When you are a failure in life, things like marriage becomes an achievement to you. Do you know how many good women who have been unfortunate because they ended up with wrong men. We don't have the power to read the mind of people we enter into relationship with because someone can hide his character for long time and before you realised its too late. Will you still go ahead and marry that man just to please society and suffer in silence? If you are married just pray that your husband might be the right person and he is hiding nothing in his closet. I know so many women who have married and have deeply regretted and suffering in silence just for the sake of the children. That woman submission is very childish and totally senseless. If we have the power to read through the minds of our partners and their motives, no person will end up with the wrong person.

ANGELMARVE:
The truth they say is very bitter.
she is completely saying the truth. How can a responsible Lady not get married before the age of 35?
If she is not married before her 35th birthday, then her responsibility comes into question. It's either there is something from her pursuing men away or her case has gone spiritual.
You cannot tell me it's her career because as career minded as Beyonce and chimamanda are, "They are both happily married with kids"
That is because their various husbands find them responsible with good woman characters.
So as a Lady that is unmarried after 35, You seriously need to check your life and repair those traits that have drove men away.
I know popular women defenders like cococandy and Dominique will come to defend their nairaland unmarried females as usual but the truth is that both coco and Dominique are married, So the unmarried 35+ ladies need not to be deceived by their defensive words, You better go check up your life, go get married and have kids.
There is nothing more beautiful than seeing your Daughter or son calling you mommy, Mommy, mommy and your husband at your bed side every night.

Some of you guys the way your brain works is baffling. Why haven't you at your age become a millionaire or billionaire, with mansion everywhere or you think your age mates are not hitting it big, big time, you must be irresponsible then. Think deep before you spew out nonsense, some women above 30 might be held back because of one issue beyond their control or just a personal decision. I just tire for you people.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
A guy who is single at 31 has a bigger problem .

how?

blackgold2018:
You are almost saying the same thing you presently mentioned. My dear no good lady with her "right senses" will date an irresponsible guy to waste her youthful time.. every lady knows d responsible guys but they classify dem boring. A lady with a good character, attitude etc will always be approached by responsible men.. dats a fact.
The guy is 100% right. Almost 98% of Ladies still single at 35 have to blamed for being unmarried. This is not an opinion but the simple truth.

Same way no good man would marry an irresponsible lady so why do we still have unmarried men at 40?or should the men not also take the blame?

It is not a fact good people meet bad people and vice versa + stated that in my post oga see life with a birds eye view not a one eye view.
If something is wrong with the ladies something must be wrong with the gentlemen?

This can stand as an opinion and a simple truth to others.You get it?

Ladyhippolyta88:


You have point but because you have a point does not make it the truth for everybody.
You make it seem as if it is only ladies that make a marriage.What about guys?
If a lady is responsible/wife material and good does not always mean she may approach a responsible guy.Even some men do not know how to value a treasure when they see one they misuse it and this can be applied to both genders.
And do not try to compare those women you mentioned because it goes both ways let us say they are happy in their marriages some women who married at their ages are wishing to be single.Even serena Williams married in her 30's,(I am not disputing the fact that one may marry in their 30's and still regret it).Dambisa moyo is a well known economist and at 49 is still unmarried do you want to tell me that women like Dambisa moyo,Stacy Adams,Oprah winfrey(Oprah had a partner for over 30 years and they still did not tie the knot)Let me not even mention meghan markle who first got married in her 30's)Do you want to tell me they were slaying hence why they are unmarried and have passed their 30's.And also some guys have been irresponsible for years doing drugs,yahoo or G and wasting the time of some innocent ladies who would have married them.So Mr man your accusation or assumptions goes both ways.

And no responsible lady at 25 would want to end up with these kind of irresponsible men who were wasting their youth commiting illegal acts.
So it is better that the responsible lady reaches 35 and marries a responsible man than a yahoo yahoo guy and call him her husband.

is it not Yahoo Yahoo men that are getting married these days?The country self is all about yahoo.Dey there dey deceive yourself.

Ladyhippolyta88:
You can as well provide good husbands for the single 35+ unmarried ladies.
Life is not a competition with anyone because we all have our goals in as much as happiness comes from within there is no fixed time for the arrival of m right as the Mr right can come at any time even at 32.It is better to be single and praying to be married than to be married and praying to be single the people who may find their selves in such situations are living in bondage and calling it marriage.Some would prefer to marry at 40 and be happy than marry at 22 and be miserable.

Since you are such a concerned fellow please provide single responsible and good men for our unmarried sisters to Marry.You can organize a seminar.

Anty, women have fixed time for marriage abeg..stop consoling urself

donstan18:
Shot fired!! What a bitter truth! After bashing her, you all will still log out and face reality of what she said

Look at them, a lot of them up there wishing and saying she isn't happy with her family, all because she said the truth, all because the truth is bitter.

Even without being told, an evening newspaper lady should know that she has no right to celebrate birthday because she has been biologically expired, psychological traumatized, sexually useless, maritally screwed and aboki-cally suyalized.

A single lady still celebrating birthdays, going to wedding parties and still doing boyfriend/boo at 30+, is a disgrace and a big shame.

Sensible evening newspapers will do nothing to end their predicament but............

Grow up biko! Is marriage the main goal in this life? Nigerians with their silly mentality on this issue of marriage. Go to saner climes and see their young women achieving real goals in their lives. Many Nigerian wives are not even smiling in their so-called marriages.

So what if a single lady of 35+ wants to celebrate her birthday, is it our business? Is it our money she's spending? Nonsense. People should learn to mind their business.

manikspears:


I checked your profile and found out you carry the feminist thingy like dreadlocks,if I may ask what is the ideal behind feminism and what are the points you intend to loud cos I don't understand. If you don't marry till a certain age your body will revolt except you remove your womb. Now if I may ask, is it a thing of joy even for men not to be married by the age of 35? How old do you want to be when your first child graduates?

lol so I need to get married before hving kids,?? I can hv kids anytime I want!! We all want to get married but if not,, i am one of the ladies That don’t give two hoots ,,, especially if u don’t meet ur match, the Society shouldnt force u to go for stupid men all in the name of marriage.

livinbygrace:



is it not Yahoo Yahoo men that are getting married these days?The country self is all about yahoo.Dey there dey deceive yourself.

You are not living my life so you cannot tell me that I am deceiving myself so keep it to yourself.

Also that is the problem we are talking about yahoo yahoo dey marry and no sane responsible lady would want to marry a yahoo boy because their acts are illegal and not responsible or would you advise your sister to marry one because she must marry and he has money?

women like this just married so they can be called Mrs, I can bet my life she didn't marry that ugly he goat for love... she will still have a guy outside she loves who will be fvcking her daily. she's here forming advisor.

Deltatoto:
u Dey give yourself hope.c u c menopause

and so fucking what if she is over menopause..how is that your business. Hard working men dont have time for this crap that you have dedicated your whole lives in doing.You are definately a jobless slow poke that have been rejected by so many ladies and you have become this bitter man on nairaland, that is why you are here bad mouthing women...tell me what have they done to you that you will focus all your energy in this forum lashing out at women when your mate are out there making money and preparing for a better future for themselves...
Yes she is approaching Menopause, so am I and so others ladies. So, what if i get to 40 and dont get married how is that your business?..mind your business, go and get a job, work hard and look for a good woman to marry and let us be please.

Stop lazying around and expecting a girl to start soaking Garri with you while you spend half of your life online doing nothing meaningful but bad mouthing women because you had had a bitter experience with them..so oga..I am not getting married nor interested in having into kids..I might adopt though if i wish..maybe later..I have nieces and nephews..all over the place..and it is a choice..deal with it.

Ask most Nigerian married men and women how happy they are in their marriages..To me life goes beyond marriage and having kids but to some other, it very important..everybody with thier destiny and how they wish to live their lives..must everyone give birth? what happens to the children roaming street of Nigeria have they been properly taken care off?...Please if marriage is your sole achievement it is not for many people..so abeg mind your business and stop this menupause bla bla bla..It make you look bitter.

livinbygrace:



is it not Yahoo Yahoo men that are getting married these days?The country self is all about yahoo.Dey there dey deceive yourself.

that’s the reason some ladies r single, not all women want to marry fraudsters, no matter what.

ANGELMARVE:
You still don't understand my point.
Guys treasure good Ladies like eggs.
You talk about yahoo guys and irresponsible guys.
Do you know that there are some Yahoo guys that has one particular Lady that they treasure so much that they are planning to get married to?
A Lady they want to settle down with and stop doing internet scam and face a legit business all because of the safety and the love they have for this particular Lady?
No responsible guy will treat a Lady bad.
There are some bad guys that changed their ways because they fell in love, example is our very own Dbanj, 2face or even Davido.

There is this glory about responsible ladies with good characters that attracts guys that are willing to get married to them.
The Truth is that bad and irresponsible guys will always go to clubs to party with irresponsible ladies, they are attracted to that lady flashing her boobs and dressing almost nude.
You cannot dress irresponsible and you want responsible guys to approach you.

And my dear don't use unmarried Ladies like opera Winfrey as an example because Instagram and Facebook are fake, you have no idea the secret things they have done with their life.
Money is not everything my dear.

"Money is not everything,But everything needs money"

Evablizin:
Tell her,that one is looking for likes,someone can't celebrate her birthday in peace again. Mtcheeeew.

Dis one you're firing from all cylinders over a harmless advice , seems she hit a nerve .

If you're over 35yrs old, please go and marry.

My goodness!!! Shame on this ugly woman, shame on her! I never get to understand the rationale of single ladies desperate to marry and settle for anything other than their dreams or full filling self realisation, emotional stability, maturity, psychological preparedness, financial stability/independence before jumping into marriage but now! It is even disgusting to know that nearly most of the demography of young Nigerian girls do not have dreams or aspirations of their own lives other than marriage; when an ungodly and ugly person as this who have lived their entire existence on the thoughts of marriage and living their lives entirely just to be called married{the height of her achievement in life} are there to shame them into depression or possibly suicidal thoughts of unworthiness! Kai
Marriage is for 2 people in love committed to being together...that is never enough sef! There are other factors or realities at play only a slowpoke as this will use her dirty standard of measurements for every body. If we were to get to her bedroom we may see how her husband uses her for kick boxing sef or how he can't stand her unattractive looks and run after these ladies she's busy shaming.

Ladyhippolyta88:

Same way no good man would marry an irresponsible lady so why do we still have unmarried men at 40?or should the men not also take the blame?

It is not a fact good people meet bad people and vice versa + stated that in my post oga see life with a birds eye view not a one eye view.
If something is wrong with the ladies something must be wrong with the gentlemen?

This can stand as an opinion and a simple truth to others.You get it?

While to b sincere with you am one of the few there's planning on to marry within 35-40.. does that make me irresponsible? No. A lady can easily reach her menopause even at that age bracket. So there's why ladies tend to marry earlier on. Ask Linda ikeji why she decided to get herself pregnant.

DaddyNimo:
See pic of the ewo calabar and her ancestors looking husband...cos she Don marry she get mouth to yan dust. Stupid woman... See wetin u marry call am husband.

wonder how their pikin nose go be

Dafreeguy:
Anty, women have fixed time for marriage abeg..stop consoling urself

You must think that I belong to that school of thought that believe children are for marriage.
When I need kids I would get one the primary aim for marriage as far as I am concerned is to get a companion which I can get even at 50.So hold it right there I can be a mother at 25 oga and still be unmarried.

This is my life and I do not live on false pretences so I am not consoling myself.

rampantlover:
When you are a failure in life, things like marriage becomes an achievement to you. Do you know how many good women who have been unfortunate because they ended up with wrong men. We don't have the power to read the mind of people we enter into relationship with because someone can hide his character for long time and before you realised its too late. Will you still go ahead and marry that man just to please society and suffer in silence? If you are married just pray that your husband might be the right person and he is hiding nothing in his closet. I know so many women who have married and have deeply regretted and suffering in silence just for the sake of the children. That woman submission is very childish and totally senseless. If we have the power to read through the minds of our partners and their motives, no person will end up with the wrong person.

exactly

post=71592046:
So the ladies above 35 should go and die and stop thanking God for another year they are privilege to see or what is her point exactly?!

Shame on her.....

As if marriage is a sign of responsibility.

blackgold2018:
While to b sincere with you am one of the few there's planning on to marry within 35-40.. does that make me irresponsible? No. A lady can easily reach her menopause even at that age bracket. So there's why ladies tend to marry earlier on. Ask Linda ikeji why she decided to get herself pregnant.

But you forget sir that in this time and age children are no longer a prerequisite marriage.I can get a child at 25 and still be unmarried so to me marriage is companionship whoever I marry must be worth my companionship and vice versa so I cannot get married because of children only and then forget companionshipI would rather marry at 50 and be married happy than stay with a stranger at 26 all because I must marry and have children

post=71592046:
So the ladies above 35 should go and die and stop thanking God for another year they are privilege to see or what is her point exactly?!

Shame on her.....

As if marriage is a sign of responsibility and an achievement

donstan18:
Shot fired!! What a bitter truth! After bashing her, you all will still log out and face reality of what she said

Look at them, a lot of them up there wishing and saying she isn't happy with her family, all because she said the truth, all because the truth is bitter.

Even without being told, an evening newspaper lady should know that she has no right to celebrate birthday because she has been biologically expired, psychological traumatized, sexually useless, maritally screwed and aboki-cally suyalized.

A single lady still celebrating birthdays, going to wedding parties and still doing boyfriend/boo at 30+, is a disgrace and a big shame.

Sensible evening newspapers will do nothing to end their predicament but............

Do you understand the fact somebody somewhere will read ur comment and actually feel it's time to end their life and do it? That makes you a what? A silent killer. Do you understand that there are ladies in their 30s plus who are decent, living honestly but it just happens to be their life trial that they haven't found a companion yet, especially because men who make comments like you exist? Do you understand what the tag evening newspaper is doing to women who didn't choose to be so? Do you know the concept of keep quiet if you have nothing good to say? You are just a waste of air and space meant for other human beings. Ladies stay strong and true to ur selves o. Love is ageless, u can always find who is true. Please don't settle.

omoharry:
and so fucking what if she is over menopause..how is that your business. Hard working men dont have time for this crap that you have dedicated your whole lives in doing.You are definately a jobless slow poke that have been rejected by so many ladies and you have become this bitter man on nairaland, that is why you are here bad mouthing women...tell me what have they done to you that you will focus all your energy in this forum lashing out at women when your mate are out there making money and preparing for a better future for themselves...
Yes she is approaching Menopause, so am I and so others ladies. So, what if i get to 40 and dont get married how is that your business?..mind your business, go and get a job, work hard and look for a good woman to marry and let us be please.

Stop lazying around and expecting a girl to start soaking Garri with you while you spend half of your life online doing nothing meaningful but bad mouthing women because you had had a bitter experience with them..so oga..I am not getting married nor interested in having into kids..I might adopt though if i wish..maybe later..I have nieces and nephews..all over the place..and it is a choice..deal with it.

Ask most Nigerian married men and women how happy they are in their marriages..To me life goes beyond marriage and having kids but to some other, it very important..everybody with thier destiny and how they wish to live their lives..must everyone give birth? what happens to the children roaming street of Nigeria have they been properly taken care off?...Please if marriage is your sole achievement it is not for many people..so abeg mind your business and stop this menupause bla bla bla..It make you look bitter.

mugu u are asking me to get married my first son is older than u and u are talking about working I have worked so hard that I can decide to fold my hands and legs for d rest of my life and I’ll be feeding Fat I’m a Honourable member in delta state so no worry.finally try and get married your family must be ashamed of u now.

patjane:
Sometimes is good not to reply senseless comments my dear

Thank you I do not reply all mentions but some people need to have broad minds so that we can exchange good opinions.

Shame on you if you celebrate birthday at all.

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You are merely spending millions on wedding list for a woman that got disvirgined with a plate of 2 small onion chicken indomie and a boiled egg

[/quote] Ah!!! Auntie pulease take it jeje with this kain harsh reality talk na.

God is watching o

blackgold2018:
You are almost saying the same thing you previously mentioned. My dear no good lady with her "right senses" will date an irresponsible guy to waste her youthful time.. every lady knows d responsible guys but they classify dem boring. A lady with a good character, attitude etc will always be approached by responsible men.. dats a fact.
The guy is 100% right. Almost 98% of Ladies still single at 35 have to blamed for being unmarried. This is not an opinion but the simple truth.

you sound like you've been classified boring.

HeyCorleone:


This particular comment is bugged with insecurity. Why do you take it awful hard?

Her contention was that 35+ yo ladies shouldn't be doing those funny photoshoots. First thing is that those shots are quite childish. You'd hold balloon and makeup blah blah blah. Even married ladies need not engage in such act meant for teenagers and people in their early 20s.

There's no reason on earth, or in heaven above, why a woman above 35, married or unmarried, should have one of those funny photoshoots.

So calm down Uncle Sandra. If you like don't marry at all, be pursuing hoedom under the guise of freedom. I can assure you nobody cares.

...oga, everybody sane want to live their best life and be happy at it! Holding balloon to take pictures or doing a cake smash or getting male strippers to grind on herself while dancing...may not be appropriate to you but to that person it's what they know to do at having fun...uncle it has nothing to do with being married or not!

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
A guy who is single at 31 has a bigger problem .

It's had time we stop deceiving ourselves
We both no that a woman's life is like a flower
Women mature early than men & also fade early than men also
At 31 a mans life is even kicks starting while woman at the same age starts fading out

we need recallibrate this girl's head. its obvious that she lack sense . is marriage an achievement ? why didnt all the apostles and jesus marry , is giving to birth an achievement? it is all a personal choice.

ppl at the age of 80 still celebrate life whether married or not.

better go get sense.