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Dude, if the story you told here is the truth, you just do not know how blessed you're.

It's a rather common problem abroad-based and returnees face: very hard to know a girl or guy that loves you believing you have plenty of money and or foreign passport to enable him/her move abroad too.

This lady was sweet as long as you had enough money. Her "love" was an investment but you became "bad market" as you ran out of money. You weren't paying the dividends anymore.

Meanwhile other guys were coming along to impress her with money like some guys do. Even scoping in your presence.

While the girl (like most 9ja girls have learnt to do for decades now) was spreading her bet and hedging nicely, you kept falling in love and investing emotionally. He has practiced well due to frequent break ups, but you didn't. Very bad strategy. If you want to succeed in 9ja Romance jungle, you must learn very fast. No paddy for jungle.

Dude, no short-cut to over-coming heartbreak, time is the only healer. JUST MOVE ON DUDE. As hard as it might seem initially.

Ermmmm.......this final break up is the only thing you got right in this relationship.

Some women will leave you at the first sign of danger, mostly finance associated danger.

I wouldnt ask you to just stand up and leave, thats easier said than done, but truth is I think she has moved on and so should you.

Find something else to fill that void, you can travel abroad if you have the means, that way you will get over her quickly.

I wish you well my brother, I am still hurting from a breakup myself and I am trying real hard to move on, its not easy one bit, but you really need to let her go, time will help you. Like my ex girlfriend will say, “everybody go dey alright las las” I hated that quote though! ...lol

wise up man. the way she replied means she wanted to break up but u just made it easier for her. no girl that is deeply inlove replies like that. i think u really dont need her

Bro, I know exactly why ur hurt badly.

It's because she's the one that dumped u.
Search ur heart very well and see u don't luv her like u thought

It's easier to move on than u think. Trust me I experienced same thing in the past.

Solution?

Never look back! She will beg later to have u.

Rule Of Thumb

NEVER GIVE A SHIT! DON'T BECOME A PEST. MOVE ON AND STOP THOSE CHILDISH TEXT MSGS.

Your engine knocked, I suspect your village people. leave naija sharply, I heard no foreign country gives visa to village people for now
so they cant reach you oversea.

decatalyst:
Ogbeni, goan make legit money and let your success impress her.


But do not settle for her!

.

Person wey no get money dey love?abeg go hustle jo

highqueen:
Sorry go and make money.
Another good girl will come around.

Why did you remove that you super cute picture...now I am very sad

Pls,movec on she never loved u but ur money

Alepa:
So. This guy created a thread just one year ago asking what he can invest ten million naira into .
https://www.nairaland.com/4018243/advice-please-what-invest-n10000000#59911088

Within one year . The leech don suck ten million naira finish o.
Jeeesssuuu
Even my landed property no worth ten million naira o . Kai walai
There is god
That’s how a stupid bitch was telling me because I said why is she advocating for “give her this ,give her that” and not “give him”
Stupid bitches !
They’re all the same . Bastards .
Asan Oloriburuku

He made a good investment na. He invested on a gold digger. Please help me give him a hit slap. He really needs brain resetting. Hoes aren't loyal

Claireshan1:
This guy sef just thank God you guys broke up the girl never truly loved you but your money hence the reason her attitude changed when the money stopped coming through

I'll advise you to go hustler for yourself don't even think of going back to that girl


I wish I can see a guy that will love me this way,I always meet the opposite set of guys

Likewise me.Had a similar experience. But this girl doesn't love you Op. She has put money as the basis for the relationship which is what it has been. It's possible you can be with a woman that loves you genuinely.Money was the only thing you could offer in the relationship.You are lucky man.She is not a good person at all.

Anyway, I am more concerned about your car knocking. If you can't observe simple warning signs in the car you see and drive everyday... I am not surprised you didn't see the warning signs in your relationship.

You should be more concerned about your car too. I prefer my relationship breaks, than my car engine knocking... A new engine will cost a lot from Coscharis, a new boyfriend? That I can get in record time

henritinecy:
So I started dating this girl about this time last year. Things were rosy because I just came back to the country and I was having much money with me. I tried my best to give her what she wants. As times goes on, earlier on this year, we had a little misunderstanding and I initiated a breakup. Of a truth, the issue was minor and didn’t warrant a breakup. She sent my friends to beg me. We kept on going. Along the line, things became rough for me and suddenly, her respect for me started reducing. She hardly create time for us. She is currently in school in another state while I am in Lagos. At this point, we usually breakup up and come back. They were minor things though but sometimes we don’t talk for a while. The last time it happened, she said if we ever break up again, we are never coming back together. And then, When things started going wrong with me financially, she advised to leave the country that it will better me as well as her. But I declined. Gradually , our seeing time reduced. Sometimes she will be in Lagos and we will see just once or twice and she usually tell me that she is busy that’s why it’s like this.

Fast forward to last month. Her elder sister has a wedding and we needed to travel together. So we used my car. Half way into the journey my car engine knocked. The car had to be towed to Lagos while we continued our journey. She even provided part of te money we used in towing the car back to Lagos as well as paying the rest of the fare till we got to our destination. Meanwhile, She was talking to different guys on the phone though the conversations were not related to us but I felt this jealousy in me. While on the journey I asked her if there was someone else and she said no. I asked her to give me her phone and she did without arguing and even opened it. Then I returned it back to her without going through it. Then I asked her what I can do at this point. Cuz now there is no finance from anywhere coming in. As a matter of fact, I was using that particular car for Taxify and now the engine is down. She said she had told me before but I didn’t listen and that I should leave the country and things will be better for me again. I said okay am going to do it this time. So my mind was to come back to Lagos after the wedding and I sell it off. She was even crying while telling me.

On the day of the marriage I took another car from home and helped with the things I could. Taking her and her friends to and fro with respect to the wedding. The day after the wedding, she called me to come pick her from the hotel her friends that came for the wedding were lodging. I got there and we started taking things to the car I brought from the rooms her friends lodged. On our way to the car, a man stopped her and she was having a conversation with the man. And the man was laughing with her and even exchanging contact. This is a man in the 40s. At this point I was furious but I kept quiet. When she was done she came to the car and we set off for her house. She saw in me that I was angry. She then asked me what was wrong and I told her my mood has changed. She asked me to go drop her at the hotel and that when my mood is back on, I should come pick her. I then tuned back, and she came down. Cuz of the love I have for her, I didn’t want this to degenerate to something else. I came down I told her the act was wrong. She then told me if it’s wrong for her to talk to people and meet people because she is dating me. I said it’s not wrong but me being there, it’s disrespectful and besides there are ways she can tell me to excuse her in order to show that she is concerned about me. She then replied and said am speaking English. I felt so back with that statement. I just dropped her stuffs and drove back home.

When I got home, I sent her a long message on Instagram telling her that I cannot continue in this relationship. That I need my respect back and making money is the only value that will bring my respect back. She replied with just thanks. 3 days later, I couldn’t continue a life without her. I called her in the morning. At this point , she has blocked me from communicating with her on Instagram. I asked her to forgive me for what I said and that I was just frustrated with the way things ain’t going well with me, coupled with my car and finances. She told me that she cannot date me again and has moved on. I thought it was a joke. I kept on begging but she has made up her mind.

Last week, I started talking to her with a random account on Instagram and posed like someone that is interested in her and has feelings for her. I also told her that I am not in the country at the moment and will be back next month. For 5 consecutive days we were talking. She even initiated a video call and I declined. Then I asked her about her relationship and she said it’s complicated. That she hasn’t heard from the guy in 2 weeks. And explained all that happened to him. She revealed so many things to me via that conversation. Then I now called her with my number. She then knew I was the one. I started pleading with her again , telling her that I am sorry. She said she has moved on. That the only language she understands now is money which I cannot offer her. That she is tired of this love thing. That if I beg from now till forever , she is not interested. That I should go and make money. That she needs someone that can pay her bills and that the only thing she can do for me is being friends with me. Of a truth she needs money to pay her school fees plus accommodation fee in school which is upward from N300,000 and I cannot provide that now. So she said she needs someone that can be giving her money and that she has suffered enough; But dating me, she can never do that again.

I love this girl and it’s hard to let go. Maybe with time, I will. But how do I let go of what I feel for her and how can I move ahead at this point? Yes she has motivated me to go make money and be a better person. But it hurts me so bad that after making this money, some other lady will be the one spending the rest of my life with me. Yes I bleeped up by not listening to her when she first asked me to leave the country. And I bleeped up by initiating a breakup due to my frustration. But my heart lies with her and hopefully with time, I will heal and make enough money that this experience will be a thing that will make me smile when I look back and think about it.

Please anyone that has gotten over someone you have been so much emotionally attached to, I need your help towards getting over her because right now, the whole experience is killing me.

Thank You

Bro. It clearly shows that you love the girl more.
What I will advise you is to just do everything to forget her.

Lemme tell you some hard truth son, you're only infatuated!

Pure juvenile infatuation!

And, to be honest with you, whether you win her back or not, you'll eventually wish you had remain single and enjoy your life!

Most, and I mean, MOST womenfolk are a handful, and I think sometimes, nay most times we over hype congujal relationships.


So, LET THIS SINK INTO YOUR MASCULINE SKULL... GUY, LET HER GO!

Claireshan1:
This guy sef just thank God you guys broke up the girl never truly loved you but your money hence the reason her attitude changed when the money stopped coming through

I'll advise you to go hustler for yourself don't even think of going back to that girl


I wish I can see a guy that will love me this way,I always meet the opposite set of guys

pls connect with OP, he need the type of you. and not this shithole that put him in a one corner type of relationship.

God saved you.... Just go give testimony say your destiny waster has departed from you.....and put something tangible in the offering box ... Cos this one worse pass fatal accident

Olafisoyem:
God bless you in Jesus name. There are many girls like you in our dear country

I am humbled... gracias. Na pesin bro e fit be nah

Op please don't listen to all these people, just go and do that thing teebillz couldn't complete, but complete your own o, you'll feel alright afterwards. Natural selection is real and must continue.

OP, don't learn the wrong lessons by following one-sided comments that overwhelmingly seem to demonize women who love money or who purportedly love because of money. More than 90 percent of ladies would choose Dangote or Bill Gate's son ahead of a random dude from nowhere. It's in the nature of humans to gravitate towards region of maximum comfortability. It's not wrong to love someone simply for the money just same way folks love for the looks, fame, sex, shape and intelligence etc. In your case, you failed to spot her motivation and when she's had enough of you, she moved on. She didn't even have to initiate the breakup since she was way smarter than your stupid a$$. Don't deceive yourself with some implied notion she won't make it and would come back to you once you are back on your feet. She might just end up with your employer or even being your employer since she is quite clear about her motivation and would go for it.

Don't be too emotionally invested in a woman who is NOT your wife. There is no for better for worse in dating, it's just an experiment that may or not work. Be always at alert to move on in a moment's notice. If she's good enough to warrant smashing, smash and leave. Don't waste her time and yours as well.

When you mentioned that you went home to take another car when yours broke down made me realised that you are brought up with a silver spoon. You returned to Nigeria with some change and you decided spending it on an Olosho-turned girl friend.

Why did you beg for luv? There are still good girls outside there. And right now, find a way to fill that vacuum in you so that you will not be running after another girl that will bring you down soonest.

henritinecy:
So I started dating this girl about this time last year. Things were rosy because I just came back to the country and I was having much money with me. I tried my best to give her what she wants. As times goes on, earlier on this year, we had a little misunderstanding and I initiated a breakup. Of a truth, the issue was minor and didn’t warrant a breakup. She sent my friends to beg me. We kept on going. Along the line, things became rough for me and suddenly, her respect for me started reducing. She hardly create time for us. She is currently in school in another state while I am in Lagos. At this point, we usually breakup up and come back. They were minor things though but sometimes we don’t talk for a while. The last time it happened, she said if we ever break up again, we are never coming back together. And then, When things started going wrong with me financially, she advised to leave the country that it will better me as well as her. But I declined. Gradually , our seeing time reduced. Sometimes she will be in Lagos and we will see just once or twice and she usually tell me that she is busy that’s why it’s like this.

Fast forward to last month. Her elder sister has a wedding and we needed to travel together. So we used my car. Half way into the journey my car engine knocked. The car had to be towed to Lagos while we continued our journey. She even provided part of te money we used in towing the car back to Lagos as well as paying the rest of the fare till we got to our destination. Meanwhile, She was talking to different guys on the phone though the conversations were not related to us but I felt this jealousy in me. While on the journey I asked her if there was someone else and she said no. I asked her to give me her phone and she did without arguing and even opened it. Then I returned it back to her without going through it. Then I asked her what I can do at this point. Cuz now there is no finance from anywhere coming in. As a matter of fact, I was using that particular car for Taxify and now the engine is down. She said she had told me before but I didn’t listen and that I should leave the country and things will be better for me again. I said okay am going to do it this time. So my mind was to come back to Lagos after the wedding and I sell it off. She was even crying while telling me.

On the day of the marriage I took another car from home and helped with the things I could. Taking her and her friends to and fro with respect to the wedding. The day after the wedding, she called me to come pick her from the hotel her friends that came for the wedding were lodging. I got there and we started taking things to the car I brought from the rooms her friends lodged. On our way to the car, a man stopped her and she was having a conversation with the man. And the man was laughing with her and even exchanging contact. This is a man in the 40s. At this point I was furious but I kept quiet. When she was done she came to the car and we set off for her house. She saw in me that I was angry. She then asked me what was wrong and I told her my mood has changed. She asked me to go drop her at the hotel and that when my mood is back on, I should come pick her. I then tuned back, and she came down. Cuz of the love I have for her, I didn’t want this to degenerate to something else. I came down I told her the act was wrong. She then told me if it’s wrong for her to talk to people and meet people because she is dating me. I said it’s not wrong but me being there, it’s disrespectful and besides there are ways she can tell me to excuse her in order to show that she is concerned about me. She then replied and said am speaking English. I felt so back with that statement. I just dropped her stuffs and drove back home.

When I got home, I sent her a long message on Instagram telling her that I cannot continue in this relationship. That I need my respect back and making money is the only value that will bring my respect back. She replied with just thanks. 3 days later, I couldn’t continue a life without her. I called her in the morning. At this point , she has blocked me from communicating with her on Instagram. I asked her to forgive me for what I said and that I was just frustrated with the way things ain’t going well with me, coupled with my car and finances. She told me that she cannot date me again and has moved on. I thought it was a joke. I kept on begging but she has made up her mind.

Last week, I started talking to her with a random account on Instagram and posed like someone that is interested in her and has feelings for her. I also told her that I am not in the country at the moment and will be back next month. For 5 consecutive days we were talking. She even initiated a video call and I declined. Then I asked her about her relationship and she said it’s complicated. That she hasn’t heard from the guy in 2 weeks. And explained all that happened to him. She revealed so many things to me via that conversation. Then I now called her with my number. She then knew I was the one. I started pleading with her again , telling her that I am sorry. She said she has moved on. That the only language she understands now is money which I cannot offer her. That she is tired of this love thing. That if I beg from now till forever , she is not interested. That I should go and make money. That she needs someone that can pay her bills and that the only thing she can do for me is being friends with me. Of a truth she needs money to pay her school fees plus accommodation fee in school which is upward from N300,000 and I cannot provide that now. So she said she needs someone that can be giving her money and that she has suffered enough; But dating me, she can never do that again.

I love this girl and it’s hard to let go. Maybe with time, I will. But how do I let go of what I feel for her and how can I move ahead at this point? Yes she has motivated me to go make money and be a better person. But it hurts me so bad that after making this money, some other lady will be the one spending the rest of my life with me. Yes I bleeped up by not listening to her when she first asked me to leave the country. And I bleeped up by initiating a breakup due to my frustration. But my heart lies with her and hopefully with time, I will heal and make enough money that this experience will be a thing that will make me smile when I look back and think about it.

Please anyone that has gotten over someone you have been so much emotionally attached to, I need your help towards getting over her because right now, the whole experience is killing me.

Thank You

Guy you need to grow up and stop acting like a 16yrs guy. You acted childishly toward the girl that is why she took you for granted. Forget the girl and start planning your life. When your are made she and her friends will start falling for you

I thought men like you were only prototpes made in China? You have low-self esteem and it takes a woman like her to inflict a lot of pain on you.. Buy and read this novel: Eve by James Hardely Chase

henritinecy:
So I started dating this girl about this time last year. Things were rosy because I just came back to the country and I was having much money with me. I tried my best to give her what she wants. As times goes on, earlier on this year, we had a little misunderstanding and I initiated a breakup. Of a truth, the issue was minor and didn’t warrant a breakup. She sent my friends to beg me. We kept on going. Along the line, things became rough for me and suddenly, her respect for me started reducing. She hardly create time for us. She is currently in school in another state while I am in Lagos. At this point, we usually breakup up and come back. They were minor things though but sometimes we don’t talk for a while. The last time it happened, she said if we ever break up again, we are never coming back together. And then, When things started going wrong with me financially, she advised to leave the country that it will better me as well as her. But I declined. Gradually , our seeing time reduced. Sometimes she will be in Lagos and we will see just once or twice and she usually tell me that she is busy that’s why it’s like this.

Fast forward to last month. Her elder sister has a wedding and we needed to travel together. So we used my car. Half way into the journey my car engine knocked. The car had to be towed to Lagos while we continued our journey. She even provided part of te money we used in towing the car back to Lagos as well as paying the rest of the fare till we got to our destination. Meanwhile, She was talking to different guys on the phone though the conversations were not related to us but I felt this jealousy in me. While on the journey I asked her if there was someone else and she said no. I asked her to give me her phone and she did without arguing and even opened it. Then I returned it back to her without going through it. Then I asked her what I can do at this point. Cuz now there is no finance from anywhere coming in. As a matter of fact, I was using that particular car for Taxify and now the engine is down. She said she had told me before but I didn’t listen and that I should leave the country and things will be better for me again. I said okay am going to do it this time. So my mind was to come back to Lagos after the wedding and I sell it off. She was even crying while telling me.

On the day of the marriage I took another car from home and helped with the things I could. Taking her and her friends to and fro with respect to the wedding. The day after the wedding, she called me to come pick her from the hotel her friends that came for the wedding were lodging. I got there and we started taking things to the car I brought from the rooms her friends lodged. On our way to the car, a man stopped her and she was having a conversation with the man. And the man was laughing with her and even exchanging contact. This is a man in the 40s. At this point I was furious but I kept quiet. When she was done she came to the car and we set off for her house. She saw in me that I was angry. She then asked me what was wrong and I told her my mood has changed. She asked me to go drop her at the hotel and that when my mood is back on, I should come pick her. I then tuned back, and she came down. Cuz of the love I have for her, I didn’t want this to degenerate to something else. I came down I told her the act was wrong. She then told me if it’s wrong for her to talk to people and meet people because she is dating me. I said it’s not wrong but me being there, it’s disrespectful and besides there are ways she can tell me to excuse her in order to show that she is concerned about me. She then replied and said am speaking English. I felt so back with that statement. I just dropped her stuffs and drove back home.

When I got home, I sent her a long message on Instagram telling her that I cannot continue in this relationship. That I need my respect back and making money is the only value that will bring my respect back. She replied with just thanks. 3 days later, I couldn’t continue a life without her. I called her in the morning. At this point , she has blocked me from communicating with her on Instagram. I asked her to forgive me for what I said and that I was just frustrated with the way things ain’t going well with me, coupled with my car and finances. She told me that she cannot date me again and has moved on. I thought it was a joke. I kept on begging but she has made up her mind.

Last week, I started talking to her with a random account on Instagram and posed like someone that is interested in her and has feelings for her. I also told her that I am not in the country at the moment and will be back next month. For 5 consecutive days we were talking. She even initiated a video call and I declined. Then I asked her about her relationship and she said it’s complicated. That she hasn’t heard from the guy in 2 weeks. And explained all that happened to him. She revealed so many things to me via that conversation. Then I now called her with my number. She then knew I was the one. I started pleading with her again , telling her that I am sorry. She said she has moved on. That the only language she understands now is money which I cannot offer her. That she is tired of this love thing. That if I beg from now till forever , she is not interested. That I should go and make money. That she needs someone that can pay her bills and that the only thing she can do for me is being friends with me. Of a truth she needs money to pay her school fees plus accommodation fee in school which is upward from N300,000 and I cannot provide that now. So she said she needs someone that can be giving her money and that she has suffered enough; But dating me, she can never do that again.

I love this girl and it’s hard to let go. Maybe with time, I will. But how do I let go of what I feel for her and how can I move ahead at this point? Yes she has motivated me to go make money and be a better person. But it hurts me so bad that after making this money, some other lady will be the one spending the rest of my life with me. Yes I bleeped up by not listening to her when she first asked me to leave the country. And I bleeped up by initiating a breakup due to my frustration. But my heart lies with her and hopefully with time, I will heal and make enough money that this experience will be a thing that will make me smile when I look back and think about it.

Please anyone that has gotten over someone you have been so much emotionally attached to, I need your help towards getting over her because right now, the whole experience is killing me.

Thank You

bros this same thing happened to me I swear is like you re talking to me

Claireshan1:
This guy sef just thank God you guys broke up the girl never truly loved you but your money hence the reason her attitude changed when the money stopped coming through

I'll advise you to go hustler for yourself don't even think of going back to that girl


I wish I can see a guy that will love me this way,I always meet the opposite set of guys

This life is not fair my dear

It's like this op wants to be unfortunate in life sha. How can you be begging such a person to stay in your life? The only woman you should beg is the one you hurt genuinely, not a gold digging leech who's only interested in you for the money. Get your ass up and go hustle and when you make that money, spend it with a girl who is worthy of it. People like us no kukuma know wetin dem dey call heart break again. If we date and the matter come de be like say e done dey get K leg, all man go just find him square root. We done pass level wey babe go misbehave, we go come dey do like who want die because of that.

Donjazzy12:
Serves you right! Another foolish young man who lives for pussy! You are a total embarrassment to men! Tell me one good quality your gold digging prostitute girlfriend has. Just one. You bury your entire destiny in the rotten pussy of an ungrateful prostitute! Even some prostitutes who stand by the road side has better qualities than the money monger you call your girlfriend.

Move on idiot, if you still have some sense left in you! At your age, you still think money is the only thing that keeps a woman. Idiot!!

I swear na this kind paddy I dey find. if I get paddy wey dey knack me this kind raw advice wey you dey give op walai, I'll never make mistake in life

Chai! My broda why na?

You are in a relationship with a runs girl and her coded runs was in existence even before you both started the relationship.


Have a wonderful day

pocohantas:
Anyway, I am more concerned about your car knocking. If you can't observe simple warning signs in the car you see and drive everyday... I am not surprised you didn't see the warning signs in your relationship.

You should be more concerned about your car too. I prefer my relationship breaks, than my car engine knocking... A new engine will cost a lot from Coscharis, a new boyfriend? That I can get in record time

You this girl, you have come again. What exactly are you trying to tell him?

U need a dirty slap to reset ur brain so u can start thinking right again...
Do u want to kill urself because of a woman? Are u stupid?

Abeg what is the name of the car that knocked?

sonofoluku:
Why did you remove that you super cute picture...now I am very sad

Sorry, better one will come soon.