franchasng:
My mentor, preach on sir...tell them.

Money is the major ingredient of today marriage cos we are in a capitalist, monetized world....without money love can never be sustained.

Guys should always remember, that your 300k or 500k monthly income cannot sustain you + broke/unemployed wife + broke in-laws demands + your own parent's upkeep + kids (when kids start coming).....it will weigh you down.

That's why you see guys that bought a car while single, after they marry, they keep driving the same car for 5yrs and above no change, no new building project, no new business startup, just to eat, pay house rent, pay children school fees, and the year ends and the cycle continues till kids become teenagers, then graduates and daddy and mummy have no business or company or tangible investment for them to inherit and start life with....they continue with the suffering daddy and mummy started with again and it goes on and on till God knows when.

These things are not the hand work of village witches, it is the hand work of Nigerian men indirectly encouraging Nigerian women to be lazy and dependent on men alone, it has to stop for Nigeria to grow and progress as a nation

You have been dropping it like it is hot on here. Great thoughts tho

Ugosample:




That's good

But what I find interesting is that, if a woman (most women) have this in mind, why are they criticizing the OP and other men for wanting same

What's their problem with that?

Everyone Cant agree, we just have to learn to respect each others opinion. D fact that i like it doesnt mean everyone must like it

DukeofNZ:


Every time you say you sane and beta man and feel like say you be good person and blessing to women needing good man for marriage. Your ex-woman pocohantas also claim say she be good woman and sane and needing a beta not alpha man for marriage. Now my conclusion be say as two of you no last for the relationship and always fighting for nairaland it means say the two of you be mad people.

Now I know why normal people say mad people no the know and agree say they mad.

Comment of the year for me.

DukeofNZ:


Every time you say you sane and beta man and feel like say you be good person and blessing to women needing good man for marriage. Your ex-woman pocohantas also claim say she be good woman and sane and needing a beta not alpha man for marriage. Now my conclusion be say as two of you no last for the relationship and always fighting for nairaland it means say the two of you be mad people.

Now I know why normal people say mad people no the know and agree say they mad.

Two of them get same mental problem. Now i hear say Pocohantas is dating Lordko and my source tell me say they are planning to marry anytime soon.

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Lordko

gloria34:
I understand Ur point. i'm from a poor home (average kind of), trying to make way for myself, supporting my family then i will go ahead and marry someone i earn more than with financial responsibilities like me, even my spirit will not agree

By the time you keep looking for a bigger earner and don't marry those same family members you are being responsible to, will yab you behind your back.

pocohantas:




Are these ones stupid or what?
Who is whose woman? And when have I ever said I want a beta male? Or I am a good woman? If you people are looking for who to use display your foolishness, please pick someone else.

Dating indeed...
Foolish gossips.

i don't even know what good lordko see in you. i trust my source

MissR69:


i don't even know what good lordko see in you. i trust my source

You won't know na. Na only him know.

Elder0001:


The same thing the lady will do with his money even though she has her own money

Elderly reply there.

The challenge with marrying someone from poor background is; one never knows if she is marrying just for the money and what she will manifest if the money peradventure dries. Just like a niaja guy dating a white lady. I heard of someone who trained a girl in school, trained her and her two siblings in vocational skills, yet she left over a flimsy excuse. Probably because she never loved him anyway but was just hanging around for the money for her family all the while.


Also her family's financial burdens becomes his while has no go-to from her side when in financial stress.

Also there is a subliminal class war between the rich and the poor which can, if both partners are not mentally and emotionally matured enough, lead to mutual negative bias, ego clashes and inter loathing bringing psychological strain on both parties. All these happens at a subconscious level and both partner may not even know why they quarrel over trivialities soo long the marriage has to crash.


However, genuine people from poor background abounds. Soo test all spirit. Personally I believe a girl who can't give a guy money is not in love with him so the main test of a womans love is if she can spare her money for a guy( + still be humble to him) but how can one conduct such test when the girl does not have money?


Beyond all these, he that findeth a wife................obtains favour from the lord.. So dont find a girlfrenemy and take as wife o.

princfred:
The challenge with marrying someone from poor is one never knows if she is marrying just for the money and what she will manifest if the money peradventure dries. Just like a niaja guy dating a white lady. I heard of someone who trained a girl in school, trained her and her two siblings in vocational skills, yet she left over a flimsy excuse. Probably because she never loved him anyway but was just hanging around for the money for her family all the while.

Also there is a subliminal class war between the rich and the poor which can, if both partners are not mentally and emotionally matured enough, lead to mutual negative bias, ego clashes and inter loathing bringing psychological strain on both parties. All these happens at a subconscious level and both partner may not even know why the quarrel over trivialities.


However, genuine people from poor background abounds. Soo test all spirit. Personally I believe a girl who can't give a guy money is not in love with him so the main test of a womans love is if she can spare her money for a guy but how can one conduct such test when the girl does not have money?

fact is poor ppl marry poor ppl and rich ppl always prefer the company of the rich. Its the same all over the world. If u are a lady and u are dead broke and u hoping to get married to Dangote's son then u might just end up dreaming for life. Same with a guy who has no job but just lazes about and hope to marry a multi billioniare's dauther. Na where dat one wan happen. If u have d desire of marrying the rich then such a person needs to upgrade himself/herself.

gloria34:
I understand Ur point. i'm from a poor home (average kind of), trying to make way for myself, supporting my family then i will go ahead and marry someone i earn more than with financial responsibilities like me, even my spirit will not agree

there are still some average families that dont have fanancial responsibilites. Na dose ones wey dey born plenty dey impose financial responsibilities on their first and second sibling. U can imagine a gateman earning 10k a month and having 5 wives with 38 children. Why wont such a family be afflicted with financial responsiblites.

lefulefu:
fact is poor ppl marry poor ppl and rich ppl always prefer the company of the rich. Its the same all over the world. If u are a lady and u are dead broke and u hoping to get married to Dangote's son then u might just end up dreaming for life. Same with a guy who has no job but just lazes about and hope to marry a multi billioniare's dauther. Na where dat one wan happen. If u have d desire of marrying the rich then such a person needs to upgrade himself/herself.

That's the usual desire of the rich and poor and in reality its usually rich to rich. In terms of upgrade, how can a lady from a poor background upgrade to entice or attract someone like Dangote's son? Such kind of union between rich and poor are just mainly by luck. Many parents from rich background even warn their children especially daughters not to near poor guys. What do you think is part of the main reason they send them to costly schools? Sometimes the guys break out from parental control/induced ideologies and marry whoever. For ladies, not so easy. So what upgrading can do has a ceiling.

princfred:
That's the usual desire of the rich and poor and in reality its usually rich to rich. In terms of upgrade, how can a lady Fromm from poor background upgrade to entice or attract someone like Dangote's son? Such kind off union between rich and poor are just mainly by luck. Many parents from rich background even warn their children especially daughters not to near poor guys. Why do you think is part of the main reason send them to costly schools? Sometimes the guys break out from parental control/induced ideologies and marry whoever. For ladies, not so easy.

Blood of wiz kid. This guy sha

princfred:
The challenge with marrying someone from poor background is one never knows if she is marrying just for the money and what she will manifest if the money peradventure dries. Just like a niaja guy dating a white lady. I heard of someone who trained a girl in school, trained her and her two siblings in vocational skills, yet she left over a flimsy excuse. Probably because she never loved him anyway but was just hanging around for the money for her family all the while.


Also her family financial burdens becomes his while has no go-to from her side when in financial stress.

Also there is a subliminal class war between the rich and the poor which can, if both partners are not mentally and emotionally matured enough, lead to mutual negative bias, ego clashes and inter loathing bringing psychological strain on both parties. All these happens at a subconscious level and both partner may not even know why they quarrel over trivialities soo long the marriage has to crash.


However, genuine people from poor background abounds. Soo test all spirit. Personally I believe a girl who can't give a guy money is not in love with him so the main test of a womans love is if she can spare her money for a guy but how can one conduct such test when the girl does not have money?


Beyond all these, he that findeth a wife................obtains favour from the lord.. So dont find a girlfrenemy and take as wife o.

This is amazing. Truth in every sentence

kunleweb:



Blood of wiz kid. This guy sha

My man long time. Abeg no mind the grammatical oops/blunders there as am typing with half concentration and half of my brain is asleep as matters no dey let man sleep well.

Noticed you've been off for quite sometime. Welcome.

princfred:
My man long time. Abeg no mind the grammatical blunders theere as am typing with half concentration and half of my brain is asleep as matters no dey let man sleep well.

Noticed you've been off for quite sometime. Welcome.

Not back yet actually. We need.to.do.something for the younger generation sir. We. Need to create jobs and opportunities for the ones.coming behind. How have you been and hope you're preparing for 2019


I respect the comments.of you , boss13 and franchas ng on this thread. I hope many single young men.can..and time and.ponder over the wisdom-filled comments of you guys.


My two cents is idealism is different from reality. Nd men should think carefully before settling with any lady same goes for the ladies.too

princfred:
That's the usual desire of the rich and poor and in reality its usually rich to rich. In terms of upgrade, how can a lady from a poor background upgrade to entice or attract someone like Dangote's son? Such kind of union between rich and poor are just mainly by luck. Many parents from rich background even warn their children especially daughters not to near poor guys. What do you think is part of the main reason they send them to costly schools? Sometimes the guys break out from parental control/induced ideologies and marry whoever. For ladies, not so easy. So what upgrading can do has a ceiling.

i just heard on the news yesterday that Dangote's son got married to the dauther of a certain malaysian moneybag. Some yrs back Senator Markafi's son got married to one of the Esama of benin's dauther. It has always being like dat. U cant blame the the rich getting scared of siblings of the poor getting close to their own siblings.the way some poor ppl tend to lose their self respect when they are around the rich justifies the way some of the rich ppl act. Sometimes when a girl from a very poor family is lucky to marry a guy from a rich family u will see the way the girl's family will start disgracing themselves. Her brothers will invade the home of sister's rich husband. U will see them lazing all over the place doing nothing and being a general nusiance. They will stress their sister's rich husband with so much responsibility that if he's not a firm man he might die before his time. I believe this is one of the reason the rich avoid the poor. Its only when a person from a poor background proof himself/herself that he/she aint a golddigger and has ambition that he or she normally catches the aproval of the rich. But then most rich class prefer their own company to avoid stories that touch and to keep their wealth withing their clan.i believe that ladies who aspire for riches should encourage their partners to work hard and also contribute their quota so both of them can grow rich.

princfred:
By the time you keep looking for a bigger earner and don't marry those same family members you are being responsible to, will yab you behind your back.

I get Ur point but we Cant fear d future and make decisions we are not Comfortable with

gloria34:
I get Ur point but we Cant fear d future and make decisions we are not Comfortable with

Understandable but make hay when the.............

lefulefu:
there are still some average families that dont have fanancial responsibilites. Na dose ones wey dey born plenty dey impose financial responsibilities on their first and second sibling. U can imagine a gateman earning 10k a month and having 5 wives with 38 children. Why wont such a family be afflicted with financial responsiblites.

Then d children are left to start hustling from nothing (thats if they manage to send them to school or enrol them to learn a trade)

MissR69:


i don't even know what good lordko see in you. i trust my source

I've always known that prophets and prophetesses full this forum. . . Na to form collabo church go sure pass now, with me as the treasurer-general.

Meanwhile, I hope your trusted source equally informed you that, due to my abhorrence for white and traditional weddings, we have mutually agreed to do registry wedding only (special apologies to my submissive pocohantas for denying you right of having a feel of these kinds of weddings which you cherished so much). We shall communicate the special date to you privately, because we are both security conscious and unconventional.

DukeofNZ:


Every time you say you sane and beta man and feel like say you be good person and blessing to women needing good man for marriage. Your ex-woman pocohantas also claim say she be good woman and sane and needing a beta not alpha man for marriage. Now my conclusion be say as two of you no last for the relationship and always fighting for nairaland it means say the two of you be mad people.

Now I know why normal people say mad people no the know and agree say they mad.

So master-slave relationships don't crash?

MissR69:


i don't even know what good lordko see in you. i trust my source

You must be jealous.

franchasng:
My mentor, preach on sir...tell them.

Money is the major ingredient of today marriage cos we are in a capitalist, monetized world....without money love can never be sustained.

That is nonsense. No time in history has a man without means being able to get married.
In fact, it is even easier for men without any source of income getting married nowadays.
Do you think your grandfathers handed their daughters to broke men?
Broke aint even in the equation.

Xisnin:

That is nonsense. No time in history has a man without means being able to get married.
In fact, it is even easier for men without any source of income getting married nowadays.
Do you think your grandfathers handed their daughters to broke men?
Broke aint even in the equation.

If our ancestors didn't hand their daughters to broke men, how did broke men get married with kids?

Finelinks:


You believe in horoscope?

Yes I do to a great extent.

oglalasioux:


What do you know about Hitler? Have you read any book written about him or his own Mein Kampf? Go to YouTube and watch 'Hitler In Colour'.

Please cite one.


I am not arguing.

I am learning.

cherriex:


Yes I do to a great extent.

interesting.

the whole horoscope ish has never interested me.

Maybe because it has no credence in any serious literature.

I have never seen anyone whose prowess or success was attributed to his month of birth.

Elder0001:
One more thing, if you're a man who doesn't support feminism/gender equality but you hope to or want to share bills with your wife ..God will punish you in ten folds

You can't be claiming alpha male and dictating to her while still reaping the fruits meant for only sane beta males like me.

God Bless You.

Finelinks:


Please cite one.


I am not arguing.

I am learning.

Can you be specific on what I should cite?

If you mean books about Hitler, then the most and most available, free, on the internet is no other than the one by Hitler himself; Mein Kampf (My Struggles).