Olanrefront3355:
Ralphjoe

When you bring matters like this to the altar, tag people like us

OK take this from many

-Tell a friend of yours you trust (male of cos) at the company and ask that friend to inform her about it, like "Jennifer, do you know Joe is crushing on you, and he talks about it every time".. Get the exact response and body language from the friend u sent, if the response is positive, go get your girl, if it's negative (she might be forming hard to get sef, just calm down, she go woo u herself) either way, you retain your friendship.

You're welcome....

mehn... You are damn good. Am going to try this on a lot of lady. After all there's nothing to lose

Who talk say u no fit date ur colleague, haba brothers na person for oversee in go date, if u like woman make in know if she no gree na him still lose becos for me I no dey see person for road tell am I like am

MrBrownJay1:




it is very simple...

A) it is easy to get attached/feelings for someone at work, because you spend more time with that person than with your own partner/wife... but the reality is that it is a false sense of infatuation.

B) if you guys start dating then imagine how stressful it would be....so you see each other all day long and then after work, you need to spend "more" time with that person?! how long do you think it would be before you need some time off?
it is a well know fact that many married people wouldnt last as long as they do/did, if they had to spend all day everyday with their partner.

C) if you guys have a disagreement/fight in the relationship, then imagine the nightmare it would cause at work (especially if you are her boss/superior)?

D) if you guys have a disagreement/fight as colleagues, then imagine the nightmare it would cause in your r/ship?

E) what if the r/ship doesnt last and now you have to 1) see this person everyday 2) deal/interact with this person everyday, 3) act nice around someone you may dislike etc ?

but the most IMPORTANT issue here is: when you date someone at work then you mix work with r/ship, and there will come a time when these two elements will clash... and sadly (once again) your emotions will have you choose love over work. as soon as you date someone at work, you can NEVER have an unbiased opinion about that person and/or the job they do... and sadly after time, your job/duties will ultimately be affected by it. examples:
- can you fire a girlfriend who is not doing her job properly because she is now complacent/lazy?
- can you really promote someone who does the same job as your gf but is better than your girlfriend?
- do you think people at work would feel great knowing that their hardwork/dedication would always be overlooked because someone get special favors?
- if you show people at work that having a r/ship with your colleagues is ok, how long do you think before the above point B/C/D/E happens to them, and therefore fukcs up (aka poison) the whole work environment?

PS i wont even dwell on how foolish you will look when bitter ex gf starts to throw your name in the mud (in anger about the breakup) by saying TO PEOPLE WHO LOOK UP TO YOU, WORK UNDER YOU AND "SHOULD" RESPECT YOU that you were useless in bed, had a tiny baby dikc, like to be finger fukced during sex and/or that you have a ritualist shrine at home.

so yes, that r/ship could be great, but would you gamble your job/business over it?!

Good point.

Now the question is, does this always be the case?

tintingz:
Good point.

Now the question is, does this always be the case?

the important question should be: how often did you break up with someone and stayed on great terms with her?

MrBrownJay1:


the important question should be: how often did you break up with someone and stayed on great terms with her?

Humans are imperfect, we don't know what the future will hold.

I know of someone who got married to her colleague at work and they acted professionally in what they do.

Breaking up often with different people does not mean it will continue that way. I don't think your question is the important question now, the important question is does this always be the case?

Your premise is as if it's always be the case which are just assumptions in my view.

Ikennablue:
mehn... You are damn good. Am going to try this on a lot of lady. After all there's nothing to lose

Lol, that's the point

office romance between colleagues does not usually end well..
if you can't control this your crush, just let the cat out of the bag and oh, don't fall too hard in love with her.
..
she might just want to toy with u or have " fun"

Why don't you test if she likes you? Ask a female friend to visit you during break and act tight with her. If your crush is jealous, you're on to something. Or even a well orchestrated phone call by any female friend asking you to forgive her and you saying you'll think of it.

If she's fuming, try and denote it from her body language. She may suddenly become cold, provide very short answers to your questions, she has that "how could you do this to me" look. She may even start expressing any deep feelings she has for you.

But note, you have to be careful of office romance. One of you may have to quit if you both decide to wed. Also, how soon do you wish to settle down? The longer it takes, the more likely it fails( Too many people poking their nose into your business)

Chinny024:


Big and fat lie

Lol, ok since its not allowed in your place of work, let me ask you out na, will you be my date?

tintingz:
Humans are imperfect, we don't know what the future will hold.
I know of someone who got married to her colleague at work and they acted professionally in what they do.

as many success stories you got, i can give you 5times more that ended miserably... and probably half of these stories would be my own personal experiences.

Breaking up often with different people does not mean it will continue that way. I don't think your question is the important question now, the important question is does this always be the case?
Your premise is as if it's always be the case which are just assumptions in my view.

more often than none, these office romances end badly... and we should be real on this issue, and accept the facts:
- how many of us can gamble/jeopardize our whole life because of a hunch?
- how many of us always believe that the next/new babe is indeed the "right" one?

babyfaceafrica:
there are also those who risk everything and lose everything
...isoko or urhobo?

Isoko. Such is life, but I'll take my chances

oghenerobo91:

Isoko. Such is life, but I'll take my chances

wow..If you can speak the language well..please let me pm u..I need your help

MrBrownJay1:


as many success stories you got, i can give you 5times more that ended miserably... and probably half of these stories would be my own personal experiences.

This can not always be the basis of fact or you will results to fallacies.

more often than none, these office romances end badly... and we should be real on this issue, and accept the facts:
- how many of us can gamble/jeopardize our whole life because of a hunch?
- how many of us always believe that the next/new babe is indeed the "right" one?

This is no fact, people are getting married to their colleague at work, we should just accept "it may work out or it may not work out" concluding it cannot work out is fallacious and not fact. There might be some weight of it advantage and disadvantage in office romance.

How people get affection for each other comes in different ways my experience can be different from your experience, using your experience to judge another person's experience and claim it's the fact is fallacious. It's like argument from authority fallacy

Olanrefront3355:
Ralphjoe

When you bring matters like this to the altar, tag people like us

OK take this from many

-Tell a friend of yours you trust (male of cos) at the company and ask that friend to inform her about it, like "Jennifer, do you know Joe is crushing on you, and he talks about it every time".. Get the exact response and body language from the friend u sent, if the response is positive, go get your girl, if it's negative (she might be forming hard to get sef, just calm down, she go woo u herself) either way, you retain your friendship.

You're welcome....

This is succinctly put. EOD.

legend!

Olanrefront3355:
Ralphjoe

When you bring matters like this to the altar, tag people like us

OK take this from many

-Tell a friend of yours you trust (male of cos) at the company and ask that friend to inform her about it, like "Jennifer, do you know Joe is crushing on you, and he talks about it every time".. Get the exact response and body language from the friend u sent, if the response is positive, go get your girl, if it's negative (she might be forming hard to get sef, just calm down, she go woo u herself) either way, you retain your friendship.

You're welcome....

tintingz:
This can not always be the basis of fact or you will results to fallacies.

i am giving you points as to why I BELIEVE you shouldnt date people at your workplace... points that i can vouch for as A) personal experiences coupled with tons around (while almost NO success story) B) extensive knowledge on the issue as an employer (when you sign a contract with me, it is stipulated that there can be NO romance between colleagues), C) by no mean i am forcing you to follow what i write. these are my views on the subject.

This is no fact, people are getting married to their colleague at work, we should just accept "it may work out or it may not work out" concluding it cannot work out is fallacious and not fact. There might be some weight of it advantage and disadvantage in office romance.

what you wrote above would be as crazy as saying that because someone jumped out of a plane with no parachute, and survived, its safe to jump out of planes with no parachute.... highly laughable!!!! whats next? some uneducated person became a successful biz owner, so you will now advice people not to get an education?!

yes, "some" may have succeeded in their office romance, but the majority DIDNT... so again, more often than none, these office romances end badly... and we should be real on this issue, and accept that fact

How people get affection for each other comes in different ways my experience can be different from your experience, using your experience to judge another person's experience and claim it's the fact is fallacious.

this issue has absolutely NOTHING to do with "how" people get affection for one another... stick to the subject at hand.

MrBrownJay1:


i am giving you points as to why I BELIEVE you shouldnt date people at your workplace... points that i can vouch for as A) personal experiences coupled with tons around (while almost NO success story) B) extensive knowledge on the issue as an employer (when you sign a contract with me, it is stipulated that there can be NO romance between colleagues), C) by no mean i am forcing you to follow what i write. these are my views on the subject.

Since they are your opinions and personal experience then no argument here.

We can't take this as fact.

what you wrote above would be as crazy as saying that because someone jumped out of a plane with no parachute, and survived, its safe to jump out of planes with no parachute.... highly laughable!!!! whats next? some uneducated person became a successful biz owner, so you will now advice people not to get an education?!

Someone jumping out from plane with no parachute is different from the argument here.

We all know one is not likely to survive a fall from plane even with parachute the chance is not 100%

But office romance we have seen testimonies of people getting married and we have seen the ones not ending well. Companies especially private companies don't encourage office romance/relationship due to it professionalism.

The premise is not about office professionalism, it's about the "relationship working out in work place", kindly follow the premise.

yes, "some" may have succeeded in their office romance, but the majority DIDNT... so again, more often than none, these office romances end badly... and we should be real on this issue, and accept that fact

Can you provide evidence to this claim of yours, give statistics not empty claims.

this issue has absolutely NOTHING to do with "how" people get affection for one another... stick to the subject at hand.

I didn't deviate from the subject, you were the one using your experience as basis of fact which I pointed out experiences varies, your experience can be different from mine and vice versa.

tintingz:
Since they are your opinions and personal experience then no argument here.

We can't take this as fact.

the above is my fact, whether you agree to it or not is your issue... but certainly wont change these facts.

Someone jumping out from plane with no parachute is different from the argument here.

We all know one is not likely to survive a fall from plane even with parachute the chance is not 100%

exactly, just as people are not likely to survive office romance.

But office romance we have seen testimonies of people getting married and we have seen the ones not ending well. Companies especially private companies don't encourage office romance/relationship due to it professionalism.

... and these are your facts?! Can you provide evidence to this claim of yours? any statistics to back them up?

The premise is not about office professionalism, it's about the "relationship working out in work place", kindly follow the premise.

ARRANT GIBBERISH!!!!!
what the hell are you writing gibberish about (trying to act smart)?!?! where in my above post did you see anything written about "office professionalism"?!?!?!?!! BWAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH!!!!!!

Can you provide evidence to this claim of yours, give statistics not empty claims.

but of course... i will even bring an essay coupled with a social experiment too, lol!

I didn't deviate from the subject, you were the one using your experience as basis of fact which I pointed out experiences varies, your experience can be different from mine and vice versa.

ARRANT GIBBERISH AGAIN!!!!
whether your experience varies (or not) is irrelevant as to "how" people get affection... the issue here is: office romance is it right or not, and has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with how people get affection, DUH!

MrBrownJay1:


the above is my fact, whether you agree to it or not is your issue... but certainly wont change these facts.

Lol, it seems you dont know what a "fact" it.

Personal experience does not equate to fact.

exactly, just as people are not likely to survive office romance.

And people survive office romance.

Even outside the office people still have problems with relationship.

... and these are your facts?!

Does it look like it's not?

ARRANT GIBBERISH!!!!!
what the hell are you writing gibberish about (trying to act smart)?!?! where in my above post did you see anything written about "office professionalism"?!?!?!?!! BWAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH!!!!!!

Oga can you explain the bolded part in this your post? >> https://www.nairaland.com/5136157/crush-colleague-should-let-know/4#77596859

but of course... i will even bring an essay coupled with a social experiment too, lol!

I'm waiting.

ARRANT GIBBERISH AGAIN!!!!
whether your experiences varies (or not) is irrelevant as to "how" people get affection... the issue here is: office romance is it right or not, and has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with how people get affection, DUH!

Lol, if there is no affection in relationship then why is it a romantic-relationship?

There's nothing like right or wrong here, it's does it work or not?

Except you want to talk about office professionalism.

tintingz:

And people survive office romance.

so because "few" people survive office romance, it is your reason to believe that people should indulge in it?!?!
well, some people went to Sambisa forest and survived, should we now all follow suit?!

Even outside the office people still have problems with relationship.

YES..... with people that are NOT related to their employment, duh!

Oga can you explain the bolded part in this your post? >> https://www.nairaland.com/5136157/crush-colleague-should-let-know/4#77596859
I'm waiting.

ARRANT GIBBERISH NONSENSE!!!!!

the above you quoted has absolutely nothing to do with what you wrote... stop trying to type rubbish trying to make any sense here.... but since you are losing focus, here it is again:

MBJ wrote (today) ....what you wrote above would be as crazy as saying that because someone jumped out of a plane with no parachute, and survived, its safe to jump out of planes with no parachute.... highly laughable!!!! whats next? some uneducated person became a successful biz owner, so you will now advice people not to get an education?!

Tintingz irrelevant reply to the above was ... The premise is not about office professionalism, it's about the "relationship working out in work place", kindly follow the premise.

so MBJ tells you that what you wrote is IRRELEVANT to what was quoted.... FACT!!!!!

... and now you want to bring something that i wrote YESTERDAY. well guess what? what you wrote above is STILL IRRELEVANT to what you quoted me for, DUH!!!! now, if you want clarification as to what i wrote YESTERDAY, then quote exactly that.

Lol, if there is no affection in relationship then why is it a romantic-relationship?

ANOTHER DOSE OF ARRANT RUBBISH!!!!!

are you bipolar or you just want to write nonsense online.... ok, lets go back again:

MBJ wrote ...more often than none, these office romances end badly... and we should be real on this issue, and accept the facts. how many of us can gamble/jeopardize our whole life because of a hunch? how many of us always believe that the next/new babe is indeed the "right" one?

Tintingz replied ...How people get affection for each other comes in different ways my experience can be different from your experience, using your experience to judge another person's experience and claim it's the fact is fallacious.

so MBJ replied ... this issue has absolutely NOTHING to do with "how" people get affection for one another... stick to the subject at hand.

to which Tintingz replied ... I didn't deviate from the subject, you were the one using your experience as basis of fact which I pointed out experiences varies, your experience can be different from mine and vice versa.

so MBJ clarified that ...whether your experience varies (or not) is irrelevant as to "how" people get affection... the issue here is: office romance is it right or not, and has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with how people get affection, DUH!

and your reply to the above is ...Lol, if there is no affection in relationship then why is it a romantic-relationship?

bwaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhh REALLY..................?!?!?!?!?!?!? so your reply to your irrelevant gibberish is to write MORE irrelevant rubbish?!

There's nothing like right or wrong here, it's does it work or not?

there is always a right/wrong in life... ALWAYS... and if "you" believe that it is right to have office romance then fair enough.

MrBrownJay1:


so because "few" people survive office romance, it is your reason to believe that people should indulge in it?!?!
well, some people went to Sambisa forest and survived, should we now all follow suit?!

I'm yet to see the statistics (evidence) regarding your claim.

YES..... with people that are NOT related to their employment, duh!

\ARRANT GIBBERISH NONSENSE!!!!!

the above you quoted has absolutely nothing to do with what you wrote... stop trying to type rubbish trying to make any sense here.... but since you are losing focus, here it is again:

MBJ wrote (today) ....what you wrote above would be as crazy as saying that because someone jumped out of a plane with no parachute, and survived, its safe to jump out of planes with no parachute.... highly laughable!!!! whats next? some uneducated person became a successful biz owner, so you will now advice people not to get an education?!

Tintingz irrelevant reply to the above was ... The premise is not about office professionalism, it's about the "relationship working out in work place", kindly follow the premise.

so MBJ tells you that what you wrote is IRRELEVANT to what was quoted.... FACT!!!!!

... and now you want to bring something that i wrote YESTERDAY. well guess what? what you wrote above is STILL IRRELEVANT to what you quoted me for, DUH!!!! now, if you want clarification as to what i wrote YESTERDAY, then quote exactly that.



ANOTHER DOSE OF ARRANT RUBBISH!!!!!

are you bipolar or you just want to write nonsense online.... ok, lets go back again:

MBJ wrote ...more often than none, these office romances end badly... and we should be real on this issue, and accept the facts. how many of us can gamble/jeopardize our whole life because of a hunch? how many of us always believe that the next/new babe is indeed the "right" one?

Tintingz replied ...How people get affection for each other comes in different ways my experience can be different from your experience, using your experience to judge another person's experience and claim it's the fact is fallacious.

so MBJ replied ... this issue has absolutely NOTHING to do with "how" people get affection for one another... stick to the subject at hand.

to which Tintingz replied ... I didn't deviate from the subject, you were the one using your experience as basis of fact which I pointed out experiences varies, your experience can be different from mine and vice versa.

so MBJ clarified that ...whether your experience varies (or not) is irrelevant as to "how" people get affection... the issue here is: office romance is it right or not, and has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with how people get affection, DUH!

and your reply to the above is ...Lol, if there is no affection in relationship then why is it a romantic-relationship?

bwaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhh REALLY..................?!?!?!?!?!?!? so your reply to your irrelevant gibberish is to write MORE irrelevant rubbish?!

This is nonsensical. You're beginning to grasp at straws, red herring and ad hominem .

You don't have to post nonsense if you have nothing to say again.

there is always a right/wrong in life... ALWAYS... and if "you" believe that it is right to have office romance then fair enough.

Right and wrong is relative and more subjective.

If we're talking about office professionalism then office romance is wrong as it can be demonstrated. If we're talking about relationships at work place, it works for some and it did not for some there's no absolute right or wrong in this.

@tintingz
here it is AGAIN... you write so much IRRELEVANT RUBBISH on this issue, i have to post it again (holla at me when you have something relevant to post):

Oga can you explain the bolded part in this your post? >> https://www.nairaland.com/5136157/crush-colleague-should-let-know/4#77596859
I'm waiting.

ARRANT GIBBERISH NONSENSE!!!!!

the above you quoted has absolutely nothing to do with what you wrote... stop trying to type rubbish trying to make any sense here.... but since you are losing focus, here it is again:

MBJ wrote (today) ....what you wrote above would be as crazy as saying that because someone jumped out of a plane with no parachute, and survived, its safe to jump out of planes with no parachute.... highly laughable!!!! whats next? some uneducated person became a successful biz owner, so you will now advice people not to get an education?!

Tintingz irrelevant reply to the above was ... The premise is not about office professionalism, it's about the "relationship working out in work place", kindly follow the premise.

so MBJ tells you that what you wrote is IRRELEVANT to what was quoted.... FACT!!!!!

... and now you want to bring something that i wrote YESTERDAY. well guess what? what you wrote above is STILL IRRELEVANT to what you quoted me for, DUH!!!! now, if you want clarification as to what i wrote YESTERDAY, then quote exactly that.

Lol, if there is no affection in relationship then why is it a romantic-relationship?

ANOTHER DOSE OF ARRANT RUBBISH!!!!!

are you bipolar or you just want to write nonsense online.... ok, lets go back again:

MBJ wrote ...more often than none, these office romances end badly... and we should be real on this issue, and accept the facts. how many of us can gamble/jeopardize our whole life because of a hunch? how many of us always believe that the next/new babe is indeed the "right" one?

Tintingz replied ...How people get affection for each other comes in different ways my experience can be different from your experience, using your experience to judge another person's experience and claim it's the fact is fallacious.

so MBJ replied ... this issue has absolutely NOTHING to do with "how" people get affection for one another... stick to the subject at hand.

to which Tintingz replied ... I didn't deviate from the subject, you were the one using your experience as basis of fact which I pointed out experiences varies, your experience can be different from mine and vice versa.

so MBJ clarified that ...whether your experience varies (or not) is irrelevant as to "how" people get affection... the issue here is: office romance is it right or not, and has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with how people get affection, DUH!

and your reply to the above is ...Lol, if there is no affection in relationship then why is it a romantic-relationship?

bwaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhh REALLY..................?!?!?!?!?!?!? so your reply to your irrelevant gibberish is to write MORE irrelevant rubbish?!

[img]https://media./images/69acca43f62cb2294963d92990f95dd1/tenor.gif[/img]

Omg, these 2 above me ^^ are a symbol of Nigeria as a state

This right here is the problem!

You can't file Life like some dictionary.
Some of the greatest romances were born from office romance, and some of the dirtiest romps, thank you mams, and of course the biggest nightmares.

There's no facts here because the question is a hypothetical one!

To the OP. I didn't read your ting but never the less, follow your heart, and fuxk the rest

MrBrownJay1:
@tintingz
here it is AGAIN... you write so much IRRELEVANT RUBBISH on this issue, i have to post it again (holla at me when you have something relevant to post):



ARRANT GIBBERISH NONSENSE!!!!!

the above you quoted has absolutely nothing to do with what you wrote... stop trying to type rubbish trying to make any sense here.... but since you are losing focus, here it is again:

MBJ wrote (today) ....what you wrote above would be as crazy as saying that because someone jumped out of a plane with no parachute, and survived, its safe to jump out of planes with no parachute.... highly laughable!!!! whats next? some uneducated person became a successful biz owner, so you will now advice people not to get an education?!

Tintingz irrelevant reply to the above was ... The premise is not about office professionalism, it's about the "relationship working out in work place", kindly follow the premise.

so MBJ tells you that what you wrote is IRRELEVANT to what was quoted.... FACT!!!!!

... and now you want to bring something that i wrote YESTERDAY. well guess what? what you wrote above is STILL IRRELEVANT to what you quoted me for, DUH!!!! now, if you want clarification as to what i wrote YESTERDAY, then quote exactly that.



ANOTHER DOSE OF ARRANT RUBBISH!!!!!

are you bipolar or you just want to write nonsense online.... ok, lets go back again:

MBJ wrote ...more often than none, these office romances end badly... and we should be real on this issue, and accept the facts. how many of us can gamble/jeopardize our whole life because of a hunch? how many of us always believe that the next/new babe is indeed the "right" one?

Tintingz replied ...How people get affection for each other comes in different ways my experience can be different from your experience, using your experience to judge another person's experience and claim it's the fact is fallacious.

so MBJ replied ... this issue has absolutely NOTHING to do with "how" people get affection for one another... stick to the subject at hand.

to which Tintingz replied ... I didn't deviate from the subject, you were the one using your experience as basis of fact which I pointed out experiences varies, your experience can be different from mine and vice versa.

so MBJ clarified that ...whether your experience varies (or not) is irrelevant as to "how" people get affection... the issue here is: office romance is it right or not, and has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with how people get affection, DUH!

and your reply to the above is ...Lol, if there is no affection in relationship then why is it a romantic-relationship?

bwaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhh REALLY..................?!?!?!?!?!?!? so your reply to your irrelevant gibberish is to write MORE irrelevant rubbish?!

[img]https://media./images/69acca43f62cb2294963d92990f95dd1/tenor.gif[/img]

Strawman!

I don't go back and forth with nonsense and straws.

Guest007:
Omg, these 2 above me ^^ are a symbol of Nigeria as a state

This right here is the problem!

You can't file Life like some dictionary.
Some of the greatest romances were born from office romance, and some of the dirtiest romps, thank you mams, and of course the biggest nightmares.

There's no facts here because the question is a hypothetical one!

To the OP. I didn't read your ting but never the less, follow your heart, and fuxk the rest

Lol.

The dude just want us to believe office romance will always end badly no matter what which is false.

LeoFish92:


You are correct bro, Ralphjoe, follow the above advice.

The place where I work, a young girl was employed, fair, slim and beautiful. One of my guys told me he likes the girl.
We'd always see him around her, playfully call her my wife, he'd always playfully yell at other guys to get away from her cos she's his wife. Overtime, We subconsciously started associating the girl to the guy.

Like play like play, those guys are already dating now. The guy never officially declared emotions, he just assumed mantle of boyfriend.

Whether the girl was already in another relationship with another guy is completely irrelevant to us. We don't care, all we know is that our guy is officially dating the new employee.

Now I knew why I was charged exorbitantly by you and your co- workers for that small parcel I had on me that day.
If I had known that it was for an employee to take care of another employee in the same company, I wouldn't have argued over the charge!

Nwodosis:

Now I knew why I was charged exorbitantly by you and your co- workers for that small parcel I had on me that day.
If I had known that it was for an employee to take care of another employee in the same company, I wouldn't have argued over the charge!

Lwkmd, those I'm referring to are sales officers colloquially known as 'ticketers', Not bus attendants.

But forget that thing joor, is it not you again? Even if it was a married man that wants to take care of his wife, you would have still argued over the charge