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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Creamish(f): 3:32pm On Sep 26, 2016
Cutehector:
creamish, I totally understand where you are coming from. But where I won't agree with you is you thinking all children raised by a single parent will never likely follow their parent's footsteps.

That's why i asked if you got my point. Clearly u didn't.

My issue with the OP is the write-off he did to the single mothers who raised their children well simply because he believes they are in the minority. He also refused to acknowledge the fact that single fathers who raise their kids alone exist.

Remember the example i gave?
Creamish:

We don't all commit suicide when our girlfriend or boyfriend dumps us. Some do ..others don't.


How does this equate to me thinking all children raised by single parent will never likely follow their parent's footstep?

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 3:43pm On Sep 26, 2016
smiley you have a very good point. Bless you smiley
Cutehector:
Come who are those that are fighting in here? undecided
Respect ya old ages!




Cutmorriz your logic doesn't apply in all cases. The ladies attacking you are quite correct in their opinion especially the one asking if those being raised by both parents are any better than the ones from a single parent.


I also read a comment from a dude stating his girlfrnd is from a single parent family and that she is all nice and homely and respectful and all that and he really loves her but can't marry her due to his parents standing on marrying a lady who'z been raised by a single parent.




It's quite through that a good number of them are likely gona tow the part of their parent in their own marital home, but nevertheless, it varies due to one own's training.


Not all single parents(especially mothers) divorced their husbands.. some lost their husbands through death at an early age. And I believe such women in this category understands the importance of a father in the family.



To the ladies attacking cutemorriz, he is also right because people tend to follow the footsteps of their parents. Trust me, if I came from a home where my mum always disrespects my dad, to d extent that they got divorced, I will actually do thesame if my wife makes my home a living hell for me. But my dad is a dad who i've come to admire when it comes to being a Husband. He has grown to take my mum's bullshit! Sometimes I wonder why he even fell in love with her cuz sometimes she can be so so so wicked. Buh he really loves her to death and that alone has really really inspired me.


My dad is my role model when it comes to being a Husband.. and most times I tell myself, nothing can ever make me divorce my wife due to my dad's way of handling misunderstandings.



So please, let's not all fight and attack each other.



They say everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I say, receive wisdom from the Lord.



Cc: cococandy, creamish, itsquinn
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by joseph1832(m): 4:07pm On Sep 26, 2016
Jumaii:


Talk about double standards...


Creamish:


Same goes to a child raised by a single mum. There is no hard-fast rule that the child's destiny must be the same as the mother's. The fact that the mother did not abandon the child and decided to ensure the child is raised regardless of the reason why the man stayed/ran away tells a lot about the strength and courage of the woman.

..and then some know-it-all judge who dint lift a foot in her journey thinks he has the right to pen down crap about single mothers? D'u know what it takes to be a single mum??
I have absolutely no idea what it takes to be a single mum. But what I do know is I have friends who were brought up my single mums, some turned out right, others didn't.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Creamish(f): 4:18pm On Sep 26, 2016
joseph1832:


I have absolutely no idea what it takes to be a single mum. But what I do know is I have friends who were brought up my single mums, some turned out right, others didn't.

Hun, my question was directed at the OP. Yeah some turn out right, others turn out different. Same applies to children raised by both parents. wink

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by possibilita(m): 4:27pm On Sep 26, 2016
niggi4life:
When you have 10 Exes who were raised by single parent and only one is married, How many percent is that?
who told you to scout for girls raised by single mothers only to make them your Ex-es

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Creamish(f): 4:29pm On Sep 26, 2016
possibilita:
who told you to scout for girls raised by single mothers only to make them your Ex-es

Its also possible he is the one with the issues.. grin

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by cococandy(f): 5:26pm On Sep 26, 2016
Jumaii:
cocoandy creamish itsquinn. Bless you ladies wink wink wink wink #PREACHIT





bless you

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by cococandy(f): 5:28pm On Sep 26, 2016
joseph1832:


I have absolutely no idea what it takes to be a single mum. But what I do know is I have friends who were brought up my single mums, some turned out right, others didn't
In the same manner than many psychos were raised by single parents.
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by atirolu(m): 5:43pm On Sep 26, 2016
Bias write up
The one raised by single father nko that is the same father the defile her

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Pinocchioo(f): 5:45pm On Sep 26, 2016
CuteMorriz:
I am not saying ladies raised by single parents are all bad, you may get lucky finding some exceptional ladies raised by single mums. Evidently you seldom find single men raising a child but it's quite prevalent with the opposite sex.

A relation of mine was dating this lady and when the time came for the union to be made official, his parents advised him to discontinue becos after they had made enquiries and investigation they discovered the lady's mother left her husband many years ago over some frivolous reasons. Then I asked my uncle why did he side with family and not allow his son take the bold step then he said:

1. Women raised by single parent (mother) are usually strong willed hence may end up like their mother.

2. A lady who has seen no need for a father will be swift to end a union because she will have the courage to train her children alone afterall she was raised by a mum.

3. How will she get marital advice from her mum when things are tough and you know ladies often run to their mum when they need advice (remember the mother took the easy way out)

4. Sooner or later my son may become a bachelor again...the odd is high and is glaring..

5. A lady who have spent 21 years of her life without a father cannot be psychologically stable even if she appears to be.

6. Ladies raised by single parents did not experience the beautiful and ugly part of the union called marriage from her parents hence they don't have their parents as their role model.

7. Amin (as he fondly calls me) when the baton gets to you, look at the mother of your fiancèe closely because with time she will display those traits you observed in the mother......

Then I asked him what if the lady's father is dead and the mum decided to train her alone?...my uncle said we may also enquire about the untimely death of the father but "Amin that is a topic for another day"......

So who would marry ladies trained by single parents

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by emerged01(m): 5:47pm On Sep 26, 2016
Sincere rubbish!

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by oglalasioux(m): 5:48pm On Sep 26, 2016
Generalisations such as yours is the manure that nourishes prostitution among girls and criminality among boys raised by single parents.

When we segregate the society into people who deserve to live and those who deserve to die don't forget that those condemned to death will not go down alone.

We should watch our mouths!

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Kgdavid(m): 5:48pm On Sep 26, 2016
niggi4life:
When you have 10 Exes who were raised by single parent and only one is married, How many percent is that?

It is statistically unlikely that only you have dated 10 girls who where raised by single parents... unless you were specifically targeting girls raised by single moms, for this your claim to be true, you would have had to have dated a remarkable number of girl (circa 20), according to the law of averages.

just saying.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 5:51pm On Sep 26, 2016
Don't go close to ladies with single mother, they are time bombs waiting to explode.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by professore(m): 5:52pm On Sep 26, 2016
Number three seems solid
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 5:52pm On Sep 26, 2016
CuteMorriz:
I am not saying ladies raised by single parents are all bad, you may get lucky finding some exceptional ladies raised by single mums. Evidently you seldom find single men raising a child but it's quite prevalent with the opposite sex.

A relation of mine was dating this lady and when the time came for the union to be made official, his parents advised him to discontinue becos after they had made enquiries and investigation they discovered the lady's mother left her husband many years ago over some frivolous reasons. Then I asked my uncle why did he side with family and not allow his son take the bold step then he said:

1. Women raised by single parent (mother) are usually strong willed hence may end up like their mother.

2. A lady who has seen no need for a father will be swift to end a union because she will have the courage to train her children alone afterall she was raised by a mum.

3. How will she get marital advice from her mum when things are tough and you know ladies often run to their mum when they need advice (remember the mother took the easy way out)

4. Sooner or later my son may become a bachelor again...the odd is high and is glaring..

5. A lady who have spent 21 years of her life without a father cannot be psychologically stable even if she appears to be.

6. Ladies raised by single parents did not experience the beautiful and ugly part of the union called marriage from her parents hence they don't have their parents as their role model.

7. Amin (as he fondly calls me) when the baton gets to you, look at the mother of your fiancèe closely because with time she will display those traits you observed in the mother......

Then I asked him what if the lady's father is dead and the mum decided to train her alone?...my uncle said we may also enquire about the untimely death of the father but "Amin that is a topic for another day"......


In summary.

They are too independent and over confident.
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by dominique(f): 5:53pm On Sep 26, 2016
cococandy:


Yea she probably killed him. We have to find something she's guilty of. There's not way that woman is without blame. If we don't find one, let's make up one.


grin grin grin

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Ichel: 5:53pm On Sep 26, 2016
Zceesneh:
Middlefinger
u calling me?
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Talk2Bella(f): 5:53pm On Sep 26, 2016
Please rush to talkbella.com search for Nigerian men criteria for wife material and have sense or you can just check one of my post here you're bound to find it

When will people like you have sense bikonu ehn
Single this single that a bad wife is a bad wife likewise a bad husband pikin wey wan spoil go spoil it has nothing to do with upbringing enough of this nonsense your relative just lost a wonderful woman who would have held his home come rain come sunshine

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by EazyMoh(m): 5:53pm On Sep 26, 2016
This is true to a great extent in Hausa culture, especially daughters of powerful women even if the farther is alive. But so long it's the mother whoa seen to make decisions and bring up the girl, many elders would discourage that marriage simply because the would inevitably be arrogant taking cue from her mum's independence.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by jennyebi(f): 5:55pm On Sep 26, 2016
this is bullshit

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by sinceraconcept(m): 5:55pm On Sep 26, 2016
And who will marry her? Rada rada
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by kayDooo(m): 5:55pm On Sep 26, 2016
CuteMorriz:
you hardly see a single father...
buh its exist. What can we do to this senerio

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Talk2Bella(f): 5:56pm On Sep 26, 2016
ItsQuinn:
What about ladies raised by a single father angry

Ask him hun
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Toks2008(m): 5:56pm On Sep 26, 2016
CuteMorriz:
I am not saying ladies raised by single parents are all bad, you may get lucky finding some exceptional ladies raised by single mums. Evidently you seldom find single men raising a child but it's quite prevalent with the opposite sex.

A relation of mine was dating this lady and when the time came for the union to be made official, his parents advised him to discontinue becos after they had made enquiries and investigation they discovered the lady's mother left her husband many years ago over some frivolous reasons. Then I asked my uncle why did he side with family and not allow his son take the bold step then he said:

1. Women raised by single parent (mother) are usually strong willed hence may end up like their mother.

2. A lady who has seen no need for a father will be swift to end a union because she will have the courage to train her children alone afterall she was raised by a mum.

3. How will she get marital advice from her mum when things are tough and you know ladies often run to their mum when they need advice (remember the mother took the easy way out)

4. Sooner or later my son may become a bachelor again...the odd is high and is glaring..

5. A lady who have spent 21 years of her life without a father cannot be psychologically stable even if she appears to be.

6. Ladies raised by single parents did not experience the beautiful and ugly part of the union called marriage from her parents hence they don't have their parents as their role model.

7. Amin (as he fondly calls me) when the baton gets to you, look at the mother of your fiancèe closely because with time she will display those traits you observed in the mother......

Then I asked him what if the lady's father is dead and the mum decided to train her alone?...my uncle said we may also enquire about the untimely death of the father but "Amin that is a topic for another day"......

Makes sense somehow sha..but there are always exceptions.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Emmaxmusic(m): 5:57pm On Sep 26, 2016
NAwa ooooooo. who will they now marry
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Mskrisx(f): 5:59pm On Sep 26, 2016
Flickzvill:
My present gf (single mom,dad died wen she was young, step dad left dem) nd if I tell my parents dis its a no go area for me. Don't even know wat to do she's lovely very homely,kind gentle and knows how to cook well but the family background tho



So, is this her fault? Just talk say ur village people still hold you for blokos!

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by niggi4life(m): 6:00pm On Sep 26, 2016
Creamish:


Its also possible he is the one with the issues.. grin
Madam, check my posts, i am happily married
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Koolking(m): 6:00pm On Sep 26, 2016
Unpardonable misconception in High Definition. It's pathetic how people feel it's ok to force their subjective opinions on others.

This subject happened to be the wrong, wronger and wrongest opinion I have heard for the first time in a long time.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by AstuteJay: 6:01pm On Sep 26, 2016
Experience tells me the man is absolutely right!

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by olayinkajnr(m): 6:02pm On Sep 26, 2016
@CuteMorriz, I can relate to all you listed out. Its as though you took it all from what I'm experiencing with my madam. You didn't add that they like been the boss in any relationship.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 6:02pm On Sep 26, 2016
Demigods666:



In summary.

They are too independent and over confident.
Cowards are always scared of independent and confident women that's why y'all go for weaklings and doormats so you can validate your feigned superiority. Real men don't need any validation from women. They know who they are and know how to command respect.
Deal with it undecided

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