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Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Nobody: 10:07am On Sep 16, 2018 |
lately, especially this week, i have had gotten complaints from a few of my female friends who are dealing with unfaithful spouses. I am sick and tired hence let me shake this table. I am not going to tell you that it is your fault your husband cheated, i here to tell you what to do when you have evidence that he does. You have two options, cry it out like a weakling or be angry, then calm down and do something about it which is either to bury your head like an ostrich and deceive yourself in prayer that God will fight for you when jesus comes or fight for your marriage like a badass. My advice is never for the faint of heart, read at your risk!! The main reason a man cheats on a woman is because he doesn't respect her anymore, forget the bullshit propaganda going on that they can still love you and cheat or men are polygamous. See babes, you have to give a man a reason to respect you, even if you are a housewife, be the type of woman that before a man cheats he has to pray hard that you never find out or he is a dead man. So act unpredictable once in a while, stop being so emotional, that is what men count on. Another reason women don't deal with their cheating lovers is because they think they have everything to lose. Do away with that mentality, it is what kept women of old in a bondage of a relationship/marriage and makes them bitter, spiteful mother -in- laws. The first step to getting what you want is to be shameless about it. Shameless people who have nothing to lose are the ones who succeed. How do you think the side chick got your lover, by being holier than thou? Don't let people especially the relations guilt trip you with the children, your womb, your biological clock or whatever. It is either you get him or no one does. If you catch them in your bed don't react, as hard as it is , this is the best course of action . Act like you never saw them. This is simple reverse psychology. Fear will make him beg you. If he doesn't repent, keep reading. If you gather evidence such as texts, calls, chats or email, save the number, we will use it later. First we will focus on the man. We are not going to fight or argue with him, our next course of action will make him wish we did. Marriage is like a garden, there will be weeds if the gardener is asleep. The best way to weed without hurting the plants is to scatter their relationship. We have to ask ourselves, what does both your cheating lover or the side chick want so as to guide us further, is she a gold digger, remove money from their equation. Does he want to feel like he can perform, especially if he is the the community public toilet . Find ways to show him you are not cool with it. Is she pregnant for him, be creative. All in all, make sure that your lover feels like he has nothing left outside the marriage so that he can come crawling back to you. You have just dealt with a small situation without losing your self respect or going to the sidechick's house to confront her like a pepper seller, ball is now in your court. You are welcome. I could give you more ideas but i trust that a woman scorned is a creative woman. WARNING: Always cover your tracks ladies, fight for your marriage with class. I await testimonies, i will not use a vacuum cleaner to clean the pieces he left your heart in. May the odds ever be in your favor 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Olanireti(m): 10:08am On Sep 16, 2018 |
Waooo. First, let me state this that I don't support cheating spouse, but dealing with cheating spouse your highlighted ways are just outrageous. I see you you as a wicked woman and I so much pity the man that would marry you. You don't correct wrong with wrong. So you really want to make your husband impotent just because he cheats on you? So what happens to you, the wife after then, you will start cheating outside or you wouldn't need sex again? Also you ready to abort the pregnancy if the side chick gets pregnant for him without the knowledge of the lady, common. Now that you have advised what house wives should do if their spouse cheats, so how should men treat their wives then if she cheats?? 13 Likes |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by mrphysics(m): 10:09am On Sep 16, 2018 |
Honestly, I read through the entire post but couldn't grab the solution to a cheating husband. 18 Likes |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Nobody: 10:10am On Sep 16, 2018 |
Olanireti:did i lie |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by CoolFreeday(m): 10:16am On Sep 16, 2018 |
I disagree with the part that you said men that cheat don't respect their wives anymore. I totally disagree with that ma. 6 Likes |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Nobody: 10:16am On Sep 16, 2018 |
mrphysics:simple, deal with him |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by pansophist(m): 10:16am On Sep 16, 2018 |
Your method is one of the exact reasons why i am dead scared to date Nigerian ladies. Why do you have to make him poor, or make him have erectile dysfunction? Even to the extent of going diabolical? How about respecting yourself and leave? Your solution is not immune to the backfire effect. You might be the one destroyed at the end. Not all men you can manipulate. Of what use does it serves you that someone is in agony? And remember the old saying, if you choose to revenge, remember to dig out two graves. 23 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Nobody: 10:18am On Sep 16, 2018 |
Will be back to read thoroughly Lol, funny post. I won't become a murderer, fraudster,a devil because of a Man.Nah . I value My sanity more than a union that ends the moment I breathe my last. I think the first step should be knowing if the Man/marriage is worth fighting for. Yes sometimes we give up too soon and sometimes too late, When you know what is worth fighting for, who you fight and how to fight then you have won the battle. First evaluate your marriage. Why did he cheat? Have you been careless, How long has he been cheating? And of course his position. Is he repentant or carefree? . With this you know what went wrong and how to handle it. Either you walk out or stay to Fight. Talk to him, what does he want? Here you know if it was a mistake or he probably just doesn't respect you. Then you get to know if he doesn't want you anymore but reluctant to say it for reasons best known to him. You know if your marriage is over or not. Make your decision. You either forgive and remain married or divorce. It is your choice,whichever you can live with. Live is too short to be angry over things like this. Moreover only a woman with no value,identity, source of income, esteem, dignity and integrity will go about things the way you suggest. A dependent woman is a walking dead being. 9 Likes |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Nobody: 10:18am On Sep 16, 2018 |
pansophist:leave! No way! we have to fight for this love. karma only affects those who project guilt to the universe. the lady is simply fighting for her marriage elegantly. She is justified so you don't have to worry, besides didn't the man think of a backfire event when he was cheating and hurting his spouse 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Nobody: 10:19am On Sep 16, 2018 |
mrphysics:Me too 5 Likes |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Nobody: 10:21am On Sep 16, 2018 |
MariaLavina:do not react the way a regular woman will react simple. this is not just revenge, but fighting for what is yours. the moment u let emotions cloud your judgment, you lose |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Olanireti(m): 10:22am On Sep 16, 2018 |
mrphysics: She hasn't provided any solution, she only split out trash she's made up of. I pity the man that would fall victim of marrying her 8 Likes |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Olanireti(m): 10:24am On Sep 16, 2018 |
pansophist: God bless you. She obviously has nothing upstair to provide solutions with 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Olanireti(m): 10:25am On Sep 16, 2018 |
funmisticqueen: Fight for love by making him impotent, committing murder by the abortion, by going diabolical, common, where is your sense?? 8 Likes |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Nobody: 10:25am On Sep 16, 2018 |
Olanireti:unlike other women i am very upfront, i will tell u before marriage that if you treat me with anything less than the respect i deserve and give to you, then i am justifued in teaching you a lesson that will set things right. The same goes the other way. I always have to be objective. |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Nobody: 10:27am On Sep 16, 2018 |
Olanireti:in my head. the point of all these tactics is to make a man lose his self respect and you swooping in to save the day. Only the truly intelligent would read between the lines |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by mrphysics(m): 10:28am On Sep 16, 2018 |
funmisticqueen:I am very sure you are not married and you are not in any relationship. Because if you were in any, you'd be well informed and wouldn't have come up with that. I don't know why singles have the solution to marital problems. Every single girl claims to be a marriage counselor and consultant. Life is much more complicated than you think it is. 9 Likes |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Nobody: 10:29am On Sep 16, 2018 |
funmisticqueen:Okay, I agree with that. Controlling emotions. But fighting for what is mine? seriously? Why should I fight for a Man who has chosen not to be mine? That's mission impossible 6 Likes |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by apatheticme(f): 10:29am On Sep 16, 2018 |
funmisticqueen: . 1 Like |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Nobody: 10:29am On Sep 16, 2018 |
mrphysics:i am in a relationship, and my boyfriend knows the kind of person i am, nice but strict, i simply gave him a warning which keeps him on his toes. i can now have peace of mind cos though I hardly give threats,but when i do i carry them out. he was warned afterall |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Nobody: 10:32am On Sep 16, 2018 |
Olanireti:The way you are going about this thread, one would think you are a cheating husband. Calm down sir, we are all here to learn |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by AmazonTopaz(f): 10:34am On Sep 16, 2018 |
I do not get this. All I can say is that no faithful partner deserves a cheating partner and women should not kill themselves because a man cheated on them they have an option to forgive and stay or leave the marriage. If a man cheats on me I cannot kill myself so I would divorce if it is a marriage or end it if it is a relationship. As far as I am concerned a man who cheats does not love or respect his partner and obviously lacks self control or discipline and my self esteem is too high to cope with such nonsense. 1 Like |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Nobody: 10:35am On Sep 16, 2018 |
apatheticme:these solutions you have mentioned only work in africa magic movies not in real life cos the woman is still at the losing end and man still thinks he can cheat again since all he has to do is beg with family member, confronting the side chick is dumb and brings you to their level. besides in this society , a man is justified for cheating. If you still want to bury your head, you could always ask for an open marriage. half bread is better than puff puff. |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Nobody: 10:37am On Sep 16, 2018 |
AmazonTopaz:really, how many marriages and relationships has this approach worked for. if you choose to say with him, the man automatically lose respect completely for you cos it shows that you can take any kind of insult in the name of marriage |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by AmazonTopaz(f): 10:42am On Sep 16, 2018 |
funmisticqueen: You are misunderstanding me. People who get cheated on have an option to stay or leave and when I used myself in my earlier post I said I cannot stand a cheating partner that is why I would leave(divorce or breakup) and my trust for such a partner would be shattered and can never be restored because I don't easily forget so I would not deceive myself to make such a relationship work because it would never work.Read my post again you clearly misunderstood me. My self esteem cannot be insulted because of marriage. |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Nobody: 10:48am On Sep 16, 2018 |
MariaLavina:there is a reason why u entered the marriage in the first place and it is not so that you can easily run out, once the going gets tough, the tough gets going |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Nobody: 10:50am On Sep 16, 2018 |
AmazonTopaz:ur self esteem is already insulted once a man cheats trust me |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Nobody: 10:52am On Sep 16, 2018 |
What's this one typing? Are you on a codeine diet? Worst thing still, is that, it'll make front page 1 Like |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Nobody: 10:52am On Sep 16, 2018 |
Olanireti:abortion is not murder, i will say it again and again. |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by Olanireti(m): 10:53am On Sep 16, 2018 |
MariaLavina: Lmao |
Re: Ladies!! Keeping Sanity In Your Marriage/relationship In The Face Of Infidelity by apatheticme(f): 10:53am On Sep 16, 2018 |
funmisticqueen: . 3 Likes |
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