khiaa:


He is older than me, but why does that matter?.

ibrutex:
let me add this maybe the OP would see it.

I dated a white girl online some years back ,though I wasn't after her money even as I was still job hunting then. but I just see it as fun at first......

damn , I tell you white girls love with all their heart, she deos most of the phone calls then .

she find it add to trust me at first but later she discovered that I don't care about her money and she talk to almost every member of my family anytime she calls.

but we later just went on as just friend due to religious differences.

Not every Nigerian is an online scammer

note the following each time you both having conversation...

1) what he desire most
2) his ambition , yes his he a career person or religious goer .
2) always ask him in a loving tone to give you his movement details throughout the day ....I bet you he will gladly tell you if hes in love
3) chat him or call him in the afternoon to know what he was doing , calling is preferable to pick some background noise and activities.

this will enable you to know his activities routinely , if he's the ambitious type within 2 weeks you will know.

Ambitious or religious guys don't really have time much for scamm.
he might be the good guy.

thebosstrevor:


do not mind trolls here, they wish it was them, most of them are jealous, they wish they were your guy.

Uglymugg:

You are the most dense human being on this thread.

Fhowe:
you are a scammer and you have been busted cause I don’t know what advice you are seeking when you know it all already so what is the need for the topic . Na story you dey find she male

uuzba:

There's a level of desperation in Nigeria. Unlike "wester" nations who's lowest earning citizens get benefits, bailouts, some cheque or whatever from the government, in Nigeria we get nothing.
One can get hit by a car and die. No free ambulance or medicals. People die I'm emergency wards also 'cos they have no cash to pay. We don't have such rights. Occasionally someone might be helped by the government. But it's not a constitutional thing that people can claim rights to. So many averagely suffer.

For those who have it going well for them, there isn't much of a set formula for their success. Sometimes it's just random luck, family connections, affiliation with the "right" people.

Your dude might just be frustrated with the unpredictability of Nigeria and decide to take his chance on anything outside Nigeria.

khiaa:


Lucifer is already in America, and he was here from the beginning of the making of her. Until we get rid of his children, he will continue to be here.

khiaa:


You don't understand how much my heart wants to embrace you but these stories scare me to death. I can't take another heartbreak.

chendstone01:



please I'm curious it just a question

please how did you discover this blog
I have seen so many Americans on here
Is Nairaland also famous in the US

please I need to reply thank you

Fe2018:


Lol nah. GOOD OLE GOOGLE. My boo calls me the google masta hahaha

I personally was googling the visa process and popular scams and that’s how I came across this site...

BlackAdam55:
I knew it you are fake, you're a fraud.

Chopwater:
The guy is a scammer. If you can follow up with his written words nd pattern you wil know isn't different 4rm our normal nigeria flow. If i see an American nd european written words i wil knw. Guys stop taking dis guy serious he is here to scam.

Fe2018:


::insert eye roll:: boy bye...to you both! I’m done with the thread anyway. I recieved the positive and encouraging advice I needed and now I’m here for shits and giggles. If anything you all constantly calling me a scammer makes me empathize with the guy I’m dealing with and see how easy it is for someone to think your fake.

Fe2018:


Lol nah. GOOD OLE GOOGLE. My boo calls me the google masta hahaha

I personally was googling the visa process and popular scams and that’s how I came across this site...

chendstone01:


[s]Thanks for your response

Just follow your heart Nigerians are known as scammers around the world but that doesn't mean we are all scammers

same goes for Jamaica
Jamaican's are known for smoking weed and I strongly believe every not all Jamaicans smoke

same goes for the white people in American
they are not all racist

The media enjoys showing or telling the rest of the world that all Nigerians are bad and dubious
Nigerians are nice

If it feels right give him changes, if it doesn't feel right let him go [/s]

Fe2018:


TRUST ME...I’ve been on this site a while reading things and I’ve seen how some people can be straight up rude and some completely supportive. I came here because there is a culture difference and I wanted advice from perhaps people who are dating or have dated a Foreigner.

There is SO much to this but honestly the only difference in dating someone from another country and someone from another state in my country is the Visa process. A man here could use me just as much as a man there.

And for those asking...I’m 31 and I’m black.

Again I definitely appreciate the positive responses I’m receiving and even the negative lol!! I don’t want anyone to feel I’m judging the people of Nigeria because I’m not. If anything meeting him has exposed me to a culture I would have never thought to learn about and I’m enjoying that...but I also don’t want to be an idiot and waste my time.

Fe2018:
Now that I have your attention lol. I knooooow you all are probably slammed with these questions all the time but I thought I’d give it a shot.

I’m from America and I met this guy...he’s Nigerian of course...completely random...on a dating site (a complete random Christian dating site at that). Initially I didn’t realize where he was from until he asked if we could talk via Facebook. SO I was like of course...he gave me his name and though it was a common Nigerian name (I learned this AFTER getting to know him) I still didn’t realize he lived in Nigerian until I asked him where he was from and...bam! He’s in a whole other country.

So here I’ve been getting to know this guy...I’m really into him and he’s in another country. Of course as soon as I google international dating regarding someone in Nigerian NOTHING but red flags pop up (which is so unfair that an entire country has such a bad name when it comes to dating internationally) BUT I am 7 years older than him, he is still in college and it makes me wonder...could this be a scam? Is he going to eventually ask me for something?

My question is how in the world do you really know? Is there anyone currently dating internationally I can connect with? It would just be nice to have someone who can relate to my situation and also some insight on what to look for if one thought they were being scammed. All I’ve seen is they ask for money, they won’t talk to you on the phone or video chat and they use fake identies BUT that’s literally not the case as he doesn’t ask for money and we talk on the phone as video chat frequently. THE only odd thing he did was tell me he loved me VERY fast because he “wanted to make his intentions known” (that’s when I began my googling and found this site).

HELP A SISTA OUT!!! [color=#770077][/color]

2buffagain:


I live out here in the US. I can give you some tips. check your DM

chendstone01:



please I'm curious it just a question

please how did you discover this blog
I have seen so many Americans on here
Is Nairaland also famous in the US

please I need to reply thank you

Uglymugg:


I've been busted? You can't even differentiate the OP's monicker from mine and you're talking about being a scammer? You are beyond dense.

BiggyB242:


He isn't dating you for your money, he is doing it for the green card. He invites you to Nigeria to get married to him, you work with the immigration so you can get your husband over. When he finally sets his feet on the American soil, he stays married for a while probably 3-4 years, boom a divorce or he disappears. Well, I'm 31, if you looking for someone of the same age.

Another scenario, like it stated above perhaps he trying to use to pull his internet scheme, get money, package, a cheque from someone putting you at risk.

If I may ask, what dating site did you guys meet?

Fhowe:
how do you know the op works with the immigration ?

Fhowe:
keep switching monikers I know you are the same person as the op nobody is falling for this rubbish

Fe2018:


even with going to school?? I just figured if he could afford school then maybe he wasn’t extremely poor if that makes sense. He wears more name brand than I do lol...which he did say most of its fake because I guess it’s easy to reproduce fake name brand clothing there?? Sigh...idk. I really dig the kid though.

Time will tell...

Fe2018:


I get it...but America or any other country doesn’t guarantee anyone instant success. I think that’s what people who choose to use people for a green card don’t understand. When he and I discuss how much things cost here he’s always shocked.

America does not necessarily equal greener pastures as to succeed you must work really really hard and I think that goes for WHEREVER you are.

Alezy:


I understand u anyway. Just do what u think is right for u

Chopwater:
The guy is a scammer. If you can follow up with his written words nd pattern you wil know isn't different 4rm our normal nigeria flow. If i see an American nd european written words i wil knw. Guys stop taking dis guy serious he is here to scam.

khiaa:



Please tell me how would you know? America is made of many cultures? Some people accused me of being a fake saying that I am really Nigerian which is far from the truth and I have been on this site since 2011.