dierich:
Please ignore my grammatical errors.

I've a friend and he's very close to me. we know each other more than 10years and he has been the only friend close to me right now. I was living alone in a 3 bedroom flat and he always come to sleep at my place. I'm happy coz I won't be the only one sleeping in the house.

it started when he bring 1 of his girlfriends to my house, he uses on of the rooms and I didn't complain, but the issue is he kept bringing them in and I'm tired of it. the most annoying part is the way he's using the bed. stains or shit. it came to a time I've to wash the bed coz I'm tired of seeing stains on my bed, though I'm not really using the bed but it's still my property. I've been ill since December last year, I told him what I'm facing, and even lie to him to show how critical my illness is, but that doesn't stop him from bringing them in.

please can someone advise me on how to stop him totally. he found my place d best for him since he's still living with his parent.

I don't want to offend someone that's why I want the best way to table it to him.

right now he's with his gf at my place. this particular girl use to stay overnight.. same thing last week Wednesday. and he won't even tell me someone is coming. we went to bed together Around 10pm, and by the time I woke around 1 to pee, I found out he's not by my side again, I check around and went to the other room to found him and the girl.

I'm sick of this. please how can I stop him without malice.
thanks

frank317:


He needs to have a good explanation for the sake if tomorrow. That's his best friend we are talking about and I am sure there is a reason why the other guy feels comfortable bringing his chicks to the house.

This is a man's thing, he must act with his brain and not heart like most women do.

I remember years back when I was serving. This loving roommate of mine always brought his girl to the room (our beds are close). I liked my roommate but didn't like the fact he brought his girl in most night.

I reacted to this and this had an effect to our relationship. Looking back I wished I had just let things go because I really didn't have reason to be angry but for jealousy (which I even denied to myself)

The Op can't just say he does not like this guy bringing his girl for nothing. Perhaps he wish he was the one having the girls. Perhaps chicks do not fall for him (despite doing better than his friend) like his friend.

If it's washing stains, ask the guy to make effort to keep the bed neat. He is ur friend, don't let woman palavar spoil thinks.

And pls go out a little... U only live young once.

dierich:
he just left with the lady. check thru d picture and see how messed up it looks. I've to wash the bed sheets and bed cover and kept it after he messed up everything.
just check the picture I just took 10mins ago after he left now. this is my T-shirt I've left in that room 4 a while, & he use it to clean up d mess. did I tell him I'm not using d shirt anymore? I just don't want to av problem with anyone that's y I'm looking for a low-key way to tell him.
I've show it emotionally but he don't wanna listen. I've been ill over 3 months ago and he doesn't really care. he'll just tell me not to think of it that I'll be fine.. that's all he kept saying. I told him on Sunday that my girl want to visit me and I stopped her coz for now I'm not happy about my health and I wanna be alone and I wanna keep tins holy, and today after I slept around past 10, that's when he sneak d girl in.

dierich:
Please ignore my grammatical errors.

I've a friend and he's very close to me. we know each other more than 10years and he has been the only friend close to me right now. I was living alone in a 3 bedroom flat and he always come to sleep at my place. I'm happy coz I won't be the only one sleeping in the house.

it started when he bring 1 of his girlfriends to my house, he uses on of the rooms and I didn't complain, but the issue is he kept bringing them in and I'm tired of it. the most annoying part is the way he's using the bed. stains or shit. it came to a time I've to wash the bed coz I'm tired of seeing stains on my bed, though I'm not really using the bed but it's still my property. I've been ill since December last year, I told him what I'm facing, and even lie to him to show how critical my illness is, but that doesn't stop him from bringing them in.

please can someone advise me on how to stop him totally. he found my place d best for him since he's still living with his parent.

I don't want to offend someone that's why I want the best way to table it to him.

right now he's with his gf at my place. this particular girl use to stay overnight.. same thing last week Wednesday. and he won't even tell me someone is coming. we went to bed together Around 10pm, and by the time I woke around 1 to pee, I found out he's not by my side again, I check around and went to the other room to found him and the girl.

I'm sick of this. please how can I stop him without malice.
thanks

frank317:


He needs to have a good explanation for the sake if tomorrow. That's his best friend we are talking about and I am sure there is a reason why the other guy feels comfortable bringing his chicks to the house.

This is a man's thing, he must act with his brain and not heart like most women do.

I remember years back when I was serving. This loving roommate of mine always brought his girl to the room (our beds are close). I liked my roommate but didn't like the fact he brought his girl in most night.

I reacted to this and this had an effect to our relationship. Looking back I wished I had just let things go because I really didn't have reason to be angry but for jealousy (which I even denied to myself)

The Op can't just say he does not like this guy bringing his girl for nothing. Perhaps he wish he was the one having the girls. Perhaps chicks do not fall for him (despite doing better than his friend) like his friend.

If it's washing stains, ask the guy to make effort to keep the bed neat. He is ur friend, don't let woman palavar spoil thinks.

And pls go out a little... U only live young once.

frank317:


Yes, I definitely don't understand why u want him to stop.

But since u want him to stop so badly, then u can tell him straight up to stop.

However, the relationship will have comma, but u will definitely get ur wish.

dierich:
Please ignore my grammatical errors.

I've a friend and he's very close to me. we know each other more than 10years and he has been the only friend close to me right now. I was living alone in a 3 bedroom flat and he always come to sleep at my place. I'm happy coz I won't be the only one sleeping in the house.

it started when he bring 1 of his girlfriends to my house, he uses on of the rooms and I didn't complain, but the issue is he kept bringing them in and I'm tired of it. the most annoying part is the way he's using the bed. stains or shit. it came to a time I've to wash the bed coz I'm tired of seeing stains on my bed, though I'm not really using the bed but it's still my property. I've been ill since December last year, I told him what I'm facing, and even lie to him to show how critical my illness is, but that doesn't stop him from bringing them in.

please can someone advise me on how to stop him totally. he found my place d best for him since he's still living with his parent.

I don't want to offend someone that's why I want the best way to table it to him.

right now he's with his gf at my place. this particular girl use to stay overnight.. same thing last week Wednesday. and he won't even tell me someone is coming. we went to bed together Around 10pm, and by the time I woke around 1 to pee, I found out he's not by my side again, I check around and went to the other room to found him and the girl.

I'm sick of this. please how can I stop him without malice.
thanks

PrimadonnaO:



And I thought girls were the sentimental ones. I've learnt early in life that you've got to define boundaries because most people are opportunists and selfish at it... they won't do right by you if you don't demand it.

I had a friend back then in school who'd come to my house to supposedly gist and she'd stay over... sometimes for days. She began to make a habit of expecting me to treat her like a guest all the time... cook what she wants, when she wants and all that. I had to sit her down and tell her without mincing words... "baby girl, I'm a student like you, too. You're no longer a guest in this house. When you come to the house, you eat whatever is available. Stop asking me to prepare this and that for you. You can't put me under pressure in my house."

She apologised...and tried to guilt-trip me by acting all formal with me whenever we met in class. Lol. But I refused to be guilt-tripped. I'd put my message across to her clearly. Some persons might be comfortable with behaviour like that... but not me, I couldn't suck it up.

Today, we're still very good friends... but she already knows the things I won't tolerate. That's how I live my life. If I'm not comfortable with a thing... I state it unapologetically!

dierich:


u may not understand why I'm seeking for advice. and besides, u don't need to say some people need psych evaluation. who knows maybe u need 1 too.
those that understand me will know y I'm looking for the best way to table it down without causing anything..

bluefilm:


Don't mind that gay fellow.

Maybe he enjoys watching the niggaz body when the nigga is asleep.

seborrhic:

Jokes aside.
How can any normal guy in today's world have 3 bedrooms but still prefers to sleep in the same bed with another guy that is not his relation,if not....
I feel the Op is just vexed that the friend's girls are taking away attention from him.
Disgusting!

PrimadonnaO:



And I thought girls were the sentimental ones. I've learnt early in life that you've got to define boundaries because most people are opportunists and selfish at it... they won't do right by you if you don't demand it.

I had a friend back then in school who'd come to my house to supposedly gist and she'd stay over... sometimes for days. She began to make a habit of expecting me to treat her like a guest all the time... cook what she wants, when she wants and all that. I had to sit her down and tell her without mincing words... "baby girl, I'm a student like you, too. You're no longer a guest in this house. When you come to the house, you eat whatever is available. Stop asking me to prepare this and that for you. You can't put me under pressure in my house."

She apologised...and tried to guilt-trip me by acting all formal with me whenever we met in class. Lol. But I refused to be guilt-tripped. I'd put my message across to her clearly. Some persons might be comfortable with behaviour like that... but not me, I couldn't suck it up.

Today, we're still very good friends... but she already knows the things I won't tolerate. That's how I live my life. If I'm not comfortable with a thing... I state it unapologetically!

seborrhic:

Jokes aside.
How can any normal guy in today's world have 3 bedrooms but still prefers to sleep in the same bed with another guy that is not his relation,if not....
I feel the Op is just vexed that the friend's girls are taking away attention from him.
Disgusting!

dierich:
Please ignore my grammatical errors.

I've a friend and he's very close to me. we know each other more than 10years and he has been the only friend close to me right now. I was living alone in a 3 bedroom flat and he always come to sleep at my place. I'm happy coz I won't be the only one sleeping in the house.

it started when he bring 1 of his girlfriends to my house, he uses on of the rooms and I didn't complain, but the issue is he kept bringing them in and I'm tired of it. the most annoying part is the way he's using the bed. stains or shit. it came to a time I've to wash the bed coz I'm tired of seeing stains on my bed, though I'm not really using the bed but it's still my property. I've been ill since December last year, I told him what I'm facing, and even lie to him to show how critical my illness is, but that doesn't stop him from bringing them in.

please can someone advise me on how to stop him totally. he found my place d best for him since he's still living with his parent.

I don't want to offend someone that's why I want the best way to table it to him.

right now he's with his gf at my place. this particular girl use to stay overnight.. same thing last week Wednesday. and he won't even tell me someone is coming. we went to bed together Around 10pm, and by the time I woke around 1 to pee, I found out he's not by my side again, I check around and went to the other room to found him and the girl.

I'm sick of this. please how can I stop him without malice.
thanks

seborrhic:

Jokes aside.
How can any normal guy in today's world have 3 bedrooms but still prefers to sleep in the same bed with another guy that is not his relation,if not....
I feel the Op is just vexed that the friend's girls are taking away attention from him.
Disgusting!

AnthonyAk:
maybe OP should ask his girl to bring a friend? why do you guys even sleep together if there is another room?

LONEER:
believe me i perfectly understand how you feel, cause am in same situation, urs is even better, mine is just a selfcon. but dude will be bringing different girls everyday till it even affected my relationship. now have broke up with my girl cause she wasn't comfortable when she come visiting and we end up being four people in the room, some days i have to be sleeping on the floor just to got a nigga back . funny part is that he even has his own rented apartment. this is not even all Am tired.

Halo22:
From what you just commented, the guy in question must be a flirt if not so, I wonder how he would be bringing different guys into ur house. For me the best you should do is to make urself more religious than u used to be if you are a Christian, always pray aloud and try preaching to him sometimes even when he comes with those ladies, am sure with that he will become uncomfortable with you.

dierich:


I'm not married so that's y I'm living alone, also I accommodate him so I won't be alone throughout d nite.
I'm just angry with myself now for allowing him from d start.