the heart of men. men are very simple to understand. a simple yes and no is enough to move a mountain in a guys heart..

we always sense rudeness in chatting.

and another thing with you women is that you don't really know how to communicate. you women don't have a sense of interest in almost every conversation.

danbrowndmf:
so if and you and your man have issues and he said u woo him..issit in anyway a crime? You ladies are always scared of rejection.something we men face err time.

i agree wiv u

Wetin she wear self

rosieluv:
i agree wiv u

yeah.it a simple logic. Hope you can now woo me now

2dugged:
I am not agitated, I detest self righteous superhuman acting people like you, if you feel it should not be tagged as use and dump, then provide another word for it, since you obviously know better, simple, and please I am being my calm self, if you don't understand the word manipulation then go and check your dictionary, because you can be made to do what you ordinarily should not do, same reason why a person will strap a bomb to himself,maybe you have also heard of brainwashing, hypnosis,seduction, so please don't make that fallacious statement that you can't be forced to do anything without you giving your consent, because you can even without you even knowing it

Well, everyone is entitled to their opinion be it informed or uninformed. I am not righteous nor a superhuman. Good point from you on brainwashing, hypnosis, seduction. Before you could be a victim of those points you listed. You must be in a state of disorder or ecstasy which is a product of your mind. You could fall a victim of mind action or rather control the action itself. Though not all are capable of that as a result of external circumstances.
A bomb strapper could be a victim of brainwashing, hypnosis or radicalism which create a disorder in the mind.
But act of sexual intercourse between two consenting people is deliberate other it will be termed assault.

Someone serious should DM me, I need a wife.

Mandu11:
believe me,ladies toast gu¥s,and i mean naija ladies.It's just depend the kind of gu¥ u are,it doesn't have to be a rich man.The ladies are more likeli to toast mature gu¥s
."mature" doesn't mean ur age or the moni u'v got

that's true. But most are rich guys