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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by generationz(f): 2:41pm On Sep 23, 2018
Suzzyyy:

You are too rude, this is 700k we are talking about, my life savings not that I don't wnt to help, I love him so much tht I cnt see him sad, I just want advice to know if Im doing the right thing, dassall.

don't mind that guy he is a misogynist

I want to also believe your guy is seriously indephted and all

but plot twist

him avoiding you and everything was a means to an end. He might have another plan with your money that you don't knownoff
I've heard stories of men who borrowed money from their girlfriends to marry their wives . yep it happens

you can help him but while helping him protect yourself too


whatever amount you choose to borrow him, make sure a legal agreement has been drawn up by your lawyer and signed by all the parties involved . There should be a witness.
your boyfriend will also state how he intends to pay back the money either installmentally or at once. if you want 1naira profit make or non at all make sure it is stated.

in the agreement , it must be clearly stated when the time for payment will elapse and what measures will be taken.
He must be present with his lawyer and one or two guarantors to sign this .( the guarantors must be verified by your lawyer)

take it more like a business deal than a thing done out of love.

protect yourself

if men can make women sign prenuptial agreement before marriage you have every right to do this

if he becomes angry at the suggestion ,then don't do it. its either he has a sinister plan or he doesn't really need the money or take you seriously. because there is no place he will go to for that kind of f cash that they won't tell him to do this.

Don't make anybody make you feel guilty because if you weren't there he will still find a way to bounce back

go straight to your lawyer now and ask for detailed advice on this thing you are about to do.



even if he doesn't have a bad plan and really needs the money for business , knowing he has limited time to pay and trouble awaits him if he doesn't keep to plan will make him sit up and do all he can to pay back

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by teresafaith: 2:49pm On Sep 23, 2018
Don't let any man to deceive you, even if you are going to borrow him any money, make sure it's through mobile transfer, so as to save it for future purpose in case he wants to start behaving anyhow.

Don't ever give him cash, even the title/subject of the transfer should be "debt"
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 2:54pm On Sep 23, 2018
Like someone said, it is wicked of him to ask you for 700k out of 809k. He does not have to restart his business with 700k and he can also look for other means of getting the money. Another valid point raised earlier, what went wrong with his business? Are you sure the new business won't fail?

I will advise you to lend him 200k, that money is not chicken feed, he should source for the rest on his own.

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Pearl05(f): 2:57pm On Sep 23, 2018
He want to rob Peter and pay Paul.

Out of 820k, he is asking for 700k. Nne it's too much. If you can part with 200k without asking for it back do so. What happens to your business and personal life if there is emergency after handing him the money?

Be rational and logical in this matter and not emotional.


Like someone said, use your head and not your heart.

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Fourwinds: 3:05pm On Sep 23, 2018
donstan18:
When it comes to their turn to help a man financially, they'll remember [What if, What about, Sacrifice, Risky, Should I, Shall I, Shall we, Shall should, Shall us, Shall him, Shall she, Shall shim]

He helped your business stood its ground without asking if the risk was worth doing for a girlfriend, and here you are, calculating and warring the gravity of his sacrifice and the one he's asking of you. Sacrifice is sacrifice. Do it if you want, and if you don't, then get the hell out his life.

Sex must not be the only thing you offer a man without seeking advice.
nonsense!!!

She has the right to think of the risk....


If she wants to help k will advice she shouldn't go beyond #300000 period...

Husbands misbehave when they are in deep shoot like this and woman offers help how much more boyfriend..

Use your brain

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Fourwinds: 3:06pm On Sep 23, 2018
donstan18:
When it comes to their turn to help a man financially, they'll remember [What if, What about, Sacrifice, Risky, Should I, Shall I, Shall we, Shall should, Shall us, Shall him, Shall she, Shall shim]

He helped your business stood its ground without asking if the risk was worth doing for a girlfriend, and here you are, calculating and warring the gravity of his sacrifice and the one he's asking of you. Sacrifice is sacrifice. Do it if you want, and if you don't, then get the hell out his life.

Sex must not be the only thing you offer a man without seeking advice.
nonsense!!!

She has the right to think of the risk....


If she wants to help i will advice she shouldn't go beyond #300000 period...

Husbands misbehave when they are in deep shiit like this and when women offer help, they turn the gesture into demonic entertainment how much more boyfriend..

Use your brain

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Originalsly: 3:06pm On Sep 23, 2018
You love the guy.....does the guy love you the same in return? He lending you money to start your business....was that out of love and care?...or was that to help buy your love? Would someone who loves and cares for you just pretty much put you aside when he has problems? ...why wouldn't he completely disappear from you and start afresh in another State?...or look for greener pastures.... abroad? If he borrows the money...to repay his debts. ...and start afresh....how will he get money to repay you? If his business failed...why wouldn't it fail again?.....like some advised...lend what you can afford to lose....more likely in this case you are not going to be repayed...in this lifetime. Don't let your emotions make your decide for you.

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by 1x2x3: 3:08pm On Sep 23, 2018
I like oyibo sha..... They will just sign agreement with their partner then lend you.

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by ednut1(m): 3:14pm On Sep 23, 2018
I read this story on nl two years ago
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by ManuelNate1: 3:19pm On Sep 23, 2018
Saff:
Please do NOT borrow him anything. PLEASEEE!!!

Or give him something that you’re ready to lose, pleaseee. But preferably nothing. Goodluck
Preferably nothing yhu say?? Gosh, yhu such a terrible soul. Just imaginin how dark ur hrt must be.
@Op, Loyalty is tested in times of trials and tribulations. During ur own difficult time... ur man didn't fail yhu. Now its his own time, yhu dun ave ani rison under d sun to fail him.
250-300k is enof for yhu to support him with so he can gain his footing again.
when his biz is up again, he can den settle his debts. It shudnt be frm d money yhull lend him dah he'll use in settling debts.
***
Humanity is all about live and let's live... Never fail to extend a helpin hand when its in ur capacity.

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by akunna(f): 3:23pm On Sep 23, 2018
Suzzyyy:


Hez hardly make promises he can't fulfill because he likes keeping his words and he has never for one day ask for money from me if not this one

Have u made proper investigations about what the problems with his business? Are u sure that their is sincerity in all he told u? Am not trying to discourage u but I advice u find out how true is what he told u about his business. Then it's true I advice u sit him down and let him understand that u may not be able to borrow him the amount he asked of as a result of some locum in ur business which is very important for u to fill (that is if u are willing to) So u can just borrow him any amount u can let go if in case he doesn't return it (make use of ur brain, he is only a boyfriend and not yet legally ur husband and so anything can happen and don't forget "This is Nigeria where sons and daughters scam parents who cater for them".

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by highqueen(f): 3:33pm On Sep 23, 2018
Colourich:
Happy Sunday dear, I'm fine, how you take come online now?
Lappy.
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Fourwinds: 3:43pm On Sep 23, 2018
nero2face:
If really u have such amount and u truly love him, sure u can borrow him,
I disagree





She has the right to think of the risk....


If she wants to help i will advice she shouldn't go beyond #300000 period...

Husbands misbehave when they are in deep shiit like this and when women offer help, they turn the gesture into demonic entertainment how much more boyfriend..
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by jesmond3945: 3:55pm On Sep 23, 2018
Don't give him 700k, I repeat never give him 700k. You can give him between 100k and 150k if you know it would not bother you in the future. Give him 700k and regret for life.

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Jennifer89(f): 4:05pm On Sep 23, 2018
CAPSLOCKED:





LOL. WE'RE VERY MUCH AWARE THAT MOST WOMEN (NOT ALL) WOULD RATHER COMMIT SUICIDE INSTEAD OF HELP OUT A MAN.
THEY CAN'T HELP THEIR MALE FRIENDS, NOR THEIR BOYFRIENDS, NOR THEIR HUSBANDS.. NOT EVEN THEIR OWN BLOOD BROTHERS.

THEY ONLY WANT TO RECEIVE, AND NEVER TO GIVE.

"SELFISHNESS AND WICKEDNESS" IS THE SYNONYM FOR WOMEN LIKE YOU.


I REPET DON'T GIVE HIM THE MONEY IF YOU LIKE NO HEAR
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by zainmaxwell(m): 4:06pm On Sep 23, 2018
Colourich:
700k is too much to lend a man. Give him back the 100k, tell him that's what you have.
madam you are wicked.. Your type are ungrateful



Simple

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Saff(f): 4:11pm On Sep 23, 2018
CAPSLOCKED:





LOL. WE'RE VERY MUCH AWARE THAT MOST WOMEN (NOT ALL) WOULD RATHER COMMIT SUICIDE INSTEAD OF HELP OUT A MAN.
THEY CAN'T HELP THEIR MALE FRIENDS, NOR THEIR BOYFRIENDS, NOR THEIR HUSBANDS.. NOT EVEN THEIR OWN BLOOD BROTHERS.

THEY ONLY WANT TO RECEIVE, AND NEVER TO GIVE.

"SELFISHNESS AND WICKEDNESS" IS THE SYNONYM FOR WOMEN LIKE YOU.
Fortunately, they’re some women who use their brain and not their hearts like dummies. We don’t allow love to delude us from common sense, and we are put into the category of “ wickedness”. Well, it’s not a woman’s job to give her man money, esp a huge amount like 700k, am I mad? Not even my husband, ordinary boyfriend. I won’t even give my husband 700k I’m so sorry. If you’re confident enough to ask your babe for such a huge amount of money, it’s clear you don’t value her. Don’t ask me how, it’s psychological.

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Fourwinds: 4:13pm On Sep 23, 2018
ojoj:
My sister, life is a risk. Take the risk, if successful thank God, if unsuccessful thank God. But it's worth it. But I will advice you to take the risk. Borrow him the money. All the best!
the risk does not what it....

He is just a boyfriend not husband yet husband do shi!t when they are helped

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 4:13pm On Sep 23, 2018
zainmaxwell:
madam you are wicked.. Your type are ungrateful



Simple
I'm not wicked, I'm just smart, smart enough to know you shouldn't give a man all your life savings, what if he use it to marry another woman. Nah! I ain't taking that chance.

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by zainmaxwell(m): 4:15pm On Sep 23, 2018
khalazi:

Na him mother ne? .... Even 200k, some mothers no de dash am like that. Which one be say make the woman dash am 200k....
first of all are you are male or female?
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by zainmaxwell(m): 4:17pm On Sep 23, 2018
Colourich:
I'm not wicked, I'm just smart, smart enough to know you shouldn't give a man all your life savings, what if he use it to marry another woman. Nah! I ain't taking that chance.
you said she should give him back his hundred thousand haba






What if he is testing her faith
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 4:19pm On Sep 23, 2018
zainmaxwell:
you said she should give him back his hundred thousand haba






What if he is testing her faith
Testing kee him dia, a guy left a woman that gave him all her Nysc allawee for 1year to marry a student that hasn't done anything for him. LMAO. If you know, you know.

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by tempest01(m): 4:20pm On Sep 23, 2018
Suzzyyy:
Hello Nairalanders! Plz help! I hv been scared and confused abt a risk I want to tk so I decided to share for advice.

Im 29 and I hv a boyfriend who is 33. We hv been happily dating for close to 3 years now, he once helped me financially in a good way with 100k when I had problem with my little business, then he was doing pretty fine with his business, I sell plastics and hez into cloth business. But somtin happened last 2 months, he had terrible problems with his business and lost almost everything including his shop and in a bid to salvage his situation he ended up owing many pple, when all these started he didn't tell me, thou hez a kind of person that likes handling his problem alone without disturbing or telling me which I don't like bcus it somehow makes me feel less important and useful to him, I got to know when he changed, his attitude, moods and everything changed, hez always disturbed, thinking and always visiting pple, he payed less concern and attention to me, don't even call and when I call, he will be in a haste to end it, I became confused, so I had to asked what was going on, he said nothing, I got upset and insisted he must tell me, he then opened up, I felt so bad and almost cried, since then I have been trying to maintain his upkeep and sometimes give him money which hez not comfortable with.

The problem now Is that im scared, he asked for a huge amount of money from me which is 700k, he wants to start all over again in his cloth business and also clear some debt, and I can only boast of 820k home and abroad as a business woman, i just feel he saw my account balance before asking for this, Im scared to loose the money and him too. I love this guy but im so scared of doing this, he helped me when I needed money, but this sacrifice is bigger than me, he showed and detailed everything he will be doing with the money, Im just confused to gamble with my life savings, I know I might sound ungrateful what if the business or our relationship crumble? Won't I be stranded and doomed? My business is not that strong and we all know how most of sacrifices like this ended for people. Is this kind of risk worth doing for a boyfriend

Plz advice me on what to do, plz.

That he did not hesitate to give you 100k, shows he has you in mind.

This is now your turn to show who you really are.

My advice for you is to check how much you can afford to lose out of that 800k+, then lend that amount to him. Tell him to start something that you'll try find the balance for him. From here you can judge if you should balance up or not.
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by JONNYSPUTE(m): 4:22pm On Sep 23, 2018
Its a pity how most of us reason especially when it comes to making sacrifices. I used to say it,there's nothing like love.. How can one claim to love another and cannot make a simple sacrifice? You rushed to nairaland to seek for advice whether you should help him ? I guess he wouldn't ve helped you out when you were in need if he did the exact thing you re doing now. Why didn't you call him and explain why you can't give him such amount rather than coming here to seek validation? Can't you just be honest with him and tell him what you can afford? We always shout I luv him or her when all is moving smoothly but as soon as temptation looms,we disappear or starts making up excuses. Its ur money do with it anyhow you want.

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by zainmaxwell(m): 4:23pm On Sep 23, 2018
Colourich:
Testing kee him dia, a guy left a woman that gave him all her Nysc allawee for 1year to marry a student that hasn't done anything for him. LMAO. If you know, you know.
you ladies eeh she have 809k can't she give him at least 300-400k ni if na men now all hell will break loose
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Saff(f): 4:26pm On Sep 23, 2018
zainmaxwell:
you said she should give him back his hundred thousand haba






What if he is testing her faith
Which kind test? Testing for what? Oga go and sit down. What is the objective of that testing ? I just wish more women would set their standards high so that these yeye men won’t even have time for any nonsense ‘testing’ . Rubbish.

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by zainmaxwell(m): 4:28pm On Sep 23, 2018
Saff:
Which kind test? Testing for what? Oga go and sit down. What is the objective of that testing ? I just wish more women would set their standards high so that these yeye men won’t even have time for any nonsense ‘testing’ . Rubbish.
hey did I insult you? This tells more of who you are mind what you say



Back to the topic if you can't help one who you love what's the essence of been in their lives

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by ardrockltd(m): 4:38pm On Sep 23, 2018
donstan18:
When it comes to their turn to help a man financially, they'll remember [What if, What about, Sacrifice, Risky, Should I, Shall I, Shall we, Shall should, Shall us, Shall him, Shall she, Shall shim]

He helped your business stood its ground without asking if the risk was worth doing for a girlfriend, and here you are, calculating and warring the gravity of his sacrifice and the one he's asking of you. Sacrifice is sacrifice. Do it if you want, and if you don't, then get the hell out his life.i dey feel you

Sex must not be the only thing you offer a man without seeking advice.
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by JONNYSPUTE(m): 4:43pm On Sep 23, 2018
donstan18:
When it comes to their turn to help a man financially, they'll remember [What if, What about, Sacrifice, Risky, Should I, Shall I, Shall we, Shall should, Shall us, Shall him, Shall she, Shall shim]

He helped your business stood its ground without asking if the risk was worth doing for a girlfriend, and here you are, calculating and warring the gravity of his sacrifice and the one he's asking of you. Sacrifice is sacrifice. Do it if you want, and if you don't, then get the hell out his life.

Sex must not be the only thing you offer a man without seeking advice.
... The truth is always bitter. You ve said it.

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Aystarz: 4:57pm On Sep 23, 2018
JONNYSPUTE:
Its a pity how most of us reason especially when it comes to making sacrifices. I used to say it,there's nothing like love.. How can one claim to love another and cannot make a simple sacrifice? You rushed to nairaland to seek for advice whether you should help him ? I guess he wouldn't ve helped you out when you were in need if he did the exact thing you re doing now. Why didn't you call him and explain why you can't give him such amount rather than coming here to seek validation? Can't you just be honest with him and tell him what you can afford? We always shout I luv him or her when all is moving smoothly but as soon as temptation looms,we disappear or starts making up excuses. Its ur money do with it anyhow you want.


I tire brother. Just read the yeye comments here, especially the ones from the ladies . One even wrote that she wouldn't dare do that for her own husband. If you cannot make sacrifices for your partner, why bother going into a relationship in the first place? Love is dead........ very dead.
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 5:03pm On Sep 23, 2018
I think you should try and make it a business investment, not lending money but investing in his business. That means you take his plans and look at them and seek advice from legal services, and then draw up a legal agreement. You're a business woman so take this as a money making opportunity instead of lending money. I think you should remain positive and take into consideration what kinda man he is and then take the chance on him. If you feel it in your gut that it's a bad idea then follow your gut! Stay true to yourself.

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Jadoskii(m): 5:04pm On Sep 23, 2018
Tbh 700k is much....he might have every intention to return d money once his business starts yielding again BUT what if it fails....sister just lend him half of that ...

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