PaperLace:


oh...hush it and don't play that gender card with me.
I asked you a simple question Mr Logic, ain't they better than people brought up by abusive parents?
Yes or No?
What of men brought up by single mothers?
Women brought up by single dads?
The ones brought up by two abusive parents?

I think you're the one that lacks logical reasoning, you expect everyone to come in and agree with you?
So much for a logical man.

Maybe the single mothers should have thrown away the child. Do you guys even remember Nigeria's population before churning out these preposterous and facile assertions? ?

What is even your definition of single mum?
A widow?
Divorcee?
Never been married mother?

CuteMorriz:
I am not saying ladies raised by single parents are all bad, you may get lucky finding some exceptional ladies raised by single mums. Evidently you seldom find single men raising a child but it's quite prevalent with the opposite sex.

A relation of mine was dating this lady and when the time came for the union to be made official, his parents advised him to discontinue becos after they had made enquiries and investigation they discovered the lady's mother left her husband many years ago over some frivolous reasons. Then I asked my uncle why did he side with family and not allow his son take the bold step then he said:

1. Women raised by single parent (mother) are usually strong willed hence may end up like their mother.

2. A lady who has seen no need for a father will be swift to end a union because she will have the courage to train her children alone afterall she was raised by a mum.

3. How will she get marital advice from her mum when things are tough and you know ladies often run to their mum when they need advice (remember the mother took the easy way out)

4. Sooner or later my son may become a bachelor again...the odd is high and is glaring..

5. A lady who have spent 21 years of her life without a father cannot be psychologically stable even if she appears to be.

6. Ladies raised by single parents did not experience the beautiful and ugly part of the union called marriage from her parents hence they don't have their parents as their role model.

7. Amin (as he fondly calls me) when the baton gets to you, look at the mother of your fiancèe closely because with time she will display those traits you observed in the mother......

Then I asked him what if the lady's father is dead and the mum decided to train her alone?...my uncle said we may also enquire about the untimely death of the father but "Amin that is a topic for another day"......

goingape1:
if you find out that there are raise by single parent pls abort that mission.

those women are wayward and would put that same cursed on you.


she will later leave and repeat the same process again.

ItsQuinn:
ladies! If you find guys that are raised by a single parent abort that mission!

PaperLace:


oh...hush it and don't play that gender card with me.
I asked you a simple question Mr Logic, ain't they better than people brought up by abusive parents?
Yes or No?
What of men brought up by single mothers?
Women brought up by single dads?
The ones brought up by two abusive parents?

I think you're the one that lacks logical reasoning, you expect everyone to come in and agree with you?
So much for a logical man.

Maybe the single mothers should have thrown away the child. Do you guys even remember Nigeria's population before churning out these preposterous and facile assertions? ?

What is even your definition of single mum?
A widow?
Divorcee?
Never been married mother?

Arthurwinner:
impaired perception

ItsQuinn:
Exactly! He's just being biased

LadyMercedes:
[s][/s]

What a shallow school of thought!

Timbuktou:


Explain how this perception is impaired.

Creamish:


LOLz...exactly. They prolly specialize in beating women to pulp..

How someone can seat somewhere and pen down some bullshit generalization based simply on some random experience he had with a few people baffles me.

CuteMorriz:
it is not simple generalisation. Ladies often take after their mum...

CuteMorriz:
Absolutely not...ItsQuinn...even if you are a single father (as you claim to be) definitely you are planning to get married sooner or later...

Creamish:


What about the ladies who don't? The ladies that you have deliberately excluded from your piece?

ItsQuinn:
did I say I'm a single father? I'm being raised by a single father

CuteMorriz:
if you have a sample size of about 100 people and 85 is sick...will you be incorrect if you say almost everyone is sick?...the remaining 15 is negligible compared to the sample size...

CuteMorriz:
lol...don't get emotional...I was not trying to make comparisons...with abusive parents et al...I can see you are trying to empathise with single mums...just see the topic the way it is don't try to modify...

I wonder why anyone would sit in his house and tell me not to get emotional_ psychic much?
You can't even answer simple questions, yet you claim to be logical. If you're that logical, you would know those questions are a subliminal way of telling you, it takes a couple for a marriage to work. Majority of the threads here on NL complaining of bad wives (that's me trying to FOCUS), I haven't seen any_ where it was stated that the wife was brought up by a single mum.
Sooo, what went wrong Mr Logic?

Do you know Nigeria's population? I ask once again.
You met just one lady raised by a single mum, out of millions of Nigerians and you run to NL to create thread...as statistician you be ba?

There are few single dads you say?
Jointly made, jointly owned.
'but somehow the woman gets to be stuck with the kids, most times doesn't get married again, raises them to be strong independent people and you think you can rule them out without giving them a chance? Who exactly are you, Uncle?

I am not 'empathising' with anyone but I know what it takes to train a child. Anyone who does that (independently) gets my support.
Now, go back and answer my questions, stop looking for supporters .

PaperLace:

I wonder why anyone would sit in his house and tell me not to get emotional_ psychic much?
You can't even answer simple questions, yet you claim to be logical. If you're that logical, you would know those questions are a subliminal way of telling you, it takes a couple for a marriage to work. Majority of the threads here on NL complaining of bad wives (that's me trying to FOCUS), I haven't seen any_ where it was stated that the wife was brought up by a single mum.
Sooo, what went wrong Mr Logic?

Do you know Nigeria's population? I ask once again.
You met just one lady raised by a single mum, out of millions of Nigerians and you run to NL to create thread...as statistician you be ba?

There are few single dads you say?
Jointly made, jointly owned.
'but somehow the woman gets to be stuck with the kids, most times doesn't get married again, raises them to be strong independent people and you think you can rule them out without giving them a chance? Who exactly are you, Uncle?

I am not 'empathising' with anyone but I know what it takes to train a child. Anyone who does that (independently) gets my support.
Now, go back and answer my questions, stop looking for supporters .

CuteMorriz:
If I answer your questions I will be drifting further from the subject. Which means technically changing the topic...lol...yeah I need supporters cos the way the ladies are bombarding me jeez...

You must answer question.
I still dey wait. You think na by creating thread? Defend your thread like a spartan.

PaperLace:

You must answer question.
I still dey wait. You think na by creating thread? Defend your thread like a spartan.

Creamish:


Single fathers are there. What is your opinion on them or are u simply biased towards women alone?

PaperLace:
rubbish.
Ain't they better than people raised by two abusive parents?

It's actually a good quality to be able to carry on without most men of this generation.

CuteMorriz:
I am not saying ladies raised by single parents are all bad, you may get lucky finding some exceptional ladies raised by single mums.

Evidently you seldom find single men raising a child but it's quite prevalent with the opposite sex.

A relation of mine was dating this lady and when the time came for the union to be made official, his parents advised him to discontinue becos after they had made enquiries and investigation they discovered the lady's mother left her husband many years ago over some frivolous reasons. Then I asked my uncle why did he side with family and not allow his son take the bold step then he said

1. Women raised by single parent (mother) are usually strong willed hence may end up like their mother.

2. A lady who has seen no need for a father will be swift to end a union because she will have the courage to train her children alone afterall she was raised by a mum.

3. How will she get marital advice from her mum when things are tough and you know ladies often run to their mum when they need advice (remember the mother took the easy way out)

4. Sooner or later my son may become a bachelor again...the odd is high and is glaring

A lady who have spent 21 years of her life without a father cannot be psychologically stable even if she appears to be.

Ladies raised by single parents did not experience the beautiful and ugly part of the union called marriage from her parents hence they don't have their parents as their role model.

7. Amin (as he fondly calls me) when the baton gets to you, look at the mother of your fiancèe closely because with time she will display those traits you observed in the mother......

Then I asked him what if the lady's father is dead and the mum decided to train her alone?...my uncle said we may also enquire about the untimely death of the father but "Amin that is a topic for another day"......

cococandy:
what about the men raised by single parents? Oh wait we don't care how they turned out. Any man is good for marriage. Only the ladies must be perused and observed under a magnifying glass just to make sure they are perfect.



And why is that? If not irresponsibility on the men's parts. So the men walk off as they mostly do and the women who stick to raising this children by themselves should be punished and made to look bad for it? You're what's wrong with the world. You and your ilk. Maybe they should have thrown the kids into the gutters (like some do) so that your retardedd asses who judge them for being single parents. Umm but you still do (judge them I mean).



Only God knows what frivolous in this context means. As she wasn't dead yet, it was probably frivolous in their opinion. Like they lived in the marriage with her.

nothing wrong with strong will. Except when you're dealing with a control freak who must always have their way. Then your strong will becomes a problem to them. Because those people's existence is hinged on the subjugation of others. When there is no one to impose themselves on, they don't know how to live.

true if the man is an asshole. The lady has learned from experience that she doesn't need to be miserably married to be a complete human being. Hence she's willing to leave than sit and whine and look for pity party like a helpless 5yr old who's trapped behind a chair.

don't you mean safe way out? Rather than in a body bag? Or wait. What if the man was the one who left? Never mind. It's still her fault for being a single mom. She didn't have enough red pants to keep him from wandering off. Whatever led to the situation, it must have been her fault.

if he's an asshole, the probability is high. I agree.

5.
Hmm. Professor without research. Where's your proof that only raised by single parents have psychological issues?

6.

What ugly parts? before I comment.

maybe. Maybe not.



Yea she probably killed him. We have to find something she's guilty of. There's not way that woman is without blame. If we don't find one, let's make up one.

joseph1832:
Not necessarily. What's good is good and what's bad is bad.

Someone who was raised by an abusive parent might turn out right, thus not being abusive to their kids.

Cutehector:
Come who are those that are fighting in here?
Respect ya old ages!




Cutmorriz your logic doesn't apply in all cases. The ladies attacking you are quite correct in their opinion especially the one asking if those being raised by both parents are any better than the ones from a single parent.


I also read a comment from a dude stating his girlfrnd is from a single parent family and that she is all nice and homely and respectful and all that and he really loves her but can't marry her due to his parents standing on marrying a lady who'z been raised by a single parent.




It's quite through that a good number of them are likely gona tow the part of their parent in their own marital home, but nevertheless, it varies due to one own's training.


Not all single parents(especially mothers) divorced their husbands.. some lost their husbands through death at an early age. And I believe such women in this category understands the importance of a father in the family.



To the ladies attacking cutemorriz, he is also right because people tend to follow the footsteps of their parents. Trust me, if I came from a home where my mum always disrespects my dad, to d extent that they got divorced, I will actually do thesame if my wife makes my home a living hell for me. But my dad is a dad who i've come to admire when it comes to being a Husband. He has grown to take my mum's bullshit! Sometimes I wonder why he even fell in love with her cuz sometimes she can be so so so wicked. Buh he really loves her to death and that alone has really really inspired me.


My dad is my role model when it comes to being a Husband.. and most times I tell myself, nothing can ever make me divorce my wife due to my dad's way of handling misunderstandings.



So please, let's not all fight and attack each other.



They say everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I say, receive wisdom from the Lord.



Cc: coco.candy, cream.ish, itsqu.inn

Creamish:


U just spoke for urself. A billion and one other children raised by single mums wont go down the same road with you. Ul never know what ur reaction will be till U actually live in their shoes. This is where individualistic traits comes to play. We don't all commit suicide when our girlfriend or boyfriend dumps us. Some do ..others don't.

I hope u get my point?

joseph1832:
Not necessarily. What's good is good and what's bad is bad.

Someone who was raised by an abusive parent might turn out right, thus not being abusive to their kids.