gloria34:
Thats what i've tried doing but everyone is acting like something is wrong with me. Maybe i do see him as a friend as someone pointed out. I feel like i'm d only weird one

vindisick:
Is very clear you are not attracted to him. I blame the guy sha, cos i should have quit the relationship long ago. Some guys dont just know when to let go. This is pure torture.

zenith4biz:
We are pencil in the hand of the creator

kollinzgee:
you see this is why nice guys are bound to suffer in the hands of women .being nice does not trigger attraction in women infact it is a turnoff because women see it as emotional weakness. guys learn, the innocent guy has been caring and loving to gloria but he got friendzoned at the end.take you time to learn how to upgrade you game and watch women chase you and save yourself alot of emotional aches and money for only those who are willing to learn though.

victorisreal02:
gloria34 I understand how you feel, you seem not be comfortable with him touching you, speaking from the males end, you'll hardly find a guy that'll be comfortable in such relationship with such strict rule of no touching, and you should also be honest to yourself, maybe you only see him as a friend or you don't find him sexually attractive.

Inspect your feelings for him properly if you mistake like for love, then talk to him base on how you feel about him, or if you feel the nice guy act is just a way for him to get down with you and leave you, then you should apply the 12 months rule

Thank you!!

gloria34:
Time and love, i understand but money, NO! I brought this here cos i really Dont understand whats wrong, if its just me or others have experienced it so to all those who are out to insult, i will just ignore

sassysure:
No wonder many marriages don't last these days.

The girl did nothing wrong.

Sexual attraction doesn't hold a relationship.
For most girls, it takes a long time to build strong attachment for body intimacy up. They have to study u for months. A guy that has already fallen for you will wait and give you more time.

If I'm this babe, that comment from him has already disqualified him even if I have fallen for him.
That's a big red flag. What he want is sexual relationship and is restless you aren't reciprocating. Some times deprive the person of ur presence. There are many ways to break a girl.
Everything isn't about sex.

pocohantas:
I don't know what it is with some of you girls, you people are afraid to speak out. That is why some of you can't tell a guy no, you both will have sex, he will clearly notice your poor connection but go on, since there was no verbal non-consent. Then you go home and start crying that you were violated.

Draw boundaries!!!

I moved into this place in Lagos and while sitting outside, a neighbor and I got talking. He offered to show me round the hood, and I obliged. He became extremely comfortable and touchy, claimed to be a touchy person...I told him to stop touching me. He did it another time and that was the last time I ever went close to that young man.

He sent messages saying I am avoiding him and I agreed. "Yes, I am avoiding you, you make me uncomfortable". I think he apologized, but I will be a fool to go close again. Apology accepted from a safe distance.

His touch clearly irritates you, meaning you don't like him! And that is allowed. Stop going close to him. Is this difficult to do?

Is it until you both start dragging your pant that you will know wassup? They will blame you o... use your head nne.

mexzony:

It takes you 10 minutes to ..... What's your secret make I add to my knowledge and grow more

Fourwinds:
I have a prepared questions...the way she responds will determine if i can date a girl.

zenith4biz:
We are pencil in the hand of the creator

mexzony:

Oya share Na. Make me self upgrade.no knowledge is wasted.

gloria34:
Thats d problem, i see him as a partner. Someone i'm Comfortable talking to, have fun etc but then, i Dont have any romantic feelings towards him

Mariangeles:
If you're irritated by his simple touch, then it means you don't like him.
Then why are you wasting his time, using him to keep you company, giving him false hope ??

It's not fair!
If you don't like him that way, let him know period.

gloria34:
Hello Romancelanders, merry xmas in advance. I have a serious issue disturbing my head. Before i start, note that i have not been intimate with anyone 4 d past 6 months.

I met this guy about 5 months ago and things have been going well, we talk and spend some time together and he has always been Nice to me, he seem perfect in all areas but my only problem is that recently, he has taken to touching me at every given opportunity. Light touch like placing hands on my shoulder, hands on my legs while i'm sitting etc.

The thing is, i'm not Comfortable with it, i feel irritated by his touch and i always stop him from doing so.

Today he asked a question, if i Cant even allow such little body contact then what are we? Pls has anyone experienced this before?

2buffagain:


She is just friend zoning the heck out of the guy.
Honestly, no matter what logic is in place, I feel her feelings for him will be much clearer when she sees him having moved on with another girl.

As a man, when you find yourself basically asking a woman for more affection, you are already going down the wrong path. The best way is to step back and let her CHOOSE to step forward. During this seeing back period, also begin to start forgetting her and start going on other dates. The onus is on her at that point to decide if she wants you enough to try.

Angelicsweetnes:

Sweetie,
firstly you have been avoiding intimacy for about six months now, if your motive is to avoid fornication them it's understandable that you find his touch repulsive. If you feel like this for other reasons, best option is to communicate them to him. Proper and effective communication can never be overemphasized in a relationship.


Merry Christmas everyone ����

Fourwinds:
it is for serious minded guys or girls who are ready to settle down... I hate any gender wasting another gender's time in the name of dating.....

My approved dating period is a maximum of two years....

My question to every mature guy and girl out there is if u fail to learn how to greet in your parents house or wash clothes, is it when u are 20 years or more while dating that u will now know? Most failed marriages are as a result of all these things but people keep blaming witches and wizard...do the right thing while u are growing ,then u will have less to worry about...

My partner is intimidated by qualities....i wash my clothes, cook etc sometimes even though i can ask her to do it....the respect is magnifying..

I ended up putting her on her toes

rosalieene:


hahaha..... you're a clown

sassysure:
No wonder many marriages don't last these days.

The girl did nothing wrong.

And maybe we don't know the meaning of courtship any longer.
What we have today is sexual relationships that leads no where.

Sexual attraction doesn't hold a relationship.
For most girls, it takes a long time to build strong attachment for body intimacy up. They have to study u for months. A guy that has already fallen for you will wait and give you more time.

If I'm this babe, that comment from him has already disqualified him even if I have fallen for him.
That's a big red flag. What he want is sexual relationship and is restless you aren't reciprocating. Some times deprive the person of ur presence. There are many ways to break a girl.
Everything isn't about sex.
Maybe you guys will have to go and learn how to woo a girl silently. You send signals without violating her space unexpectedly and see her caving in.
Also some don't know how her previous relationship was.
She is definitely attracted to him but is not yet settled in her mind and then the guy is destroying the fantasy she is forming in her mind(without knowing it).
And pls can you all stop with the gifts?
I will eye a guy that wanna spoil me with gifts at our initial dates with side eye as he isn't to be trusted. He is definitely after something.
Oh well, what do I know, girls use that to define a good man

QuitNotice:
I personally hate guys that touch unnecessarily

gloria34:
I couldnt answer