winningwinner:


Thanks a lot, but how much money will I be able to make now that will bring back the usual love my wife had for me? Will I be able to satisfy her in anything again? I actually need to dislodge her father and start marrying her as my wife or else I take a far journey away from home.

Yeah my guy, RUN AWAY! That's what cowards will do!!

WHO EVER PAYS THE PIPER DICTATES THE TUNE!!!

If they pay your bill then you should listen and dance to their tune. The piper decides the sound. If you want to be in charge of decision making, be in in charge of your finance. Who those that ? Your in law feeds you and you are comfortable as a man . if I pay your bill, boy you can't bulge my instructions.

winningwinner:


I never seen marriage as a competition between the man and the woman where the one that provides calls the shots. The woman should complement the man without having to call the shots. This is what I know marriage to be before getting married.

In this case, the woman is not complementing you, you have been bought , and your pride trashed. Keep quiet and listen "Mr married man without a job yet demands full respect from wife and Inlaw"

op,this just like the case of who pays the piper, but i am very damn sure about your woman!that girl loves you so much,everything you own is for you.

[quote author=marvelli post=67820823] talk to her. Make her understand that you feel emasculated because her dad runs the house and has a say in your every decision. Hopefully she stops telling her father personal things that way he cannot advice. That being said, your father in law is still the head of your house as long as he's still footing the bills. Please try and find a job very soon. For pride's sake. I wish you the best. [/quote )

Please don't do this I'm quite busy now but I will explain later . Tho I appreciate the person who said this but don't do it .

Bro... I won't condemn you over what's already been done and can't be fixed short term .

But you I repeat do not open up to your wife about how you feel as she could see you as weak ( that's if she doesn't already feel so ).

Some have said get a job ...that's all good you need to do that . Just find a way to provide for the family . Another thing is you must never repeat never seat at home idle in her presence . If it means you need to dress up in the morning and go anywhere do that .

You see the battle to get back your home is secondary to the war to get back your masculinity .

You have to be a man and no bringing money doesn't make you a man to your woman . It goes deeper than that . And it all starts with your mindset . The answers you seek are online start from the www.therationalmale .com

The truth will shock you but you have to change your programming . Your mind is your biggest enemy here not her father . Once your mind changes and you strive to get back your home things will start to fall in place .

However , you are in for the biggest fight of your life.

All the best ...

Above all seek the companionship of good friends with wisdom ...I don't mean ekene by the bar who buys beer but won't give you a loan . I mean good friends who want to help you out .

Just go to that site and start reading and learning .

tobianthony:
Bro... I won't condemn you over what's already been done and can't be fixed short term .

But you I repeat do not open up to your wife about how you feel as she could see you as weak ( that's if she doesn't already feel so ).

Some have said get a job ...that's all good you need to do that . Just find a way to provide for the family . Another thing is you must never repeat never seat at home idle in her presence . If it means you need to dress up in the morning and go anywhere do that .

You see the battle to get back your home is secondary to the war to get back your masculinity .

You have to be a man and no bringing money doesn't make you a man to your woman . It goes deeper than that . And it all starts with your mindset . The answers you seek are online start from the www.therationalmale .com

The truth will shock you but you have to change your programming . Your mind is your biggest enemy here not her father . Once your mind changes and you strive to get back your home things will start to fall in place .

However , you are in for the biggest fight of your life.

All the best ...

Above all seek the companionship of good friends with wisdom ...I don't mean ekene by the bar who buys beer but won't give you a loan . I mean good friends who want to help you out .

Just go to that site and start reading and learning .

Thanks so much. I am glad you're there for me.

Your father inlaw is the head of your family. You invited him in when you decided to allow him assume your responsibility. The only thing he is not doing as the head of your family is sleeping with your wife.

Get a job and take responsibility for your family.

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In this case, the woman is not complementing you, you have been bought , and your pride trashed. Keep quiet and listen "Mr married man without a job yet demands full respect from wife and Inlaw"

..sense everywhere..

It Simply.... Manup pay your household rent

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winningwinner:


Thanks a lot, but how much money will I be able to make now that will bring back the usual love my wife had for me? Will I be able to satisfy her in anything again? I actually need to dislodge her father and start marrying her as my wife or else I take a far journey away from home.

Sissy talk

Weak men everywhere in Nigeria

Small.womder why the sisters have taken cheating to a whole.new level

does your wife have a sister, I am asking for a friend?

EliteBiz:
Ok, You have to be a Real Man!!!!!! You are the head of your family, Alot of things have to change, but do it wisely

Head kor tail no. When you depend on someone the person you depend on become lord over ur life

Dude, forget it! They bought you over from the beginning of the relationship. That's the problem with dating girls whose parents are rich. If the money was coming from her, it's kinda cool. But from the parents, you're bought for life! They will tell you they're doing it for your comfort and most importantly for the comfort of their daughter. You're in a fix seriously. You can buy your right back though but it must be when you're financial strong.

winningwinner:


So true love is dead? Does that mean my girl only wanted to get married and nothing more?

go in search of a job and stop asking silly question what do u even do all day

Dude you don cast for the marriage abeg. Youre an example of brilliance with no single intelligence. See how you allowed them invade your space with money now you want out. The only way out is divorce and prepare to go into battle about your kids. Use your brain next time

winningwinner:
My name is Dahe. I struggled to graduate from the university. I made first class. After that, I got a job that pays 120k per month. But there is this problem with the job. You work like the bull and hardly have time for yourself. I sometimes sleep in the office just to beat time. It's work all through from morning till night.

There is this girl that I fell in love with. She was 21 then while I was 25. She kept complaining that I always keep to myself at work without a bit of care for her. The complain and accusations kept on till I decided to listen to her. I only worked for two months and had just been paid for the second month.

I invited her over to my house in Abuja. She came, and that time she was on her final year. She came with so many books and by the look of things, she was prepared to stay longer.

As usual, workload took over every event. At midnight, my phone rang and it was my girl. I was afraid to explain anything but I told her I was coming home right away. I did. It was hell in my home. We managed to make love and slept.

The next morning, my MD called demanding my presence. My girl insisted that I call him back and ask for a break that day. I did not.

Rather, I begged her and went to work. I truly loved her and wanted to propose to her before she goes back to school. But to make her feel good and belonged, I called her on phone to break the news. I proposed to her.

My MD sent for me to ask that I work through the night again. I said no. He pleaded, but I refused. It was hard saying no, but I had no choice.

At home my girl had turned herself into a ready made wife and I regretted not proposing to her till now.
I did not go to work the next day due to the new development at home. You understand what I mean..
My MD called to vent his anger, but I was calm and my girl swore never return to me if I didn't resign from the work. I took her word and resigned.

I looked for another work to no avail. She kept servicing my bank account with lots of money. Her father is rich.
She called me and asked me to speak with her mom and after some weeks, the dad. They kept saying, "please take good care of our daughter, don't break her heart".

My girl gratuated with a 2.1 honours and I attended her graduation ceremony where I met her parents live. After some weeks, her father called me to ask me about my plans with her daughter, I did not hide anything, and he told me to act fast.

A month later, I called him to inform him of my plans to marry his daughter the coming Christmas, but only that money was the big issue. He told me to go on with my plans that he will take care of everything. I jumped at it and we wedded. He took care of everything starting from invitation card to reception.

He refurnished my house in Abuja and transferred three years rent sum to my landlord's account. He paid in advance. Our first child came, still I and my wife are jobless. My In-law takes care of us.

I wanted to be in charge of my home but the man kept interfering, making the daughter to take a contrary decision on crucial matters.

My wife no longer takes my advice, what do I do? I need your candid advice on this matter. Please help me!

MY QUESTION: Will you as a father leave your home to meddle on your daughter's own home? Why won't you allow her to build her home with her husband?

Get a job, no matter how small the pay. Stop accepting financial hand outs from her father and finally, talk to her father what you just explained here... To take charge of your home you have to take charge of it.... And that's by being a man.

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winningwinner:
My name is Dahe. I struggled to graduate from the university. I made first class. After that, I got a job that pays 120k per month. But there is this problem with the job. You work like the bull and hardly have time for yourself. I sometimes sleep in the office just to beat time. It's work all through from morning till night.

There is this girl that I fell in love with. She was 21 then while I was 25. She kept complaining that I always keep to myself at work without a bit of care for her. The complain and accusations kept on till I decided to listen to her. I only worked for two months and had just been paid for the second month.

I invited her over to my house in Abuja. She came, and that time she was on her final year. She came with so many books and by the look of things, she was prepared to stay longer.

As usual, workload took over every event. At midnight, my phone rang and it was my girl. I was afraid to explain anything but I told her I was coming home right away. I did. It was hell in my home. We managed to make love and slept.

The next morning, my MD called demanding my presence. My girl insisted that I call him back and ask for a break that day. I did not.

Rather, I begged her and went to work. I truly loved her and wanted to propose to her before she goes back to school. But to make her feel good and belonged, I called her on phone to break the news. I proposed to her.

My MD sent for me to ask that I work through the night again. I said no. He pleaded, but I refused. It was hard saying no, but I had no choice.

At home my girl had turned herself into a ready made wife and I regretted not proposing to her till now.
I did not go to work the next day due to the new development at home. You understand what I mean..
My MD called to vent his anger, but I was calm and my girl swore never return to me if I didn't resign from the work. I took her word and resigned.

I looked for another work to no avail. She kept servicing my bank account with lots of money. Her father is rich.
She called me and asked me to speak with her mom and after some weeks, the dad. They kept saying, "please take good care of our daughter, don't break her heart".

My girl gratuated with a 2.1 honours and I attended her graduation ceremony where I met her parents live. After some weeks, her father called me to ask me about my plans with her daughter, I did not hide anything, and he told me to act fast.

A month later, I called him to inform him of my plans to marry his daughter the coming Christmas, but only that money was the big issue. He told me to go on with my plans that he will take care of everything. I jumped at it and we wedded. He took care of everything starting from invitation card to reception.

He refurnished my house in Abuja and transferred three years rent sum to my landlord's account. He paid in advance. Our first child came, still I and my wife are jobless. My In-law takes care of us.

I wanted to be in charge of my home but the man kept interfering, making the daughter to take a contrary decision on crucial matters.

My wife no longer takes my advice, what do I do? I need your candid advice on this matter. Please help me!

MY QUESTION: Will you as a father leave your home to meddle on your daughter's own home? Why won't you allow her to build her home with her husband?

You lost grip when she told you to resign and you did like ode.. oga humble yourself before hunger kill you and your wife while you enter Hussle overdrive, Na watin dey kill niggers with first class, you you shun Hussle and still believe success in life is $as per it's your birthright" because of first class, you better Hussle and humble yourself and stop carrying your first class brain and certificates around and enter street.

Lie- lie story

This story makes me laugh out loud!!!!

N yet some mofos would be looking for rich girls to marry without having a decent job..


No one respects a pussy...

If l tell you l feel sorry for you eeh , call me a lier! Imagine what you are saying, you resigned, you proposed, your in-laws founded your wedding, day to day expenses. Your woman was wiring money into your account...hmmm where is the man in you ?

You wanted it the easy way out and in and you got it. You have no value in her eyes the day you started dancing her music and becoming a liability to her and her family.

I will suggest you suspend any ldea of having kids with her yet if you are yet to; get a job, stop collecting from her and her family...live a life you can afford and if she is not comfortable and wouldnt see reasons with you being in charge and living not above your income, then she can walk.

You need to put your life together...this kind of girl will still leave you, cheat on you, and have you remain her puppet till she is done with you.

A stitch in time saves nine...do not start what you cannot finish. You came to this world alone and will die alone. Love ni, love ko....respect and understanding matters.

Long story short......


You live in his house, eat his food, wear his clothes, spend his money....




Bros you are married to your father in law....



And as a wife you have to listen to your husband o.

Maybe you should consider travelling out of the country together with your family.....maybe a place like canada...when you get there, work your ass off to stabilise your home...work to pay the bills, even if your woman helps with the bills, its okay....you will have an avenue to dictate in the house again....dont just sit there in abuja and allow her dad pay your rent and all. It wont stop if you dont do anything.

enabledgoddess:



In this case, the woman is not complementing you, you have been bought , and your pride trashed. Keep quiet and listen "Mr married man without a job yet demands full respect from wife and Inlaw"

Quiet n listen to what U didn't tell him shiit!!

marvelli:
im sure she loved/ loves you in her own way. But it looks like with her, the one with money is King.

Damn u nailed it...
Next round is on me babe

winningwinner:
Hmmmm! Most of the replies I get for expressing myself on this platform have left me confused. Thanks to the few people that truly understand my plight to offer advice. The mistake has been made and no one is above mistake. I take all the blame, but I'm sincerely tired of the whole thing. I want to quit. Finding a well paying job now is not very easy. I need divine intervention.

I have gone through the comments and there's nothing confusing here.you know where your problem is coming from ,you'll have to admit the bitter truth,either you find a job by yourself or through your father in law,talk to him man to man tell him his daughter's attitude towards u,tell him to help u look for a job

I feed you, Clothe you, Put a roof over your head and go cow girl on you... you're a clown if you still think you deserve respect after all that. I own You!

Respect is something only Alpha males get.

Man up..change your mindset and go out there and find a job no matter the pay..also don't be seen sitting at home idle. women hate idle men like shit... you can't go back to the past. but now you can redefine your future... all boils down to making yourself valuable now.. I can't say all here but you can relate to my point...