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dierich:
u may not understand why I'm seeking for advice. and besides, u don't need to say some people need psych evaluation. who knows maybe u need 1 too.
those that understand me will know y I'm looking for the best way to table it down without causing anything..

Mr man

Dont be selfish

He is your friend

U have extra rooms

Whats the big deal.

The only discomfort is that he doesnt take care of the bed sheets, tell him straight to always wash after use.

Or are u jealous he bangs and u dont?

Halo22:
From what you just commented, the guy in question must be a flirt if not so, I wonder how he would be bringing different guys into ur house. For me the best you should do is to make urself more religious than u used to be if you are a Christian, always pray aloud and try preaching to him sometimes even when he comes with those ladies, am sure with that he will become uncomfortable with you.

Be matured please

Dude, don't let anyone guilt trip you into thinking you're being insensitive. You are absolutely right for not wanting regular strange guests at your place.

dierich:
Nø 2 may not make sense to u, but this is my place. he can't just bring someone in anyhow.

dierich:
u may not understand why I'm seeking for advice. and besides, u don't need to say some people need psych evaluation. who knows maybe u need 1 too.
those that understand me will know y I'm looking for the best way to table it down without causing anything..

The guy above is right. it's your house n no one should make you uncomfortable in it, except maybe you paid for the house jointly and don't want to state it.
call him aside n talk to him...besides, you both are single n adults, if its one particular girl he keeps bringing, maybe dats his fiancee so ignore, but if they are different then tell him to stop...be a man n dame the friendship consequences. ..

Don't break the bro code if ya have been friends for 10yrs no be beans the mata be say if like say the guy see stew like you him for no dy pilot babes dem dy come ya plaze. You no as the contri be nah! 3k for hotel no be small thing and guys must kum nah! But still u gaz man up and let ya guy no say him no dy try for u, I mean you kant be cleaning som1s Bleep bed no! too wrong, but no possuu d guy him go ever pick of fence

frank317:
He needs to have a good explanation for the sake if tomorrow. That's his best friend we are talking about and I am sure there is a reason why the other guy feels comfortable bringing his chicks to the house.

This is a man's thing, he must act with his brain and not heart like most women do.

I remember years back when I was serving. This loving roommate of mine always brought his girl to the room (our beds are close). I liked my roommate but didn't like the fact he brought his girl in most night.

I reacted to this and this had an effect to our relationship. Looking back I wished I had just let things go because I really didn't have reason to be angry but for jealousy (which I even denied to myself)

The Op can't just say he does not like this guy bringing his girl for nothing. Perhaps he wish he was the one having the girls. Perhaps chicks do not fall for him (despite doing better than his friend) like his friend.

If it's washing stains, ask the guy to make effort to keep the bed neat. He is ur friend, don't let woman palavar spoil thinks.

And pls go out a little... U only live young once.

It is never right to sleep in the same room with the opposite sex if they are not your married partner.
You are no longer a baby. You have undergone complete puberty and your sexual organs are fully ready for reproduction.
ONLY one thing can happen, Sex! Thoughts about sex. No space for God.
If God is not in your life, guess who is in your life!
It's very simple.
Why unmarried youth cannot stay away from Sex, I cannot tell.
You will marry your wife oneday and have 80 years married life looking at each other 24/7 in the same room.

Why can't you just wait?

dierich:
Thanks bro. you're d 1st person that asked about it.
my illness is dat my urine is always deep yellow and my urine output is very low. I may drink 3 litres of water in a day and pass 40CL in 24hrs.
also sometimes my urine will be more in d night.
I've done series of test which they are all normal.. like scan, kidney test, urinalysis, and lot more

Pls repeat the kidney function test, at a proper well-equipped standard hospital. Then see a qualified medical doctor or an urologist to treat you. The former test you did, may have been poorly done, or might have been done with sub-standard reagents.

Chaiii

LONEER:
believe me i perfectly understand how you feel, cause am in same situation, urs is even better, mine is just a selfcon. but dude will be bringing different girls everyday till it even affected my relationship. now have broke up with my girl cause she wasn't comfortable when she come visiting and we end up being four people in the room, some days i have to be sleeping on the floor just to got a nigga back . funny part is that he even has his own rented apartment. this is not even all Am tired.

Bleep 10years of friendship..OP your friend is simply insensitive . Even if I have 5 empty rooms in that flat,no matter how close you feel u and I are,u dnt get to bring girls anyhow to the apartment. Finally why send an sms when you could say it to his face

dierich:
I'm not saying my sickness has something to do with it but he know what I'm still facing and thousands I've spent on it. it doesn't really feel it. what concern him most is bringing in his gfs.

Chairman learn to separate friends from leeches. It is obvious you are afraid of being lonely without him. Don't you have your own Girlfriend?. If you don't have get one, Girls are better at sending friends parking, Once you have a girlfriend who stays around all the time and displays all those mean characters girls display to their fellow girls they don't like, then the girlfriends of your friend will be the one telling your friend that they don't want to go that his friend's place.




But best way is for to be a man and tell him straight up if he stops coming to your place, learn to be alone until you find genuine friends not leeches

kallmemrB:
Sometimes I think some nairalanders need psych Evaluation... What so difficult in "Bro stop bringing ladies to my place am not comfortable with that poo"

What do u think nairaland will do for you?

Thank you bro. Just the same thing I was about to say. You just read my mind. Some silly questions on Nairaland makes you think if they are no more newsworthy.

REDshouse:
Just change keys to ur apartment won't cost u more that 2k and don't give him extra and leave ur house for a week....dont pick his call and don't call him either... Just be cruel for more than a week

Ba-aa-ad boy!

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someone guys lack morals , today is Tuesday for God sake, aren't you guys going to work in the morning ? I dont think you both have decent job because a reasonable busy person wont have time for that rubbish . you wish to live a decent life but you are engage in illegal business in that mansion , why is it that kind of person that you have as a friend? don't you have decent colleague whom their presence would have deterred him? or your own church girl? anyway let me warn you both , the neighbors are watching , and those girls his bringing or their original angry boy friend will put you into trouble . change your way of life and you will have peace or else you get busted soon.

dierich:
this is my T-shirt for God's sake. because it's over a year I wore it doesn't mean it should end this way

oga, this is not how to live in this world. If you continue like this, the theory of natural selection/survival of the fittest will ultimately eliminate you one way or the other. Common!! Be a man for Christ sake you're not a boy, a man is know for taking decisions and standing by it and not been a sissy. Look at how one man is terrorising you in your own house, something he can't even try in his parents. Even with your sickness, just be like him dey wait for you to die make him kukuma claim the house with his girlfriends

My friend get up and make decisions for your life and peace.

dierich:
Amen. thank u so much

Very disappointed in you. Prayer and religion are for the gullible and stupid. You have to take action. In life, you must learn to set your boundaries or people will use you as a foot mat. Call him aside and tell him to adjust his behaviour or move out. It's as simple as that. It's not written anywhere that if you don't be his friend then you are doomed. Let him take corrections or get the hell out. You had better wake up and stop acting like a scared cat in the cold.

For the weakness and softness you've demonstrated, you deserve, on your bare back and buttocks, 50 hot lashes from a strong koboko wipe. SMH

Kokaine:
That's why you don't reply everyone. Not everyone is experienced in life. There are people you can easily tell to leave your house. There are those you have to balance many equations in order to step on their toes. Especially when you mentioned he's your closest and oldest friend.
Best method is pay a lady to act like she's your new madam. And tell him gradually she likes privacy. He will get the message.

That guy is NOT his friend. He is simply a souless parasite, that is just using the OP Dierich.

A true friend will show concern and compassion for his friend, who is ill. He would also try to behave in a manner, that would NOT jeopardize his friend's peace of mind and well-being.

What sort of a friend ignores his friend's pleas and warnings to desist from an act, and blatantly flouts the terms laid down by his friend, who is accomodating him?

Abeg, the OP is better off without him. Not all friends are meant to stay in your life, forever!

Easy call my brother...even if you are too soft...In this case...use woman problem...to solve woman problem and just be neutral...an eye witness. First, do you have a girl friend...if you do...women are really good in this kind of stuff...just give her the authorization...by the time she embarrass both of them...those girls will stop coming with him...

Then if you don’t have a girl friend...don’t sweat it...just give another badass girl the job...and tell her what the deal is and what you need accomplish...

Bring her to the house and introduce her to your nigga as your current girl friend and buy drink...then go home and sleep...Trust an average girl on this...you will get quick result...

dingbang:
You are too soft for nairaland liking.

dierich:
u may not understand why I'm seeking for advice. and besides, u don't need to say some people need psych evaluation. who knows maybe u need 1 too.
those that understand me will know y I'm looking for the best way to table it down without causing anything..

Causing waitn ooh u tink u can please everybody at ur own expense? U nor dey offend anything. Carry the guy tell him straight that u dont like it. Nor pretend like waitn nor clear for u ooh.

dierich:
u may not understand why I'm seeking for advice. and besides, u don't need to say some people need psych evaluation. who knows maybe u need 1 too.
those that understand me will know y I'm looking for the best way to table it down without causing anything..

stop pleasing pipu confront ur problem n have ur peace.

Why not look for another apartment preferably a one bedroom or two bedroom apartment

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dierich:
people do call him my PA in d street coz they know us as 5&6, but I'm not comfortable anymore. imagine I'm treating HBP and I couldn't sleep since I'm awake around past 1am. I can't keep inconveniencing myself coz of him.

Dude is it only one particular girl he always brought or different girls?

If it's only one girl, tell him to keep your house clean., but if he's bringing different girls, be blunt and tell him to quit those shitz you ain't comfortable.

Even though is my brother using my house for bullshits I'll treat his fuckup, talk more of a friend. if you have an ounce of respect for me as a friend you wouldn't thought of using my house for such nonsense.

My brother, I want to sincerely assure you that there is no diplomatic way u can choose to tell him without causing harm to the already established relationship with him. I can tell u I know how you feel ryt now cause I share similar problem like u do, I av been looking for a soft way to tell he off but all to no avail, be rest assured that the relationship u have with him will go south once you mention that. The choice is yours

face your problem bro... look at him in the face and say your mind... and that ends it all...

Guy u will definitely choose one either he keeps messing up ur room or u keep staying alone. U should av known that ur friend lack understanding and maintenance culture. things u felt it might upset him might not, so if he doesn't realized why were not comfortable with him sorry he will keep doing same thing Di's isn't a matter of querell tell him exactly what u want from him in pleasant manner. if u think is hard for u to do u are not a man enough bcs one day u ar going to raised a family and trust me family issue is far far complicated Than ur friend issue, to me I don't see it as issue at all.

seborrhic:
Jokes aside.
How can any normal guy in today's world have 3 bedrooms but still prefers to sleep in the same bed with another guy that is not his relation,if not....
I feel the Op is just vexed that the friend's girls are taking away attention from him.
Disgusting!

u don't av to think that way. I believe you're matured.
this is my apartment and he pays no bill. we are best friends and we used to gist b4 we sleep. sometimes I slept in d sitting room anywhere I like. we don't need to sleep separately when we aren't sharing d bills. he has no property neither his cloths in my apartment.. so

dierich:
Please ignore my grammatical errors.

I've a friend and he's very close to me. we know each other more than 10years and he has been the only friend close to me right now. I was living alone in a 3 bedroom flat and he always come to sleep at my place. I'm happy coz I won't be the only one sleeping in the house.

it started when he bring 1 of his girlfriends to my house, he uses on of the rooms and I didn't complain, but the issue is he kept bringing them in and I'm tired of it. the most annoying part is the way he's using the bed. stains or shit. it came to a time I've to wash the bed coz I'm tired of seeing stains on my bed, though I'm not really using the bed but it's still my property. I've been ill since December last year, I told him what I'm facing, and even lie to him to show how critical my illness is, but that doesn't stop him from bringing them in.

please can someone advise me on how to stop him totally. he found my place d best for him since he's still living with his parent.

I don't want to offend someone that's why I want the best way to table it to him.

right now he's with his gf at my place. this particular girl use to stay overnight.. same thing last week Wednesday. and he won't even tell me someone is coming. we went to bed together Around 10pm, and by the time I woke around 1 to pee, I found out he's not by my side again, I check around and went to the other room to found him and the girl.

I'm sick of this. please how can I stop him without malice.
thanks

Can you kindly tell us what he and his girlfriends do that leaves sh*t stains on your bed? Please I'm genuinely curious.

dierich:
Please ignore my grammatical errors.

I've a friend and he's very close to me. we know each other more than 10years and he has been the only friend close to me right now. I was living alone in a 3 bedroom flat and he always come to sleep at my place. I'm happy coz I won't be the only one sleeping in the house.

it started when he bring 1 of his girlfriends to my house, he uses on of the rooms and I didn't complain, but the issue is he kept bringing them in and I'm tired of it. the most annoying part is the way he's using the bed. stains or shit. it came to a time I've to wash the bed coz I'm tired of seeing stains on my bed, though I'm not really using the bed but it's still my property. I've been ill since December last year, I told him what I'm facing, and even lie to him to show how critical my illness is, but that doesn't stop him from bringing them in.

please can someone advise me on how to stop him totally. he found my place d best for him since he's still living with his parent.

I don't want to offend someone that's why I want the best way to table it to him.

right now he's with his gf at my place. this particular girl use to stay overnight.. same thing last week Wednesday. and he won't even tell me someone is coming. we went to bed together Around 10pm, and by the time I woke around 1 to pee, I found out he's not by my side again, I check around and went to the other room to found him and the girl.

I'm sick of this. please how can I stop him without malice.
thanks

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dierich:
Please ignore my grammatical errors.

I've a friend and he's very close to me. we know each other more than 10years and he has been the only friend close to me right now. I was living alone in a 3 bedroom flat and he always come to sleep at my place. I'm happy coz I won't be the only one sleeping in the house.

it started when he bring 1 of his girlfriends to my house, he uses on of the rooms and I didn't complain, but the issue is he kept bringing them in and I'm tired of it. the most annoying part is the way he's using the bed. stains or shit. it came to a time I've to wash the bed coz I'm tired of seeing stains on my bed, though I'm not really using the bed but it's still my property. I've been ill since December last year, I told him what I'm facing, and even lie to him to show how critical my illness is, but that doesn't stop him from bringing them in.

please can someone advise me on how to stop him totally. he found my place d best for him since he's still living with his parent.

I don't want to offend someone that's why I want the best way to table it to him.

right now he's with his gf at my place. this particular girl use to stay overnight.. same thing last week Wednesday. and he won't even tell me someone is coming. we went to bed together Around 10pm, and by the time I woke around 1 to pee, I found out he's not by my side again, I check around and went to the other room to found him and the girl.

I'm sick of this. please how can I stop him without malice.
thanks

Wey your own grlfnd

This is the best message to send to him.


" hw u doing, I just wanna clear things with you on the issue of bringing in diff gals to my house. It gotta stop as from this moment. I am completely lucid right now and I wanna be at peace. You can come to my home and we talk as friends, but for gals, no no. Hope you get, bye."





This would reset his brain once he has read it.