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Gaspardd:
Naso bro, that wud have really bleeped up my monthly budget and mth still far

Better go double your hustle, all this 'priority' blah blah na nonsense u dey talk, serious nonsense

1500 ontop date wey u fit use am load ya phone do WhatsApp video call instead



Miogbo ri

Gaspardd:
There is this lady at work, she works for the client and i work for the contractor. She has a nigga friend who is my padi and he has been talking to me about her, after so much persuasion, i said fùck it and gave it a shot.

Really she was so receptive than i envisaged and since then we've been casually saying hi and stuff.
On saturday i called her and asked about her weekend, she told me she wasnt doing anything, i suggested we meet on sunday(ytd). She said she wud call me wenever she's back from church.
She called around 5pm, i dressed up, all my clothes were creased so bad so i had to borrow a niggas Tshirt, pocketed 2k cus i am cheap and i live cheap, so i cant spend more than 2k on a date.

I got to d venue, she was waiting already, she was putting on a gown revealing some cleavage which was a very nice sight but really unlike her as she always dress modest to work.
Long story short, i ordered for drinks, all was 1400 naira, which was within budget, d 100 naira change will be for my TP and i will give d maruwa guy 500 for her own TP to give her d remaining change. Everything was going according to plan, things were going fine , what a good time to be alive. Suddenly she said she feels like chewing sth.
I initially made as if i didnt hear what she said, she said it again and i interjected with "NOPE, CHEWING IS BAD FOR TEETH" She laffed and beckoned on the waiter to come over. In shock i yelled wait wait, i brought out the whole of 1500, dropped it on the table and told her this all i have with me, already she knows there is 1400 payment to be made.

She didnt give a shìt, she called the guy, brought 2 plates of meat, i was just feeling awkward watching how the whole shìt wud play out. At last she brought out her purse, gave d guy some money, i picked the 1500, gave it to the waiter but he returned the money, said the money she gave him is complete.
Seriously i was ashamed of myself, i wanted to talk about it but i decided to let it slide so as not to overflogg the issue.
Later we were done and i saw her off, i gave d driver 500 for her TP. Some hrs later i saw 3missed calls from her, i texted her back and she responded with... see you tmao. While i dont know wht that means but i know she is gonna tell everybody at work about what happened, about how i am a stingy pig. But i aint stingy, i just priotize things i spend money on.
Today i told my niggas what happened, i have only two niggas, but neither i nor any of them has heard about the parol from another source. But then i am sure that if words get around, my reputation = Ruined

There’s nothing to feel bad about bro! I once had a rich Gf that pays for everything and would even gimme $ when she’s leaving my place. She might just be another good girl from the other side that believes spending on a man isn’t a barrier!


Note- Double ur huzzle. 2k on a date is way small. Nah man to man advice be this!

If u want to make it in life, avoid broke girls with an expensive taste.

MartinsD12:
My brother I support you, nothing to feel bad about, a date is a date even if na Fanta and coke you fit buy join na date, I do not advice guys going above their income in order to please their date that will amount to fake impression, she seeing you as rich when in the actual situation you are not, guys should endeavor to be real at first date this will go a long way to let her know your true self no faking it, once again congratulations for being your self and a real man .

You guys hailing him just don't get the point of how senseless his action was. First he was the one who called the lady and asked for a date which she agreed to. How can you ask a lady on a date with just 2k? If it was the lady who suggested the date or outing then that's different. No matter how you guys hail him the truth which is always bitter is that he didn't do well at all. Even he himself knows that and that's why he is here feeling bad.

AntiBrutus:
Men; We want independent women. Nigerian ladies are olosho, they don't pay on dates.

Man goes on a date with lady. Lady pays the bills and even tops the menu

Man comes on NL next day to create a thread like this.

Exactly.
All the talk about wanting and admiring independent ladies end on social media.
In real life, independent ladies who foot their bills are a worry to men.

Ok

Preshy561:
She's not gonna disgrace your little ass.
She's a feminist y'all have been shouting and yelling untop your voices that they don't pay their bills.

Now, you've seen one, you are feeling emasculated and acting all sissy.

As in eh?!
I just don’t understand us men sometimes

Jayneek:
You guys hailing him just don't get the point of how senseless his action was. First he was the one who called the lady and asked for a date which she agreed to. How can you ask a lady on a date with just 2k? If it was the lady who suggested the date or outing then that's different. No matter how you guys hail him the truth which is always bitter is that he didn't do well at all. Even he himself knows that and that's why he is here feeling bad.

Lol as in , why go on a date esp when you k ow eating that much is expensive esp in Lagos. Lol NL guys are funny

Gaspardd:
It wasnt about the mentality that women are after my pocket, its d fact that i have a spending cap and i do not exceed it. And like i said in the OP i am a cheap guy, i live well below my means hence d reason for the 2k.
And again it was supposed to be a date, meetup to share moments together and not a food party.

Lwkm
I never see this kain nonsense talk before for this life. Spending cap na in make u take 1500 for date

@op...
Don't feel bad about ur self.. At least u were honest 2her which is the most important.... She knows udont have much... Maybe she notice u even before the date coz u said u work in same place...
She's understanding that's why she paid, not only for the plate of meat, but the entire date...
She's a rare gem in this 21st century..
Things like this are common in the society....

I could remember my 100level in the university where I decide 2 eat in a cafeteria wit a female student of same faculty.... I ordered for fried rice for both of us( wit 2 fork, same plate) she told them to add 2 Pepsi drink...
And she end up paying for the whole expense!!
NB:Not all girls date for money, some do coz they like ur company and honesty

May my Children never go on a date with a broke ass that wants to spend 2k
Amen oooooooooooooo

You get reputation na im you borrow shirt wear on a date as if that's not bad enough, you put only 2k for pocket join.
Whatever happened to 'contingency Mgt plan"?.....

I can't even take myself out to the neighbourhood suya spot with N2000, let alone with a potential lay. I detest cheapskate mofos. You can't go left and right at the same time. Choose your direction and stick with it.

Leave the dating/womanising game alone if you're a broke ass cheapskate without social game. Stay home and read your Bible rather than looking for girls to go out with. And when it's time to get married, go to church and let your pastor divinely reveal one of the congregants that is ordained to be your wife.

Better guys dey groove chicks, you sef with your tightwad awkward self wan follow chook head. Nonsense and ingredients.

Gaspardd:
Nope she's a glutton.

And I even thought you are a gentleman.
Please, I take everything you hold dear beg you, leave that girl alone before you ruin her.
She’s a glutton because she ordered something she paid with her own money.
Dude, just leave that girl alone. You na bad market.
No offence meant, just my observation.

Gaspardd:
It wasnt about the mentality that women are after my pocket, its d fact that i have a spending cap and i do not exceed it. And like i said in the OP i am a cheap guy, i live well below my means hence d reason for the 2k.
And again it was supposed to be a date, meetup to share moments together and not a food party.

Why would you go on a date and order drinks, but not food??

Gaspardd:
There is this lady at work, she works for the client and i work for the contractor. She has a nigga friend who is my padi and he has been talking to me about her, after so much persuasion, i said fùck it and gave it a shot.

Really she was so receptive than i envisaged and since then we've been casually saying hi and stuff.
On saturday i called her and asked about her weekend, she told me she wasnt doing anything, i suggested we meet on sunday(ytd). She said she wud call me wenever she's back from church.
She called around 5pm, i dressed up, all my clothes were creased so bad so i had to borrow a niggas Tshirt, pocketed 2k cus i am cheap and i live cheap, so i cant spend more than 2k on a date.

I got to d venue, she was waiting already, she was putting on a gown revealing some cleavage which was a very nice sight but really unlike her as she always dress modest to work.
Long story short, i ordered for drinks, all was 1400 naira, which was within budget, d 100 naira change will be for my TP and i will give d maruwa guy 500 for her own TP to give her d remaining change. Everything was going according to plan, things were going fine , what a good time to be alive. Suddenly she said she feels like chewing sth.
I initially made as if i didnt hear what she said, she said it again and i interjected with "NOPE, CHEWING IS BAD FOR TEETH" She laffed and beckoned on the waiter to come over. In shock i yelled wait wait, i brought out the whole of 1500, dropped it on the table and told her this all i have with me, already she knows there is 1400 payment to be made.

She didnt give a shìt, she called the guy, brought 2 plates of meat, i was just feeling awkward watching how the whole shìt wud play out. At last she brought out her purse, gave d guy some money, i picked the 1500, gave it to the waiter but he returned the money, said the money she gave him is complete.
Seriously i was ashamed of myself, i wanted to talk about it but i decided to let it slide so as not to overflogg the issue.
Later we were done and i saw her off, i gave d driver 500 for her TP. Some hrs later i saw 3missed calls from her, i texted her back and she responded with... see you tmao. While i dont know wht that means but i know she is gonna tell everybody at work about what happened, about how i am a stingy pig. But i aint stingy, i just priotize things i spend money on.
Today i told my niggas what happened, i have only two niggas, but neither i nor any of them has heard about the parol from another source. But then i am sure that if words get around, my reputation = Ruined

nawa for you oo, if you don't have must you date. You just took 2K with you for a date in buhari regime?

Lol. You are a stingy nigga. Awon I won't pay for dates crew. Her entire look probably costs more than ur budget

Gaspardd:
There is this lady at work, she works for the client and i work for the contractor. She has a nigga friend who is my padi and he has been talking to me about her, after so much persuasion, i said fùck it and gave it a shot.

Really she was so receptive than i envisaged and since then we've been casually saying hi and stuff.
On saturday i called her and asked about her weekend, she told me she wasnt doing anything, i suggested we meet on sunday(ytd). She said she wud call me wenever she's back from church.
She called around 5pm, i dressed up, all my clothes were creased so bad so i had to borrow a niggas Tshirt, pocketed 2k cus i am cheap and i live cheap, so i cant spend more than 2k on a date.

I got to d venue, she was waiting already, she was putting on a gown revealing some cleavage which was a very nice sight but really unlike her as she always dress modest to work.
Long story short, i ordered for drinks, all was 1400 naira, which was within budget, d 100 naira change will be for my TP and i will give d maruwa guy 500 for her own TP to give her d remaining change. Everything was going according to plan, things were going fine , what a good time to be alive. Suddenly she said she feels like chewing sth.
I initially made as if i didnt hear what she said, she said it again and i interjected with "NOPE, CHEWING IS BAD FOR TEETH" She laffed and beckoned on the waiter to come over. In shock i yelled wait wait, i brought out the whole of 1500, dropped it on the table and told her this all i have with me, already she knows there is 1400 payment to be made.

She didnt give a shìt, she called the guy, brought 2 plates of meat, i was just feeling awkward watching how the whole shìt wud play out. At last she brought out her purse, gave d guy some money, i picked the 1500, gave it to the waiter but he returned the money, said the money she gave him is complete.
Seriously i was ashamed of myself, i wanted to talk about it but i decided to let it slide so as not to overflogg the issue.
Later we were done and i saw her off, i gave d driver 500 for her TP. Some hrs later i saw 3missed calls from her, i texted her back and she responded with... see you tmao. While i dont know wht that means but i know she is gonna tell everybody at work about what happened, about how i am a stingy pig. But i aint stingy, i just priotize things i spend money on.
Today i told my niggas what happened, i have only two niggas, but neither i nor any of them has heard about the parol from another source. But then i am sure that if words get around, my reputation = Ruined

you can't even date a paraga seller with 2k. You fvcked up big time.

You acted cowardly, you should have politely tell her that you don't have enough money on you, than acting the way you did. Secondly, always plan for miscellaneous when going on a date especially if you are the one that asked for it.

Gaspardd:
There is this lady at work, she works for the client and i work for the contractor. She has a nigga friend who is my padi and he has been talking to me about her, after so much persuasion, i said fùck it and gave it a shot.

Really she was so receptive than i envisaged and since then we've been casually saying hi and stuff.
On saturday i called her and asked about her weekend, she told me she wasnt doing anything, i suggested we meet on sunday(ytd). She said she wud call me wenever she's back from church.
She called around 5pm, i dressed up, all my clothes were creased so bad so i had to borrow a niggas Tshirt, pocketed 2k cus i am cheap and i live cheap, so i cant spend more than 2k on a date.

I got to d venue, she was waiting already, she was putting on a gown revealing some cleavage which was a very nice sight but really unlike her as she always dress modest to work.
Long story short, i ordered for drinks, all was 1400 naira, which was within budget, d 100 naira change will be for my TP and i will give d maruwa guy 500 for her own TP to give her d remaining change. Everything was going according to plan, things were going fine , what a good time to be alive. Suddenly she said she feels like chewing sth.
I initially made as if i didnt hear what she said, she said it again and i interjected with "NOPE, CHEWING IS BAD FOR TEETH" She laffed and beckoned on the waiter to come over. In shock i yelled wait wait, i brought out the whole of 1500, dropped it on the table and told her this all i have with me, already she knows there is 1400 payment to be made.

She didnt give a shìt, she called the guy, brought 2 plates of meat, i was just feeling awkward watching how the whole shìt wud play out. At last she brought out her purse, gave d guy some money, i picked the 1500, gave it to the waiter but he returned the money, said the money she gave him is complete.
Seriously i was ashamed of myself, i wanted to talk about it but i decided to let it slide so as not to overflogg the issue.
Later we were done and i saw her off, i gave d driver 500 for her TP. Some hrs later i saw 3missed calls from her, i texted her back and she responded with... see you tmao. While i dont know wht that means but i know she is gonna tell everybody at work about what happened, about how i am a stingy pig. But i aint stingy, i just priotize things i spend money on.
Today i told my niggas what happened, i have only two niggas, but neither i nor any of them has heard about the parol from another source. But then i am sure that if words get around, my reputation = Ruined

bro anything she wan think, make she think, u ordered for things u can afford, we no fit kill ourselves because of woman

Next time try to get some good cash while taking someone out.u never can tell what's gona pop up.the babe has some good understanding.

Nobody talked bout the three missed calls.....hmmm, I believe d babe wasn't don't wit him yet, he lost his chance

Nonsense

My brother, you did the right thing. And she loves you for your sincerity but you don't know it. Why are you worried about damaging your reputation when you should be planning on making that co-worker your co-lover? Lol. She spent her hard-earned money on you and still gave you three missed calls afterwards bro. Are you blind or an olodo? Can't you see she really likes you?

It's unfortunate that many men don't know that being the man by standing your ground (and in your case, sticking to your 2k budget) actually turns women on. You know why? Because a man is supposed to make the rules not bend it to please women. Ironically, when a man tries hard to please a woman, that's when he'll even displease her and turn her off.

I recommend THE RATIONAL MALE BY ROLLO TOMASSI to you. Every man should read that book and learn how to be a man. If you need the pdf version, just whatsapp me and ask nicely, I'll send it to you. You can thank me later.

Gaspardd:
There is this lady at work, she works for the client and i work for the contractor. She has a nigga friend who is my padi and he has been talking to me about her, after so much persuasion, i said fùck it and gave it a shot.

Really she was so receptive than i envisaged and since then we've been casually saying hi and stuff.
On saturday i called her and asked about her weekend, she told me she wasnt doing anything, i suggested we meet on sunday(ytd). She said she wud call me wenever she's back from church.
She called around 5pm, i dressed up, all my clothes were creased so bad so i had to borrow a niggas Tshirt, pocketed 2k cus i am cheap and i live cheap, so i cant spend more than 2k on a date.

I got to d venue, she was waiting already, she was putting on a gown revealing some cleavage which was a very nice sight but really unlike her as she always dress modest to work.
Long story short, i ordered for drinks, all was 1400 naira, which was within budget, d 100 naira change will be for my TP and i will give d maruwa guy 500 for her own TP to give her d remaining change. Everything was going according to plan, things were going fine , what a good time to be alive. Suddenly she said she feels like chewing sth.
I initially made as if i didnt hear what she said, she said it again and i interjected with "NOPE, CHEWING IS BAD FOR TEETH" She laffed and beckoned on the waiter to come over. In shock i yelled wait wait, i brought out the whole of 1500, dropped it on the table and told her this all i have with me, already she knows there is 1400 payment to be made.

She didnt give a shìt, she called the guy, brought 2 plates of meat, i was just feeling awkward watching how the whole shìt wud play out. At last she brought out her purse, gave d guy some money, i picked the 1500, gave it to the waiter but he returned the money, said the money she gave him is complete.
Seriously i was ashamed of myself, i wanted to talk about it but i decided to let it slide so as not to overflogg the issue.
Later we were done and i saw her off, i gave d driver 500 for her TP. Some hrs later i saw 3missed calls from her, i texted her back and she responded with... see you tmao. While i dont know wht that means but i know she is gonna tell everybody at work about what happened, about how i am a stingy pig. But i aint stingy, i just priotize things i spend money on.
Today i told my niggas what happened, i have only two niggas, but neither i nor any of them has heard about the parol from another source. But then i am sure that if words get around, my reputation = Ruined

you did well bro. You were real. And real ladies love real men not pretenders.

Continue your game with confidence.

Guy u fall our hand.. So you don't know how to cut your clothes according to your size.. If u wanna take a girl out be prepared na.... Abeg.. Una for go garden go stroll.. U just fall all your limbs

Some guys sef,who goes on a date with 2k?
Instead of you to cut your coat according to ur size and go to where they fry akara and yam,then go home and eat it,you go fall ur own hand


Anyways i like the way you are real sha

MartinsD12:
My brother I support you, nothing to feel bad about, a date is a date even if na Fanta and coke you fit buy join na date, I do not advice guys going above their income in order to please their date that will amount to fake impression, she seeing you as rich when in the actual situation you are not, guys should endeavor to be real at first date this will go a long way to let her know your true self no faking it, once again congratulations for being your self and a real man .

If I tear you slap, he would have bought two pure water and salt only na, sante

AntiBrutus:
If you were the one with all the money, will you carry her along?

Maybe ask her, "babe, I want to buy meat, do you have money to add?"

I am VERY SURE you won't. You will just order the thing like a boss and pay the bills.

Tell me the truth, if say you get money and she pay, shey you for the plan return match to equalize? Oga, you are fighting with your ego.

It is very hard dating guys without much money and I am not being condescending here. Call a rich guy "ewu" and he will laugh, because im know say the money dey pon the beat. Call a humble guy "ewu" and he will rush to create thread. I graduated since 2016, I have one small job I am managing, but I don't hesitate to take care of my babe. Yesterday she called me ewu, should I breakup with her?

Walahi, you guys are paranoid. Una dey synonymous with not-goodlooking girls.

i like how you are replying the id!ot. He is a disgrace to guys. Stingy fooool. I 2k for a date? What will 2k buy? And. For his mind N500 for transport. Hahahaha. Na wa o. Some guys sha. Instead of thinking of how to make it up to her on the next date and give a a treat he is here complaining

Jayneek:
You guys hailing him just don't get the point of how senseless his action was. First he was the one who called the lady and asked for a date which she agreed to. How can you ask a lady on a date with just 2k? If it was the lady who suggested the date or outing then that's different. No matter how you guys hail him the truth which is always bitter is that he didn't do well at all. Even he himself knows that and that's why he is here feeling bad.

And what's wrong in a lady paying for date knowing fully well the guy was honest and even brought out all the 1400 remaining money, I maintain my word a date is a date OK nothing special friends could go on a date and pay for each other its nothing, a date no be traditional wedding where the man is required to pay everything to have a woman OK, you want the guy to claim what he is not to impress the lady funny enough ladies love fake lifestyle, it's good to be real

Dude you have nothing to worry about. You were just being real. When you try to impress and go broke nobody would come to your aid. Na the same people go laugh you.