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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by JONNYSPUTE(m): 5:08pm On Sep 23, 2018
Aystarz:



I tire brother. Just read the yeye comments here, especially the ones from the ladies . One even wrote that she wouldn't dare do that for her own husband. If you cannot make sacrifices for your partner, why bother going into a relationship in the first place? Love is dead........ very dead.
.. Honestly,its very annoying reading those comments . Tomorrow they will be screaming for equality. I guess she also seek for advice from people before having sex with him.

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by JONNYSPUTE(m): 5:28pm On Sep 23, 2018
Suzzyyy:

You are too rude, this is 700k we are talking about, my life savings not that I don't wnt to help, I love him so much tht I cnt see him sad, I just want advice to know if Im doing the right thing, dassall.
.. Both of you are not married yet,but still engage in sex which is not right. Have you ever asked or seek advice before doing it? If you can't be of help to him,pls let him go. Love is all about sacrifice and if you re not willing to do that,break up with him asap.

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Erums(m): 6:12pm On Sep 23, 2018
donstan18:
When it comes to their turn to help a man financially, they'll remember [What if, What about, Sacrifice, Risky, Should I, Shall I, Shall we, Shall should, Shall us, Shall him, Shall she, Shall shim]

He helped your business stood its ground without asking if the risk was worth doing for a girlfriend, and here you are, calculating and warring the gravity of his sacrifice and the one he's asking of you. Sacrifice is sacrifice. Do it if you want, and if you don't, then get the hell out his life.

Sex must not be the only thing you offer a man without seeking advice.

Tellem bros

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 6:13pm On Sep 23, 2018
Suzzyyy I have a solution that will potentially solve your problem. I don't want to share it publicly cos it may sound unethical and nairalanders are just too judgemental... Pm me and I'll give you the advice... Hopefully it should work...


Meanwhile

Please I'm looking for a meme and I don't know the name...

The meme has a guy like Olamide walking very proud like he has won a 1 billion dollars lottery...

Please quote me with the meme if you have it...

Thanks.
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by LordsApostle: 6:14pm On Sep 23, 2018
yazz09:
You are not obliged to lend him the exact amount he asked. Give him what you are comfortable with and tell him that's what you can part with as you still have other personal and business things that needs your funds
this is the best advice u can get, anything other than this is senseless and stupid... Take this.
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by LordsApostle: 6:17pm On Sep 23, 2018
Suzzyyy:

You are too rude, this is 700k we are talking about, my life savings not that I don't wnt to help, I love him so much tht I cnt see him sad, I just want advice to know if Im doing the right thing, dassall.
please listen to what yazz09 Adviced and close this thread..
You should understand something in live. It pays to be grateful but no one owes you anything, that your guy can come up tomorrow and tell you he wants out of the relationship and u can only do nothing... So help him with what u are comfortable with, and explain to him that's the best u can do as ur business is still in the formative years and u have some personal upkeep and all... Just explain, if he truly loves u he will understand with you...
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 6:20pm On Sep 23, 2018
donstan18:
When it comes to their turn to help a man financially, they'll remember [What if, What about, Sacrifice, Risky, Should I, Shall I, Shall we, Shall should, Shall us, Shall him, Shall she, Shall shim]

He helped your business stood its ground without asking if the risk was worth doing for a girlfriend, and here you are, calculating and warring the gravity of his sacrifice and the one he's asking of you. Sacrifice is sacrifice. Do it if you want, and if you don't, then get the hell out his life.

Sex must not be the only thing you offer a man without seeking advice.
That guy is asking for almost all of op's savings and u typed this? What's 100k help if he had more 6 figures in his account?

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 6:26pm On Sep 23, 2018
@Suzzy as a criminologist whose number one is trust nobody, what if this your boyfriend sold off everything to traveled abroad Pretty conducive he encountered a problem that got him owning or did Custom seize his goods or they capsized in the Sea

For you to know his true side just tell him you can cough out only 200k intact you have only 250k in your savings and can give 200k.

The ultimate con is using little money to catch more Money.

Just saying
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by khalazi: 6:26pm On Sep 23, 2018
zainmaxwell:
first of all are you are male or female?

Why?
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by CAPSLOCKED: 6:27pm On Sep 23, 2018
WHAT IF YOU GIVE HIM THE MONEY AND HE SQUANDERS IT ALL AND FAILS?
WHAT IF HE SUCCEEDS?

LIFE IS A GAMBLE SUZZY, IF YOU DON'T TRY OUT ANYTHING YOU'RE NOT REALLY LIVING.

LOVE IS BIGGER THAN ANYTHING, THEY SAY. INCLUDING THAT 700K.

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by foreverfavoured(f): 6:36pm On Sep 23, 2018
Whenever u want to lend to people.. always lend an amount u can comfortably let go of....

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Iamgrey5(m): 6:37pm On Sep 23, 2018
See how ladies jumped on the thread to discourage/dissuade the op from borrowing the boyfriend the money like their life depended on it cheesy



...... but will be quick to tag the guy broke if the case were reversed grin


cc highqueen

I saw your message in the politics section, but I was banned by the anti spam bots in the politics section despite posting the accurate results of the just concluded Osun elections.

And oh, I am good thank you.

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by highqueen(f): 6:41pm On Sep 23, 2018
Iamgrey5:
See how ladies jumped on the thread to discourage/dissuade the op not to borrow the boyfriend the money like their life depended on it cheesy



...... but will be quick to tag the guy broke if the case were reversed grin


cc highqueen

I saw your message in the politics section, but I was banned by anti spam bots in.the politics section despite posting the accurate results of the just concluded Osun elections.




Aww, sorry sbout that.
Trust you are good.
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by emmaodet: 6:44pm On Sep 23, 2018
Saff:
Fortunately, they’re some women who use their brain and not their hearts like dummies. We don’t allow love to delude us from common sense, and we are put into the category of “ wickedness”. Well, it’s not a woman’s job to give her man money, esp a huge amount like 700k, am I mad? Not even my husband, ordinary boyfriend. I won’t even give my husband 700k I’m so sorry. If you’re confident enough to ask your babe for such a huge amount of money, it’s clear you don’t value her. Don’t ask me how, it’s psychological.

Saff, good evening. Did you just say you can't give your hubby 700k?
Waoooooo, what a life but it is okay if the man raises 700k to set up is wife?
Then am beginning to wonder if relationships or marriage really Worth it sef, i think it is all scam.
Why? Because am 32 yrs old and 5 yrs in marriage and have taken loan of 2.5m twice making 5m to set up my wife who is a graduate but has no job but unfortunately we lost the money due to bad business plan and preparation.
Now the question is, assuming my wife is the one working but am jobless or struggling when we were dating, will she marry me? Probably not because she will think am not ready to settle down or not in are level as the case may be but since am the one on advantage, it is okay for me to go down and pick hevup, dust her up and support her but when it is the ladies turn, they will dump our ass.
The question still remains, does relationship or marriage really worth it for guys at all? Just thinking

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Iamgrey5(m): 6:47pm On Sep 23, 2018
NwanyiAwkaetiti:
That guy is asking for almost all of op's savings and u typed this? What's 100k help if he had more 6 figures in his account?
Relationship is about love

Love is about trust.

So op.

if you cannot trust someone enough to lend them an exhaustible commodity like money, then you shouldn't stick around to entrust such a person with the rest of your life.

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Iamgrey5(m): 6:49pm On Sep 23, 2018
highqueen:
Aww, sorry sbout that. Trust you are good.
Sure
Hope you have been enjoying yourself now that you have all these free time cheesy
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by grateful236(m): 6:51pm On Sep 23, 2018
emmaodet:


Saff, good evening. Did you just say you can't give your hubby 700k?
Waoooooo, what a life but it is okay if the man raises 700k to set up is wife?
Then am beginning to wonder if relationships or marriage really Worth it sef, i think it is all scam.
Why? Because am 32 yrs old and 5 yrs in marriage and have taken loan of 2.5m twice making 5m to set up my wife who is a graduate but has no job but unfortunately we lost the money due to bad business plan and preparation.
Now the question is, assuming my wife is the one working but am jobless or struggling when we were dating, will she marry me? Probably not because she will think am not ready to settle down or not in are level as the case may be but since am the one on advantage, it is okay for me to go down and pick hevup, dust her up and support her but when it is the ladies turn, they will dump our ass.
The question still remains, does relationship or marriage really worth it for guys at all? Just thinking

Just leave that useless dog called saff. She is a pained used and dumped feminist

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by highqueen(f): 6:52pm On Sep 23, 2018
CAPSLOCKED:


BUT IT'S A MAN'S JOB TO GIVE WOMEN MONEY... HAHAHAHA.

NO WONDER AUNTY CHIMAMANDA WANTS MEN TO STOP DOING THINGS FOR YOU PEOPLE (INCLUDING THE SIMPLEST THINGS LIKE OPENING DOORS) CUS MOST OF Y'ALL TERRIBLE HUMANS WHO DON'T DESERVE ANY LOVE OR FAVOURS.

DID YOU SEE WHERE THIS LADY SAID HER MAN HELPED HER WITH SOME MONEY TO DO BUSINESS? AND NOW HE'S UNFORTUNATE WHILE SHE'S BETTER THAN HIM AND ALL YOU WOMEN ON THIS THREAD ARE DOING IS DISSUADE HER NOT TO HELP HIM BACK JUST THE WAY HE HELPED HER.

YOU WANT HIM TO REMAIN BROKE SO SHE CAN BROKE-SHAME AND DISRESPECT HIM, AND JUMP ON TO THE NEXT AVAILABLE MAN.

MOST OF YOU GIRLS ARE TERRIBLE.
WOE BETIDE THE MAN THAT'LL TAKE ANY ONE OF YOU AS HIS WIFE OR ANYTHING SERIOUS.
HE'S DESTINED FOR RIDICULE, SORROW, POVERTY, PAIN AND UNTIMELY DEATH.

THIS IS WHY MEN DON'T GO TO WOMEN FOR HELP. YOU AIN'T GETTING NOTHING.
THIS IS WHY WOMEN DON'T GO TO OTHER WOMEN FOR HELP. NOTHING GO FALL OUT... EXCEPT SHAMING AND INSULTING YOU.

YOU CAN'T HELP YOUR MAN WITH CASH, YOU CAN'T PAY BILLS, YOU CAN'T CONTRIBUTE IN ANYWAYS TO ANYBODY'S LIFE...
YOU ONLY USE YOUR MONEY FOR WIGS AND MAKEUP AND YOU THINK YOU'RE REALLY LIVING? DAMN.

JUST LIKE MISSRAINE69 SAID... MONEY BRINGS OUT THE WORST IN PEOPLE. .
cry from now till tomorrow, if you are to be in that guy's shoe, i bet you wont get even 5k, and ohh the guys that are gonna marry your sisters and cousins are already cursed, nonsense boy, crying fowlgrin
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by highqueen(f): 6:55pm On Sep 23, 2018
Iamgrey5:
Sure

Hope you have been enjoying yourself now that you have all these free time cheesy
lool, not really i just deh observe for now, i haven't been on whatsapp for sometime now,please,pardon meembarassed
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by BrokenCock: 6:55pm On Sep 23, 2018
Suzzyyy:
Hello Nairalanders! Plz help! I hv been scared and confused abt a risk I want to tk so I decided to share for advice.

Im 29 and I hv a boyfriend who is 33. We hv been happily dating for close to 3 years now, he once helped me financially in a good way with 100k when I had problem with my little business, then he was doing pretty fine with his business, I sell plastics and hez into cloth business. But somtin happened last 2 months, he had terrible problems with his business and lost almost everything including his shop and in a bid to salvage his situation he ended up owing many pple, when all these started he didn't tell me, thou hez a kind of person that likes handling his problem alone without disturbing or telling me which I don't like bcus it somehow makes me feel less important and useful to him, I got to know when he changed, his attitude, moods and everything changed, hez always disturbed, thinking and always visiting pple, he payed less concern and attention to me, don't even call and when I call, he will be in a haste to end it, I became confused, so I had to asked what was going on, he said nothing, I got upset and insisted he must tell me, he then opened up, I felt so bad and almost cried, since then I have been trying to maintain his upkeep and sometimes give him money which hez not comfortable with.

The problem now Is that im scared, he asked for a huge amount of money from me which is 700k, he wants to start all over again in his cloth business and also clear some debt, and I can only boast of 820k home and abroad as a business woman, i just feel he saw my account balance before asking for this, Im scared to loose the money and him too. I love this guy but im so scared of doing this, he helped me when I needed money, but this sacrifice is bigger than me, he showed and detailed everything he will be doing with the money, Im just confused to gamble with my life savings, I know I might sound ungrateful what if the business or our relationship crumble? Won't I be stranded and doomed? My business is not that strong and we all know how most of sacrifices like this ended for people. Is this kind of risk worth doing for a boyfriend

Plz advice me on what to do, plz.
abeg don't borrow what u think will fall ut business. If u dont have nkor? My guy wan usr ut money do mmm
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Iamgrey5(m): 6:59pm On Sep 23, 2018
highqueen:

lool, not really i just deh observe for now, i haven't been on whatsapp for sometime now,please,pardon meembarassed
lol... you are funny

@ watsapp.

Yes I noticed, why is that?
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Ximenez(m): 6:59pm On Sep 23, 2018
Colourich:
700k is too much to lend a man. Give him back the 100k, tell him that's what you have.
'Give him back the 100k' What if the amount the boyfriend lent her in time of her need is 1m. Would you have said give him back the 1m. And you even went ahead to say 700k is too much to lend a man, but it's not too much to gift to a lady abi.

By the way Op, here is my advice for you. Looking at your bankroll, it will be unwise for you to give him that amount, because you are also a businesswoman and your business might suffer as a result.

In addition, i don't think you love him, because if you do, you would have given him that money without having to seek advice from total strangers. That's how powerful love is, it makes you do stupid things, illogical things. So you don't love him, just like 99% of the couples we have around these days, you are just together for relationship sake.

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by BrokenCock: 7:00pm On Sep 23, 2018
emmaodet:


Saff, good evening. Did you just say you can't give your hubby 700k?
Waoooooo, what a life but it is okay if the man raises 700k to set up is wife?
Then am beginning to wonder if relationships or marriage really Worth it sef, i think it is all scam.
Why? Because am 32 yrs old and 5 yrs in marriage and have taken loan of 2.5m twice making 5m to set up my wife who is a graduate but has no job but unfortunately we lost the money due to bad business plan and preparation.
Now the question is, assuming my wife is the one working but am jobless or struggling when we were dating, will she marry me? Probably not because she will think am not ready to settle down or not in are level as the case may be but since am the one on advantage, it is okay for me to go down and pick hevup, dust her up and support her but when it is the ladies turn, they will dump our ass.
The question still remains, does relationship or marriage really worth it for guys at all? Just thinking
my brother, to marry an average Nigeria girl is like doing MMM if it ever comes back,all they belive is that marriage is last bus stop before they die. Thats why most of dem have refused to be educated.

All they want is the man to be a money machine. I don't even blame guys that see dem as an object to knack on bed cos to dem dey believe thats all a man wants n ofcos the guy go assume na money she dey hunger for
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by highqueen(f): 7:01pm On Sep 23, 2018
Iamgrey5:
lol... you are funny

@ watsapp.

Yes I noticed, why is that?
will gist when im back on whatsapp, please, dont call me a bad person for now okay grin
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by BrokenCock: 7:03pm On Sep 23, 2018
BlackAfrican:
Suzzyyy I have a solution that will potentially solve your problem. I don't want to share it publicly cos it may sound unethical and nairalanders are just too judgemental... Pm me and I'll give you the advice... Hopefully it should work...


Meanwhile

Please I'm looking for a meme and I don't know the name...

The meme has a guy like Olamide walking very proud like he has won a 1 billion dollars lottery...

Please quote me with the meme if you have it...

Thanks.
u sound like a FRAUDSTER!!
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 7:05pm On Sep 23, 2018
Use lend when you are giving money or items to someone.

Use borrow when you are taking money or items from someone (or funds from a bank!).

Try to use "lend me" in place of "loan me".

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Iamgrey5(m): 7:05pm On Sep 23, 2018
highqueen:

will gist when im back on whatsapp, please, dont call me a bad person for now okay grin
Why will I call you a bad person? grin
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by dennel(m): 7:06pm On Sep 23, 2018
OP... please sit him down and plan with him* thou you saw his plan and budget but dt doesn't mean you shouldn't have your take on the issue at hand..!
Make him see why he needed to reduce the budget and pull things a bit lower than the budget; feel like he doesn't know your Acct balance or probably act like you not owning all of the sum in your account... Let him reduce to like 400k and take the risk if you truly think he's a man of his word n all*
However, he cud also raise from his family members and all... let's say he comes up with a new budget of 550k, then you can contribute 300k n make him sort out himself or smtn!

My blood brother won't go dt extreme for me dear! You not family yet* n 98% of our ladies now wouldn't even have a second thought about this* they wud just smiles n be like, see scammer!

Wish you luck
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by highqueen(f): 7:11pm On Sep 23, 2018
Iamgrey5:
Why will I call you a bad person? grin
been long i checked up and ask how the stuff is going down with you, and it was just a situation thats out of my control, thats why i said you shoudnt vex for me too soon bikogrin
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by 1x2x3: 7:13pm On Sep 23, 2018
emmaodet:


Saff, good evening. Did you just say you can't give your hubby 700k?
Waoooooo, what a life but it is okay if the man raises 700k to set up is wife?
Then am beginning to wonder if relationships or marriage really Worth it sef, i think it is all scam.
Why? Because am 32 yrs old and 5 yrs in marriage and have taken loan of 2.5m twice making 5m to set up my wife who is a graduate but has no job but unfortunately we lost the money due to bad business plan and preparation.
Now the question is, assuming my wife is the one working but am jobless or struggling when we were dating, will she marry me? Probably not because she will think am not ready to settle down or not in are level as the case may be but since am the one on advantage, it is okay for me to go down and pick hevup, dust her up and support her but when it is the ladies turn, they will dump our ass.
The question still remains, does relationship or marriage really worth it for guys at all? Just thinking

This is the problem with the society. A Jobless woman will think she is ready for marriage because she is a woman. If you are Jobless as a man you are know no woman will even look your way when it comes to marriage.
When getting into a relationship men should stop looking as how beautiful a woman looks rather be sure she is employed or productive just like they scrutinise guys.

Don't use your money to marry liable you have to brush up to standard before enjoying anything. Marrying these Jobless ladies is a pure scam.

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by CAPSLOCKED: 7:16pm On Sep 23, 2018
highqueen:

cry from now till tomorrow, if you are to be in that guy's shoe, i bet you wont get even 5k, and ohh the guys that are gonna marry your sisters and cousins are already cursed, nonsense boy, crying fowlgrin


*ENTERS: HIGH QUEEN THE FOUL-MOUTHED, GUTTER-BRED,LOW-CLASS, IRRESPONSIBLE, UNCULTURED SWINE.

YOU NO NOTHING, CHILD.
NOT EVERY WOMAN IS LIKE YOU AND YOUR COMPANY.
IF I WERE IN THAT MAN'S SHOES THE WOMAN IN MY LIFE RIGHT NOW IS MATURED ENOUGH TO TAKE HER OWN DECISIONS AND AND DO WHATEVER COMES TO HER MIND, AND NOT MAKE "OUR MATTERS" PUBLIC ON THE WORLD WIDE WEB LIKE MOST IMMATURED FOLKS AROUND HERE. SHE'S A DIFFERENT KIND OF WOMAN. THE TYPE YOU CAN NEVER BE EVEN IF YOU TRY TO DREAM.

THE THREAD STARTER HAS PROVIDED ALL Y'ALL STREET URCHINS SOMETHING TO FEED ON, AN EXTRA AVENUE TO JEER AT UNFORTUNATE MEN, WHEN YOU YOURSELVES ARE WORST THAN UNFORTUNATE.
WHO KNOWS, MAYBE HE'S IN RUINS BECAUSE OF HER.

I'M NOT EVEN SUPPOSED TO BE HOLDING CONVOS WITH LAY PEOPLE OF YOUR CALIBER BUT I'M DOING YOU THIS FAVOUR JUST THIS ONCE.
IT WON'T HAPPEN AGAIN.

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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Ximenez(m): 7:18pm On Sep 23, 2018
highqueen:

cry from now till tomorrow, if you are to be in that guy's shoe, i bet you wont get even 5k, and ohh the guys that are gonna marry your sisters and cousins are already cursed, nonsense boy, crying fowlgrin
Not all Nigerian girls have that mentality. That's why i said op does not love her bf as she claims. Because if you love someone you should be willing to give up your life for that person, so how much more material things?

That's why i said most of what we have these days are some forms of relationships not love. The ladies want to leave their father's house to hang on to an ATM, while the men also want to have sex and have children, that's all.

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