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dyze:
Mtshww.

Oga to "every aboki his kettle".

Find someone that will complement you not milk u dry.

Oga Ade, no time for dem ebinna's

EMMAUGOH:
Did u have sex with her.. If u do then she has the right for her upkeep.. Cos she is indirectly asking you to pay for having sex with her and it's a norm everywhere in the world

sex is mutual, and unless they have agreed it should be paid for by the same person that likely does all the work, this is nonsense.

EMMAUGOH:
Did u have sex with her.. If u do then she has the right for her upkeep.. Cos she is indirectly asking you to pay for having sex with her and it's a norm everywhere in the world

That's the norm of a prostitute not that of a girlfriend material

You spent so much on her like that in the first place, and expect smooth relationship afterwards.. if she no take you as maga wetin she gain..

Oga please don’t take your brokenness out on me. Did I offend your mama? Go and sit down

tribalmall:
Are you stupid foolish or deliberately dodging the OP’s question ? The girlfriend want monthly stipends from his salary is that right or wrong ?

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Coloradvantage:
what is the aim of buying a gift someone will not value. my girl friend tried this habit recently I let her know the fact.. it is a relationship. partnership. not a parasitic stuff. there is nothing bad in helping a friend. but someone making it feels having a boyfriend is a carreer path is low-level of thinking. next time don't waste your money. buying gifts.

know if that individual knows the worth.

even since I bought expensive wine when travelling to the village. I spent nothing less than 320k. and my friend who bought about 7 crate of beer was used as an example of how to give. I now take a new leave.

Sir how can you buy 320k drink for Village people and it's not beer you no use your brain our Village people no sabi Champaign or other expensive drink if na East buy plenty crates of Hero beer with Life
If na West buy Goldberg beer kpam and it's finished be that de Kind Blessings wah Dem go bless you eeh and it for not reach 50k self

Fantazy:
That's the norm of a prostitute not that of a girlfriend material

that is it.. Many girl friend are prostitute in disguise.. Best way to spot them is talking how you hate prostitution.. If they have a soft spot for prostitutes then know they have same tendency

She doesn't know the value of the wrist watch,a girl working for a salary of 30k or wen never see the basic necessities of life ,then you buy wrist watch of 90plus to do what with it or were to where. You never can tell maybe she needs the money

limbolimbo:
I recently showed interest in a neighbour of mine, I know she likes me, but she is a very traditional person, she wants us to go through the full cycle before anything further. But something started giving me a reason to worry about here mindset towards relationships.

She celebrated her birthday last month, and I got her a very expensive wrist watch, it cost me 94k, she doesn't know this. I also got her a really nice cake, cost me 10k, so in all I spent over a hundred thousand on her birthday. I know for some this may not seem like much or may seem like too much, I think what really matters is tat I was fine with it and could afford it. Within the same period, she would indirectly ask me for funds, she said she was broke, I could have helped her with this but I felt it was way above my position, as I am only a "To Be Boyfriend", to offer her all this after spending a 100k on gifts for her birthday.

A week ago we had a very interesting discussion, about the role of the man and the woman in a relationship, she said that "A man should be responsible for the upkeep of his Girlfriend, he should save a portion from his salary monthly which he should give to his girlfriend for upkeep". I thought that was nonsense and I quickly called her out on it, all I can say now is that I don't think we would be dating anymore, because she took it very personally, she said she thinks she would suffer if she goes into a relationship with me, because I am already showing signs of being stingy.

If I keep writing I would not end, so my question here is, is she right? Should I have instead given her the cash rather than the gift? Because to me it now seems she doesn't see the value of the gift and would rather have cash. I want adult opinions please.

(Please note that I am not trying to paint this lady as an evil person, she is really sweet, loving, caring, she loves getting attention and doesn't have any problem in showing me how she really feels about me, overall she is a great lady.)

there's nothing to use and justify your confuse status, nothing confuse a man as a girl with sweet vagina and the same time have bad character. can you leave her for bad character what of the pussy. so go on

limbolimbo:
I recently showed interest in a neighbour of mine, I know she likes me, but she is a very traditional person, she wants us to go through the full cycle before anything further. But something started giving me a reason to worry about here mindset towards relationships.

She celebrated her birthday last month, and I got her a very expensive wrist watch, it cost me 94k, she doesn't know this. I also got her a really nice cake, cost me 10k, so in all I spent over a hundred thousand on her birthday. I know for some this may not seem like much or may seem like too much, I think what really matters is tat I was fine with it and could afford it. Within the same period, she would indirectly ask me for funds, she said she was broke, I could have helped her with this but I felt it was way above my position, as I am only a "To Be Boyfriend", to offer her all this after spending a 100k on gifts for her birthday.

A week ago we had a very interesting discussion, about the role of the man and the woman in a relationship, she said that "A man should be responsible for the upkeep of his Girlfriend, he should save a portion from his salary monthly which he should give to his girlfriend for upkeep". I thought that was nonsense and I quickly called her out on it, all I can say now is that I don't think we would be dating anymore, because she took it very personally, she said she thinks she would suffer if she goes into a relationship with me, because I am already showing signs of being stingy.

If I keep writing I would not end, so my question here is, is she right? Should I have instead given her the cash rather than the gift? Because to me it now seems she doesn't see the value of the gift and would rather have cash. I want adult opinions please.

(Please note that I am not trying to paint this lady as an evil person, she is really sweet, loving, caring, she loves getting attention and doesn't have any problem in showing me how she really feels about me, overall she is a great lady.)

Is she right?.....No...No No No and No


...Hell No...wtf??...Saving part of your salary for her....what will happen when u get married??

Ozkar:
sex is mutual, and unless they have agreed it should be paid for by the same person that likely does all the work, this is nonsense.

That's not how Nigerian girls understand it. They see it as a favour, a price. A settelemt for whatever you are spending on them

but you said you don't worry on spending for her ,so why seeking for advice ?
Most things in life are about interest and choice.
what's your interest in her, what contribution and impact do she has in your life b4 now and n future ?
But since you seeking advice on her it means you not comfortable about her business entitlement mentality. Speak to her about it but if she still insist , look for another lady. She's only after her interest and you ?

limbolimbo:
I recently showed interest in a neighbour of mine, I know she likes me, but she is a very traditional person, she wants us to go through the full cycle before anything further. But something started giving me a reason to worry about here mindset towards relationships.

She celebrated her birthday last month, and I got her a very expensive wrist watch, it cost me 94k, she doesn't know this. I also got her a really nice cake, cost me 10k, so in all I spent over a hundred thousand on her birthday. I know for some this may not seem like much or may seem like too much, I think what really matters is tat I was fine with it and could afford it. Within the same period, she would indirectly ask me for funds, she said she was broke, I could have helped her with this but I felt it was way above my position, as I am only a "To Be Boyfriend", to offer her all this after spending a 100k on gifts for her birthday.

A week ago we had a very interesting discussion, about the role of the man and the woman in a relationship, she said that "A man should be responsible for the upkeep of his Girlfriend, he should save a portion from his salary monthly which he should give to his girlfriend for upkeep". I thought that was nonsense and I quickly called her out on it, all I can say now is that I don't think we would be dating anymore, because she took it very personally, she said she thinks she would suffer if she goes into a relationship with me, because I am already showing signs of being stingy.

If I keep writing I would not end, so my question here is, is she right? Should I have instead given her the cash rather than the gift? Because to me it now seems she doesn't see the value of the gift and would rather have cash. I want adult opinions please.

(Please note that I am not trying to paint this lady as an evil person, she is really sweet, loving, caring, she loves getting attention and doesn't have any problem in showing me how she really feels about me, overall she is a great lady.)

I will be brutally Frank with you,if I were you,I would simply negotiate the stipend for rounds of nackis per month simple.

When I say LOVE in Nigeria na scam nobody gree believe me. 85% of 'lovebirds' are either hungry, broke, hopeless, homeless, or hor.ny.. This fact isn't gender based!

Guy you Bleep up big time, I am sure if your childhood guy came and need that amount to do business so you can have a stake in it you won't give it to him, but to buy wrist watch for a lady that does not value it, you rushed Nairaland to ask us question of the day by brodashaggi

Saffi:
Oga please don’t take your brokenness out on me. Did I offend your mama? Go and sit down

Calling a guy broke just to make him feel guilty is a chronic sign of broke girls hahahahahahaha

Faceless forum, everyone can form what they are not, I bet you in real life you won't stand most male here, we know your type.

It won't work madam, get your lazy azz to work and earn yourself your own money, the wise ones must educate the young ones.

limbolimbo:
I recently showed interest in a neighbour of mine, I know she likes me, but she is a very traditional person, she wants us to go through the full cycle before anything further. But something started giving me a reason to worry about here mindset towards relationships.

She celebrated her birthday last month, and I got her a very expensive wrist watch, it cost me 94k, she doesn't know this. I also got her a really nice cake, cost me 10k, so in all I spent over a hundred thousand on her birthday. I know for some this may not seem like much or may seem like too much, I think what really matters is tat I was fine with it and could afford it. Within the same period, she would indirectly ask me for funds, she said she was broke, I could have helped her with this but I felt it was way above my position, as I am only a "To Be Boyfriend", to offer her all this after spending a 100k on gifts for her birthday.

A week ago we had a very interesting discussion, about the role of the man and the woman in a relationship, she said that "A man should be responsible for the upkeep of his Girlfriend, he should save a portion from his salary monthly which he should give to his girlfriend for upkeep". I thought that was nonsense and I quickly called her out on it, all I can say now is that I don't think we would be dating anymore, because she took it very personally, she said she thinks she would suffer if she goes into a relationship with me, because I am already showing signs of being stingy.

If I keep writing I would not end, so my question here is, is she right? Should I have instead given her the cash rather than the gift? Because to me it now seems she doesn't see the value of the gift and would rather have cash. I want adult opinions please.

(Please note that I am not trying to paint this lady as an evil person, she is really sweet, loving, caring, she loves getting attention and doesn't have any problem in showing me how she really feels about me, overall she is a great lady.)

You were right in asserting you opinion.You are more calculating and can use your head that is why what she proposed didn't sit well with you.I think you should break up with her as she rather be treated as a commodity rather than a human being and she is essentially a liability to you and herself.Please continue to use your head and keep your money,as you don't know what tomorrow holds ,anything could happen or opportunities could surface that will need funding.Go after women that know how to add value to themselves and have substance instead of publicly traded commodities.

sexybaby22:
The men don't realise that its not called spending when you are with someone you are committed to, its called 'investing' in her.

Investing in her like stocks or bonds?

jorion:
Na so, let me tell you the simple truth, you don't control women, they only give you the illusion of being controlled. The reason why you still have her is because she has not found a better alternative

I still have her Me sef no wan own anybody. My own life is hard enough....why would I want to add more burden to myself by seeking for whom to control? Did I create her?

Guy, your priorities are different from mine. Maybe you have too much time and resources to spare. Me no get time for myself. Where I come see time to impress babe? Ask around, I never send pm to any female N'lander since I joined . Any lady here wey fit prove me wrong, I go wire am #20k instantly.

In conclusion, my brother, many matter dey give me headache as I dey so, but woman matter no be one of them. Whether she goes or she stays, that's not my problem.

EMMAUGOH:
That's not how Nigerian girls understand it. They see it as a favour, a price. A settelemt for whatever you are spending on them

and you abide by that? You are the mugu if you do. Things need to change, don't kill yourself for any girl, last last everybody go dey single make we know who go suffer am. There are good girls out there, select very well and any wrong sign you see run. Waste no time

PrimadonnaO:
They are really just deceiving him, when in actual fact they do otherwise in their own relationship.
The girl in the OP's story is quite annoying...her matter-of-factly entitlement.

Did you finally say yes to that dude pouring out his soul to date you?

limbolimbo:
I recently showed interest in a neighbour of mine, I know she likes me, but she is a very traditional person, she wants us to go through the full cycle before anything further. But something started giving me a reason to worry about here mindset towards relationships.

She celebrated her birthday last month, and I got her a very expensive wrist watch, it cost me 94k, she doesn't know this. I also got her a really nice cake, cost me 10k, so in all I spent over a hundred thousand on her birthday. I know for some this may not seem like much or may seem like too much, I think what really matters is tat I was fine with it and could afford it. Within the same period, she would indirectly ask me for funds, she said she was broke, I could have helped her with this but I felt it was way above my position, as I am only a "To Be Boyfriend", to offer her all this after spending a 100k on gifts for her birthday.

A week ago we had a very interesting discussion, about the role of the man and the woman in a relationship, she said that "A man should be responsible for the upkeep of his Girlfriend, he should save a portion from his salary monthly which he should give to his girlfriend for upkeep". I thought that was nonsense and I quickly called her out on it, all I can say now is that I don't think we would be dating anymore, because she took it very personally, she said she thinks she would suffer if she goes into a relationship with me, because I am already showing signs of being stingy.

If I keep writing I would not end, so my question here is, is she right? Should I have instead given her the cash rather than the gift? Because to me it now seems she doesn't see the value of the gift and would rather have cash. I want adult opinions please.

(Please note that I am not trying to paint this lady as an evil person, she is really sweet, loving, caring, she loves getting attention and doesn't have any problem in showing me how she really feels about me, overall she is a great lady.)

You no get sense

Darkseid:
I just pray that she doesn't end up selling the watch for 3k when she's broke.

... And that's a big point.

Saffi:
Oga please don’t take your brokenness out on me. Did I offend your mama? Go and sit down

lol ,any guy that doesn't support foolish giving according to some ladies is called "broke or stingy" NNE if wise spending will make people see me as "broke stingy" Then AM PROUDLY BROKE AND STINGY AT THE SAME TIME..

Admin401:
Investing in her like stocks or bonds?

I tire oh. Which kind investment be that, one that has a higher level of uncertainty is definitely not a good investment.

Tell these kids, there are laws of investment. Look it up

Earthbound:
Did you just say you spent over a hundred K on a chick that is not your girlfriend?? Someone who might be in the shower right now as I type this, getting ready for some other guy's dic.




I dunno your age, bruh but you deserve better brain resetting beating

He was comfortable with it na.

uyiekpenn:
I once walked a girl out of my car in the middle of the road while I was in Nigeria last year over some stupid comment that she made. She said no man should go into a relationship if you don't have money and guess how I replied her? No girl should go into a relationship if she's broke and has nothing to offer besides pussyy. Majority of these girls are hopeless.

you get prick!

SonsOfLiverpool:
and you abide by that? You are the mugu if you do. Things need to change, don't kill yourself for any girl, last last everybody go dey single make we know who go suffer am. There are good girls out there, select very well and any wrong sign you see run. Waste no time

you are actually a fool for insulting me when am just saying a thing that could be true or false.

It's incredible the type of stuff that goes through the mind of some of our ladies of today.

Any woman who asks you for cash in exchange for her affection is an olosho. She believes she is entitled to a portion of your salary even at the girlfriend level.

And why would you spend over a N100k on a girl you just started dating? Obviously, she feels you are a maga and she wants to tap into it.

This lady has poor values and you'll be wasting your time trying to correct her. Find someone who has integrity and self respect for themselves.

Lol I’m very much entitled to call guys broke on this site, because most of you are. You then take your useless frustration out on women, is it my fault? From childhood I’ve lived a good life, born and raised in a society 5,000 miles away from you. Biko, i don’t do brokeazzes if you don’t like it, go an die.

SonsOfLiverpool:
Calling a guy broke just to make him feel guilty is a chronic sign of broke girls hahahahahahaha

Faceless forum, everyone can form what they are not, I bet you in real life you won't stand most male here, we know your type.

It won't work madam, get your lazy azz to work and earn yourself your own money, the wise ones must educate the young ones.