Omachona:
Open the lab in your name, employ her as the managing director. Pay her from the proceeds after all accounting has been done. Let her know from onset that the lab belongs to you

My brother that may not help,she will most likely wreck the business with this mentality.

MarieSucre:


She is right. He is the head of the family, she is just a helpmeet. What is the point of the being the head and calling the shots if you will not take care of her needs. Please stop promoting feminism here. Men and women have their sweater roles to play which will never be equal. Now you're asking her to buy clothes for herself, next thing you ask her to tell him to come and be cooking food in the kitchen. A man is the head. Head no be by beans. A worse is enough for the wise.

You no get brain so oooo. You say what?

See ehn, not all women are meant to marry. No matter how pretty, educated or nice.

Your lady does not know what being a partner in progress means. Let her get a hospital job and rise through the ranks. She will realise the value of 5m.

Lalas247:

It’s the only way she will learn...
If he dumps her another mumu will accept .. he has to show her In marriage they have to compromise (some ladies are clueless and programmed to only help when the man fails and that’s wrong! )

It doesn’t make her a bad person she just has a typical leech mentality which a lot suffer from...

Going ahead to marry her might be a very big mistake,people hardly change deep seated believes in marriage,they will most likely have very big issues in marriage which will eventually lead to a separation....let her change before the marriage.

Magnifik18:


Mistacoco, this is the only reasonable and mature comment regarding the advice you seek.

I can't add or remove from this advice. 100% reasonable.

Ignore all the shallow advices and insults you have received. This info right here is GOLD.

My brother, that lady fit kee am like fly carry everything comot. No be Nigerian girl eh be? He made the mistake of telling her sef. He for kukuma leave am, make the lady sweat make her own money.

Magnifik18:


Mistacoco, this is the only reasonable and mature comment regarding the advice you seek.

I can't add or remove from this advice. 100% reasonable.

Ignore all the shallow advices and insults you have received. This info right here is GOLD.

My brother, that lady fit kee am like bee carry everything comot. No be Nigerian girl eh be? He made the mistake of telling her sef. He for kukuma leave am, make the lady sweat make her own money.

mistacoco:
must Nigerians comment with insult? We only discuss on it, I didn't give her the money.

Btw she nver said she wont contribute, she said she will only contribute when am down financially.

Hmmm, down financially, for her to say down financially, how are you even sure she will help at all?

Sound like ladies who always say wait after marriage and you get tired of eating it and when you're married, 2years she is always tired

Obidikejr:


Laslas your sense can fill a drum, you sound really smart, exposed and liberal.. See how your lady friend on the fp was insulting the man for seeking help, if everyone was perfect there'd be no need for therapist/psychologists, unfortunately we have few praticing professionals hence this young man has turned to NL for help...

Thanks,... nothing more refreshing than seeing a hard working man ..... and sometimes it’s better to ask for advice than rush and do the wrong thing ..I, sure op will have enough help from this thread

Omachona:
Open the lab in your name, employ her as the managing director. Pay her from the proceeds after all accounting has been done. Let her know from onset that the lab belongs to you

Brother sense too dry for ya comment. Can I borrow some sense

The only advice I can give u is RUN for your dear life.

What are ladies even hoping to make all that money for sef?

@misticoco ask her what she intends to do with all the money she would be making ?

VERDA:


Going ahead to marry her might be a very big mistake,people hardly change deep seated believes in marriage,they will most likely have very big issues in marriage which will eventually lead to a separation....let her change before the marriage.

But she hasn’t been married before ... he can change it .. if that’s her only flaw ...
Just go to Uni lab and ask most ladies who haven’t even been in stab,e serious long term relationship ... most are all about money ! Or how rich their future husband will be ... that mindset cant be changed trust me
Gone were the days were our fathers did all .. now they shout feminism and all that crap yet refuse to chip in ..... I have zero tolerance for lazy chics who don’t know it takes two to build a castle !

Broda jst go n buy a nigeria must go bag n run 4 ur lyf.....dis is a big revelation

If u mistakingly marry this woman u r doomed...For men who are already married to women who think like this, take ur mind off her money and take ur mind off investing in her as well. Treat her like one of the kids and use money u wud have invested in her in investing in other means of income. That way u will b able to meet obligations and still give her the monies for pant and pad that she came to this life to collect

OP, see ehn, not all women are meant to marry. No matter how pretty, educated or nice.

Your lady does not know what being a partner in progress means. Let her get a hospital job and rise through the ranks. She will realise the value of 5m.

Invest that money wisely in something else because you will need it badly. You are on your own financially if you marry her.

If I was in your position, unless she has other AMAZING qualities, I'd seriously consider things carefully if she's the right woman for marriage. Dating is different from marriage. You got an idea of what to expect.

If peradventure she's forced by circumstances to contribute to family upkeep, her respect for you will diminish. Because she never envisaged to.
This is even more so if you do a job like banking that can be unpredictable in terms of job security.

UncleJudax:

What is your definition of a "bad person"?

Leeching is a feature of a good person?

It is simple! She would want to be in control if/when the husband is down.

I think the guy is speaking hypothetically sha..No be only 5 million.

Kiki why that 5million dey pain people ... it’s easy to get na if you work and have good paying job .....

Even family members leech ... abi u never jam the one that will be messaging you every week for up keep like say dem employ you .. yes sometimes you gotta let them know ... ....

A man said he will buy a dog for his son. The son said daddy when you buy the dog I will be carrying it as a baby. The man slap the son because he feel the dog might infect the son with a disease if the son is stupid enough to be carrying the dog in his arms.
Moral of the story-dog we neva see but the boy don dey chop slap. Give her the 5m first then I will comment.

MarieSucre:


She is right. He is the head of the family, she is just a helpmeet. What is the point of the being the head and calling the shots if you will not take care of her needs. Please stop promoting feminism here. Men and women have their sweater roles to play which will never be equal. Now you're asking her to buy clothes for herself, next thing you ask her to tell him to come and be cooking food in the kitchen. A man is the head. Head no be by beans. A worse is enough for the wise.

funny.

A lady should be able to take care of herself to an extent.

had it been u left her there, never to come back again, u cud have changed the mindset of one bitch.

Bro, that's why it's advisable to love with your Head NL committe have given you answers, but to be clear, marriage should be off the chart for now, if she can't help till you are broke, I wonder what kind of wife she will be. with your complain now, you have been spending excessively only on dating her I believe you made a big mistake by showing her too much love and she now see you as weak, that's the only reason she has the guts to say this. be wise to avoid tears later.

Lalas247:

Kiki why that 5million dey pain people ... it’s easy to get na if you work and have good paying job .....

Even family members leech ... abi u never jam the one that will be messaging you every week for up keep like say dem employ you .. yes sometimes you gotta let them know ... ....

5 million pain people say wetin happen. Na the act/thought be the issue.

If the babe change am for him...him no go see any of us.

Make him " invest" na

UncleJudax:

5 million pain people say wetin happen. Na the act the the issue.

If the babe change am for him...him no go see any of us.

Make him " invest" na

He will invest no worry ... he must get sense by force

Bro, pls go and Finish ur Project,,,, am begging u pls.......................

By the way,,,,,, where will u get the 5 Mil from and give to her
U ain't even sure if u will have a Job after Graduating, u are talking of 5 Mil, and Even Marriage

May Allah pls, come to ur Aid and give u Abundant Senses.... Amen!!!

mistacoco:

Btw she nver said she wont contribute, she said she will only contribute when am down financially.

Down how? She will only support you wen you are down on hospital bed about to die biko!

tunjilana:
If u mistakingly marry this woman u r doomed...For men who are already married to women who think like this, take ur mind off her money and take ur mind off investing in her as well. Treat her like one of the kids and use money u wud have invested in her in investing in other means of income. That way u will b able to meet obligations and still give her the monies for pant and pad that she came to this life to collect

exactly. Give her money for clothes whenever you want to buy for the kids.. the mindset of some women tire me.

Better, find your way now. She is not a good person.

VampireeM:
Sissy men everywhere on the internet seeking validation instead of making decisions like a man. What's our business with her response abi you want us to bash her? If you can't deal with her response and attitude, you know what to do

In my own opinion, i think you females of nowadays are finished, the lyrics of runtown, davido, wizkid and the likes have destroyed the brain of most of y'all ..sptueh!

tonididdy:
What are ladies even hoping to make all that money for sef?

@misticoco ask her what she intends to do with all the money she would be making ?

She said it’s none of his business can u imagine.

It's obvious that she's not your helpmate what gives u the assurance she will help even when u are down financially u better open your eyes and are u sure someone like that will be patient enough with you when u are down and not leave for someone else paying her bills

It's very simple: tell her the reason why you're setting her up is so she can assist in the family upkeep. If she's still adamant, then don't invest.
Meanwhile, during your relationship with her, how generous is she in terms of giving? If she's the type that gives also, then I guess she wouldn't mind assisting but unfortunately, most of our girls believe guys/husbands should be the "only" one giving when it comes to relationship. Any such girl with such mentality will hardly change even after marriage.
TAKE HEED bro!!!

MarieSucre:


She is right. He is the head of the family, she is just a helpmeet. What is the point of the being the head and calling the shots if you will not take care of her needs. Please stop promoting feminism here. Men and women have their sweater roles to play which will never be equal. Now you're asking her to buy clothes for herself, next thing you ask her to tell him to come and be cooking food in the kitchen. A man is the head. Head no be by beans. A worse is enough for the wise.

You females and the way you think. So if you see a fine dress you like when you’re out by yourself, will you call your husband to send Money to you ASAP abi wetin ?

mistacoco:
Dear Narialanders.

I and my girlfriend had a hitup conversation this afternoon that we even quarrel after then.

This is the issue, she read medlab in school and she is planning to go for her internship by Gods grace soon. I told her that after our wedding I will be giving her five million to setup a LAB and after 8 months she can start contribute for the upkeep of the family and...

Right now I'm more concerned about the viability of the business that will be run by a person with only internship experience.

Pally, that business is already doomed to fail and there is definitely no way it will start breaking even in just 8 months.

She definitely needs to get more experience otherwise you can kiss that N 5 million good bye!