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Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 3:52pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
RaggedyAnn:I see At what point should the lady decide to leave cause I have seen men struggle through out there life only to make it at a later stage in life It has notting to do with intelligence my sis but Gods blessings Now about the topic of the thread The op clearly try to paint broke guys as uneducated, unintelligent, slow poke inorder to justify her choice of a rich guy which I was against I have seen boys and men alike struggle through life not because of lack of intelligence or education but because of lack of opportunity So where will the op put those type of guys in her post 41 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 3:52pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
greyboy5000: I used Mike Adenuga because that's the example used by the person I quoted. (Was it you?). I don't know how you qualify intelligence. It is not the ability to speak good English or hold a conversation in politics or whatever. It's a capacity for aptitude. And a person who is successful at something must have mastered something to an excellent level. That shows intelligence. I equate financial reward to successful enterprise. And successful enterprise is dependent on several variables (diligence, discipline, drive, etc) including intelligence. But like I said in my earlier post (was it to you?) some people get rich by dubious means and that's not the class of men I'm referring to. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by IamLEGEND1: 3:52pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
[b] what is this nonsense? financial compatibility my big,black,hairy ass. i don't see dem hoes factoring financial compatibility into their decision making when they spread their legs like rumour for dudes with 30billion for the akant. this whole writeup only helps validate fears that guys have long held as regards to dating financially well-to-do women - that Sooner or later,pride kicks in. Men around the world on average earn way more than women do,but dating a financially deficient woman has never been a problem....... everyone is considered to have an equal stake in said relationship. we support and stand by our women come rain come sunshine meanwhile a woman who does that is considered a sugar mummy but those who refuse to date economically disadvantaged guys are now considered determined,21st century women with goals. i'll tell you what those women are: spineless,reverse gold-diggers masquerading as modern women. and you'll still find some crazy keyboard feminazis screaming 'DEATH TO THE PATRIARCHY' & joining 'free the nipple_' marches around the world. [/b] 46 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by FelixFelicis(m): 3:55pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
This article is logical, but we all know that that something is logical doesn't make it right. OP you made your points and your points fully support your conclusion so you've a pass there for me. I only can't help but wonder why comfortable guys don't go about searching for a lady of their class, or a financial level or a qualification level. It's just like it's a Jinx for comfortable and uncomfortable ladies to frown at "broke" guys. Whereas guys will wife any lady they want, either if she's rich, broke as a result of been visionless or been lazy, whatever her status may be. It's a confused world out here men... 9 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 3:55pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
RaggedyAnn:I like the fact you said you like adenuga but some other guys adenugas age are not poor because they don't have these trait, they are poor because of lack of opportunity Don't blame them as a reason for you to like adenuga cause it is your choice Get the picture 11 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 4:05pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
greyboy5000: "God's blessings" you say. That doesn't fit into my school of thought. I believe that every failure can be attributed to a short-coming. I believe that people like to hide their inadequacies behind "God's lack of favor". A boy can't pass his exams; God hasn't smiled on him. Never mind that he could study a bit harder. Anyway, there are people who are late-bloomers. Like the case you mentioned. Late bloomers don't suit everyone; and if you let go of someone who later made it in life, it still wasn't a mistake. You want someone who runs a race with you in tandem. You will realize it is better to let go of someone when they slow you down. The post makes some assumptions. For instance, an education gives people a better chance to find financial success. It is not meant to offend your sensibilities. It's only meant to help you identify factors that could be responsible for the fact that someone hasn't escaped a desperate financial state. Education is not equal to a certificate, mind you. But of course, not all broke guys are uneducated and not all educated people are broke. 5 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 4:07pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
greyboy5000: Where did I say I like Adenuga. Show me, let me quickly edit. I don't remember thinking it. |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 4:12pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Lubyna:Apology accepted Now back to the argument Now you are using a 15century logic to back up your arguments Where on earth is it a law that men should be a provider or the only provider in a relationship Well some guys in which I am part of prefare to have an independent lady for a reason you know So what advice will you give a guy like me, in case she looses her independence? Secondly, no i am not making it sound like every successful person is a rouge but rather you painted a very bad picture of broke guys which I tried to correct Finally, now that you claim it takes some form of intelligence to kidnap or do yahooyahoo, are you indirectly suggesting broke guys try that so that can appear intelligent to successful ladies like you even if they not good or morally upright( your words not mine) 28 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by toastedbread: 4:13pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
she should be there waiting for a guy who works in a fortune 500 coy, lives on the 15th floor, makes 6 figures (with the first digit an even number),... and later she'll blame one innocent devil. PS: go watch THINK LIKE A MAN 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Melonny(m): 4:15pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
lubyna, I am just gonna point out two inadequacies of setting standards- *Things keep changing i.e you grow older every year. if your standard is 25 million naira when you are 26 years, it will be #25000 when you turn 38 years old.. standard is inefficient *Ideal standard- setting too high standard will make you single for the rest of your life or will make you the third or fourth wife. Standards are sometimes unattainable expectations. Expectations only makes us unhappy. it lowers morale until you stoop low In conclusion, ladies should be encouraged to date however they want be it broke guys or guys with potential. 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Honesty007(m): 4:19pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
The problem with you ladies is that u assume the position of a creator to creating a being and can't cope with when the being would be born. i see it as utter nonsense for a lady or girl to be defining the type of man they want to marry because whatever you sow u shall reap. i have seen financially buoyant ladies who get married but are not finding it sweet nor do they get loved by their husbands.marriage is a starting point for God's sake and not an ending point. h have seen couples who r suffering now due to the lady placing priority on financial muscle ,extravagancy,and comfortability .but when seasons change they feel no difference because they have been always doing the same things they did before marriage so they would later see it as duty and take things for granted.know thatthere would be someone who is richer than u and would really want to love u 4 who u are and not being a moneybag! but when u raise the issue of financial standards,a rich guy would categorize u as one of the gold diggers he comes 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by hibiscus76(f): 4:19pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
[quote author=Martin0 post=58020531][/quote] as much as money is very necessary to a relationship, love matters too 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 4:22pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
RaggedyAnn: You didn't answer my question At what point should the very successful lady decide to leave this broke late bloomer Yes there is "grace" which I call certain event that happens that is beyond our control, it is not about religion or believe Yes education is not equal to certificate but education does not equal to finance either So I will say again choose what you want but don't try to justify your choice by insulting another person 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Honesty007(m): 4:25pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
as one of the gold diggers he comes across. The WORST THING THAT CAN EVER HAPPEN TO A LADY IS WHEN A MAN VALUES HER FOR HER SENSE OF MATERIALISM,PHYSICALITY,AND ENDOWMENT THAN WHO SHE IS(YOU IN YOU)WITHOUT ALL THESE OUTWARD ABILITIES. BEING IN AN MT SPACE WITH NOTHING IS BETTER THAN BEING IN A FULL PLACE AND YOU CAN'T MAKE A CHANGE OR BE CREATIVE AS YOU ARE IN AN MT SPACE.WHAT IS NOW YOUR VALUE? 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 4:29pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Daeylar:This was her response to me Read her initial post |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 4:32pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
RaggedyAnn:you didn't say it directly but some of the words in your post suggest you will like a guy like him 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Fadman4real(m): 4:39pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Lubyna: What happened to love? What happened to faithfulness? This is nothing but poverty mentality which is most prevalent among our Nigerian ladies. The most important thing they look out for is how much is a guy worth forgetting everything else. Let me tell you something you don't know we live in a poor country relatively. Most of us youths who finish school with a good grade find it difficult to get a good job and settle for a little job to put food on d table and keep hustling for a better job and even when you eventually find it. The pay is much smaller than what your peers receive in developed countries for doing the same thing you do. So relatively it would take a young man 10 years to achieve what his mates would achieve if he were in a developed country. Being broke here is not as a result of lack of intelligence or laziness but as a result of the type of situation he/she has found himself. If you are lucky as a lady to get a good job and have a pretty good life that doesn't mean you shouldn't be humble enough to let love have its way and date someone who loves and treats you right. If someone that really loves you approaches you and is one of those struggling you won't even give him a chance and even if you do it would be with an ultimatum. Make it or I leave. What happens if in d future the big boy you married loses everything and is broke. You would treat him like shit cause u are d one now paying the bills. I pray to make it big one day but my most important prayer is to avoid materialistic women like you. 62 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 4:47pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
greyboy5000: But I answered it, how come you didn't see it? I said a person should leave a late bloomer the moment she/he realizes he/she is holding her/him back in their own progress. That's when the relationship is unhealthy. I cannot comment on grace and religion. Perhaps it's what I referred to as 'luck'. When opportunities and timing for instance. But then, you must always be prepared first to take advantage of good timing. Education is not equal to good finances. Please don't disregard the context in which I mentioned the relevance of education. I said: The post makes some assumptions. For instance, an education gives people a better chance to find financial success. there aren't any guarantees. But it gives a lot of people options to contribute what they have been groomed for. Not everyone has an inborn talent that is marketable. This post isn't insulting anyone. The fact that some women of a certain economic class should be encouraged to find mates that are of a similar class, should not be an insult to anyone. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 4:51pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
greyboy5000: Oh, ok. Actually I don't. |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Fadman4real(m): 4:54pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
RaggedyAnn: Now the bolded is very wrong in this our economy, consider this story though fictious, it happens everyday. A young man whose parents are completely broke suffered to finish from uni with a 2-1 and after service manages to get a job in Lagos of 150k per month. He has brothers and sisters that are in uni or about to enter plus he has parents. He sends like 60k home every month for his parents and siblings, saves like 30k every month for his rent and has to manage like 60k for feeding, savings and tfare. Such a guy us broke cause he would be like d millions in Lagos jumping from one bus to another every day. Take another story of a young dude whose parents sent him abroad to study and came back to take over his father's biz. He is very rich with a good car, a good certificate, and little or no responsibilities. Among those two guys the first is probably more intelligent, smarter, and is more caring but you would go for the second and open your teeth smiling like u in at show when d second is asking u out. The only difference between the two guys is money which is purely due to luck. Change your orientation not all rich guys are intelligent or hardworking and not all broke guys are dull and wasted their lives. 56 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 4:59pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Another example of the effects of PATRIARCHY on men and women no woman wants to marry a man who is less than her either intellectually, financially or morally when the society expects her to lower herself, surrender her will and be submissive AKA be controlled by him. They will always aim higher. @OP being broke is relative. if you are waiting for Dangote you go wait tire 9 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 4:59pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
RaggedyAnn:really! Now you see the world like a ruler with straight edges As if anything is certain, as if love is easy to find like a cup of rice You mean the lady should leave like that and find a sucessful guy like the nigga is just waiting to be bought off the market So what happens if these richer guy were to loose his money or source of fund immediately they started dating Don't tell me because i know your answer; the lady should move to another sucessful guy You know what society call those type of ladies that move around looking for gold On the insults You need to read where she painted the picture of a broke guy in her post and come back to tell me how she was glorify them 6 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 5:01pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
It is not lack of opportunity, but lack of preparedness and inability to recognise opportunity when it arrives. Be proactive greyboy5000: |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 5:04pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Fadman4real:talk to her my guy I feel you 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Apina(m): 5:05pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Lubyna:After going through your write-up, I must confess that you made some very valid points but just what if the said financially buoyant guy losses all he has, would he still fit into ur category? Are u also saying ones financial status at a point in time should be the determinant for going into a relationship? All I see from ur long epistle is money this, money that. You still do not understand the basics of life, you still cannot see beyond the end of your nose. One can have all the money in this life but they cannot wear more than one cloth at a point in time if they were to own a continent of it or sleep on more than the space their body occupy even if they had the moon to themselves or breath more than the required air to survive cos they have money. I'm not tryna say it's bad to have money or make up with someone who has but it shouldn't be a priority in life but love is true and Even in death, it remains. Change the way u think cos life goes beyond the feeble way u see it. 15 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 5:11pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
funmisticqueen:really! Now I recognize the need to be proactive but one need to be careful in life on the type opportunities one will take I mean see those people dieing at the Mediterranean sea because they are too proactive Or those forced into modern day slavery in Italy and around the world You need to understand not everyone get things on a plater of gold 13 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by adwaani(m): 5:14pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Lubyna: 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Daeylar(f): 5:24pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
greyboy5000: maybe her words weren't explicit or seemed offending, but I got that from her message and then she explained further to you in her response, the people that made it seem as if she said that money was the ultimate both commented after she explained it to you, they could have read her post before commenting, That was my point |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 5:24pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Tahrah:why are you smiling I here defending my people broke and proud association of nairaland 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 5:29pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
Daeylar:yes I got your point But her initial post was quiet clear She said it is characteristic of a broke guy to be uneducated , unintelligent and to lack drive which I tried to correct Note: I am not against her choice of rich guys though 6 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 5:31pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
greyboy5000:You doing a good job,continue. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Nobody: 5:37pm On Jul 01, 2017 |
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