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How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by edoman2016: 8:59am On Aug 10, 2018
Hello nairalander,
I need advice on how to tell a friend to stop coming with his girlfriend to my apartment to have sex. This friend of mine, we went to the same university and know each other from there. He is based in Akwa Ibom and into palm oil business. When he comes to Lagos for supply to stores, he resides at his parents' house which is very close to where my apartment is.

However, when he wants to have sex with a girl in Lagos, he brings her to my apartment because he knows I am not yet married. Rather than sleeping with the girl in his parents house. I am tired of it and I don't like it but I don't know how to tell him so that it won't end our friendship. He is quite an intelligent and ambitious man.

What do you think I should do about it?

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by Olalan(m): 9:06am On Aug 10, 2018
Simply make your house not available in a diplomatic way......you can tell him you have relatives around.

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by madridguy(m): 9:10am On Aug 10, 2018
You will know how to tell him soon in a bitter way.

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by SAMBARRY: 9:18am On Aug 10, 2018
grin grin grin

Tell him upfront grin

That Instead of having sex in his parents house cracked me up grin grin

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by internationalman(m): 9:19am On Aug 10, 2018
1 it's either you are not guy enough or

2 you re jealous.

If it's number 1 you have to learn the guy code

If it's number 2 tell the guy to tell his girl to come along with her friend next time she's coming.

What you do with her friend is up to you

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by delugajackson: 9:31am On Aug 10, 2018
It's either you get married or you tell him straight to his face that you're no longer comfortable.

Is he the type that leaves your bed scaterred and your pillows on the floor? Is he the type that litters your room with used tissue and packets of condom? Does he soak you bedsheet with loads of semen? Does he mess up your kitchen with unwashed plates of indomie?

If he's such a person, then just tell him look, man. I don't want you bringing girls to my house for sex anymore. This isn't a brothel or a slaughter slab. This is my zone, my fortress of solitude. I respect our relationship and the fact that we're very good friends, but I think it's time we started acting like reasonable people. My privacy means a lot to me and I expect you to understand that and respect me as well.

But if he isn't the type, then perhaps you should try something else, like dilplomacy for a change. I'm sure you know how to go about this. The truth is, what you allow is what will continue.

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by oge4real(f): 9:58am On Aug 10, 2018
Guy, I don’t like it when you bring girls to my house for sex, please stop.

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by lilmax(m): 10:11am On Aug 10, 2018
broke ass can't afford hotel?

at least if you wan dey knack girls you suppose get money

anyways this Guy's reflection is you, change your standard

I don't hang with irresponsible people so I've not experienced this before

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by edoman2016: 10:43am On Aug 10, 2018
oge4real:
Guy, I don’t like it when you bring girls to my house for sex, please stop.
I hope you know some friends can be unreasonable when you expect them to understand you.

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by edoman2016: 10:45am On Aug 10, 2018
delugajackson:
It's either you get married or you tell him straight to his face that you're no longer comfortable.

Is he the type that leaves your bed scaterred and your pillows on the floor? Is he the type that litters your room with used tissue and packets of condom? Does he soak you bedsheet with loads of semen? Does he mess up your kitchen with unwashed plates of indomie?

If he's such a person, then just tell him look, man. I don't want you bringing girls to my house for sex anymore. This isn't a brothel or a slaughter slab. This is my zone, my fortress of solitude. I respect our relationship and the fact that we're very good friends, but I think it's time we started acting like reasonable people. My privacy means a lot to me and I expect you to understand that and respect me as well.

But if he isn't the type, then perhaps you should try something else, like dilplomacy for a change. I'm sure you know how to go about this. The truth is, what you allow is what will continue.
Sometimes, I do wonder what is the benefit for having friends. Because keeping friends they constitute nuisance to one's life.

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by oge4real(f): 10:55am On Aug 10, 2018
edoman2016:

I hope you know some friends can be unreasonable when you expect them to understand you.

Do what what you can my friend and leave the rest for the gods biko.

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by edoman2016: 11:06am On Aug 10, 2018
Olalan:
Simply make your house not available in a diplomatic way......you can tell him you have relatives around.
He doesn't tell me directly that he wants to have sex with his female friend in my apartment. He will just tell me they want to cuddle only. What he does is that he will flush the used condoms in the toilet and keep the condom pack into his pocket when leaving so that I won't notice.

Yesterday, he flush the used condoms after he was done with the girl but forgot to keep the condom pack hidden under my sofa. When I was mopping this morning, I saw it and opened it. I saw two condoms used up but remaining one n the condom pack. When I called him this morning about the condom pack, he denied it. But I know it's from him because he took it from my bedroom. And it's the only condom remaining in my bedroom.

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by royalguy123(m): 11:18am On Aug 10, 2018
Op,the guy is not your friend!!! 1,You can sacrifice for whosoever you called a friend vise visa. 2,You will always make a friend happy. 3,You will have a price to pay to keep/make a friend. if you can't do these things for anyone that person is not your FRIEND!

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by azelab: 9:22pm On Aug 10, 2018
anytime he is available in Lagos for that type of thing , just inform your lady or relative to come around and stay in your apartment. I am very sure he can not pursue any of them away .

or just tell him straight that you don't like such a thing. chikena

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by bennymark(m): 9:38pm On Aug 10, 2018
Are you a learner? Una gather money pay rent?

Stop being a b*tch and tell the mother f*cka your house is not a hotel.

Any person who is afraid to say what makes him uncomfortable is not a real man.

This life is selfish, learn to consider yourself first

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by Nobody: 9:58pm On Aug 10, 2018
Islike You are an introvert
But on a normal him suppose allow You knack that babe, bcus she no go pass him' slut

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by elmagnifico411(m): 11:25pm On Aug 10, 2018
Op, this is a simple matter nah.. when next he brings a girl over, all u gotta do is wait until dey about to start shagging, but u must be very sure they're about to.. then barge in with your preek in your hand, stroking it like you're ready for action. U can as well add this, "bro, I dey for set oh". Trust me, that'll be the last time you'll see him bring a girl over.

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by Nobody: 11:27pm On Aug 10, 2018
internationalman:
1 it's either you are not guy enough or

2 you re jealous.

If it's number 1 you have to learn the guy code

If it's number 2 tell the guy to tell his girl to come along with her friend next time she's coming.

What you do with her friend rest is up to you
This guy is right, listen to him.

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by Nobody: 11:36pm On Aug 10, 2018
I don't even see how this is a problem, my friend also brings girls to my place and I don't mind, I just let them use the spare bedroom.
You this op you are a difficult person even me that I am an introvert I don't mind.

I think your problem is that you are feeling left out that you friend is getting some sweet Ass while you are there with your dick in your hand not getting any. So why not get a girl for yourself too and bring her over. That way, you will no longer feel left out.

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by Diamond23(f): 11:50pm On Aug 10, 2018
Y not be open nd tell him u don’t like it instead of dying in silence....xo after dey both cum on d bedding u pick it up nd wash....#Yack# cnt even imagine dat.

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by IMASTEX: 6:53am On Aug 11, 2018
delugajackson:
It's either you get married or you tell him straight to his face that you're no longer comfortable.

Is he the type that leaves your bed scaterred and your pillows on the floor? Is he the type that litters your room with used tissue and packets of condom? Does he soak you bedsheet with loads of semen? Does he mess up your kitchen with unwashed plates of indomie?

If he's such a person, then just tell him look, man. I don't want you bringing girls to my house for sex anymore. This isn't a brothel or a slaughter slab. This is my zone, my fortress of solitude. I respect our relationship and the fact that we're very good friends, but I think it's time we started acting like reasonable people. My privacy means a lot to me and I expect you to understand that and respect me as well.

But if he isn't the type, then perhaps you should try something else, like dilplomacy for a change. I'm sure you know how to go about this. The truth is, what you allow is what will continue.
Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by Nobody: 12:39pm On Aug 11, 2018
He's turned your apartment into a brothel. Very soon he'll try to turn you into a love-vendor.

Question is, are you going to wait until it gets out of hand?

Tell him off. No true friend will impose on the other unnecessarily. Whenever he is in Lagos tell him you are in Ibadan on a business but don't say I taught you to lie o.

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by Richy4(m): 1:52pm On Aug 11, 2018
Just package the bed sheets and tell him to take it and wash it at a dry cleaner near by while he was going...Say it without emotions....

He won't show up at your door step again. Even if he wants to come, that girl won't allow it out of shame

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by jashar(f): 6:49pm On Aug 11, 2018
Open ya mouth and tell him.

Next time, don't invite them in OR leave your house keys for them to fornicate. grin

Turn your house to a place of prayer. smiley

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by themayor4542(m): 6:55pm On Aug 11, 2018
Watch out for bed bugs.

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by oluplus(m): 7:05pm On Aug 11, 2018
oge4real:
Guy, I don’t like it when you bring girls to my house for sex, please stop.
Op, here is your simple answer. Do you need any explanation?

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by babeosisi: 7:37am On Aug 12, 2018
And you sleep on the same bed sheet or you wash it afterwards
That would be my main concen
Strange juices all over the house
Tufia.
It's amazing how cheap some girls are
You are not even worth getting a hotel room for
Or does he pass off your place as his residence?

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by YesNo(m): 8:32am On Aug 12, 2018
Tell the guy that you always have terrible nightmares whenever he furks on ur bed.

or tell him to give you 7k for dry cleaning of bedsheets and cleaning of the house if he knows he wants to have sex there. abi na you go dey wash bedsheets for am? what's that?

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by YourCoffin: 9:31am On Aug 12, 2018
Just find devil beans and spray it on your bed and sofa. Only that you too go suffer am but it's a small price to pay

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by Ishilove: 4:21pm On Aug 12, 2018
YourCoffin:
Just find devil beans and spray it on your bed and sofa. Only that you too go suffer am but it's a small price to pay
What's devil beans?

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Re: How Do I Tell A Friend To Stop Bringing Girls To Have Sex In My Apartment? by Nobody: 4:52pm On Aug 12, 2018
I don't have the answer.

Because if as you said the guy is an ambitious guy going places, maybe you should look the other way. You may one day need the guys help for something on a higher level than knacking.

Lots of stuff happens when guys are broke bachelors.

I was at a reunion of sorts the other day and see as everyone done fat and big up. And these were guys who had probably done stuff like this.

However, you need to lay some ground rules - let him come with his own bedsheets, let him clean up afterwards.

Also no dodgy stuff before you get snagged in a rape case.

If you are really uncomfortable with it, you can consider pretending something was stolen from your place. That may force him to stop.

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