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SpecialAdviser:
U need an operation. U can send me ur no on private mail. I will explain better.

Xplain the operation here

helpforever:
I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.

What you need to understand is that life does not revolve only on sex and been married. The hard truth is if you cannot solve your erection problems, I think what you need to do is to structure your life on other important things other than sex and marriage. I must confess it won't be easy but you really don't have an option. Wish you all the best.

99foxxy:
How possible can one masturbate and not have erection? Don't you have erect diick when you masturbate?

It is possible to masturbate and ejaculate without 50% erection, even without erection.

Bro have u heard of Viagra? Try it out n thank me later

yinkslinks:
You dey use style find toto for NL. You don fail. We know una type. This article was copied online. Looool olosho boy

Stop this, the guy is frustrated already!!

@helpforever, I think ur case is more psychological than spiritual....see a doctor or therapist...stop masturbating too and finally, PRAY

cummando:
Hmmm this one is strong!
Come to my church....I be cele boy! Their fada...everything go disappear

how many candle una go light for him head and how many cane una go flog am

You need to get your shii together man.

Your problem is not spiritual. You are definitely not impotent. And you absolutely need professional help.

Get some help bro.

OP, don't they have hospitals here you reside? You have never had a sound medical check up and you are blaming spiritual already? You are the one doing yourself!

Hades2016:
how many candle una go light for him head and how many cane una go flog am

Plenty candle...and plenty cane to flog olosho and masturbation spirit away....
Recovery is sure

Op try and see a doctor. Masturbation is the cause of your problem. Psychologically you have a problem.

Medunah:
Stop this, the guy is frustrated already!!

@helpforever, I think ur case is more psychological than spiritual....see a doctor or therapist...stop masturbating too and finally, PRAY

Thank you

TonyeBarcanista:
It is well

God is in control.........

repogirl:
OP, don't they have hospitals here you reside? You have never had a sound medical check up and you are blaming spiritual already? You are the one doing yourself!

I will go to the hospital tomorrow or Tuesday for test. I actually didn't go because I resolved within myself that my case was spiritual. I agree, I was very FOOLISH

Cutehector:
You are 100times better than a lot of men out their hiding their problems... Now that you have let d cat out of the bag, you are healed in Jesus name..

Hmm, pastor cutehector

from your story, you issue is psychological and has nothing to do with spiritual.

Hello guy u are not impotent for the fact that u still av erection, if u want to really help urself first is to stop masturbating if someone do tell u it I good or it ease the pleasure of sex it is a big lie, masturbating almost kill me it almost make me paralysed if not for God and am telling u no matter how u do masturbate u can't reach what av done. 2 u av to stop going to brothel or go try to Bleep oloshos cos it won't help it won't make u know ur real strength. I remember the first time I went to hotel to God my prick no stand and I was wondering was it cos of my masturbating or am not in the mood and I even went there for another days like 4timescouldn't get an erection then I realised that I do get scared and I just got phobia of aving sex with prostitute. 3 I will advise u to visit a doctor and explain to him or her everything without hidden anything cos I realised that most people don't even want to share their inabilities but if u do they will definitely help u out. 4 u need to stay away from watching porn, stay away from any sex related things and pray to God. Stay away for like 3month don't masturbate, don't watch porn, don't talk much about sex that will make u go masturbate. Lastly stay away from eating much of sugary food and most food that av too much starch and if u do drink bear or alcohol brother u need to stop it. Pls try to discipline urself by doing away with all these a u will se results ASAP

helpforever:
I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.

I will help you

purityval:
Aiit, dunno much about this but I think it's a thing of the mind. First your first experience with sex and the scene it created conditioned your mind that maybe something is wrong with you and unfortunately it stuck.

Now let me tell you, YOU ARE NOT IMPORTENT, just that an unfortunate incident stuck in your head. Its more psycological than medical.

First calm yourself down and get composed. Burying yourself in books and business isnt the way out. You need to come out of your shell.

My suggestion. You have female friends or probably a girl you love and you know loves you. Open up to her, before opening up make sure that she is mature and very understanding. Tell her everything, exclude nothing. Ask her to help get your confidence back sexually. If she is game, Definitely it will involve sex over a while. Might be frustrating at first but it won't be for long. While on this, keep reminding yourself that nothing is wrong with you and avoid anything that will drag ur esteem down.

Avoid all these guys and topics that tell you how they lasted 1000 hours, e no go good for you yet.

If it finally works out better no leave the girl if not ...........


All the best don't forget to come back and tell us whats up after o.

@ OP, I totally agree with him.

No you're not impotent. Your mind has been conditioned to think so due to your first experience. You've not even had a real girlfriend or fallen in love before so how would you know you can't have a full erection and last long with it? I think it's more of a psychological than a medical issue and nothing close to spiritual.

However to rule out any medical condition, try and see a medical doctor as soon as you can. Personally I believe this is something changing your diet and taking a few supplements would handle.

djojo:
Hello guy u are not impotent for the fact that u still av erection, if u want to really help urself first is to stop masturbating if someone do tell u it I good or it ease the pleasure of sex it is a big lie, masturbating almost kill me it almost make me paralysed if not for God and am telling u no matter how u do masturbate u can't reach what av done. 2 u av to stop going to brothel or go try to Bleep oloshos cos it won't help it won't make u know ur real strength. I remember the first time I went to hotel to God my prick no stand and I was wondering was it cos of my masturbating or am not in the mood and I even went there for another days like 4timescouldn't get an erection then I realised that I do get scared and I just got phobia of aving sex with prostitute. 3 I will advise u to visit a doctor and explain to him or her everything without hidden anything cos I realised that most people don't even want to share their inabilities but if u do they will definitely help u out. 4 u need to stay away from watching porn, stay away from any sex related things and pray to God. Stay away for like 3month don't masturbate, don't watch porn, don't talk much about sex that will make u go masturbate. Lastly stay away from eating much of sugary food and most food that av too much starch and if u do drink bear or alcohol brother u need to stop it. Pls try to discipline urself by doing away with all these a u will se results ASAP

Thanks and God bless you. You words give me hope. I just pray that my condition has not become permanent.

JustinSlayer69:
Forget the spiritual aspect... we Africans are too quick to blame that.

1. Eliminate the medical & psychological by seeing a urologist preferably at a teaching hospital.

2. You should have married that Edo gal who got you 100% hard (just kidding).

3. check yourbrainonporn.com and READ AS MANY articles as possible there. it helps with porn addiction

4. Delete ALL your porn and try to end masturbation. Both are destructive, you would see a change IMMEDIATELY.

Erectile dysfunction (ED) most times is psychological. My strong advise is to visit a teaching hospital.

GOODLUCK

Porn and masturbation is the culprit. This information helped me some years back when I had similar issues.

U realy need 2screen for diabetes and offcourse you are depressed as well...would be nice if you see a psychologist and an endocrinologist

helpforever:
Yes I ejaculate all the time

Bro your problem if any, is psychological

Mr man u are not impotent. Stop worrying over it. Get a normal girl who is not a prostitute and try flirt with her. Don't concentrate ur mind on getting an erection while u are smooching, u will be surprised at what will happen...

ziddy:
Why the hell is this kind of topic on the front page. Has nairaland become an adult site?

Graphic sh!t like this should be edited or hidden away in the red light district of nairaland

Nairaland is a discussion forum and not a blog that the owners have turned it into just for traffic.

I hope you will read this, impotency or Ed can be caused by a lot of things this include medical condition or birth defect/congenital or psychological and the last is spiritual where a jinn is used to caused impotency or infertility but before you reach that conclusion a sound differential diagnosis needs to be carried out. Medical condition includes tetestorone deficiency caused by either anabolic drug abuse or hypogonadism ( to rule out this condition you need to do hormonal essay), if the cause is anabolic drug abused some drugs may be prescribed to you either OTC or approved ones, tetestorone replacement therapy is another option, if the problem is cause by hypogonadism, doctors can address those one too, if it's birth defect cause by used of some certain drugs by your mom while she is still pregnant or undecinded testes, that one too can be address, let's assume everything is normal upto this point, psychological or mental condition may also need to be ruled out, but drugs like Revive claims to help people with stress and psychological condition ( at this point you need to try that drugs even for a day, if it works then you need to see a counselor for proper counseling).
The jinn part is very tricky, you need a person that knows the terrain very well cause I have heard so many stories from friends how those people help them chased away those jinns and ever since they are living OK. If there is anything you don't understand let me know. Last resort is surgery were blood will be trapped in your penis, it will give you erection but it also has it own problem.

There is nothing spiritual here, mate!


Go see a Urologist.

You are probably hypertensive without knowing it. Check your blood pressure. Long and uncontrolled high blood pressure can cause erectile dysfunction by thinning the veins of the pen.is thereby making it hard for your shaft to retain the blood required to sustain an erection.

Also, check if you're diabetic. Could cause erectile dysfunction too.

Your case is most probably physiological and not psychological since you've been experiencing this challenge for a while.


Get help "from the right source(s) ASAP".


Meanwhile, you can still enjoy sex with the help of PEDs like viagra, cialis, vega etc.

Caveat: PEDs have side effects so you don't go about abusing them.


PS: Penile penetration is not the only way to enjoy sex. Make good use of your fingers and tongue too.



Cheers.

It is medical and the has nothing to do with masturbation.

Try to do a comprehensive check for infection.

Also, u need to be sure u dnt have sugar issues and run away from sugar as much as u can.

Use natural honey as much as u can.

Dnt use any PED yet.

U need your work on FEAR factor too.

Sexuality sometimes is a state of the mind !

There is Turn-on , and Turn-off !

4me , I am not turned on by slim girls, no matter what she does !

Am only turned on by busty and heavy- duty chicks

Even my girlfriend knows this and she is Orobo too, and she never borders seeing me with slim chicks !

But once they are busty she attacks me

I get hard just at the sight of anything big, but once d tin small.......

All d chicks wey I don do na Orobo and it is instant

so this thing sometimes is ur state of mind
and u nid to identify ur turn on and turn off

And Seek God in all my brother ! !

helpforever:
My story is longer than this but I cannot remember all for now.

Mods please, I need this on the frontpage.

Lalasticlala
Seun
RoyalRoy

One question. what does your sperm look like when You masturbate? Thick and sticky or light and watery? It goes a long way in determining your issues.


You need to see herbal medicine specialists (Agbo sellers not sepe sellers). it seriously works. Explain you problem to them. you won't be the first to do so to them. They are used to hearing issues like that so don't be ashamed. I was once in this situation for almost 2months until I used herbal medicine. You also have to change your eating habit and seriously start whatching what goes into your mouth. Sugar is a very high causative agent.

You can also try peeling garlic to reveal the innermost soft part and swallow it with water one daily for two weeks. It will help to detoxify your system for any excess toxins that your body couldn't get rid of.

You need to act fast before it becomes permanent. I pray it doesn't. You can also call me here I'm not selling anything to you, I will only tell you things to do or how to know the sellers with real and working herbal mixture.

To be honest, you guys are the best and have given me hope.

90% of the people here have said I am not impotent and it due
to either:
- Psychological issues
- Masturbation
- Excess sugar
etc

Some have also said I should see a doctor and reprogram my mind.

I am just happy there is hope for me.

Because I will like to be a father in future.

Thanks guys

I will update you on my progress as I will address all points
thoroughly.

jomoh:
One question. what does your sperm look like when You masturbate? Thick and sticky or light and watery? It goes a long way in determining your issues.


You need to see herbal medicine specialists (Agbo sellers not sepe sellers). it seriously works. Explain you problem to them. you won't be the first to do so to them. They are used to hearing issues like that so don't be ashamed. I was once in this situation for almost 2months until I used herbal medicine. You also have to change your eating habit and seriously start whatching what goes into your mouth. Sugar is a very high causative agent.

You can also try peeling garlic to reveal the innermost soft part and swallow it with water one daily for two weeks. It will help to detoxify your system for any excess toxins that your body couldn't get rid of.

You need to act fast before it becomes permanent. I pray it doesn't. You can also call me here 09072025650 I'm not selling anything to you, I will only tell you things to do or how to know the sellers with real and working herbal mixture.

My sperm is normal and very thick like that of a normal person.

Not watery