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| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by kidman96(m): 1:01am On Nov 14, 2018 |
henritinecy:Brother I just got out of a similar situation like this and trust me I understand the pain you are going through right now. You can never be man enough to just move on. You wake up in the morning with your heart beating like your about to have a heart attack, at night you're thinking about her before going to bed. Every minute of the day you think about her and feel like smashing your head against the wall. You cry when you're alone, your life feels meaningless and sometimes youvask yourself how someone else could make you feel so miserable... Trust me bro I just got out of something like that and it took me months to. I also broke up with her several times until she broke up with me and moved on, but what I noticed was that all those while I was breaking up with her I was also sustaining her financially but then I decided to stop giving her money and for 3 weeks I didn't give her a penny for anything, then she broke up with me through text. Initially I was like "good riddance" but later I started missing her and calling her and she said she has moved on... It took months to get over her... One thing you must understand is that someone who truly loves you will not move on so easily. You see how easybshe fell for the next guy who told her he was living abroad not knowing itvwas you. So my advise to you is that since you have access to leave the country you should leave and hustle hard, but don't ever go back to her. You also need to choose wisely next time. you need to understand Nigerian ladies nowadays don't love for real, all they care about is someone who will pay their bills just like she told you... So moving on wont be easy but here is what you should do: You must stop blaming yourself because its not your fault the relationship ended. She never loved you she only loved your money. The relationship ended months before that day. As soon as the money dried up her love dried up. So don't blame yourself. You must accept the fact the relationship has ended because it has. Even if she comes back please don't accept her, she has shown her true colours. Don't try to stop thinking about her because you cannot, only time will heal your heart. Think about her, cry if you have to. If you take alcohol drink and get tipsy sometimes and sleep. Set a time frame to mourn the break up, give yourself 1 month. Go through the pain, think about her, cry, but during these period work intensively on yourself and you goals and ambitions, let your hopes of making it be a source of comfort to you. You must sieze all communications with her. Stop calling her and expecting her calls. You must accept the fact she has moved lon because she has. Delete her on all your social media account. Facebook, Instagram twitter etc and stop checking on her or snooping around her social media pages. Avoid her pictures or anything that reminds you of her. If possible delete her friends or family members whose posts involving her could land on your timeline. Remove everything that has to do with her from your place... And after one month of morning the relationship get off your ass and be a man that you are, the only woman worth such heart ache is your mom or any lady who has made so much sacrifice to your life. |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by frankopit: 1:03am On Nov 14, 2018 |
Claireshan1:Ok then, let's relate. I have sent in a message. |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by TruthHurts100: 1:03am On Nov 14, 2018 |
henritinecy:Are you mad? Are you mad? Are you mad? Are you stupid? Are you a fool? God has revealed who will kill you to you and you're still talking rubbish. Well, I understand how stupid love could be. You're better than her and she does not deserve a man like you. Focus on making that money. God will give you a good woman. That other one should continue looking for who to give her money. By the time she sleep with up to 1000 men, she will have enough money. |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by emkz: 1:04am On Nov 14, 2018 |
Bros, it is difficult because you truly love her. But you need to be alive to love her. A relationship is founded on trust, sustained by love and mutual respect; and revitalized by honest communication. She has clearly communicated her needs to you. The question you should ask yourself is what value does she add to the relationship? She's obviously not considerate about your feelings. She's in the relationship for her needs. Bros, count your losses and move on. In the long run, you need peace of mind and if your woman's love for you is conditioned on the cake you give her, she must contribute to baking it. Which leads back to my question: what is her value in the relationship beyond ass and boobs? |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by WaffenSS(m): 1:05am On Nov 14, 2018 |
This idiot is the sort of guy who makes girls develop airs and chips on their shoulders She's a girl; there are like 5 billion of them. If you can't get one fish here, try another stream. |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by franchasng: 1:05am On Nov 14, 2018 |
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| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by Rexnegro(m): 1:09am On Nov 14, 2018 |
henritinecy:bro don't blame yourself, if our God almighty can be jealous how much more we His creation, at this point let TIME help heal you,with time you did forget her. now it will look as well you can't forget her because it's still fresh. I so dislike someone who turn himself or herself to God when begging over and over again, such people let me vex n forget them quickly and easily sef, what nonsense. her been headstrong shows someone was on standby or possibly dating u along the people all alone. ABI no girl wey dey school we are talking about here ? bro lock up o, better girls than her will definitely come your way. a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. let me guess is she from Edo state? |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by Dollabiz: 1:11am On Nov 14, 2018 |
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| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by Nobody: 1:14am On Nov 14, 2018 |
henritinecy:it's time to move on wit ur life |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by Nobody: 1:17am On Nov 14, 2018 |
Bro. You mumu small o. I’m very sure if it’s any of your sisters you offend you won’t be begging like that |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by Evercurious(f): 1:18am On Nov 14, 2018 |
highqueen:Sorry that wasn't a good girl.. But a money monger and a vain girl OP thank God you initiated that break up... If you like keep making money just to 'BUY ' love... GO WORK ON YOUR SELF ESTEEM PLS |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by Equation89(m): 1:22am On Nov 14, 2018 |
I've been in that situation before, but the only different between your case and my case was mine happened when I lost my job last two years. When she saw that money was not forthcoming, she started dating different guys just to get money. I suffered it for 3 months. She openly told me that am not a man but today am an employer of labour. She is begging me now.. My dear, I know it's not easy try and engage yourself into something that will be taking more of your time and make some money ..ladies will come for you. Just be strong. |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by openmine(m): 1:23am On Nov 14, 2018 |
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| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by Evercurious(f): 1:25am On Nov 14, 2018 |
henritinecy:Sir, pls can you state 3 things she has got to offer you aside sex? Maybe after responding to this you ll know if you took the wrong step by initiating the break up |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by ola6: 1:28am On Nov 14, 2018 |
henritinecy:Hello Henritinecy I just finished reading your story and I felt deep compassion. I totally understand how you feel because I have been there and I can relate to your story. I also went through what you went through. Hmmm, those days were like hell on earth. Here are the things you need to understand and do because right now, no matter how you try, it's difficult to think straight. 1) You need to understand that she might have loved you but she's more interested in the money than you. Once you get money, she'll be back. 2) God made you dodge a bullet. That lady is NOT your wife. She was in your life to teach you a lesson about life itself. 3) Now is the time to work on yourself. Learn a trade, start a business, return abroad or get a job. What ever you do now must fuel your improvement and growth. Do not, I repeat, do not remain stagnant or wallow in self pity. You are a man and men are created when things are tough! 4) Sad truth is she has moved on 5) Do not call her again but you can pick her calls. On no circumstance should you accept her back into your life. You do not hate her but you do not love her. You'll lose more respect if you accept her back into your life. 6) Know that you'll get a better woman in your life. The new lady would be way better than this your ex. So sorry bro... Lastly, do not be isolated. Go to a friend's house, chat and socialise. It is well. |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by Davicool1(m): 1:31am On Nov 14, 2018 |
Go listen to one ticket by kiss Daniel
na you them sing that music for |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by TheeDetective: 1:32am On Nov 14, 2018 |
@Op, what is wrong with you Why are you allowing a woman to play silly games and walk all over you like this Wake up and smell the coffee mate, she’s no longer interested in you and the earlier you get that the better for you. Since she's making so much noise about money, why doesn't she go and make money herself and cater for her own bills If you insist on going back to beg her, don't come back here and cry us a river again o, cos we dey warn you now say make you waka. Forget her NOW and go look for someone else as all the signs she has shown you were not there for fancy but for you to read clearly and get the message. She’s done with you dude; and its better for you to move on. |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by 360command: 1:46am On Nov 14, 2018 |
hahahahahaha:if truly you can pay your bills, I will marry you. |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by DrTims(m): 1:53am On Nov 14, 2018 |
Why all the rant. She said she has been meeting guys opposite of the OP and I said really and you are typing all this epistle. Guy you need help. Please take your frustration somewhere else franchasng: |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by DrTims(m): 1:55am On Nov 14, 2018 |
Really Claireshan1: |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by na2016: 1:57am On Nov 14, 2018 |
TonyeBarcanista:except your Mother.... She is the only woman that loves you geniuely. |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by Nobody: 2:08am On Nov 14, 2018 |
Some guys deserve some reseting slap, Op is among them. |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by CAPTIVATOR: 2:12am On Nov 14, 2018 |
Claireshan1:Eeyah @ last line |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by kunle75(m): 2:14am On Nov 14, 2018 |
hahahahahaha:God bless you woman of virtue You took the word out of my mouth and said it all |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by Blessograo(f): 2:24am On Nov 14, 2018 |
henritinecy:Uncle take this from a lady, you don't deserve a lady like that at all but you should know that you aren't the one at fault, just go make your money but at the same time there are ladies looking for LOVE and CARE not money and I hope you find that soon. I wish you all the happiness you can get, just be happy and try to distract your self everytime you are close to thinking about her. A good lady would always come around and ladies like your ex will push you to depression and possibly suicide if you marry such, besides it's not your responsibility to pay her school fees and accommodation because she has been paying it one way or the other before you came into her life and why does she have a family for if they can't pay it for her instead and I'm sorry to say that it is totally stupid of you if you've been the one always paying all along cos she has parents for that and you are probably just her passport out of the country to marry another white man who can offer her a green card. Take care and do not despair! |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by Chyxki: 2:28am On Nov 14, 2018 |
Sorry op... but you seem really naive. My advice is this... forget women for now and get your life back on track. |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by Academicwizman(m): 2:29am On Nov 14, 2018 |
HavocGirlMile99:You can say that (@ the bold) again! with one exception though- your mother! |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by YorubaAssasin: 2:30am On Nov 14, 2018 |
frankopit:Na weak-ass yeye guys like you dey end up like OP. Una too dey disgrace 9ja men... too dey act like say una nvr see woman before. Pervert! |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by ChiefSweetus: 2:34am On Nov 14, 2018 |
bujebudanu1:Mr c.ork will be rolling in his future grave mehn! ![]() |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by Kclique: 2:52am On Nov 14, 2018 |
henritinecy:Op, U asked for how to get over her. The simplest tool I use is to remember her weaknesses and shortcomings. Promote her deficiencies over her strengths in your heart. In this case, her weaknesses are many and heavy: She is selfish and self-centred, immature, unforgiving, wicked, pretentious (because she never loved you from the outset), disrespectful, unfaithful, insulting, unloving, materialistic, ungodly, insincere, and not a woman for the home. (This kind of girl if you marry her and things ever get rough in your home, she will 'service other men'). Use that to move on. Her only strength is external beauty. My guy, that fades with time, what is physical beauty without character, it's a colouration, a coating, a decoration, an icing, and therefore, unsustainable. QED! |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by Nobody: 3:03am On Nov 14, 2018*. Modified: 9:36am On Nov 14, 2018 |
henritinecy:I understand how it feels, but at this point she's right. You need to make money, see guy money glues a relationship, if you have money your girl will respect you. Once the money is not their forget it! She kept telling you but you didn't listen, that day she ask you to leave the country and started crying is her confessing her frustration and disappointment. And I see you're frustrated and little things just get to you then you tell her it's over and she's tired of you being angry over little things because you are frustrated. Every woman who claims to love you have a threshold they can endure if you are broke. Some will stay on a condition that they will cheat and get the money elsewhere while they wait for you to blow but this can not work if you don't give them space to cheat. Others don't want to cheat but can't stay with you broke and I'll rather exit the relationship and it sounds like she falls in this category. You can't trust a woman with love or money, infact never believe what a woman tells you. She's just a proper definition of a gold digger who wants nothing but your money, since she saw you are broke, what has she done to help you? Rather than asking for 300k when she has a family. Ordinary girlfriend for that matter, your better off with a prostitute if you spend 300k at the rate of 2k per fvck, you will get 150 full time fvck and I'm she doesn't give you that in a year. Please their are good women who will complain but still help you stand and can adjust if they see you are making efforts they will stand by you, don't let this gold digger define your life. I'm surprised you even called her to beg, nawa for you oh. If you want to forget her, focus on the bad stuff about her alone and find a distraction. Making money should be a perfect distraction, vow that everyday you must make upto a perticular amount and take the hustle seriously. Find a way to eject the country, my father used to say anywhere you are, and you find yourself being prosperous don't move from that region because that is where you're destined to make it. Some stay in the village and become millionaires selling palm kanel, some travel abroad and hit it big but others come back with nothing. That country you where could be where you're supposed to be, I no know wetin carry you come back this yeye country we wan run commot. Hit it big and find yourself a woman who deserves you, she doesn't! No woman who tells you in the face the only thing she needs in a relationship is money deserves your time not to mention love. Such women are best kept as a sex thing, give them the money, chop your plate of fvck, wash your hand clean your mouth and return back to your hustle. Don't let a woman ever do this to you again bro, you're to young and you will meet far more beautiful ladies, you have not even seen anything. |
| Re: My Recent Breakup Experience: I Messed Up By Initiating The Breakup by zeus9634: 3:32am On Nov 14, 2018 |
Well sad thing is you have to let go, easier said than done but the truth be told she’s not yours. So go make money and eventually the right woman for you will come around.. |
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