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Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by helpyom(f): 10:27pm On Apr 25, 2017 |
londoner: maybe u can help me search for cheap country that can helpout on my carrer pathway i have searched not at all Look beyond education at this point?? I desire to go further am all about the impacts i will make in life through my research . 3.No i didnt say germany blocked my account said german embassy will request for a atleast 8000euro blocked acct before issuing visa to me i saw a feeding/housing scholarship that i can secure in germany but the blocked acct is my only problem. 4. Mastercard?? is a scholarship for students from developing countries of which they carter for everything i applied didnt get that i saw alot of scholarships most of scholarships are either partial/full time scholarship some even require u pay an application fee before they consider anything. |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Saintsquare(m): 11:01pm On Apr 25, 2017 |
op you need an overall estimate from the application fee to settling down in the country you wanna go,when you do this then you can work towards it . |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 1:21am On Apr 26, 2017 |
tobiasbeecher: You have to read between the lines to understand that statement of mine |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 1:24am On Apr 26, 2017 |
moonraker: You can't call someone you don't know stingy. Read the OPs long response to one of Londoner's post. Few times the uncle made contact, the OP is busy whinging to him how it hasn't been easy for her and how she would like to further her studies. This man hadn't chatted with you for a long time and when he finally congratulated you started the whole help me out talk Let me even find the post and quote here 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 1:27am On Apr 26, 2017 |
helpyom: |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by tobiasbeecher: 10:52am On Apr 26, 2017 |
WellEndowed:There is nothing in between your lines that supported your conclusion. if there is, please point it out to me |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by genuineone: 11:08am On Apr 26, 2017 |
helpyom: Dear op, I have been following this thread silently for long and you truly deserve the help of your uncle. This world is a world of benefits, it is also Clear that we all serve God to derive some physical and spiritual benefits from Him. Don't worry about the character of your uncle, people are like that in this world, I have also been treated in that way by people I have helped. Till now, that doesn't stop me to help people, I can even borrow to help because I know that all is vanity at the end. But most people doesn't keep that in mind. Even Jesus said (Matthew 5:42 Give to him that asketh thee, and from him that would borrow of thee turn not thou away). Helping and giving people should be normal to us. I am sure God is taking you to a greater height, and when you get there give to all that ask from you and do not turn your back to those that will borrow from you. STAY BLESSED IN JESUS NAME. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Colouredgirl: 12:07pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Lol 5 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Saintsquare(m): 12:21pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Colouredgirl:Its sad how people love to see others suffer when helping cost almost nothing, I just smh when read some people's comment. |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by ttmacoy: 12:21pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
the point she is making is where it is clear someone is living beyond their means she will say no e.g. I know last month you spent money on unnecessary party, or bought an expensive car then you come and ask me for school fees, I will say no because you obviously don't have your priorities straight. If it's a different case e.g. maybe I know you fell on hard times but are usually responsible financial I will be more inclined to help rather than someone who spends irresponsibly then expects me to contribute to his child's schools fees every year. toluine56: |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by toluine56(m): 12:27pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
ttmacoy:I don't understand you. You're typing off point. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Seajae: 5:37pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
I've been reading all the comments on here and I'm gonna just leave the op with a few words. 1. Your uncle may or may not owe you shii but there's a way you'd go about it and he might just decide to help. You have to at least show him that you're willing to support or contribute to your plight ces nobody would just wanna use his hard earned money to single handedly sponsor you to the Oz. 2. I always tell myself this, "If you expect people to invest in you then you have to be willing to prove to em that you have something to offer (save up something no matter how little, write an English proficiency test, make enough research about travelling to Oz and hit him up again with relevant information this time). 3. I came out with a 3rd as well but I never blamed anybody for that but me. Go back and think deeply how and what you can do to sway your uncle and let him know that if he decides to help you won't be a liability or make him regret it. Last but not least, YOUR UNCLE DOESN'T OWE YOU SHII Goodluck in your future endeavors 5 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by helpyom(f): 6:16pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Seajae: i have ielts academic test result i took it last year november, i have german A1 result as well i took it 2015 June/July geothe institute lagos bro. |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by helpyom(f): 7:33pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Colouredgirl: thanks its well |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Seajae: 8:11pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
helpyom:My dear I know exactly how you feel trust me, but the only effective advice I can give you is to raise a certain amount, if your family has land you could sell it and add what you have. Then you can contact your uncle again and let him know you have something to contribute to the table. Then he'd be a monster to not know your zeal is fire. |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by londoner: 10:44pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
helpyom: Did you not see the links I put here are and the advice? You have the internet and you are still asking me to help you search cheaper countries using the same internet ? People here have given you advice just use it. You say you want to make an impact through 'research' ? So you can't look beyond education? Seek out companies funding research then if that is what you want to do. Work on getting yourself where you need to be to apply for your scholarship. Or choose a different pathway. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by londoner: 10:52pm On Apr 26, 2017 |
Op there are lots of posters here who believe you should be helped no matter how small I'm sure if you set up a 'gofundme' page they will all contribute their small part to your cause. The page is specifically for funding personal endeavours like yours. Let's see if they will put their money where their mouths are. You can Google search the site online. Best of luck. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by helpyom(f): 2:43am On Apr 27, 2017 |
londoner: thanks if that's the advice you could give even though i know and hear a lot about go fund me,had to wake up one day to write down all that here seeing how frustrated i was. I wonder what could make you think i should forget that my study goals. You say you want to make an impact through 'research' ? So you can't look beyond education?.......Just this line should give me a prayer topic this midnight. i hope to be back on this thread in some yrs time by God's grace to rejoice and help people like me with goals. |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 5:24am On Apr 27, 2017 |
escalux: And that's all there it to it. |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 5:35am On Apr 27, 2017 |
justwise: I concur. We're back to the old unsound assumption that folks overseas are swimming in a sea of money. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by Nobody: 5:35am On Apr 27, 2017 |
GiantParrot: I agree. Truly and outstandingly shocking. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by salford: 5:48am On Apr 27, 2017 |
escalux:Some Nigerian parents overseas send there children out to take up walmart jobs or babysitting before they clock 18 so that they understand how hard it is to save money abroad. There is no free dinner for obodo oyinbo.lol |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by londoner: 8:11am On Apr 27, 2017 |
helpyom: I didn't say forget your studies I said look beyond, there is a difference . Have it as a goal to reach in the future when you are in a better financial position. You have heard about gofundme which is actually for matters like this but you took it no further? Why is that? I don't understand that. You have people here who seem to be all for contributing to others. Maybe it's not just talk and they will contribute. I know life can be frustrating but to create a thread to incite people to criticize your uncle and all those abroad was not the right way to go. I'm not one to side with people who simply feel entitled to the fruits of someone elses labour, although I do hope you are able to reach your goals. Best of luck to you. |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by londoner: 8:15am On Apr 27, 2017 |
EgunMogaji: Lol exactly, when most are swimming in bills. |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MMotimo: 5:22pm On Apr 30, 2017 |
tobiasbeecher: "one or two things" is enough for me and makes the epistle worthwhile, thank you |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 11:14am On Aug 16, 2018 |
tobiasbeecher:how do you know he has capacity to help her. Do you think it's only 1 person disturbing him. Do you know if he has returned the help her dad gave which is all he owes by the way. How e take comcine anoda pesin pikin? Him no go take care of him own pikin because him broda epp him. Nonsense entitlement mentality. No go enter farm ye hear |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 11:16am On Aug 16, 2018 |
tobiasbeecher:so you rather chop anodaperson moni dan collect your money stolen by politician. I see your level of wisdom |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 11:18am On Aug 16, 2018 |
toluine56:you think 35 dollar is easy to make or save. Why don't you do menial job in Nigeria and make the 10k since its easy 1 Like |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 11:19am On Aug 16, 2018 |
toluine56:you think 35 dollar is easy to make or save. Why don't you do menial job in Nigeria and make the 10k since its easy also they not your Parents, they don't owe you sheet And most important, you think you're the only relative? How many will they send to. 10 times 35 every month is 350 dollars. Where will it come from. Very lazy yoot |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 11:26am On Aug 16, 2018 |
Saintsquare:so make konji kill am make him no marry and born pikin cos your papa born you without plan? |
Re: Why Do People Living Abroad Rarely Help Their Relations by MIKOLOWISKA: 11:30am On Aug 16, 2018 |
toluine56:why should you send your children to 425 k school |
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