I met a lady who wanted to marry me...just me, not for anything else, i wasnt rich, just had a good job, a home and my dreams yet ahe wouldnt trade for anyrhing not even money.because she was so fine she could have any man wanted and she had lots of suitors...her dad didn't want me but she insisted... I wasn't even ready but I knew if I missed out on her, I won't rind her again. I married the only lady I always asked myself what exactly did she see in me? D woman that made a man out of the boy I was.

Rizzoli:
Hmmm. Marriage!!

Okay....

To everyone who said they will marry for love, what happens wen the one u married tells u after marriage that they don't love you...will you end it?

To all who said sex sex and sex,, what if the one you marry stops giving u good sex after marriage, will u end it?

To all who said children, what if children do not come , will u end it??

To all who said companionship, what if the one you marry suddenly doesn't even recognize your presence, will u end it??

Marriage is not nairaland where u log in and log out , you don't create any type of profile to do anything, you don't follow any type of people you want , you don't just post anything just because u want to be liked...

Marriage is real,,, it is about it respect, about loyalty, about trust, about sincerity, about honesty, about empathy most importantly a desire to make it work..that desire is called commitment..

This is important because , love may fail, sex may fail, companionship may fail, fruitfulness may fail.... but that desire will still keep everything going..

Dear Op, marriage is about asking God for that desire to continue when everything fails,, where that desire succeeds everything that failed will work again

The question should not be why do we want to get married,,it is no longer important in our generation where we marry and unmarry like we changing undies

The question should be why should we/ did we stay married?

A Quick one; sincere love don't fail and can't fail, especially when it's mutual.

If you don't have a rock solid, genuine and convincing reason for going into marriage, then I don't think you will find any for staying in it. Mind you, marriages fail today because they lack purpose. And when there is no purpose, the incentive to continue won't be there neither.

humilitypays:
you got it wrong; men marry to have kids while women marry to have someone to take over their financial burdens and to also have access to legal sex.

Men dont marry for sex....cos men become bored with having sex with just their wife and if its for sex, majority of men wont marry.


Men marry mostly to bear kids; sons to continue their lineage here on earth when they depart earth

Speak for yourself you wrote balderdash but it is your opinion.

[quote author=Stycon post=66994673]

A Quick one; sincere love don't fail and can't fail, especially when it's mutual.

If you don't have a rock solid reason, genuine and convincing reason for going into marriage, then I don't think you will find any for stay in it. Mind you, marriages fail today because they lack purpose. And when there is no purpose, the incentive to continue won't be there neither. [/quote

Sincerity is the word, love doesn't exist in isolation ..
Purpose could be used synonymously in this context as commitment

Icon79:
Bia, are you re-tarded

I wasn't speaking to you. I was responding to your assertions....this is an open forum and I have the rights to respond to anything I please, OK? Got it

#Mugu


O pari

Hence the insults at soapqueen can't you at least tell her in a respectful manner.Someone you don't know in person.

Where did I insult her? I asked her a simple question. Can you show me where I insulted her?

Or are you suffering from comprehension deficit as well


O pari

AmazonTopaz:
Hence the insults at soapqueen can't you at least tell her in a respectful manner.Someone you don't know in person.

@Rizzoli

Yeah.

I will rather say purpose birth commitment. You cannot commit to nothing.

Icon79:
Where did I insult her? I asked her a simple question.

Are you suffering from comprehension deficit as well


O pari

So mugu is a compliment abi?And no I am not suffering from such.

I didn't call her a mugu. I said #mugu.

That's NOT calling her a mugu.


O pari

AmazonTopaz:
So mugu is a compliment abi?

Icon79:
I didn't call her a mugu. I said #mugu.

That's NOT calling her a mugu.


O pari

No it is not calling her mugu it is telling her mugu .What is the meaning of #mugu?O Pari.

Stycon:


I was hoping you gonna reaffirm what's on you signature. For me, that'll be my core drive if I am gonna get married. In the end, it who we love and who loves us

You right.

Make I enter market go find Johnny oo

Biglittlelois:
Well i dont believe in love cos you cant love your partner continuously through long years of marriage, so my reason to get married is;

To procreate legally
To provide a stable, sane and comfortable environment for the little ones
To mate(fvck, sex, whatever)

It is possible to love your partner through long years of marriage. I've seen people do it.

kingkakaone:
I think most people marry today because of what they lust after and when their fantasies are satisfied, they get tired of the partner they have and wished they never rushed into such a very complicated decision of a lifetime commitment.
While a lot end in divorce, some (the religious ones) become so boring and filled with regrets.

Oga, 'what is the core reason why you got married or intend to get married?'. That was the question. Simply answer and stop writing epistle of St. Paul to the Amphibians!!

Mskrisx:


You right.

Make I enter market go find Johnny oo

Why enter market when he's been waiting for you already- haven't you noticed

When I'm matured enough for marriage, I'll marry for the right reason.
One thing is certain. I'll get married to the mother of my kids.

I got married on the 14th April, so I am 10days old in my marriage.

Now back to the question. I got married because I felt it was time I have someone to share my life with, which include plans and ideas.

Secondly ,
Steady pumping and sending spec product straight to the tank. No more disposals.

The older I get, the less I understand the meaning of the word love.
Right now I feel marriage is simply tying the knot with whoever you're dating at the time you are ready to get married. Whoever is the eventual beneficiary at that time ends up as your wife.
That's the way things are looking at the moment. All my fantasies about marriage have been wiped away by reality.

Stycon:


Why enter market when he's been waiting for you already- haven't you noticed

No. where is he?

Its so sad these days, this generation ..... everything about life is so hard so we cant marry for the reasons say our parents did- like it always gets me when I ask my dad why he married my mum? and he always says the same sh*t- " for her cooking"- I mean WTF? for me personally that's not even a good reason to marry..... because if you cant cook doesn't mean u wont make a good partner. but u see this African mentality of a thing- in these trying times, it helps people to really prioritise and see what is important in life, because afterall this life is short! You Only Live Once

I would wanna marry for love, companionship, have my 3 kids and enjoy my life with my wife and kids.

I hate it when a lady wants to get married because her friends are already married. Imagine that, then after i marry she would start giving me attitude and refuse me sex. That's how cheating starts cuz the man is denied sex.

There are many girls out there like that. I just wish to settle with someone that feels me as a part of her. That feeling of having someone in your heart .

I pray God assists me with the right partner cuz the way some people complain of their marriage its like marriage is a bad thing.

I hope to marry someone that will love me more than i love her. Even wowo guy still dey marry na shuu

@ FrenzyDuchess

She's warm, witty (fiery when riled)

got her own mind (views, dreams, ideas) and holds her own well ( no pushover)

passionate enough to be committed but also real enough whether in love (not to be reduced to a mindless vegetable) or at war ( to make fair conclusions in the interest of progress)

she has a way with words that rocks my world and equilibriates like no other

I could rock that, would love to rock that thrill ride for a life time.

I would definitely wanna be there, honored, to see & aid that diva rise to her best, shine at her brightest and live life to her fullest!

GreenMavro:


I will comment when NINA & MIRACLE, TOBI & ALEX, TEDDYA & BAMBAM get married

emperormossad:



It is possible to love your partner through long years of marriage. I've seen people do it.

You cant love someone you live with consistently for a long period of time, it's like an on and off switch, at a point it will be off and what you'll have left is tolerance, understanding, mutual respect etc.
It cant always be rosy.

I got married cos i met the man who loved me 100%. Someone who wanted me. Cared for me. Someone who couldn't stand my feeling sad. Its been over 4 years and it gets better....
My happiness is what he craves

dbynonetwork:
Marriage is a scam..... Honestly I wish to remain single.....
Women and there Wahala...

Whether marriage is a scam or not, you will not like it if you remain single,although not everyone will get married but it is also ordained by God

chenzen:
No need to marry!!!

Hope you won’t be lonely when u get old

Mofpearl:
Companionship and having children are my top reasons. I really look forward to breastfeeding and raisoing my children.

Comman breastfeed me..

Biglittlelois:



You cant love someone you live with consistently for a long period of time, it's like an on and off switch, at a point it will be off and what you'll have left is tolerance, understanding, mutual respect etc.
It cant always be rosy.

Are you for real @the colored? So, love now get switch

In my opinion, the presence of ups and downs in a relationship doesn't mean love fluctuates. In fact, staying together despite the unusual is a testimony that love never switch, it's constant.

Love doesn't deplete with time biko

Or which version of love are you talking about please?

Biglittlelois:



You cant love someone you live with consistently for a long period of time, it's like an on and off switch, at a point it will be off and what you'll have left is tolerance, understanding, mutual respect etc.
It cant always be rosy.

My dear it is possible. Before we go further I'll have to ask an important question. What's the basis for the love share between two people? Is it a matter of deliberate choice to love the other person? Or is it a case of 'falling' in love? When people fall, at some point it's inevitable that they'll have to rise again. Yes it cannot always been rosy and good, but to state that love no longer exists because things are not rosy are the moment is to deny the foundation of what brought them together if legitimate.
People fall easily and for various reasons. But I don't advocate for falling in love. I rather advocate for a deliberate decision to open your eyes and grow into love with the person. It must be a deliberate act, not that one of butterflies in the stomach or missing a heart beat.
Even the best of lovers tolerate one or two things about themselves but one thing that is undeniable is the love shared between them. It takes so much to get to where they're. You cannot just conclude that they no longer love themselves in those 'difficult' moments.

humilitypays:
you got it wrong; men marry to have kids while women marry to have someone to take over their financial burdens and to also have access to legal sex.

Men dont marry for sex....cos men become bored with having sex with just their wife and if its for sex, majority of men wont marry.


Men marry mostly to bear kids; sons to continue their lineage here on earth when they depart earth

Brotherly.... #thumbs-up

ItzBIM:


Hope you won’t be lonely when u get old

in a country of over 170 million people? ... by the time l m old it would have skyrocketed up to 250m... Nah bro.!

I’m getting married because I crave for a lifelong companion/friend..and also to have unhindered sex..I’m not getting married because of kids or who to ‘continue my lineage’....when I’m gone from this earth I won’t be aware if anybody is continuing my lineage or not, I won’t be aware,ashamed or proud of anybody here on earth...I will know NOTHING..but while on earth, I need a companion....