I love this thread.. I see the spirit of sense and wisdom hovering around.

I just pray that she doesn't end up selling the watch for 3k when she's broke.

Saffi:
If you can’t afford it, don’t kill your self. If you can, great. Nothing wrong with spending on your babe, if you have interest in her, just don’t make yourself unhappy or slave-like to please her. But if you’re looking for a long term commitment, you can’t run away from spending and that’s just the truth. Don’t let these niggaz deceive you

Please don't take this serious.

Don't be an extravagant bf. If you must spend. Set up a business of her own chioce. Tell her that her essential needs should be met by this new business you have set up.

Believe me , she will value every naira henceforth. Peoe who put efforts to make money value the kobo..

Tell her if she wants anything, her business should buy it for her.

OK. Be sensible to open the business in your name sha if you not married to her yet. Let her just be the de facto manager until she is your wife

Yeah that’s a smart way of dealing with it. But opening up a business will still cost a lot and that’s making an investment in her. No how, you’ll still spend money on her along the way. So either way you’re still spending cash,you get?

boiz2men:


Please don't take this serious.

Don't be an extravagant bf. If you must spend. Set up a business of her own chioce. Tell her that her essential needs should be met by this new business you have set up.

Believe me , she will value every naira henceforth. Peoe who put efforts to make money value the kobo..

Tell her if she wants anything, her business should buy it for her.

OK. Be sensible to open the business in your name sha if you not married to her yet. Let her just be the de facto manager until she is your wife

limbolimbo:


She works, but it doesn't pay much.

That aside but apart from pussy have you asked her what she has to offer Since u gonna be giving her monthly upkeep. Prolly nothing i guess. A professional gold digging machine is what u are dealing with. Beware!

Saffi:
Yeah that’s a smart way of dealing with it. But opening up a business will still cost a lot and that’s making an investment in her. No how, you’ll still spend money on her along the way. So either way you’re still spending cash,you get?

Did you see the part where I said he should open the business in his name?

He is killing 2 birds with one stone


He is investing in the babe and also indirectly investing in the HIS business.

If babe fvck up tomorrow, she would have grown the business a little. He might decide to retire her from the business and employ someone...

Now, common things these girls ask for are airtime,hair,cream,pads etc. All these can be settled by the business. He will have to make it explicitly clear to her.

Dinners,gifts and outings, the guy might decide to take the bill.

See.. Everyone is happy

Damn! Girl saying you're stingy is one way to tip off the males ego to make you want to prove that you're not stingy , you must refuse it.. Its your money and you worked for it...

So Bleep it.., spending 100k on her birthday, and other stuff.. Men , that's much o, .. When people are starving in refugee camp and homeless folks are going hungry...

Right bawo? Do you need a prophet to tell you that she doesn't mean well for you? Relationship is 50/50... Give her when you want to and not because she pressurized you into parting with your money. Afterall you are not her father. Just imagine! I wonder when or where it's stated that men should shoulder the responsibilities alone in a relationship.. Op, kindly don't go into that relationship to avoid had I known..
Whatever the man brings should be an added bonus. Real women don't have time to depend on men for survival, they hustle it out even if it's peanut they end up with at the end of the day.. At least it's my sweat.

Just because they get vj they fit say everything dey come easy... Entitlement mentality... Rubbish

limbolimbo:
I recently showed interest in a neighbour of mine, I know she likes me, but she is a very traditional person, she wants us to go through the full cycle before anything further. But something started giving me a reason to worry about here mindset towards relationships.

She celebrated her birthday last month, and I got her a very expensive wrist watch, it cost me 94k, she doesn't know this. I also got her a really nice cake, cost me 10k, so in all I spent over a hundred thousand on her birthday. I know for some this may not seem like much or may seem like too much, I think what really matters is tat I was fine with it and could afford it. Within the same period, she would indirectly ask me for funds, she said she was broke, I could have helped her with this but I felt it was way above my position, as I am only a "To Be Boyfriend", to offer her all this after spending a 100k on gifts for her birthday.

A week ago we had a very interesting discussion, about the role of the man and the woman in a relationship, she said that "A man should be responsible for the upkeep of his Girlfriend, he should save a portion from his salary monthly which he should give to his girlfriend for upkeep". I thought that was nonsense and I quickly called her out on it, all I can say now is that I don't think we would be dating anymore, because she took it very personally, she said she thinks she would suffer if she goes into a relationship with me, because I am already showing signs of being stingy.

If I keep writing I would not end, so my question here is, is she right? Should I have instead given her the cash rather than the gift? Because to me it now seems she doesn't see the value of the gift and would rather have cash. I want adult opinions please.

(Please note that I am not trying to paint this lady as an evil person, she is really sweet, loving, caring, she loves getting attention and doesn't have any problem in showing me how she really feels about me, overall she is a great lady.)

no be today dating turn hustle for Nigerian gals. Relationship na scam take it or leave it. Most bitches bring nothing to the table than pussy. Bro run for ur life.. she will definitely dump u someday wen the stipends stops coming. Date independent gals that will invest in the relationship. They will do whatever it takes to make it work but wen they have nothing to loose they look for a higher bidder

Run from broke girls, even if it's my sister run.

Don't say you were not warned.

Spending over a hundred thousand on a girl you didn't even kiss, not to talk more kpansh!

Because of birthday??

And you refer to her as "my girl"?


And meanwhile, there's one guy like that begging you for help of 30k but you "don't have that amount right now".

Your brain brain needs reformatting.

Saffi:
If you can’t afford it, don’t kill your self. If you can, great. Nothing wrong with spending on your babe, if you have interest in her, just don’t make yourself unhappy or slave-like to please her. But if you’re looking for a long term commitment, you can’t run away from spending and that’s just the truth. Don’t let these niggaz deceive you

Most guys don't mind spending on their ladies....loving someone implies helping that person grow and making the person happy to the best of your ability.
But the catch is...it should go both ways, you cant be telling someone that is not even your boyfriend yet how he should split his salary with you after being that generous on your birthday, haba.... that's laziness and gold digging taken too far.
No matter how hard a man is,he will always take care of a lady he truly values.
You only need look around to see how much society frowns on a man who does not take responsibility for his home.
A relationship is not a career path.......

Saffi:
If you can’t afford it, don’t kill your self. If you can, great. Nothing wrong with spending on your babe, if you have interest in her, just don’t make yourself unhappy or slave-like to please her. But if you’re looking for a long term commitment, you can’t run away from spending and that’s just the truth. Don’t let these niggaz deceive you

OP no amount of money would guarantee long term commitment (/loyalty) from any babe; it is inherent, a babe is committed/loyal or she is not. Money is not a factor. Don’t let these girls deceive you

Oneday the girl in question would cheat with a guy that hasn’t spent shingbain on her.

Bro I hope you spent just as much on your Mum’s birthday.

SonsOfLiverpool:
Run from broke girls. Don't say you were not warned.

You just leave the OP, there is always a lesson to be learnt in life. He would soon learn.

Over 100k and you are not her boyfriend yet!!? Well its left for you to decide to give her stipends if you Want.and not cos she asked you to. Does her father and bro give her stipends from their monthly salary??some girls dey tire me

Saffi:
If you can’t afford it, don’t kill your self. If you can, great. Nothing wrong with spending on your babe, if you have interest in her, just don’t make yourself unhappy or slave-like to please her. But if you’re looking for a long term commitment, you can’t run away from spending and that’s just the truth. Don’t let these niggaz deceive you

how about if you Fucking work for your own stuff rather than being a parasite?

boiz2men:


Please don't take this serious.

Don't be an extravagant bf. If you must spend. Set up a business of her own chioce. Tell her that her essential needs should be met by this new business you have set up.

Believe me , she will value every naira henceforth. Peoe who put efforts to make money value the kobo..

Tell her if she wants anything, her business should buy it for her.

OK. Be sensible to open the business in your name sha if you not married to her yet. Let her just be the de facto manager until she is your wife

listen to your fucking self. You want to use another man's child to climb while in return you offer nothing. Work for your own stuff and stop being Fucking lazy

uyiekpenn:
I'm telling you. Imagine spending over a 100k on a woman you're not even sure of. No wonder these girls feel it's their right to receive payment while being in a relationship. Any man who still does this shitt is obviously sick in the head. I spend more money on my mom and my siblings than some hungry nigerian girl who has refused to be productive.

Sense will not kill you my brother. Treat hoes like hoes, this girls don't wanna be save don't save them. This is a guy that will never give his sister 20k but e dey spend on top certified olosho

limbolimbo:
I recently showed interest in a neighbour of mine, I know she likes me, but she is a very traditional person, she wants us to go through the full cycle before anything further. But something started giving me a reason to worry about here mindset towards relationships.

She celebrated her birthday last month, and I got her a very expensive wrist watch, it cost me 94k, she doesn't know this. I also got her a really nice cake, cost me 10k, so in all I spent over a hundred thousand on her birthday. I know for some this may not seem like much or may seem like too much, I think what really matters is tat I was fine with it and could afford it. Within the same period, she would indirectly ask me for funds, she said she was broke, I could have helped her with this but I felt it was way above my position, as I am only a "To Be Boyfriend", to offer her all this after spending a 100k on gifts for her birthday.

A week ago we had a very interesting discussion, about the role of the man and the woman in a relationship, she said that "A man should be responsible for the upkeep of his Girlfriend, he should save a portion from his salary monthly which he should give to his girlfriend for upkeep". I thought that was nonsense and I quickly called her out on it, all I can say now is that I don't think we would be dating anymore, because she took it very personally, she said she thinks she would suffer if she goes into a relationship with me, because I am already showing signs of being stingy.

If I keep writing I would not end, so my question here is, is she right? Should I have instead given her the cash rather than the gift? Because to me it now seems she doesn't see the value of the gift and would rather have cash. I want adult opinions please.

(Please note that I am not trying to paint this lady as an evil person, she is really sweet, loving, caring, she loves getting attention and doesn't have any problem in showing me how she really feels about me, overall she is a great lady.)

what's your location? I think we are dating the same girl. She's ibo , right?

When u spend 110k u ask us? U supposed to give her half of ur salary. Ur sense dey inside freezer

KingLennon:

Sense will not kill you my brother. Treat hoes like hoes, this girls don't wanna be save don't save them. This is a guy that will never give his sister 20k but e dey spend on top certified olosho

I'm telling you and I find this to be very foolish. Imagine after I don suffer work from 9 to 5 only for one vagabond to be demanding what she cannot ask her for. E no go better for that girl. They want money but don't wanna work. Who dey find money make e go work. After all we all have two hands and two legs.

Stop dating broke gals. There are gals who would pay for uber to come visit u. Its guys that created this nonsense mentality tho. If it was ur bday she would have gotten u singlet. Abeg dump the fool but make sure u fuk her 100k comot first

a hundred and something k for a random girl's birthday.op na wich sort of work u dey do? abi na yahoo plus? u the type of guy who would refuse to help his own blood brother with as little as 1k if he was dead broke but cos yu want to chop puna with hot stew u already dishin out a hundred and something k for one girl' s brthday.maga full dis kuntry i swear.anyway happy sunday everyone.

uyiekpenn:
how about if you Fucking work for your own stuff rather than being a parasite?

being a girlfriend is a full time job in nigeria.

my brother a girl that loves you woudnt let you spend too much ..even if you hv the money instead she will help you make it in life..

uyiekpenn:
listen to your fucking self. You want to use another man's child to climb while in return you offer nothing. Work for your own stuff and stop being Fucking lazy

You are not a smart person.

Go back and read.

funny enough I think op and I are dating the same girl....traditional....preaching no sex before marriage.....gold digger....unappreciating....works in owerri....birthday is in November.


op get across if the things I said above are true.

My question to the OP is that if you'd blessed your dad or mum with half of that 100k, do you know the prayer or blessing that will follow suit?. Some guys are just fools. Some of them will find it difficult to take care of their parents now but when their parents die, they will now be spending useless money to call artiste, buying cows etc. Guy, wise up and face your future. Don't stress yourself cos of one useless pussy. Make your money and take care of yourself and your family. When the time comes, the right lady will come.

boiz2men:


You are not a smart person.

Go back and read.

you're the one who needs to read.

lefulefu:
being a girlfriend is a full time job in nigeria.

not for people like me. Who need money should go and look for a job.

limbolimbo:
I recently showed interest in a neighbour of mine, I know she likes me, but she is a very traditional person, she wants us to go through the full cycle before anything further. But something started giving me a reason to worry about here mindset towards relationships.

She celebrated her birthday last month, and I got her a very expensive wrist watch, it cost me 94k, she doesn't know this. I also got her a really nice cake, cost me 10k, so in all I spent over a hundred thousand on her birthday. I know for some this may not seem like much or may seem like too much, I think what really matters is tat I was fine with it and could afford it. Within the same period, she would indirectly ask me for funds, she said she was broke, I could have helped her with this but I felt it was way above my position, as I am only a "To Be Boyfriend", to offer her all this after spending a 100k on gifts for her birthday.

A week ago we had a very interesting discussion, about the role of the man and the woman in a relationship, she said that "A man should be responsible for the upkeep of his Girlfriend, he should save a portion from his salary monthly which he should give to his girlfriend for upkeep". I thought that was nonsense and I quickly called her out on it, all I can say now is that I don't think we would be dating anymore, because she took it very personally, she said she thinks she would suffer if she goes into a relationship with me, because I am already showing signs of being stingy.

If I keep writing I would not end, so my question here is, is she right? Should I have instead given her the cash rather than the gift? Because to me it now seems she doesn't see the value of the gift and would rather have cash. I want adult opinions please.

(Please note that I am not trying to paint this lady as an evil person, she is really sweet, loving, caring, she loves getting attention and doesn't have any problem in showing me how she really feels about me, overall she is a great lady.)

would you prefer a feminist?

uyiekpenn:
I'm telling you and I find this to be very foolish. Imagine after I don suffer work from 9 to 5 only for one vagabond to be demanding what she cannot ask her for. E no go better for that girl. They want money but don't wanna work. Who dey find money make e go work. After all we all have two hands and two legs.

And we get the same education and exposure with females, so why should I give you money that I suffered to earn?

As for the Op, it is your money, do what you want. My honest opinion is you don’t respect your money tbh.