bros as long as she make you happy bros that is what matters your case and mind is totally the same. Now we have been together for 5yrs and i must confess at times i wonder if God purposely make her go through that rough paths so that she can eventually meet me. She is the kind of lady i craved for and i dont regret marrying her

VanBommel:
bro lemme tell you the truth, you don't love that girl. It's because you've been forking her (especially being disvirgined by her) that's why you feel you're in love. Go and fork another sweet girl with tight pvssy that can fork well and has a good head game and you'll see yourself posting another thread here.

smh

you guys are something else.

Why the discrimination about being a single mother ?

A lot of people treat and talk about being a single mother as its a disease

Anyways, all i will say is just follow your heart and do what you feel is best for you

destinel:
I tell you she's not what you think, things just got a little out of control than she and myself can handle. And we really felt guilty, remorseful and sorry for it.

Your pastor asked you to pray and...i 4got...nairaland is ur prayer ground, the Holy Spirit would speak to you through someone who is probably planning to commit the next abortion...kwantinue bro solo

NemzySeries:
ma guy marry her if ur ballz beat for her joor....... im currently cruising a single mum for over a yr and su. months & d babe no dey worry me 1 bit

You are always lying.
Smh.
But wetin concern me

destinel:
I tell you she's not what you think, things just got a little out of control than she and myself can handle. And we really felt guilty, remorseful and sorry for it.

Hypocrites. Keep deceiving yourselves, i wonder what your bible teaches you.

Every temptation you encounter comes with the provision of a way to overcome it. instead of taking responsibility for your choice and lack of self control, you're trying to channel the blame to something else.

Your other girlfriend was very wise to have moved on, before you mess a precious life up.

Following....

crackhouse:
U are one of the reasons why I want to leave this country for good.
There's no difference between u and our leaders.

old man! Park well! In fact, get out of town!

NemzySeries:
na wa ooooo....... who dey subscribe data for u?

Meaning?

destinel:
Now on my own part, I was a virgin when I met her. So she was the one who disvirgined me and .....

Meaning no other woman found you attractive enough to let you do it with her until now?

Ok I've seen similar cases and I know how it usually begins and.....ends.....

It would seem the lady needs a stable provider who can help her train the two kids she got from the kind of man she truly desires but whom didn't stick around long enough with her.

Now you've come around, maybe you never dreamed you could have something serious with such a lady, even though she maybe a bit washed up due to stress and aging.....but still retains some glitter and you are overjoyed.

Well, if you must proceed, then you need to have it in mind that you are going in as a stable provider and consolation, not really the elusive stud she once pursued.

Also realize your lady already has a frame of reference which would always play a significant role in your relationship.


Good luck.

You won't find any meaningful advice here. This here is the kiddy pool. Lots of yet-to-mature folks in this section.

Go to family section and ask for advice.

By here's my two cents, If you have doubts already, best not to do it. And If you feel you must do it, ask the father of her kids why he didn't marry her Maybe you'll have a clue there.

Double standard

They preach vehemently against premarital sex yet indulge in it.

Felt guilty and sorry my foot!!!

Billyonaire:
It is not the love I am worried about. It is how you intend to raise 2 kids for a man who does not give a damn and in the next few years you do not have the finances to see your DNA through. Love is cool, but love is not a dependable energy, it flows in and out and fractures your mind.

When making a decision, eliminate Love out of the equation and look at the situation without the coloration of love.

Love is a bonus in marriage, but not the yardstick. What you should be concerned about is if she is your Soul tie, if not, you might just be fighting a different battle which is much more than physical, and Love will be the first thing to jump out of the window and you will see a woman with two grown kids giving you and your little kids-to-come upper-cut, left-right and center.

I repeat, take love out of the equation and review the relationship a different periscope.

You will feel that same sensation for another lady and even more. There is no reason to marry on an account of Love.

Always allow love to be the bonus.

At the moment, make no promises.

Just let her know, time will tell

What becomes of you,

and her.

Bye.

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OP is a virgin that just had his first intimate relationship.

The little head is still in control.

A few years down the line, he will smile at his naivety (assuming common sense prevails this time). His decision so far is based solely on her side of the story. Would she had admitted it if she treated the ex like a piece of crap?

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You're starting a new family, I believe you want to make things as simple as possible for yourself. The lady's situation is complex already, and unless you've got something similar to her (a failed union, with kids outside), things may never be really balanced.

She's seen it all, and her experience is more than yours (obviously), and the reason for you coming here is because you know her situation is complex, and it would involve some kind of validation from your family too.

It's funny that the answer you seek is within you.

Unclutter your soul mate, simplify.

PS. I've had cognate experience.

Modified

Tallesty1:
See question. You dey look for person to blame when the going gets tough.

destinel:
Hi guys, I seriously need your opinion on this matter. Please take your time to go through my story:

I came in contact with this single mother of two kids in my church. This lady has every good character you want in a potential wife. Shes so selfless, God-fearing, down to earth, caring, very matured and willing to die for my love.

So we got really close, talking and started dating, it was then I discovered she had had two kids before, I couldn't believe my ears.
From her explanation, she really had a very rough past. she was dating a guy she really doesn't love.
After having a kid for him, they separated due to some reasons; then 2 years forward the guy came back begging, she agreed and then the second kid came.

Few years going forward, things really got nasty. The guy impregnated two other ladies, making her very depressed and frustrated. So she left him and had since over 7 years now been with the two kids and the guy had since then neglected her her and not even bothered about his kids; mind you, there was never a legal marriage between the two of them.

Now on my own part, I was a virgin when I met her. So she was the one who disvirgined me and we had intimated a couple number of times of course we felt guilty, remorseful and sorry for it cos it was very wrong of us. I really do love her though and she loves me, there were sometimes on three different occasions we had to break up cos I felt I couldn't go ahead with the marriage, but she falls terribly sick in the process and I myself I couldn't handle the feeling cos I always miss her. So we make up again

My pastor doesn't see anything wrong in our getting married but advises we pray really hard about it. Now, I'm quite worried the kind of resistance my family members will put up if I bring that type of lady for marriage cos there this lady ive been dating for years, she happens to be a virgin, so there was nothing intimate. I think I lover her too but not as strong as what I feel for the single mum.
She kind of broke up with me saying she needed time for herself and education, so I let her be. It was in the process I met the single mum. But we are still good friends, we talk, we laugh gist and all.....

you were a virgin and she busted your first nut.

what you really needed more than food and water is to bust off that very first nut.

now that you have done that, you will need to caaaaaalm down and take stock of things, otherwise you will make rash decisions, you have "cum" to associate her with pleasure, so you feel you will be over without her. (i am guessing you plunged without the swimsuit, which makes the pleasure even more intense)

what you need to do it attempt to date other girls....if your mind keeps going back to her then follow your mind, if not, she was just a conduit to bust off that first nut without the use of your former companions, like lux, premier soap, omo, infact any slippery specimen and the world reknowned saviour of virgins....vaseline.

be calm, get to know yourself, dont rush, you are still naive, and she is experienced

Abeg e be like say I go need that trapqueen number based on logistics

VanBommel:
no mind the disvirgined op, na the slippery punna dey sweet am. If I give am trapqueen number, he no go ever remain the same again.

Joavid:


smh

you guys are something else.

abi na lie?

InvertedHammer:

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OP is a virgin that just had his first intimate relationship.

The little head is still in control.

A few years down the line, he will smile at his naivety (assuming common sense prevails this time). Hid decision so far is based solely on her side of the story. Would she had admitted it if she treated the ex like a piece of crap?

//

True, that.

Guy, there is no love between both of u, later u will go after young ladies

ebujany:
Hmmmm, bro Nelson so you have been eaten the forbidden fruit of that ur HOd sister since last year. RCCG, joseph's Court Parish oshodi must hear this

Lol

someone is playing game with your head and you're taking her serious I pirry you my blooda

Hmm.. D power of pussy !!!!...

guy man. first u shouldn't be asking us this question if u have the gut of a man. And may be you know how weak u are In the family that made u think they won't accept her.



bro. u own your life. u know what Is best for u. choose your own woman. Your family won't live with her anyway.


My wife happens to be a mother of two now I have my Dayyahn. I love her she loves me. And she's just everything I prayed for In a wife.
once again live for you.

pirees:
Abeg e be like say I go need that trapqueen number based on logistics

lol

Guy, you are in the best possition to advice yourself. You saw her alone, love her alone, and definitely will be with her alone.

Make sure you are not marrying her out of pity but out of love.. Knowing fully well that there is a long years ahead if Christ tarried.

asuzor11:

I sure say na u'r type dey carry megaphone dey disturb pesin 4 early morning make im repent... *spits*
church and
hypocrisy na 5 n 6

I tell you the truth

After two!?

Chai, töto can confuse some men eh!!!

comos:
Before you marry such woman, go find out what makes the guy to run twice from her,

Deeep

I don dial #lol for my phone the thing no go ooo gimme her second number

VanBommel:
lol

You have only swindled one fanny and you are talking of marrying a mama-like babe with two kids. Go and swindle more fannies then you can decide if you still feel the same way you feel now about her.