Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / NewStats: 3,166,683 members, 7,865,736 topics. Date: Thursday, 20 June 2024 at 02:46 AM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Romance / The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues (24107 Views)
A Girl I Trained Is Getting Married / ‘I Trained Her In The University, Built House For Her’, Man Rejected By Fiancée / She Left Me For A Medical Doctor And Now Wants A Second Chance (2) (3) (4)
(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (Reply) (Go Down)
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by crafteck(m): 8:16pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
LewsTherin: U r one in a hundred bro |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by theoldpretender(m): 8:17pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
Amarabae: Thanks to the OP for this thought provoking topic. I had to ruminate for one hour before I could sit down and type a response. Well, growing up, I knew two copules, friends of my parents, where the husband trained the wife. HOWEVER...unlike the example you gave, both husbands married the wife before they commenced the training. (Both ladies are doing very well by the way...one is even a grandmother.). I think the problem is...when the man trains the woman before marrying her...IT IS A BUSINESS ARRANGEMENT. Love does not come into it..the girl is still free, as is the guy, and there is always that 'you owe me for all the money i spent for you'. in the relationship. See, once you bring money into a romatic relaitonship...problems always start. OK...man marries woman, then trains her...difference is, they are a married copule, they are making plans together, communicatiing together...it feels like a joint effort in love...with the idea of benefiting the family. Not like the one where guy trains girl before marriage...each side is benefiting themselves. Complicated matter. 2 Likes |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by Just2endowed2(m): 8:17pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
Seenyo: I think I have read this story before |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by Nobody: 8:20pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
funmisticqueen:Don't mind that one. |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by Nobody: 8:20pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
LewsTherin:you have a good experience. Some have bad experiences too. You have a good woman from a good family too. A family who appreciates and understand the value of good deeds. 3 Likes |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by Nobody: 8:20pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
It's a 50-50 chance. Never put all one's eggs in one basket, anything may happen. Better be careful no matter the level of affection. 1 Like |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by Nobody: 8:22pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
MissRaine69:are you saying until you are married to someone, you can't have a future wit them? |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by Nobody: 8:26pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
Just2endowed2:yes, you must have....this is the 2nd time I'm posting this on NL & it's no fiction. The husband and wife are my pals. |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by MissRaine69(f): 8:28pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
majekdom2:I am saying be realistic and stop holding people to ransom. Help because you want to help not because you expect some emotional payment in return. I don’t think it’s that hard to understand. 3 Likes |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by sisisioge: 8:55pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
All these boys talking sef na their kind dey fall mumugu pass. I think it isn't a good investment decision to sponsor a lady to the university with the hope of marrying her. Better marry her before your investment becomes major. By the time she's done with schooling, she should have given birth to all the children you want . As for me, I'm too much of a fair dealer to take when I know I won't be giving back...I'm not a toddler . |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by Nobody: 8:59pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
MissRaine69:I understand your point clearly. However, most times in emotional relationships, we help because of what the other party is to us and who they are. In most cases, we expect not to be disappointed as there are expectations. Commitment is a combination of energy, time and money. This is the reality. |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by Nobody: 9:05pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
Seenyo:na wao which young graduate go dey marry a mother with four kids.except maybe she anbandoned her kids sha. 1 Like |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by MissRaine69(f): 9:06pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
majekdom2:That’s not the reality that’s someone trying to construct someone’s destiny by instilling obligation. By making someone Feel obligated to be with you, it’s clear that the help was self serving. |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by Blacknight28: 9:13pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
I can train any lady in school whether I want to marry her or not, but if at d long run she decides to quit the relationship, good for her coz she saved me a lifetime of misery. I go even do thanksgiving join. 1 Like |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by Nobody: 9:26pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
lefulefu:1.The new man isn't that young! 2.the lady doesn't look after 2, talk less of after 4! 3.beauty /preference they say is in the eyes of the beholder! 4.of course she abandoned her kids then but they are grown now. in fact 2 are even now parents #FACTS! |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by 400billionman: 9:36pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
I will first build house for my mother before paying school fees for a lady 1 Like |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by Newboss(m): 9:51pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
donstan18:And what stops her from divorcing you after her NYSC ? Girlfriend or wife, all na the same! 2 Likes |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by BIXYBABE: 10:05pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
ok |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by BIXYBABE: 10:07pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
Newboss:They said she must get belle or av a child for him before training her. |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by BIXYBABE: 10:18pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
both of d trainer and d trainee should go to shrine to take oath.......u leave me, u die.......vice-versa |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by Newboss(m): 10:21pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
BIXYBABE:What a shame! This is a product of slavery inspired traditions. Would rather spend a night with someone who really wants me as much as she wants to breathe, than 30 years with someone who I want but who doesn't want me. Wetin concern me sef since marriage is basically a business transaction to most folks! |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by FaceThem: 10:23pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
Amarabae:Nigeria Ladies Are Confuse |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by FaceThem: 10:26pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
donstan18:Do You Know FACE-THEM |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by FaceThem: 10:38pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
happney65:You Deserve Mtn Recharge Card, how can i forward it to u 1 Like |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by princesweetman2(m): 10:39pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
Amarabae must have given her benefactor this treatment hence why she shares d blame. Its a shame dat some men wud negotiate training u wt d hope of marrying u. 1 Like |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by FaceThem: 10:41pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
kimbraa:See Your Mouth Like A.P.C |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by FaceThem: 10:47pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
funmisticqueen:NIGERIAN LADIES DON'T THINK, THAT'S WHY I CAN'T MERCY FOR ANY GIRL |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by Nobody: 10:48pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
1realBobby:Learnt something from your story. |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by truffle: 10:55pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
ImaIma1:this place is a faceless forum that's why people come here to cry and weep fowl |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by FaceThem: 10:56pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
I Will Be The LAST FOOL TO INVEST MONEY ON ANY NIGERIAN LADY, if i must invest my money on the girl, she must take an oath with me, if she goes against the oath, She Will Remain Mad, till she die. THAT'S FACE-THEM FOR YOU, i'm here to face those ladies..GOSH 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by Stellamariss(f): 11:03pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
donstan18: |
Re: The "I Trained Her In School Yet She Left Me" Issues by Stellamariss(f): 11:05pm On Aug 03, 2018 |
donstan18:pls stop ur writeup is annoying |
(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (Reply)
Tips On How Best A Single Lady Should Socialize In Her 30s / Skinny Guy's Romance Guide Book. / “some Nigerian Ladies Have Killed Romance” - Relationship Expert Joro Olumofin
Viewing this topic: 1 guest(s)
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 65 |