Op, i hope you can see some of our desperate men in this forum,especially the negative ones, they all wish, they were the guy, many of them wants to know the single site so that they can spam that site for only one reason to find ladies who they can "date" rely on and move away from the country they think is hell while chinese make lot of cash here while the Nigerians complain and blame the govt for everything. most of them here are not real men but dependent and desperadoes who dont mind squandering a woman life savings rather than them being independent financially and emotionally.

i am ashamed of some of our men. some of them here wont mind dating you, your mother and grand mother just for green card, they are desperate and can do anything just for the green card. a desperate man is a dangerous man.

to be sincere, your guy is genuine but also be watchful, this can also be a way for him to use you to move to the united states that may be his dream.

if you wanna know if he is genuine and not desperate, come to Nigeria, live and work here in Nigeria. the desperate ones will be the one to tell you not to come but to send them invitation for them so that they can process their visas while the one who is into you genuinely, will invite you to Nigeria, show you off to friends and families and if you wanna stay, will help you to find a job and make your life easier in Nigeria.

My point is know his intentions.take it slow, time will tell if he is into you or just another potential bloody Nigerian wanabe immigrant. my own rule for dating maybe it might help you, never date anybody that has nothing to lose.

Fe2018:


Lol seriously That’s what makes me fake...using loose vs lose. Haha mkay. Either way. Doubt I’d waste this much time and energy to be fake sir! And EVEN if you feel that way...why take the time to reply?? ::i[b]nsert eye roll::[/b] I’m sure I made other grammatical errors too...ya just didn’t catch them English teacher::i[b]nsert second eye roll::
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AGAIN...Thanks to those who have been willing to offer useful advice.

Lol She's not a fake.

EVILFOREST:

How can LUCIFER be relocated to the US from NIGERIA....??
GOD forbid.
HELL is your portion, remain there

Lucifer is already in America, and he was here from the beginning of the making of her. Until we get rid of his children, he will continue to be here.

khiaa:



At the embolden. I know exactly what you mean, I'm American as well and I am having trust issues. Sorry, Alezy, it's not you, it's me.

Giiiirrrlllaaa. We need to link up!

thebosstrevor:
Op, i hope you can see some of our desperate men in this forum,especially the negative ones, they all wish, they were the guy, many of them wants to know the single site so that they can spam that site for only one reason to find ladies who they can "date" rely on and move away from the country they think is hell while chinese make lot of cash here while the Nigerians complain and blame the govt for everything. most of them here are not real men but dependent and desperadoes who dont mind squandering a woman life savings rather than them being independent financially and emotionally.

i am ashamed of some of our men. some of them here wont mind dating you, your mother and grand mother just for green card, they are desperate and can do anything just for the green card. a desperate man is a dangerous man.

to be sincere, your guy is genuine but also be watchful, this can also be a way for him to use you to move to the united states that may be his dream.

if you wanna know if he is genuine and not desperate, come to Nigeria, live and work here in Nigeria. the desperate ones will be the one to tell you not to come but to send them invitation for them so that they can process their visas while the one who is into you genuinely, will invite you to Nigeria, show you off to friends and families and if you wanna stay, will help you to find a job and make your life easier in Nigeria.

My point is know his intentions.take it slow, time will tell if he is into you or just another potential bloody Nigerian wanabe immigrant. my own rule for dating maybe it might help you, never date anybody that has nothing to lose.

This...all of this is...great advice. Thank you!!!

Fe2018:
Now that I have your attention lol. I knooooow you all are probably slammed with these questions all the time but I thought I’d give it a shot.

I’m from America and I met this guy...he’s Nigerian of course...completely random...on a dating site (a complete random Christian dating site at that). Initially I didn’t realize where he was from until he asked if we could talk via Facebook. SO I was like of course...he gave me his name and though it was a common Nigerian name (I learned this AFTER getting to know him) I still didn’t realize he lived in Nigerian until I asked him where he was from and...bam! He’s in a whole other country.

So here I’ve been getting to know this guy...I’m really into him and he’s in another country. Of course as soon as I google international dating regarding someone in Nigerian NOTHING but red flags pop up (which is so unfair that an entire country has such a bad name when it comes to dating internationally) BUT I am 7 years older than him, he is still in college and it makes me wonder...could this be a scam? Is he going to eventually ask me for something?

My question is how in the world do you really know? Is there anyone currently dating internationally I can connect with? It would just be nice to have someone who can relate to my situation and also some insight on what to look for if one thought they were being scammed. All I’ve seen is they ask for money, they won’t talk to you on the phone or video chat and they use fake identies BUT that’s literally not the case as he doesn’t ask for money and we talk on the phone as video chat frequently. THE only odd thing he did was tell me he loved me VERY fast because he “wanted to make his intentions known” (that’s when I began my googling and found this site).

HELP A SISTA OUT!!! [color=#770077][/color]

Don't do it. Find a man elsewhere.

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ak475:
No scammer operates with fake identity if they need you to aid their travels, the 7yrs age difference is already a red flag.They all start with FAKE sincerity for you to gain their trust,and you're falling for him already. Good luck!

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Mr you’re an enemy of progress, this is the reason why our country have not progressed. When I see someone doing great all I do is to support them... it’s better you go think very well and change your ways.... if not karma awaits you in a very disappointing way

dairykidd:


Guyman some people just dey very bitter & them want other people to be like them.. Na the babe no get sense when come NL dey find advice

She's even very lucky to see this website where youth talk openly. But for a Nigerian, guy to go to dating site? The guy wan ran. He no wan pay bride price for Naija.

Fe2018:


Since you...and others think it’s so funny can you explain to me WHY men would choose to “hustle” this way? By preying on someone’s desire to find a help mate? Is that not cruel? Could life be that bad you would exploit someone’s emotions for a dollar?

I’m just wondering where the mindset comes from and why men who choose to do this think it’s okay??

There's a level of desperation in Nigeria. Unlike "Western" nations who's lowest earning citizens get benefits, bailouts, some cheque or whatever from the government, in Nigeria we get nothing.
One can get hit by a car and die. No free ambulance or medicals. People die in emergency wards also 'cos they have no cash to pay. We don't have such rights. Occasionally someone might be helped by the government. But it's not a constitutional thing that people can claim rights to. So many averagely suffer.

For those who have it going well for them, there isn't much of a set formula for their success. Sometimes it's just random luck, family connections, affiliation with the "right" people.

Your dude might just be frustrated with the unpredictability of Nigeria and decide to take his chance on anything outside Nigeria.

Mcheew..kids and scammers every where. Time will tell.A 23 year old kid dating a 31 yr old lady he met on a dating site?Den of Yahoo boys? I rest my case.

thebosstrevor:
Op, i hope you can see some of our desperate men in this forum,especially the negative ones, they all wish, they were the guy, many of them wants to know the single site so that they can spam that site for only one reason to find ladies who they can "date" rely on and move away from the country they think is hell while chinese make lot of cash here while the Nigerians complain and blame the govt for everything. most of them here are not real men but dependent and desperadoes who dont mind squandering a woman life savings rather than them being independent financially and emotionally.

i am ashamed of some of our men. some of them here wont mind dating you, your mother and grand mother just for green card, they are desperate and can do anything just for the green card. a desperate man is a dangerous man.

to be sincere, your guy is genuine but also be watchful, this can also be a way for him to use you to move to the united states that may be his dream.

if you wanna know if he is genuine and not desperate, come to Nigeria, live and work here in Nigeria. the desperate ones will be the one to tell you not to come but to send them invitation for them so that they can process their visas while the one who is into you genuinely, will invite you to Nigeria, show you off to friends and families and if you wanna stay, will help you to find a job and make your life easier in Nigeria.

My point is know his intentions.take it slow, time will tell if he is into you or just another potential bloody Nigerian wanabe immigrant. my own rule for dating maybe it might help you, never date anybody that has nothing to lose.

You are the expert on men? And you yourself are not a man? How can this be?

lefulefu:

23 & me
Two Three and Me is probably the name of a DNA testing website.

Fe2018:
Now that I have your attention lol. I knooooow you all are probably slammed with these questions all the time but I thought I’d give it a shot.

I’m from America and I met this guy...he’s Nigerian of course...completely random...on a dating site (a complete random Christian dating site at that). Initially I didn’t realize where he was from until he asked if we could talk via Facebook. SO I was like of course...he gave me his name and though it was a common Nigerian name (I learned this AFTER getting to know him) I still didn’t realize he lived in Nigerian until I asked him where he was from and...bam! He’s in a whole other country.

So here I’ve been getting to know this guy...I’m really into him and he’s in another country. Of course as soon as I google international dating regarding someone in Nigerian NOTHING but red flags pop up (which is so unfair that an entire country has such a bad name when it comes to dating internationally) BUT I am 7 years older than him, he is still in college and it makes me wonder...could this be a scam? Is he going to eventually ask me for something?

My question is how in the world do you really know? Is there anyone currently dating internationally I can connect with? It would just be nice to have someone who can relate to my situation and also some insight on what to look for if one thought they were being scammed. All I’ve seen is they ask for money, they won’t talk to you on the phone or video chat and they use fake identies BUT that’s literally not the case as he doesn’t ask for money and we talk on the phone as video chat frequently. THE only odd thing he did was tell me he loved me VERY fast because he “wanted to make his intentions known” (that’s when I began my googling and found this site).

HELP A SISTA OUT!!! [color=#770077][/color]

I hv stopped chatting with any international fellow (especially opposite sex) online altogether. Because of the level of their ignorance. Considering the present image that the country has, anyone that tells you he is a a Nigerian, living in Nigeria has 70% chance of not beeing a scammer. Most things about scammers are fake. They hv little or no traceable digital footprints.

Comsidering the idea of using you to move out of the country. It might be true. But on a second thought, there are countries that are doing better than Nigeria that Nigerians can go for free. There might not be anything special abt ur country (be it in Europe or Notth America). Notwithstanding, to be on a safer side, if it excalates into romantic elshp, jst make him sign some documents b4 marriage.

Fe2018:
Now that I have your attention lol. I knooooow you all are probably slammed with these questions all the time but I thought I’d give it a shot.

I’m from America and I met this guy...he’s Nigerian of course...completely random...on a dating site (a complete random Christian dating site at that). Initially I didn’t realize where he was from until he asked if we could talk via Facebook. SO I was like of course...he gave me his name and though it was a common Nigerian name (I learned this AFTER getting to know him) I still didn’t realize he lived in Nigerian until I asked him where he was from and...bam! He’s in a whole other country.

So here I’ve been getting to know this guy...I’m really into him and he’s in another country. Of course as soon as I google international dating regarding someone in Nigerian NOTHING but red flags pop up (which is so unfair that an entire country has such a bad name when it comes to dating internationally) BUT I am 7 years older than him, he is still in college and it makes me wonder...could this be a scam? Is he going to eventually ask me for something?

My question is how in the world do you really know? Is there anyone currently dating internationally I can connect with? It would just be nice to have someone who can relate to my situation and also some insight on what to look for if one thought they were being scammed. All I’ve seen is they ask for money, they won’t talk to you on the phone or video chat and they use fake identies BUT that’s literally not the case as he doesn’t ask for money and we talk on the phone as video chat frequently. THE only odd thing he did was tell me he loved me VERY fast because he “wanted to make his intentions known” (that’s when I began my googling and found this site).

HELP A SISTA OUT!!! [color=#770077][/color]

Yes, a friend of mine does. He met this lady online too and it's been fantastic for both of them.

I can connect you guys together but first, I need to know your identity.

lefulefu:
All these guys here telling op that the guy is using her for papers pwease and pwease dont spoil a nigga's hustle.

the op is a scammer I wonder why people don’t get it ,trying to lure people to contact her how is it any of our business whom she is talking to on a dating site ,did she come here for advice before joining the dating site the ops account t was created yesterday for the sole purpose of scamming all this people eager to travel

Well Fe2018 my concern here is not whether or not he's Nigerian. It's just the age difference. Most Nigerian men are not comfortable with dating or marrying a lady so much older. Just be cautious

khiaa:


Alezy, this scares me.

wow....thanks for ur honesty

Fhowe:
the op is a scammer I wonder why people don’t get it ,trying to lure people to contact her how is it any of our business whom she is talking to on a dating site ,did she come here for advice before joining the dating site the ops account t was created yesterday for the sole purpose of scamming all this people eager to travel

You are the most dense human being on this thread.

Fe2018:


Lol he’s my quota. If it doesn’t work with him I doubt I’ll ever attempt this type of dating again.

That just seems like so much work just to pull off a scam for a green card.

No problem, but what dating site did you meet. I might not have a chance with you but I might with someone else.

Tell us the site both of you met.

Uglymugg:


Please kill yourself. Wow! Nigerians are very wicked people.

hahaha, everybody they street. Shoot your shot bro. As you can see she's hooked with him, our advice makes no difference.

Fhowe:
the op is a scammer I wonder why people don’t get it ,trying to lure people to contact her how is it any of our business whom she is talking to on a dating site ,did she come here for advice before joining the dating site the ops account t was created yesterday for the sole purpose of scamming all this people eager to travel

She never mentioned the website they met.

khiaa:



Lol She's not a fake.

and she's a 31 yrs old lady,dating a 20yrs old boy common sense could have told her,that the age difference is very huge. , why can't she date Nigeria in the u s or are there no Nigerians there.? She's fake .@ fe2018

JjBankys:
and she's a 31 yr old lady, dating a 20yrs old boy common sense could have told her, that the age difference is very huge. , why can't date Nigeria in us or are there no Nigerians there. She's fake .@ fe2018

First, of all, you guys need to learn how to add and subtract. the lady is 7 years older which means she is 31 years old and he is 24 years old, what is the problem there? Men need to look at a woman's heart and not her physical adjectives or age. I'm speaking from the heart.

Alezy:
wow....thanks for ur honesty

You don't understand how much my heart wants to embrace you but these stories scare me to death. I can't take another heartbreak.

Fe2018:


Giiiirrrlllaaa. We need to link up!

Yes, we do, ask me anything you need to know. I have been on this site since 2011. Don't get discouraged because there are beautiful African people who are willing to explain their culture to you and will welcome you wholeheartedly.

khiaa:


First, of all, you guys need to learn how to add and subtract. the lady is 7 years older which means she is 31 years old and he is 24 years old, what is the problem there? Men need to look at a woman's heart and not her physical adjectives or age. I'm speaking from the heart.

yeah,right.

khiaa:


You don't understand how much my heart wants to embrace you but these stories scare me to death. I can't take another heartbreak.

LMAO are you older than Alezy

khiaa:


First, of all, you guys need to learn how to add and subtract. the lady is 7 years older which means she is 31 years old and he is 24 years old, what is the problem there? Men need to look at a woman's heart and not her physical adjectives or age. I'm speaking from the heart.

No she's old,trust me even if the guy is not even from Nigeria,even if he's from Ghana Kenyan Cameron, etc .the Chance of him being real is very slim. let me say like 30%.do you know why? because most Africans hardly date women who are Older than them.

JjBankys:
LMAO are you older than Alezy

He is older than me, but why does that matter?.

khiaa:


He is older than me, but why does that matter?.

it's matters now,because this criminals mostly goes after older women your Alezy may be real .just saying.

uuzba:


You are the expert on men? And you yourself are not a man? How can this be?

i am a man like you but i hate it when some so of our called Nigerian men write bad about Nigeria so that ladies from western countries can pity them or can come save them as if this Nigeria is a bad place to live just like many of them are doing on this forum. pity has never taken a man nowhere. a man seeking for pity is a weak man.