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Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by Fx55(m): 4:28pm On Apr 12, 2017
ebujany:
Hmmmm, bro Nelson so you have been eaten the forbidden fruit of that ur HOd sister since last year. RCCG, joseph's Court Parish oshodi must hear this
I'm interested in this case. Can you give us more graphic details please? Brother Nelson must be such a pretentious hypocrite.
Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by habakukjss3: 4:29pm On Apr 12, 2017
young boy|! its obvious u know nothing about marriage. the single mother u r dating has a weakness and that made her to bore two kids without any marriage rite. u r being influenced by the free sex u get from the experienced lady , u being a new player in the game. i wont be surprise the way it blinded u n affected ur reasoning. u r just thinking about marriage just because of sex. period!!

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Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by tablesturn: 4:30pm On Apr 12, 2017
I married a single mum and it was the best decision I have made in life. Send me a PM lets get talking. I might have an advice or two for you.

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Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by macphilip: 4:30pm On Apr 12, 2017
did you use CD when you slept with her
Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by Fx55(m): 4:31pm On Apr 12, 2017
destinel:
lool, you are wrong my dear....nd even if dat is my church, U are very wrong to have broadcasted it here cos i know
u might be a member there. Implicating the whole church and yourself. Be guided please!!
Brother Nelson na waa... No be you first carry the gist enter public domain?

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Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by VanBommel(m): 4:32pm On Apr 12, 2017
pirees:
grin grin I don dial #lol for my phone the thing no go ooo gimme her second number
hahahahaha grin grin grin Abeg ooo, I no mean say she don gimme head before oo cheesy
Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by seansage(m): 4:34pm On Apr 12, 2017
They are always very nice until after marriage.... Better talk to ur legs

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Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by FTBOY: 4:35pm On Apr 12, 2017
op, you need to taste the waters and know which is salty and which is pure before drawing a line. i have nothing against single moms - i may end up marrying one myself - but since she's your first love and has a lot more experienced than you are in the sex game, i advise you play around, casually, get some girls to fvck and know if there's a difference.

i'm saying this because your obsession with her toto is being mistaken for love...and if, per adventure, you get to fvck other girls after marrying her your home would be torn apart. she might go back crying to the father of her babies and get a 3rd one in the process.+

think..

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Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by arnold123: 4:35pm On Apr 12, 2017
destinel:
Hi guys, I seriously need your opinion on this matter. Please take your time to go through my story:

I came in contact with this single mother of two kids in my church. This lady has every good character you want in a potential wife. Shes so selfless, God-fearing, down to earth, caring, very matured and willing to die for my love.

So we got really close, talking and started dating, it was then I discovered she had had two kids before, I couldn't believe my ears.
From her explanation, she really had a very rough past. she was dating a guy she really doesn't love.
After having a kid for him, they separated due to some reasons; then 2 years forward the guy came back begging, she agreed and then the second kid came.

Few years going forward, things really got nasty. The guy impregnated two other ladies, making her very depressed and frustrated. So she left him and had since over 7 years now been with the two kids and the guy had since then neglected her her and not even bothered about his kids; mind you, there was never a legal marriage between the two of them.

Now on my own part, I was a virgin when I met her. So she was the one who disvirgined me and we had intimated a couple number of times of course we felt guilty, remorseful and sorry for it cos it was very wrong of us. I really do love her though and she loves me, there were sometimes on three different occasions we had to break up cos I felt I couldn't go ahead with the marriage, but she falls terribly sick in the process and I myself I couldn't handle the feeling cos I always miss her. So we make up again

My pastor doesn't see anything wrong in our getting married but advises we pray really hard about it. Now, I'm quite worried the kind of resistance my family members will put up if I bring that type of lady for marriage cos there this lady ive been dating for years, she happens to be a virgin, so there was nothing intimate. I think I lover her too but not as strong as what I feel for the single mum.
She kind of broke up with me saying she needed time for herself and education, so I let her be. It was in the process I met the single mum. But we are still good friends, we talk, we laugh gist and all.....
man get hymen wen woman dey break in order to disvirgin?, I wan learn something new, go for her if u feel it's right, but try not to disobey ur family too much cos sometimes they could b right! I they are against it think about this 1.would the girl have married u supposing she not a second hand? (nowdays man don't like second had women, and she herself knows dat, that's why she all over u like dandruff)
2. If you were poor could u see that girl being interested in you?
3. If a rich man toast her will she jilt u an go for him?
4.if u went blind or cripple, will she be proud to sample u
Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by wedeonline(m): 4:35pm On Apr 12, 2017
Well you made the wrong move by sleeping with her, now sex is clouding your judgement. Plus the fact that she was your first, what you feel is not love trust me. As for the lady she could be taking advantage of your emotionally naive state. My advice is, dont rush try to stay off sex with her and give it time. Marriage has a lot of challenges and fathering kids that are not yours even increase it. Especially when the kids are a bit grown. Give it time, get to know her even more without s3x.. Trust me people can pretend alot, i have seen people pretend to feeling guilty after sex when it was exactly what they wanted. Dont let that guilt, make u feel she is all good. Take your time bro

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Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by mario383: 4:36pm On Apr 12, 2017
Prettythicksmi:
U no get sense grin grin
This na question abi na curse?

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Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by Akin0: 4:38pm On Apr 12, 2017
I don't normally advice people when it comes to issue of Marriage, but it appears the young man is confused. The reasons why you are so much attracted and connected to Single Mum is because you have eaten the forbidden fruits and it is a spiritual issue. When you sleep with a girl and being your first time, you will always want to go back eat again.Your situation is not really love , but infatuation, because she has been able to satisfy your urge. There is nothing wrong in marrying a single Mum, but will you be able to cope financially to take care of the two children with your own. You should also realized that no matter how you take care of these two children, they will look for their father when they eventual mature. Just like you have expressed possible opposition from your sibling , i will also do same. There are many young girls there that you can build your future with, while only looking at the enjoyment of today forgetting what the future will hold for you. You and your HOD needs to go and confess your sins and let the pastor know you have been sleeping together. A word they said is enough for the wise.

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Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by Nobody: 4:39pm On Apr 12, 2017
Emhicee:
Don't worry. Marry her you hear? Good boy. Just that that guy will come back and beg again and he's put his thirdd child in her. Or better still if you impregnate her, he'd help you top it so the child looks like you from the waist up and him, fom the waist down. Yeye boy. Asking for opinion at 30.

Hahahahaahahhaaaaa! grin cheesy grin The boy is a foolish asshole. I can't marry a single woman with just a kid, let alone with 2. Na the Toto still dey shack am grin cheesy grin

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Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by Fx55(m): 4:40pm On Apr 12, 2017
Bolincosugar:

Why the discrimination about being a single mother ?

A lot of people treat and talk about being a single mother as its a disease

Anyways, all i will say is just follow your heart and do what you feel is best for you
Being a single mother is actually a disease. It's a tag you wouldn't want to carry around where I come from.... Especially if you're thinking about getting married. For God's sake, who wants to marry a second-hand woman?

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Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by Nobody: 4:40pm On Apr 12, 2017
Why would you willingly ...volunteer to be a spare tyre?

At the risk of being called a chauvinist, there are plenty single gals out there. Don't be a desperado!

Step children hardly ever love step parents like biological parents. Sad reality i have observed several times.

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Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by Quinn22(f): 4:41pm On Apr 12, 2017
Your life your choice! See jamb question angry
Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by Adebowale89(m): 4:41pm On Apr 12, 2017
how old are u, that u pledge to put yourself in this marital crisis my brother?

beside what's your taste of woman. I meant what's your philosophy in choosing a partner

if she had just a kid, I would say no one is above mistake but she made the same mistake twice means that kind of lady doesn't have any vision or goals....

how can a lady have two kids out of wedlock and you are telling us she had a good wife material? what do u mean by wife material here?


u better wake your psychological trait up from snoring

don't put yourself in an everlasting regret

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Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by Jackipapa: 4:43pm On Apr 12, 2017
You started on a very wrong footing.......SEX Ah!

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Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by kings09(m): 4:43pm On Apr 12, 2017
cheesy
oladimejiX:


haba why are u vexing, do u need kitten?
Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by Nobody: 4:44pm On Apr 12, 2017
ebujany:
Hmmmm, bro Nelson so you have been eaten the forbidden fruit of that ur HOd sister since last year. RCCG, joseph's Court Parish oshodi must hear this

Lol, please don't report him. Let God deal with him directly
Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by KaBabs1: 4:44pm On Apr 12, 2017
Destinel:

Now on my own part, I was a virgin when I met her. So she was the one who disvirgined me and we had intimated a couple number of times of course we felt guilty, remorseful and sorry for it cos it was very wrong of us.

This part killed me fam. We felt guilty, my as5. Something you guys did a "couple number of times"

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Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by chiraqDemon(m): 4:45pm On Apr 12, 2017
BasketballGURU:
She's an H.O.D in church, yet she's so "loose"

So rueful undecided
There was this post about what happens to big girls when they get older...
According to that post u will find out that she must have been a big girl trying to use kids to chain the first man but him bin too wise for her
So now she is in the prayer and fasting phase, where she caught this unsuspecting young man

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Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by pirees: 4:47pm On Apr 12, 2017
VanBommel:
hahahahaha grin grin grin Abeg ooo, I no mean say she don gimme head before oo cheesy
bro only u wan dey enjoy that sweet thing......na jedi go finish you
Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by Ifymma(f): 4:47pm On Apr 12, 2017
OP don't marry her, there are many single girls out there. the father of her kids may come begging her again, so don't be moved with feelings it might be lust and not love.

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Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by piragirl(f): 4:48pm On Apr 12, 2017
its infuation my dear, you were a virgin before she gave you the taste of the cookies ,so you think you are in love but trust me you are not.
ask around we all think we are in in love with the first person that gave us cookies,especially when they are not right for us its like giving your life a new life. ask youself if you are ready to take her with her bagegies and the drama that will follow if her ex show up.All the best
Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by Hallenjay: 4:48pm On Apr 12, 2017
destinel:
Hi guys, I seriously need your opinion on this matter. Please take your time to go through my story:

I came in contact with this single mother of two kids in my church. This lady has every good character you want in a potential wife. Shes so selfless, God-fearing, down to earth, caring, very matured and willing to die for my love.

So we got really close, talking and started dating, it was then I discovered she had had two kids before, I couldn't believe my ears.
From her explanation, she really had a very rough past. she was dating a guy she really doesn't love.
After having a kid for him, they separated due to some reasons; then 2 years forward the guy came back begging, she agreed and then the second kid came.

Few years going forward, things really got nasty. The guy impregnated two other ladies, making her very depressed and frustrated. So she left him and had since over 7 years now been with the two kids and the guy had since then neglected her her and not even bothered about his kids; mind you, there was never a legal marriage between the two of them.

Now on my own part, I was a virgin when I met her. So she was the one who disvirgined me and we had intimated a couple number of times of course we felt guilty, remorseful and sorry for it cos it was very wrong of us. I really do love her though and she loves me, there were sometimes on three different occasions we had to break up cos I felt I couldn't go ahead with the marriage, but she falls terribly sick in the process and I myself I couldn't handle the feeling cos I always miss her. So we make up again

My pastor doesn't see anything wrong in our getting married but advises we pray really hard about it. Now, I'm quite worried the kind of resistance my family members will put up if I bring that type of lady for marriage cos there this lady ive been dating for years, she happens to be a virgin, so there was nothing intimate. I think I lover her too but not as strong as what I feel for the single mum.
She kind of broke up with me saying she needed time for herself and education, so I let her be. It was in the process I met the single mum. But we are still good friends, we talk, we laugh gist and all.....
don't go ahead ooooo.. .many hidden characters... It's been confirmed dt a lady can fake love for decades just to have ur ring... Single moda or dos used n dump fellow always gve all u want in relationship and get into ur heart like king.... Don't b trapped.... Let her reach out to who capable to handle her type. ....u surely can't handle her after marriage..... Dere real character is something else and she will manage anything yu do to her now no matter what.... Kindly talk to ur v and sort out tins.... My opinion n kobo though n out of experience
Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by habakukjss3: 4:49pm On Apr 12, 2017
habakukjss3:
young boy! its obvious u know nothing about marriage. the single mother u r dating has a weakness and that made her to bore two kids without any marriage rite. u r being influenced by the free sex u get from the experienced lady , u being a new player in the game. i wont be surprise the way it blinded u n affected ur reasoning. u r just thinking about marriage just because of sex. period!!

I have said my own
Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by Soundmind(m): 4:50pm On Apr 12, 2017
Pls, go back to the first lady you were dating. From your narration, she is more focused and will be a better wife. You are only attracted to this second one because you see her more often. Her children is not the issue, the issue is that you have not made up your mind on your choice of wife. Take a decision and live by it.

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Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by VanBommel(m): 4:50pm On Apr 12, 2017
pirees:
bro only u wan dey enjoy that sweet thing......na jedi go finish you
ask traphedges, na him get the control
Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by KaBabs1: 4:51pm On Apr 12, 2017
habakukjss3:
young boy|! its obvious u know nothing about marriage. the single mother u r dating has a weakness and that made her to bore two kids without any marriage rite. u r being influenced by the free sex u get from the experienced lady , u being a new player in the game. i wont be surprise the way it blinded u n affected ur reasoning. u r just thinking about marriage just because of sex. period!!

I'm telling you. To think that the guy never mentioned if the so called baby mama thinks they should marry too
Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by jibs4lv(m): 4:51pm On Apr 12, 2017
alexistaiwo:
I did not bother to read your epistle because your coming here to seek validation shows that you are not matured and responsible enough to make life decisions on your own.


If you are advised to marry and it works out well.
It is for your benefit alone (abi you want to share her with us)
And if it doesn't work out
It is your cross, you will carry it alone.

So please Bros. Search your heart well.
Therein lies your answer.

Rant over
haba dats too arsh.
Re: Should I Marry This Single Mother? by crisisexpert321(m): 4:52pm On Apr 12, 2017
Watch broda.

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