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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by gbengaoa(m): 6:03pm On Sep 26, 2016
whoever has written this is very myopic. you have seen or known very little about life. you have no clue what it takes to have a home. you can first start with a relationship that you call "serious" and if by the 2nd or 3rd yr you wont want to quit. i will want you to go back and ask thoae that are married around you to sincerely tell you what it takes to really be together. think witj your brains and not your anus because with this your topic ia shows you are thinking with your anus and the what is coming out of it stinks very badly.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by vkon2(m): 6:03pm On Sep 26, 2016
Let's assume everyone see things the way you did
WHO WILL THEY GET MARRIED TO

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by freezyprinzy(m): 6:03pm On Sep 26, 2016
I dint even read at all d topic is trash abeg I no wan vex make I stop here

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by komzybrown(f): 6:03pm On Sep 26, 2016
then who will marry a lady raised by a single parent

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by goingape1: 6:04pm On Sep 26, 2016
CuteMorriz:
it is not simple generalisation. Ladies often take after their mum...
that's what I'm trying to talk.
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 6:04pm On Sep 26, 2016
Your uncle is a wise man.I think he is right.I just ended a relationship with a lady with a similar background and I noticed some of the trait u mentioned above in this lady.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by obiageligraced(f): 6:05pm On Sep 26, 2016
kudos to creamish.............u have just said it all..........

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by braine(m): 6:06pm On Sep 26, 2016
CuteMorriz:
I am not saying ladies raised by single parents are all bad, you may get lucky finding some exceptional ladies raised by single mums. Evidently you seldom find single men raising a child but it's quite prevalent with the opposite sex.

A relation of mine was dating this lady and when the time came for the union to be made official, his parents advised him to discontinue becos after they had made enquiries and investigation they discovered the lady's mother left her husband many years ago over some frivolous reasons. Then I asked my uncle why did he side with family and not allow his son take the bold step then he said:

1. Women raised by single parent (mother) are usually strong willed hence may end up like their mother.

2. A lady who has seen no need for a father will be swift to end a union because she will have the courage to train her children alone afterall she was raised by a mum.

3. How will she get marital advice from her mum when things are tough and you know ladies often run to their mum when they need advice (remember the mother took the easy way out)

4. Sooner or later my son may become a bachelor again...the odd is high and is glaring..

5. A lady who have spent 21 years of her life without a father cannot be psychologically stable even if she appears to be.

6. Ladies raised by single parents did not experience the beautiful and ugly part of the union called marriage from her parents hence they don't have their parents as their role model.

7. Amin (as he fondly calls me) when the baton gets to you, look at the mother of your fiancèe closely because with time she will display those traits you observed in the mother......

Then I asked him what if the lady's father is dead and the mum decided to train her alone?...my uncle said we may also enquire about the untimely death of the father but "Amin that is a topic for another day"......




I agree with you 100%! I say this all the time.
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 6:07pm On Sep 26, 2016
OP,so should we also leave men raised by single parents as well and go for only those whose parents are together? I don't get??
Misogynists everywhere undecided

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by pumpingmachine: 6:09pm On Sep 26, 2016
Listen to this wise person cos it's true. My brother married one and the marriage has collapsed. I also married one and I'm so fed up with her. I grew up in a complete happy home so nothing prepared me for the stuffs she's throwing at me, not to forget her mum that wants to turn me to ATM machine. Run if you can, if not, do what I do - take solace in your career if you have one.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by goingape1: 6:09pm On Sep 26, 2016
blueseacats:
Don't go close to ladies with single mother, they are time bombs waiting to explode.

Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 6:09pm On Sep 26, 2016
niggi4life:
90% of my Ex GFs and female friends who were raised by sinlge parent are not yet married and some are over 30yrs.
The 10% who are into relationships or married are usually rude and they are too quick to judge the guys easily.

I am not blaming anyone here, it's just what i have observed.

Women raised by single Mums tend to have Daddy issues, they are insecure and very needy emotionally and don't know how to deal with male attention even when they think they do hence they tend to be more promiscuous than the norm.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by youngboi(m): 6:09pm On Sep 26, 2016
When I see a very good gal raised by a single parent soon...... Its marriage next year.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by adedayoa2(f): 6:11pm On Sep 26, 2016
PaperLace:
rubbish.
Ain't they better than people raised by two abusive parents?

It's actually a good quality to be able to carry on without most men of this generation.
My dear, I wonder
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 6:11pm On Sep 26, 2016
CuteMorriz:
your opinion though...but what an elder statesman see while seating...even if you stand at the peak of everest you may not see...


This is the most shallow thought based write up I have seen of recent

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Nobody: 6:12pm On Sep 26, 2016
Unfortunately, this assertion is very true. Even my brother's wife who is a chosen mopol, I mean a member of the Lord's chosen church owned by Pastor Lazarus Nmoka deserted her husband because that's exactly how her mother behaved. Their mother ran away from the husband and trained them (five girls) alone and today, none of them is living with the husband. Even with all entreaties and begging from my brother, she remained adamant and incorrigible. What baffles me is that they made her "a worker" and ursher even with her immoral lifestyle perhaps because she pays "big tithe" it's so unfortunate. But this assertion cannot be generalized. There are the few whom God himself touched their hearts to be different from their mother. Note:My brother is young!!!

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by psalmist0203(m): 6:13pm On Sep 26, 2016
it is true dat family background goes a long way to define an individual, but the truth is that "a cub raised amidst sheeps will act like a sheep" we should focus more on the environmental influence on the lady.it is true dat family background goes a long way to define an individual, but the truth is that "a cub raised amidst sheeps will act like a sheep" we should focus more on the environmental influence on the lady.
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by adedayoa2(f): 6:13pm On Sep 26, 2016
pumpingmachine:
Listen to this wise person cos it's true. My brother married one and the marriage has collapsed. I also married one and I'm so fed up with her. I grew up in a complete happy home so nothing prepared me for the stuffs she's throwing at me, not to forget her mum that wants to turn me to ATM machine. Run if you can, if not, do what I do - take solace in your career if you have one.
you already have machine in your name
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by goingape1: 6:14pm On Sep 26, 2016
pumpingmachine:
Listen to this wise person cos it's true. My brother married one and the marriage has collapsed. I also married one and I'm so fed up with her. I grew up in a complete happy home so nothing prepared me for the stuffs she's throwing at me, not to forget her mum that wants to turn me to ATM machine. Run if you can, if not, do what I do - take solace in your career if you have one.
I won't even advise my enemy to marry raise by single parent.

I have seen it happening again and again and again. there always leave there husband as soon as them get there first child or second and most of them if not all are very hot temper creatures.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Shym3xx: 6:15pm On Sep 26, 2016
Lol.

Speaking as someone who has only been in serious relationship with chics who're from single parent households (raised by their mums), I'd say there's nothing to fear. Yes, they might be strong-willed (they're also very hardworking) but you just have to develop a way to turn it into something positive.

Personally, I'll say they're some of the sweetest chics out there and when they fall for you, they always tend to fall hard. And will do anything for you. You just have to know how to reciprocate the gesture and be matured enough to be the male figure they have never had. It's also very easy to bond with their mums as long as you can keep them happy. However, I'd say they're not for beta-males. grin

Stop discriminating - everyone needs love. You just have to know how to play the game and be flexible enough to adapt to the experience that shaped others. Chics raised by single mums are ride or die chics - I love them. Big ups to all my exes. cool

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Chokmah(m): 6:16pm On Sep 26, 2016
Please remember up to 80% of the present day single mothers' are not products of a single parent, yet they failed (for divorcee's), all these is not a determinant or least contributing factor to get a good mother or wife for the future. 'There is always an option, u are then left with a choice to be a good mother and wife in the future or otherwise.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by sidnen: 6:16pm On Sep 26, 2016
What about boys raised by single mother?
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by SafeDavid(m): 6:16pm On Sep 26, 2016
wow!
This is deep.
So who now marries them?
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by goingape1: 6:17pm On Sep 26, 2016
youngboi:

When I see a very good gal raised by a single parent soon...... Its marriage next year.
marriage next year divorce the upper year!

you digging your grave with ya hand. don't say we didn't warn you.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by oluxy(m): 6:17pm On Sep 26, 2016
I disagree.

You cannot use one persons' case or misfortune to judge all.

We are praying for religion differences to end, some persons including you are stiring another one up.
Na wa for 9jarians ooo.

So ladies raised by single mothers should not marry. And if plenty of them did not marry, do you think your home will be safe haven?

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by pumpingmachine: 6:21pm On Sep 26, 2016
adedayoa2:
you already have machine in your name
No vex dear, just sharing my experience

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by goingape1: 6:21pm On Sep 26, 2016
sidnen:
What about boys raised by single mother?
many of you saying boys raise by single mother on thread!.

let me tell you one thing ya don't know, boys raised by single mother often know there mother behaviour and won't tend to marry women like their mother because them want to avoid the trouble them go through by there mother.

you will never see them or can't never see them marry a lady raise by single parent because them can smell them from far (instinct)

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by odogwu2007(m): 6:22pm On Sep 26, 2016
This is 100% so true. I know of one and it's as if you where talking about her. But that don't mean u can't married them, if u really love the lady in question why not but u will have to endure
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by youngboi(m): 6:25pm On Sep 26, 2016
goingape1:
marriage next year divorce the upper year!

you digging your grave with ya hand. don't say we didn't warn you.

No lele, till then nah.
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by mamaafrik(m): 6:25pm On Sep 26, 2016
niggi4life:
90% of my Ex GFs and female friends who were raised by sinlge parent are not yet married and some are over 30yrs.
The 10% who are into relationships or married are usually rude and they are too quick to judge the guys easily.

I am not blaming anyone here, it's just what i have observed.
that is just what i experienced from my ex,except the ones who have the better understanding and is strongly re-oriented,you'll see that "alpha female miss independent trait in her".my shilekanaabo.

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Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by back2sender: 6:26pm On Sep 26, 2016
Arthurwinner:
impaired perception
Its not an impaired perception, my uncle also said the same thing when i was getting to settle down. He advised i stay away from Ladies raised by a single parent - the mum secondly he mentioned before i marry a lady i should watch the lady mother closely because she is very likely to exhibit the same character as her mother.
If her mother is a trouble Maker or ride for instance she is most likely to be one
Re: Why You Shouldn't Marry A Lady Raised By A Single Parent by Ghost447(m): 6:26pm On Sep 26, 2016
CuteMorriz:
I am not saying ladies raised by single parents are all bad, you may get lucky finding some exceptional ladies raised by single mums. Evidently you seldom find single men raising a child but it's quite prevalent with the opposite sex.

A relation of mine was dating this lady and when the time came for the union to be made official, his parents advised him to discontinue becos after they had made enquiries and investigation they discovered the lady's mother left her husband many years ago over some frivolous reasons. Then I asked my uncle why did he side with family and not allow his son take the bold step then he said:

1. Women raised by single parent (mother) are usually strong willed hence may end up like their mother.

2. A lady who has seen no need for a father will be swift to end a union because she will have the courage to train her children alone afterall she was raised by a mum.

3. How will she get marital advice from her mum when things are tough and you know ladies often run to their mum when they need advice (remember the mother took the easy way out)

4. Sooner or later my son may become a bachelor again...the odd is high and is glaring..

5. A lady who have spent 21 years of her life without a father cannot be psychologically stable even if she appears to be.

6. Ladies raised by single parents did not experience the beautiful and ugly part of the union called marriage from her parents hence they don't have their parents as their role model.

7. Amin (as he fondly calls me) when the baton gets to you, look at the mother of your fiancèe closely because with time she will display those traits you observed in the mother......

Then I asked him what if the lady's father is dead and the mum decided to train her alone?...my uncle said we may also enquire about the untimely death of the father but "Amin that is a topic for another day"......
I rarely concur with other people's view about relationships, but I guess this write up is exceptional, consequently, I agree with the author.

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