That is the mind set of the average Nigerian lady. That's extremely selfish. You have to get her to change before getting married to her. I would have nothing to do with a lady with such selfish disposition.

mistacoco:
Dear Narialanders.
.

Run she has nothing in your future! Am very afraid, if you go ahead and marry that lady, you will have serious problems in your marriage.

I am married and I know what I am saying.

if after that discussion you had with her,you still can't advice yourself on what to do,it shows you're not really smart. better start finding a new girlfriend.

mistacoco:
Dear Narialanders.

I and my girlfriend had a hitup conversation this afternoon that we even quarrel after then.

This is the issue, she read medlab in school and she is planning to go for her internship by Gods grace soon. I told her that after our wedding I will be giving her five million to setup a LAB and after 8 months she can start contribute for the upkeep of the family and when we start having kids.
My Dear brethren in Christ, do you know her reply? She said NO, she can only provide when the husband exhaust his money on the family. I then asked her whats the point opening a bizness if you cant make a joint contribution with your husband at the end of the month for the upkeep of the family.
She said said her work is a HELPER she can only help her husband when the husbands own finishes. My Dear I was shock.

She Even said I will be giving her money for her hair, cloth e.t.cs, when the bizness is still functioning fine. My reply was that what then will you be using your money to do? She said I don't have business with her money, I should face my responsibilities as the man, she can only assist me when I don't Av cash.. I told her is better you even be a house wife than acting in such manner.

Her Female friend was siding her oo. .
What's you take on this.

.

The answer is starring right at you. Truth is your girlfriend is precisely selfish and childish. If she refuses to see things as you do, I'll say bro she ain't worth the hassle. Good morning!

mistacoco:
Get the fvck out if you dont Av what to say?

On your wife,see sometimes our ladies say what they don't mean and may just argue her point to drive home a position she wants to be as at that time. In the end,she might not act what she says and you will find out that she will be the best supportive wife you can ever thing of. One thing you should continue to pray for is financial uplift in your own life and believe me,she will gladly want to assist you even if you don't ask of her assistance. It's nothing to worry about bro
You will be fine and don't let negative advice here put unnecessary thoughts in your mind about your woman. Or better still if she is serious about what she said, then try and change her mindset in a loving manner and stop arguing with her. Do pray for her too but most importantly as I have said, pray to God to make you always financially stable and u will b fine. Bro, seriously it's nothing to worry about. I know u love her pls just continue to love her. Cheers

Also, can you help me with some cash?I'm financially down for now pls. I'll b glad if u can. Thanks

Omachona:
Open the lab in your name, employ her as the managing director. Pay her from the proceeds after all accounting has been done. Let her know from onset that the lab belongs to you

she can kill him o

mistacoco:
Get the fvck out if you dont Av what to say?

pls bro I just need like 2000 naira pls.

oshe11:
If this TRULY happened to you and YOU are here asking if SHE IS RIGHT.....



THEN YOU ARE A FOOL.....



I mean the ONLY RIGHT thing about HER is that SHE IS DATING A FOOL

i dont think any matured man needs advice on this...

ednut1:
hr might be lieng about d 5m sha. Have faced sometin lik dis before. Met one babe at an event , we bcam friends and wanted to date her o. This babe pman get money and foots most of her bills. D sis earns 500k in a bank bt when she bashes d car she uses na pman dey pay . D babe told me if we marry na me go dey foot all bills (her wigs lasan na 60k), say her money is hers mine is ours. Ontop my small salary. I just flee o. One prince don engage am now

One Prince or one fool?

bethyz:
Do you know what she is 101% right. Every young man who is not married will say go against that. If you go for counselling for marriage they will tell you men should take there mind off what is in the woman's pocket. Be a responsible man take care of the family. The woman will help when it's necceasery. She is a help mate. You can discuss with her which possible way she wants to contribute . You will find out you dont even need to tell her she will take up some responsibility who ever is telling you dump her leave her she isn't a good woman is just childish. I went for three month proper counselling for marriage in Winners Chapel. She is right. take care of her love her. You will find out all she said won't be what she will do .

One of the very useless and foolish advice on nairaland. Am so sure you are not in control of your marriage if atall you are married and I am also sure that teaching was never done at winners chapel! What nonesense!!!!

Even if I understand the stereotypical thinking of women that the men will most likely abandon them if they cater for the upkeep for the house. Most women feel that at the end of the day, the man will take advantage of her and become lazy. But it depends on the man. I feel that a woman should support. It is not easy in this bloody country. Inflation in the land. Refusal to increase salaries. How a married man is expected to cater for his family, pay rent and school fees alone on a salary of just 100k is beyond me.

Twoclans:
You guys get upset too easily ,she said she will contribute when you are down financially. Guy open the business for her ,after five months tell her you are down financially and that you are in a huge debt then allow her take over the finances of the home while you chill.

Cunny man die cunny man burry am

Not good to start out in marriage by playing games on each other. The guy should dump her if she doesn't change her mind set.

ItzBIM:


Why must it be when You’re down, what’s stopping her from buying her own clothes. She’s nothing but a leach, if it was me I would have ended the relationship right there.

She is right. He is the head of the family, she is just a helpmeet. What is the point of the being the head and calling the shots if you will not take care of her needs. Please stop promoting feminism here. Men and women have their sweater roles to play which will never be equal. Now you're asking her to buy clothes for herself, next thing you ask her to tell him to come and be cooking food in the kitchen. A man is the head. Head no be by beans. A worse is enough for the wise.

Holymann:


Trying to defend her only shows that YOUR LEVEL OF STUPIDITY IS HIGHER THAN I THOUGHT.

God bless u sir

Lalas247:

It’s the only way she will learn...
If he dumps her another mumu will accept .. he has to show her In marriage they have to compromise (some ladies are clueless and programmed to only help when the man fails and that’s wrong! )

It doesn’t make her a bad person she just has a typical leech mentality which a lot suffer from...

Laslas your sense can fill a drum, you sound really smart, exposed and liberal.. See how your lady friend on the fp was insulting the man for seeking help, if everyone was perfect there'd be no need for therapist/psychologists, unfortunately we have few praticing professionals hence this young man has turned to NL for help...

VampireeM:


Ntorrrr.

for your mind

bethyz:
Do you know what she is 101% right. Every young man who is not married will say go against that. If you go for counselling for marriage they will tell you men should take there mind off what is in the woman's pocket. Be a responsible man take care of the family. The woman will help when it's necceasery. She is a help mate. You can discuss with her which possible way she wants to contribute . You will find out you dont even need to tell her she will take up some responsibility who ever is telling you dump her leave her she isn't a good woman is just childish. I went for three month proper counselling for marriage in Winners Chapel. She is right. take care of her love her. You will find out all she said won't be what she will do .

I have no words for you

mistacoco:
must Nigerians comment with insult? We only discuss on it, I didn't give her the money.

Btw she nver said she wont contribute, she said she will only contribute when am down financially.

her mindset has disqualified her with me at first then why the hell on earth did she go to school if she will be waiting for you to sole driver...I mean no offence bro but I see some gold digging spirit at play here

dude!! someone with a brain will not post this rubbish...
either u are a sissy or u are just a bitch with a dick .. nonsense

Different strokes for different folks.. Here I am, wanting to split bills with my husband! but 'cos of deep rooted African beliefs he said no...same company, same pay!.. My work is even more time consuming, so he has no choice but to do domestic duties (no house maid abroad).. I am jejely waiting for him to ask what I am doing with my money.

mistacoco:
Dear Narialanders.

I and my girlfriend had a hitup conversation this afternoon that we even quarrel after then.

This is the issue, she read medlab in school and she is planning to go for her internship by Gods grace soon. I told her that after our wedding I will be giving her five million to setup a LAB and after 8 months she can start contribute for the upkeep of the family and when we start having kids.
My Dear brethren in Christ, do you know her reply? She said NO, she can only provide when the husband exhaust his money on the family. I then asked her whats the point opening a bizness if you cant make a joint contribution with your husband at the end of the month for the upkeep of the family.
She said said her work is a HELPER she can only help her husband when the husbands own finishes. My Dear I was shock.

She Even said I will be giving her money for her hair, cloth e.t.cs, when the bizness is still functioning fine. My reply was that what then will you be using your money to do? She said I don't have business with her money, I should face my responsibilities as the man, she can only assist me when I don't Av cash.. I told her is better you even be a house wife than acting in such manner.

Her Female friend was siding her oo. .
What's you take on this.

.

women like these only understand their own emotion and are usually very selfish incase your broke one then or for a while then you will see what I am saying.
you can test her if u think it a lie,assist her with some funds and maybe 2 or 3 days after(be sure she still has money with her) then ask for her assistance.
they only understand when things are going smoothly, but are quick to take their husband lazy in case of little hardship

Twoclans:
You guys get upset too easily ,she said she will contribute when you are down financially. Guy open the business for her ,after five months tell her you are down financially and that you are in a huge debt then allow her take over the finances of the home while you chill.

Cunny man die cunny man burry am

Nor go there o. She may not support o. So she is hoping the guy would be down financially one day and if not, all her money will always be hers while the husband's money can be lavished. She shouldn't have said it even if she had do it!

mistacoco:
Get the fvck out if you dont Av what to say?

A very big shame on you for your stupidity and foolishness she gave you a very candid advice u sud b happy such is coming from a lady how many ladies wud b so blunt like this don't worry naw invest ur money on ur so called gf Wen h are married and broke she will help you like she said and you would have to do house chores and wash her panties so as to be of help to her also you better seek for God's help before you waste your life

Omachona:
Open the lab in your name, employ her as the managing director. Pay her from the proceeds after all accounting has been done. Let her know from onset that the lab belongs to you

Mistacoco, this is the only reasonable and mature comment regarding the advice you seek.

I can't add or remove from this advice. 100% reasonable.

Ignore all the shallow advices and insults you have received. This info right here is GOLD.

IamD18:


Will you shurup! Look at you attacking her truthful comment but couldn't attack a lady who wants to suck you dry in reality.

You are a disgrace to men. How did you even manage to get 5 million to call your own with this weakness and pussay ass behavior of yours?

Did you even read what you wrote up there?

You want to invest 5 million in a woman who made it clear that she won't be contributing in your home, and here you are, crying like a sissy and asking for advice on what to do?

Invest 20 million in her or better still ask a secondary school student for advice. NONESENSE

My Broda let the sissy asshole be he would start washing period pant very soon for her foolish man a lady gave him a good advice he in turn insulted her foolish dullard u sure say u get family at all to advice u dat u are on the part of self destruction

mistacoco:
must Nigerians comment with insult? We only discuss on it, I didn't give her the money.

Btw she nver said she wont contribute, she said she will only contribute when am down financially.

See this girlish man making excuses for her SMH seems she's the only gal dat gives u d way u like it no kill ya self by ya self

Adasun:
i think roasted would be beta

More like smoked. Then lightly salted

Twoclans:
You guys get upset too easily ,she said she will contribute when you are down financially. Guy open the business for her ,after five months tell her you are down financially and that you are in a huge debt then allow her take over the finances of the home while you chill.

Cunny man die cunny man burry am

A kid will always think like a kid.

bethyz:
Do you know what she is 101% right. Every young man who is not married will say go against that. If you go for counselling for marriage they will tell you men should take there mind off what is in the woman's pocket. Be a responsible man take care of the family. The woman will help when it's necceasery. She is a help mate. You can discuss with her which possible way she wants to contribute . You will find out you dont even need to tell her she will take up some responsibility who ever is telling you dump her leave her she isn't a good woman is just childish. I went for three month proper counselling for marriage in Winners Chapel. She is right. take care of her love her. You will find out all she said won't be what she will do .

No. They aren't childish.

You chose to be the sole provider because of choice not the counselling itself.

There are two types of males in this world, the alpha males and the beta males.

The one you choose to be is what will create your line of thoughts and actions.

Gone are the days that women didn't contribute to the home. They are working now and many know that they've to provide even without being told.

That you chosed to be the sole provider because of your ego doesn't mean every other man should.

Being the sole provider isn't nice for a man's health.

Note that I'm also married. I wouldn't advice any male friend or relation to go the way you went even if they've 1billion funds each.

bethyz:
Do you know what she is 101% right. Every young man who is not married will say go against that. If you go for counselling for marriage they will tell you men should take there mind off what is in the woman's pocket. Be a responsible man take care of the family. The woman will help when it's necceasery. She is a help mate. You can discuss with her which possible way she wants to contribute . You will find out you dont even need to tell her she will take up some responsibility who ever is telling you dump her leave her she isn't a good woman is just childish. I went for three month proper counselling for marriage in Winners Chapel. She is right. take care of her love her. You will find out all she said won't be what she will do .

Your craze level don High. Female and males contribute in today's marriage bro. Na uwa isi Ike.

JONNYSPUTE:
... Shut up! Man indeed. Is people like you that gives men bad name. All yes member

Jonny some men act funny.
because they chosed to be sole providers because of ego they want every other man to tow that line.

I'm still amazed how some men find it easy to marry full time housewives or wives who don't contribute anything..Trust me being the sole provider is bad for a man's health.
Godforbid bad thing.

My advice to all young men is; don't marry a wife who won't contribute.. it'll be a disaster.


I can share a story with y'all
in 2012 my friend got married to a full time housewife against the advice of his friends and his parents..
This lady even went as far as resigning from her job but my friend still refused to send her from his home. He assumed the role of "sole provider " saying he his the man.The woman has become a liability to him then.
He was using an Hyundai car when he got married, now he has sold his car . My friend who was fair in complexion before is now black in complexion because of too much burden.

I've shared this story more than 4times here.

The "you're the man " word shouldn't deceive you into digging your early grave.

IamD18:
Bruv, how do you want the thunder that will strike sense and brain inside you?

How do you want the thunder


Boiled or fried?

due to his high concentrated level of mumuness fried one will do.