MissRaine69:
The most convoluted story I have read in awhile! She won’t wash his clothes because she is waiting to be his wife? He won’t find other ways to have his clothes washed because he is expecting her to do it? What did he do before they met?
This situation is doomed already.
Ps stay out of your friends relationship if he can’t resolve such a straight forward issue he has no business getting married.

frozen70:
The lady in question is just being selfish

What's wrong in someone that have been responsible for your upkeep just to make you happy

And you can't wash his cloths

The guy shouldn't rush into marriage with her

He should keep observing her God bless you for me. You're the only lady that has spoken the truth. I don't really know why this other girls are been so selfish.

Better still get another lady that will be willing to assist him in washing his cloths due to his busy schedule

He can now choose who to marry between both of tbem

frozen70:
The lady in question is just being selfish

What's wrong in someone that have been responsible for your upkeep just to make you happy

And you can't wash his cloths

The guy shouldn't rush into marriage with her

He should keep observing her





Better still get another lady that will be willing to assist him in washing his cloths due to his busy schedule

He can now choose who to marry between both of tbem

Ladyhippolyta88:


Let us hear word Jor.
Feminism ,this that must she be domesticated what happened to the guy.Before my parents started using washing machine I can testify that my father even today never for once allowed anybody wash his clothes even my brothers wash their own clothes according to them they do not feel comfortable with people doing things for them a man being domesticated and a woman refusing to wash a man's cloth has nothing to do with feminism.I have never washed my fathers cloths since I was born and I am not ashamed to say it.
I am not refering to the topic but people should know how to take care of theirselves which includes domesticity.You should not wait for anyone to do that for you.

Administration1:
No need of too much stories,
I have a friend who works with a multinational firm, he has a matured girlfriend in her second level in the University, she resigned her job two years ago to get a degree.
They have been dating for over a year now and he intends settling down next year with her, presently, the guy pays her fees and gives her monthly upkeep cash, money to make her hair etc. but the problem is that the young man complains that she rarely washes his clothes, even boxers. Sometimes the guy spends 7 days in a week at work with no time to wash his clothes. And he doesn't like giving his clothes to drycleaners as they usually ruin the colours. He prefers hand-washing them, which he does any night he returns, sometimes, into the night, 1:00AM when you call my guy, he is still washing his clothes, bedsheets etc.

When asked the girl says "I am not washing your clothes, if i start washing your clothes now, what will I do when we get married, you'd better give them to the drycleaner.

My guy is totally confused, knowing that a character exhibited during a relationship will definitely come into play in marriage. Please what should he do.

n1ky:
As for me, I blame ladies that allow guys to take all their responsiblities, i cant allow that since we are not married yet and so I CAN NOT WASH A GUY CLOTH BECAUSE I AM A HIS GIRLFRIEND AND I WILL NOT LET YOU Take full responsiblities on me till you married me.
Ladies try to stand on your own and don't take all this bullshit like washing of clothes, cooking, trying to brain wash you that you are a wife materials, always learn to be independent always. Stay on your own and maintain your stand.
Of course i can cook or wash for a guy but it will be at my own will not by using a command tone because i don't owe you anything .

ImaIma1:
He should get a washing machine. Sitting down with clothes to wash forever is time wasting. Time that can be used to do something productive.

Akuruoulo:
May God bless you for me

Akuruoulo:
what was he doing before they meet . I wonder why women will be so selfish. Who was paying the girl dues before they meet ? She should start paying her dues herself

Administration1:
No need of too much stories,
I have a friend who works with a multinational firm, he has a matured girlfriend in her second level in the University, she resigned her job two years ago to get a degree.
They have been dating for over a year now and he intends settling down next year with her, presently, the guy pays her fees and gives her monthly upkeep cash, money to make her hair etc. but the problem is that the young man complains that she rarely washes his clothes, even boxers. Sometimes the guy spends 7 days in a week at work with no time to wash his clothes. And he doesn't like giving his clothes to drycleaners as they usually ruin the colours. He prefers hand-washing them, which he does any night he returns, sometimes, into the night, 1:00AM when you call my guy, he is still washing his clothes, bedsheets etc.

When asked the girl says "I am not washing your clothes, if i start washing your clothes now, what will I do when we get married, you'd better give them to the drycleaner.

My guy is totally confused, knowing that a character exhibited during a relationship will definitely come into play in marriage. Please what should he do.

frozen70:
The lady in question is just being selfish

What's wrong in someone that have been responsible for your upkeep just to make you happy

And you can't wash his cloths

The guy shouldn't rush into marriage with her

He should keep observing her

Better still get another lady that will be willing to assist him in washing his cloths due to his busy schedule

He can now choose who to marry between both of tbem

Administration1:
No need of too much stories,
I have a friend who works with a multinational firm, he has a matured girlfriend in her second level in the University, she resigned her job two years ago to get a degree.
They have been dating for over a year now and he intends settling down next year with her, presently, the guy pays her fees and gives her monthly upkeep cash, money to make her hair etc. but the problem is that the young man complains that she rarely washes his clothes, even boxers. Sometimes the guy spends 7 days in a week at work with no time to wash his clothes. And he doesn't like giving his clothes to drycleaners as they usually ruin the colours. He prefers hand-washing them, which he does any night he returns, sometimes, into the night, 1:00AM when you call my guy, he is still washing his clothes, bedsheets etc.

When asked the girl says "I am not washing your clothes, if i start washing your clothes now, what will I do when we get married, you'd better give them to the drycleaner.

My guy is totally confused, knowing that a character exhibited during a relationship will definitely come into play in marriage. Please what should he do.

Akuruoulo:
people should know how to take care of their selves and ? Why couldn't the girl take care of herself financially. Some of u will get stocked in a violent marriage one day . MEANWHILE IF U CAN'T WASH MY CLOTH SOME OF MY BUSY TIMES, THEN I WILL NOT HELP U IN SOME OF YOUR NEEDFUL TIMES. I will stop doing anything for you. Sex is a two ways something that u go also follow me enjoy. So sex is not a favour

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Remain blessed.

GrabHisBalls:
He should hold back his cash and stop paying her fees. If she ask, tell her "When we marry; what will I now be doing?".

NuhRegular:
Lol.. I only did this once and til today I've always regretted it

Never doing it again

Jhoanner:
I mean, he's paying her school fees and looking after her welfare. it's the least she could do. If she can't assist him, the he should no longer assist her.

Youngjohnosas:
it's pretty sad some ladies just want a one sided relationship,they can offer nothing and u can't please them as well.they ask for a favour and you decline, it automatically makes you a bad person but u ask for one they feel they are not slaves and therefore not obligated to you...i am currently facing such in my relationship, I try to make her happy to the best of my ability but she simply can't reciprocate.when she comes visiting, she always wants me to join her in all chores.its compulsory for her because she is not a slave,i should join her prepare the meals or do it my self and she will serve and I will clear the dishes while she will clean it.. we having been dating for over two years,I treat her well and till date I haven't gotten a dime from her when I am broke but I don't complain that I am a slave.its bad.

Akuruoulo:
The girls in this thread are more selfish than the girl in question. All empty headed beings

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Don't mind all these hypocrites,lazy and selfish people supporting the lady. If I may ask,what's she offering in the relationship if she cannot help him do laundry?. Sex I guess.If one calls her a sex object now,they will say you dont have respect for women.And she will be the first to call the guy names if he decide to stop taking care of her welfare. I also blame the guy for not telling her to start taking care of herself since they are not married.

preshdiva:
The sad thing is, girls who've had negative experiences in their former relationships are always very conscious about being "used" and "dumped". It's possible she had a terrible experience with someone, and has decided to be sure of marriage before doing all the extra. Or, she's ill advised by friends and peers who tell her it's wrong to wash or clean after a man you're not married to. Or, she doesn't just like washing clothes. Personally, I see no big deal in washing for the man I love (if I have the time). Relationships these days are community associations, little wonder no body wants to invest efforts completely. A little issue like this can grow into bigger problems, they should talk about all these things before marriage.

tosyne2much:
That's very true.. If a lady is already telling you now that can't help you with your clothes because she's not married to you, believe me, she will still not do that even if you marry her. The same way these dumb ladies will tell you they don't owe a man faithfulness because he has not paid their bride price.

Most of these ladies are fairy tales ladies. You can hear most of them shouting dry cleaners and washing machine. How many people even have washing machines in their homes in Nigeria? In this Nigeria, how many men can even afford giving their clothes to dry cleaners? Do you even know that an average Nigerian worker can't afford giving his clothes to a dry cleaner?

Like I said earlier, most of these ladies are living in fairy tales. They're not married but have always pictured living in a home with fitted AC. A home where someone will wash their pants and bras for them

Things are getting worse and that's why marriages don't last. Some ladies are even saying they're not obligated to cook for their husbands because they're not slaves

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Honestly bro most comments from the ladies here are disappointing. I blame the guy for not being a man,walahi if I was in such situation,she will leave my house immediately she said that rubbish. Somebody is taking care of your welfare and you can't even help him do laundry. Reasonable ladies won't even wait for him to ask them to. I asked one of the ladies here supporting the girl if she can tell me what the girl in question is bringing to the relationship and uptill now,she has not answered me. Guys should be wise now and stop running after pussy.