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Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by Iziquiel(m): 4:24pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
Sarang:I obviously didn't write in Chinese. Did I in any way exonerate the man? |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by Iziquiel(m): 4:35pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
chronique:Oga I no write in Chinese or Arabic so I no understand why e dey difficult for you to grasp wetin I dey talk. I tell you say e dey right for the man to send the woman message? I get close friends wey fit go my house wait for me dey different from sending my wife message. From her story her husband even mentioned his family, that she has respect his family and friends so there's definitely more to this story. We only heard the woman's side of the story which I think might not be entirely true. chronique: I still stand by what I said up there. If you have a friend who can go to your house and send your wife to buy recharge card, then it means you have no respect for your wife. Anyways, there are levels in life and I can only try to imagine the category of people who would be sending their friends wives to go buy recharge card. Oga I no write in Chinese or Arabic so I no understand why e dey difficult for you to grasp wetin I dey talk. I tell you say e dey right for the man to send the woman message? I get close friends wey fit go my house wait for me dey different from sending my wife message. From her story her husband even mentioned his family, that she has respect his family and friends so there's definitely more to this story. We only heard the woman's side of the story which I think might not be entirely true. chronique:Oga I no write in Chinese or Arabic so I no understand why e dey difficult for you to grasp wetin I dey talk. I tell you say e dey right for the man to send the woman message? I get close friends wey fit go my house wait for me dey different from sending my wife message. From her story her husband even mentioned his family, that she has respect his family and friends so there's definitely more to this story. We only heard the woman's side of the story which I think might not be entirely true. "NOBODY TELLS THE WHOLE TRUTH" |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by midnighter(f): 4:47pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
alert01: Lol sir please, what did the husband now do? No vex, I have wanted to ask you this for how many hours but I forgot my password |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by alert01(m): 4:54pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
midnighter: The husband having hold claim of the truth called his friend and set up a meeting in his house without informing the wife. The guy on getting there sat down as a gentle man, and the man called his wife out, started asking her questions. As we all know too many questions betrays a liar. She failed to substantiate her early claims with enough evidences and of course later betrayed herself. When the guy was vindicated in the prescence of the husband and the wife, he left. The wife later told her husband the truth of all her infidelities afterwards. And of course you shuld know what usually ends such when the mother inlaw got to know her son's wife who has not even born any children for his son is engaging in such act. The family advised their son to find another wife 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by lawrsmith(m): 4:57pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
Chinnyrita27:gay partner spotted |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by midnighter(f): 5:01pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
Assuming the story is true, it should act as a supplement to that other one where the lady used hot pepper to chase the -stupid friend away Ladies are tolerating a lot in the name of "husbands friend" o |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by midnighter(f): 5:04pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
alert01: Hmm. Well thanks for completing the story Thank God your friend handled it logically And discovered it on time! This could have been a disaster |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by Nobody: 5:08pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
I am not one to dole out advice to anyone especially a married couple since I am not a marriage counselor and don't profess to be one. However, I would be remiss if I do not add my two cents to this. If the facts are as you stated, then I am afraid to say that you married the wrong person. In my own opinion, a man should at least be able to know what his wife is capable of doing. So, for him to take sides without hearing your own side of the story goes to show how he feels about you and besides as a man, it is his responsibility to protect and take care of his family [wife and children] first above everything else. If he rebuffs every peace overtures you've made, then let him be. As a woman, I am sure you know how to hold your own and with time he would come around. |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by alert01(m): 5:13pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
midnighter: Yeah. It really could've. |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by spadar4u(m): 5:36pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
She refused to help a visitor buy recharge card. But has d strength to cook. Lies from d pit of devil she eat Apple with in Eden. Your husband deserve another wife. If na me ur papa house 4 daura na him u go dey by now. Stubborn goat contributing nothing |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by GoldHorse(m): 5:37pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
Madam go and apologize! I am sorry is just 3 words. E no go stain u for body and it doesn't mean you are wrong too. If u respect and love your marriage (not even your husband) you wouldn't have waited this long. Apologies does not show weakness but strength and wisdom. ***Modified: Your apologies will calm your husband down. You will now be able to sweetly explain your side and even use women "wayo wayo" to turn his head wherever you want then. You dey struggle with man for authority? You no be "wise" woman o. You no Sabi manure your man ego....?! |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by poseidon12: 5:39pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
You married the wrong guy. You should not apologise to his so called friend. Why would his friend come to your house and send you on errand to buy recharge card for him? Are you a house maid? If he files for divorce, I would say good riddance. You should stand your ground. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by Abfty(m): 5:40pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
What he did was totally stupid but just do as he ask you to do. I really fell sorry for U. |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by GoldHorse(m): 5:46pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
poseidon12: "stand your ground" ehn? E good! I beg make I ask sth.... Are you married? |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by dezo(m): 5:57pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
BookEditor: Best advice given here. |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by holusormi(m): 6:36pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
Nairaland30: You are stupid if you ever pick your friends over your wife - stupid AF !!! |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by holusormi(m): 6:38pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
IamD18: I should buy you a drink for this !! Pls dm your Acct number - this is a friendly gesture , I like common sense dispensers like this |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by Tex42(m): 6:41pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
imagine the nerves... to send another man's wife on an errand. the sick man obviously has no regards for ur husband. keep massaging ur husbands ego while standing ur ground in not apologizing to that his arrogant friend. humbly and patiently settle things with ur husband. don't let the idiot come between u and ur husband pls. may the good Lord protect and preserve ur marriage. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by Starz825(m): 7:13pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
Chinnyrita27: You called him your husband but he is acting like a boyfriend.... picking up fight when not necessary....I Sha don't like all this friend friend thing. This cause a lot of trouble in marriages now....some men think fighting for their wives in such case makes them weak, if he can't respect you - asking you to get recharge card for him then he doesn't have a single respect for ur husband. Anyway, u don't need to do anything bad... kneel down and beg your husband as a responsible wife that you are....tell him to get through to his friend on fone so u can also beg him....and mind u, if u Know u are beautiful and endowed beware and stay away from such husband friend as he could lure you into some mess..if u know then u Know |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by Novemberaura(m): 7:24pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
Your beloved husband doesn't appear to have respect for you. He certainly thinks little of you especially to his friends that would prompt his friend to attempt to make you his errand girl. I feel that's your major problem. Ask people how you can get your husband to regard and respect you then you can worry about his threat of divorce. |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by nullboss: 7:32pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
Nairaland30:Your father must be an animal |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by Lokostic77: 7:55pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
Op plz don't listen yo many advice here bcoz it can ruin your marriage most of them are single they never known what is called marriage listen to those ones telling you to apologise, it can't remove anything from your body though your husband friend was very wrong but plz save your marriage. |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by Breadfruit: 8:38pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
One, I can't even open the door for you when my husband is not around. You will knock and knock on the gate, when you are tired, you disappear. 2. What gist are we gisting when your friend is not there? Hian. Let me even keep quiet about the food. Because you will not step your thin legs inside my house in my husband's absence. 3. Send me to buy credit? It is like you are mad o. Stark, raving mad. Just that you are yet to tear your cloths and run into the market. Loooool. No be only credit, na crayfish. Loooool. 4. Apolo wetin? Are you referring to Apollo, the eye infection? He will get nada from me. Mad people everywhere. Loool. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by eyinjuege: 9:01pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
Perhaps the friend was trying to poison your remaining food in the kitchen ? Why couldn't he walk out himself to go and buy recharge card? Abi his legs are not working again ni? Even if he was your husband's boss, he should have respected himself and not be comfortable enough to stay alone in your home He only got angry because he couldn't achieve his aim 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by Premiumwriter: 9:21pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
Nairaland30:you're stupid |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by eyinjuege: 9:53pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
Iziquiel: she shouldn't have left her house with a stranger/friend alone inside. what stopped the friend from excusing himself and going to buy the card outside. OP didn't go to work due to ill health, and you expect her to be doing errand girl for one fake friend? he's lucky she even gave him food and entertained him. if she hadn't given him food, he wouldn't have had energy to be angry and walking out on her. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by Iziquiel(m): 10:01pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
eyinjuege:I never exonerated the man in any way. Like I said, I feel there's more to this whole story, we only heard from one of the parties. |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by 1Sharon(f): 10:10pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
Why's ur hubby's friend asking you to buy card for him? Are you his maid? Stupid man. |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by eyinjuege: 10:28pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
Iziquiel: perhaps there's more to the story, but you also said she should have gone to buy the recharge card for the man in question. That's why I quoted you, to tell you it's probably unsafe for her to do that. it has nothing to do with pride but the safety of her family. She said she didn't go to work for health issues. That's another legitimate reason she couldn't go out and buy any recharge card and even provided alternative solution. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by crownpriest: 11:15pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
I don't mind if i am the only one believing that ur spouse had a pre-arranged deal wt his pal to do / pick or drop something mischievious on his behalf in ur house at that point in time. You unknowingly became a cog in their wheel of progress. They never thought u wl think of e-loading (phone top-up) & that remedied the trap set for u & shattered their plot, provoking them. Please add more attention to ur baby's security henceforth. Apologising wl be ur undoing. This flows from d tap of a victim of his ex wife; be a victor ma. Fool me once, shame on u, but fool me twice shame on me. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by abdabass: 11:20pm On Mar 30, 2019 |
Good day my sister, First and foremost, obey your husband by apologizing to the friend, not minding the pains it will cause you. It is not that you have done anything wrong (if your narration is correct anyway), but all ‘am interested in is how to keep your marriage, so let the sleeping dog lie. Secondly; both your husband and his friend are out of their senses. The friend is a falsehood monger and a devil that is ready to cause damage in your union. And your husband is a man who cannot protect and respect you before his people. May be they have motive for that incident/action; you have to be prayerful, please. Now, to the real issue; mind you my opinion is based on the Islamic and Yoruba cultures. I am confident that the English (British) will not tolerate such action too. 1. A Yoruba adage says "Agbejo enikan da agba osika" i.e he who does not allow fair hearing, is a bad person. Irrespective of how grievous the report he must have heard from his friend, you deserve to be given listening hear. 2. The so called friend is a rude and pompous type, if not what right has he to send another person’s (friend, neighbour etc) housewife an errand without the permission of the husband. It is a total disrespect to marriage institution for him to have asked you to buy him call card in the first instance. It is never done in Yoruba land; you cannot send another person’s wife an errand, however small she is. This, your husband refused to appreciate/understand. 3. In Islamic Shariah, if a woman’s husband is not around, he as a friend has no right to enter the house and the woman is strongly forbidden to admit him in while her husband is away. If he must stay, it has to be outside and with the consent of the husband. The same thing in some set of Yoruba Land especially the hunter clan. The friend has also violated this rule. 4. Your husband’s friend is a lair that you have to be careful with and keep praying not to cause your separation; if not why must he translate your gesture to have electronic recharge as being poor and report same to your husband. All these notwithstanding; please as advised/stated above, obey your husband, apologize to his friend and begin to pray fervently for God’s guidance and intervention in your union knowing fully well that devils are always at work and this is one of such. |
Re: My Husband Threatened To Divorce Me Because Of His Friend. by DonaTee(f): 12:35am On Mar 31, 2019 |
Chinnyrita27: When you angrily replied, you made a mess of the situation because you don't know what his friend told him. Sometimes, Silence is golden you could have said your mind/tell him what really happened later when tempers are down. I advise you be extremely careful n observant because both of them are acting suspicious. |
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