| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by Nobody: 2:20pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
Cheating is different things to different people...if you are in the type of relationship that allows sex with other people , that's not considered cheating. Personally for me , cheating has nothing to do with sexual pleasure per say...it's more of an emotional thing. I rate emotional cheating higher than sexual cheating. 4 Likes |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by LadyHeaven(f): 2:24pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
wolesmile:
No one can actually say what they'll do under any given circumstance, until they are faced with the situation. Many might want to argue this, but it is just the plain truth.
I used to think I can't forgive being cheated on.... until it happened to me. I was mad... raging mad!!!
I almost beat the hell out of her!!!
I said it was over.
But then, after cooling off for a few days, I started remembering the number of times I have cheated on her. Several times I have had to lie when almost caught. Then I knew I was wrong. I was even the one that eventually went to beg her. Though we didn't eventually marry (Just a kid between us), but the separation had nothing to do with cheating on either side.
Don't say you can or not, until you are faced with the situation....
My Opinion, though. Just ke? a whole pikin, that one nah forever bond  2 Likes |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by Nobody: 2:42pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
Yes.. But the trust/love we once shared would be forever gone |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by ojuoluwani(m): 2:58pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
wolesmile:
No one can actually say what they'll do under any given circumstance, until they are faced with the situation. Many might want to argue this, but it is just the plain truth.
I used to think I can't forgive being cheated on.... until it happened to me. I was mad... raging mad!!!
I almost beat the hell out of her!!!
I said it was over.
But then, after cooling off for a few days, I started remembering the number of times I have cheated on her. Several times I have had to lie when almost caught. Then I knew I was wrong. I was even the one that eventually went to beg her. Though we didn't eventually marry (Just a kid between us), but the separation had nothing to do with cheating on either side.
Don't say you can or not, until you are faced with the situation....
My Opinion, though. the one happening to me right now look like she is cheating on me but never imagine how it can even happened. what happened was I discovered that she has been receiving call from a particular man for some time now and I became so worried, but just to cut the story short few days ago I opened her phone and I got some messages both on her WhatsApp and Facebook very romantic messages when I mean romantic messages i mean hot romantic messages I couldn't believe my eyes but I just calm down, I ask her she said there is nothing between two of them I ask her to explain those messages yet she couldn't, I av never seen her in this act before even never for once, I am thinking of telling my pastor or to just end the relationship cos I av never cheated on her and I trusted her soo much before this happened , for over 4 days now she irritates me in fact I am very confused now, don't forget she is my wife and the man we are talking about here is older than her father and at the same time the man is not rich the man is just a recharge card hawker . 1 Like |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by VERDA: 3:02pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
GoTV:
Even though I'm a born again Christian, cheating is prevalent amongst we Christians because of the indecent ways we dress unlike our Muslim counterparts who are mostly covered and guided by the tenets of Islam.  This guy...all ur statements start with "even though am a born again christian" and ends with you finding a way to insult the religion....convert na,make we hear word. 3 Likes |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by Nobody: 3:09pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
Of course I will forgive but I so pray it never happens to me |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by kernel001: 3:20pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
wolesmile:
No one can actually say what they'll do under any given circumstance, until they are faced with the situation. Many might want to argue this, but it is just the plain truth.
I used to think I can't forgive being cheated on.... until it happened to me. I was mad... raging mad!!!
I almost beat the hell out of her!!!
I said it was over.
But then, after cooling off for a few days, I started remembering the number of times I have cheated on her. Several times I have had to lie when almost caught. Then I knew I was wrong. I was even the one that eventually went to beg her. Though we didn't eventually marry (Just a kid between us), but the separation had nothing to do with cheating on either side.
Don't say you can or not, until you are faced with the situation....
My Opinion, though. One thing makes you different from good number of people passing judgment, they wouldn't judge themselves before judging others. I will prefer placing myself in the same shoe, it will enable me to be human in my judgment. |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by kernel001: 3:21pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
vingeophysicist:
My problem is not forgiving you. I will definitely forgive you but I will never forget. This simply means I will never trust her again with the opposite sex. If you can forgive, just allow her the opportunity to prove herself once more. 1 Like |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by Perfectnumber6(m): 3:30pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
selfwife:
few months back, I would have break my head on any brick just to prove my then sweetheart, my world and everything won't cheat. I was doing everything with caution just the way I know he loves it. I was selfless and gave my all. but today, at his sight I curse.i don't know why Nigerian men take advantage of soft nice selfless ladies. I have forgiven him but because I fear for my life, my vagina is sealed towards him now and forever more. If he had cheated with a younger girl, better cook, perfume lover, etc I would have understood and forgiven after a whole month of thinking and rethinking. but no he cheated and is still in the relationship because the woman has more money than both of us. God I really don't know what I had done or even what I should do. thank God I am self reliant. I would have suffered emotionally than this..... the reason for cheating is not to be overlooked as the same thing will still repeat itself and I wouldn't want anyone behind bars for the rest of their lives for the murder of a cheating partner. . Nice one dear and how would you classify a girl you caught cheating and sex chatting multiple times, you forgave her but she tried to make you the victim later on she promised to change but to no avail? 2 Likes |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by Nobody: 3:37pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
kernel001:
If you can forgive, just allow her the opportunity to prove herself once more. I will definitely forgive her by treating her same way we met but the problem is forgetting the incidence. If I see her in a suspicious position with the opposite sex it will definitely make me feel insecure because of my previous experience with her. |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by Starboytwo(m): 3:40pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
ojuoluwani:
the one happening to me right now look like she is cheating on me but never imagine how it can even happened. what happened was I discovered that she has been receiving call from a particular man for some time now and I became so worried, but just to cut the story short few days ago I opened her phone and I got some messages both on her WhatsApp and Facebook very romantic messages when I mean romantic messages i mean hot romantic messages I couldn't believe my eyes but I just calm down, I ask her she said there is nothing between two of them I ask her to explain those messages yet she couldn't, I av never seen her in this act before even never for once, I am thinking of telling my pastor or to just end the relationship cos I av never cheated on her and I trusted her soo much before this happened , for over 4 days now she irritates me in fact I am very confused now, don't forget she is my wife and the man we are talking about here is older than her father and at the same time the man is not rich the man is just a recharge card hawker . this is strong... experience people should QOUTE you instead... |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by kernel001: 4:16pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
vingeophysicist:
I will definitely forgive her by treating her same way we met but the problem is forgetting the incidence. If I see her in a suspicious position with the opposite sex it will definitely make me feel insecure because of my previous experience with her. It's a normal feeling in such situation. I'm proud of your humanity. |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by lielbree: 4:17pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
TonyeBarcanista:
It doesn't matter Yes it does! If you can't stay faithful don't expect your partner to! 2 Likes |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by Sh1g1d1: 4:34pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
planetx13:
Forgiving a cheat is not a problem....(Anybody can be tempted) ... the problem is forgiving a serial and an unrepentant cheat ...trust me it's not worth it... You only get waves of heartbreak.
If my woman cheats and she is remorseful about it, why not?? .. I will forgive her and even forget it ever happened..... after all, the bible says - to sin is human and to forgive is divine...
Ciao |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by IsabellaAva: 4:37pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
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| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by Zeeeeeeeeee: 4:45pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
it's so difficult. The memories will keep playing in your head. |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by wolesmile(m): 4:54pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
ojuoluwani:
the one happening to me right now look like she is cheating on me but never imagine how it can even happened. what happened was I discovered that she has been receiving call from a particular man for some time now and I became so worried, but just to cut the story short few days ago I opened her phone and I got some messages both on her WhatsApp and Facebook very romantic messages when I mean romantic messages i mean hot romantic messages I couldn't believe my eyes but I just calm down, I ask her she said there is nothing between two of them I ask her to explain those messages yet she couldn't, I av never seen her in this act before even never for once, I am thinking of telling my pastor or to just end the relationship cos I av never cheated on her and I trusted her soo much before this happened , for over 4 days now she irritates me in fact I am very confused now, don't forget she is my wife and the man we are talking about here is older than her father and at the same time the man is not rich the man is just a recharge card hawker . Imagine!! Some women just lack dignity... |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by wolesmile(m): 5:01pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
LadyHeaven:
Just ke? a whole pikin, that one nah forever bond We've had the kid before the whole cheating thing. It happened when she went for Youth service in far away Maiduguri. Part of the reason I even eventually overlooked her fault was that I lived with a woman during my one year service. So if I refuse to forgive her, will I expect God to forgive me? 1 Like |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 5:15pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
lielbree:
Yes it does! If you can't stay faithful don't expect your partner to! I don talk my own Bros |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by Pelaiye2703(m): 5:37pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
vingeophysicist:
My problem is not forgiving you. I will definitely forgive you but I will never forget. This simply means I will never trust her again with the opposite sex. I’m still battling with this feelings. She cheated on me and find it hard to trust her again. Though she’s been forgiven. I just find it difficult to forget. |
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| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by Nobody: 5:51pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
if a guy cheats on me and still wants me to forgive and forget, he will pay me forgiveness allowance of a car and 2 plots of land. forgetting allowance is 5million. to have sex with me again allowance. he will give me his atm card to vent my anger. |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by Yoighaman(m): 5:57pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
wolesmile:
No one can actually say what they'll do under any given circumstance, until they are faced with the situation. Many might want to argue this, but it is just the plain truth.
I used to think I can't forgive being cheated on.... until it happened to me. I was mad... raging mad!!!
I almost beat the hell out of her!!!
I said it was over.
But then, after cooling off for a few days, I started remembering the number of times I have cheated on her. Several times I have had to lie when almost caught. Then I knew I was wrong. I was even the one that eventually went to beg her. Though we didn't eventually marry (Just a kid between us), but the separation had nothing to do with cheating on either side.
Don't say you can or not, until you are faced with the situation....
My Opinion, though. I love this. 1 Like |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by Yoighaman(m): 5:58pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
internationalman:
Trust me babe it's more painful when your wife cheats on you with someone better than u in all ramifications..
In this scenario u would be very dejected and low self-esteem will set in plus u will feel insecure. And eventually u would feel u don't deserve your wife..
Now the reverse is the case if you are better than who she cheated on u with... You will gladly and boldly though, painfully boot her out of your house..
This scenario would make you feel she's the one who doesn't deserve you. Plus you would feel u deserve better...
Love this as well. 1 Like |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by Nobody: 6:05pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
Pelaiye2703:
I’m still battling with this feelings. She cheated on me and find it hard to trust her again. Though she’s been forgiven. I just find it difficult to forget. it is normal. Just pull out of the relationship but assure her you have forgiven her. |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by GaggleNSwallow: 6:13pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
GoTV:
Even though I'm a born again Christian, cheating is prevalent amongst we Christians because of the indecent ways we dress unlike our Muslim counterparts who are mostly covered and guided by the tenets of Islam. And it's shocking that despite the fact that Moooooooslims are more mindful with the way they dress their women and underage kids still get raped and humiliated. Maybe that's what Allahu wants. |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by MajesticD(m): 6:14pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
NEVER.... I simply walk away. No two ways about it, if as a guy I can stay faithful, she then has no other choice than doing same. |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by ManuelNate1: 6:21pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
ojuoluwani:
the one happening to me right now look like she is cheating on me but never imagine how it can even happened. what happened was I discovered that she has been receiving call from a particular man for some time now and I became so worried, but just to cut the story short few days ago I opened her phone and I got some messages both on her WhatsApp and Facebook very romantic messages when I mean romantic messages i mean hot romantic messages I couldn't believe my eyes but I just calm down, I ask her she said there is nothing between two of them I ask her to explain those messages yet she couldn't, I av never seen her in this act before even never for once, I am thinking of telling my pastor or to just end the relationship cos I av never cheated on her and I trusted her soo much before this happened , for over 4 days now she irritates me in fact I am very confused now, don't forget she is my wife and the man we are talking about here is older than her father and at the same time the man is not rich the man is just a recharge card hawker . Ur wife is possessed sir. I can forgive a cheating girlfrnd buh neva wife her... For a cheating wife, she ceases to b my wife d very day I catch her. |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by Nobody: 6:22pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
No, I won't forgive that. |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by ADRIAN88(m): 6:41pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
internationalman:
Trust me babe it's more painful when your wife cheats on you with someone better than u in all ramifications..
In this scenario u would be very dejected and low self-esteem will set in plus u will feel insecure. And eventually u would feel u don't deserve your wife..
Now the reverse is the case if you are better than who she cheated on u with... You will gladly and boldly though, painfully boot her out of your house..
This scenario would make you feel she's the one who doesn't deserve you. Plus you would feel u deserve better...
International man! Wise words! Let's flip the coin a little; still using the last scenerio, you better (well off too) than she is, and you still go ahead to cheat on her, what happens in that case? Thanks! |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by internationalman(m): 6:50pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
ADRIAN88:
International man! Wise words! Let's flip the coin a little; still using the last scenerio, you better (well off too) than she is, and you still go ahead to cheat on her, what happens in that case? Thanks! Well your question put me in a state of dilemma.. Can't answer it.. 1 Like |
| Re: Would You Forgive Being Cheated On? by mhizbel(f): 6:54pm On Nov 21, 2018 |
What will I be doing with a cheater? |
