"let he who be without sin cast the stone Mr investigator" why not give her a diary to fill so you can know how many people mark her.

When it comes to fornication or adultrey the female is always guilty. What about you,? Can you swear like she confessed. You see some truth are better left untold. How will you handle the truth of infidelity if your mother confess it and you are the product? I'm sure you will be blaming yourself for researching into what brought such.

Note that if you can not endure and move with this the next girl may be worse and be better at guiding her secret. I'm not advising you to continue but allow the girl meet someone who will accept her with whom she is. It will not take her 1s to tell you get out.

timmybabyface:
Dear friends

Greetings to you and please pardon my manners if my ways of writing isn’t that perfect!

I met my Gf about 3years ago after my youth service in Nigeria l! she was in law school at that time and things was going on well till I finally found out that she has cheated on me when she traveled back to continue her law school in Abuja, she told me that she thought I wasn’t too serious at that time and that she’s truly sorry.

I forgive her because I love her and because of the good behavior of her parents towards me.

To cut the long story short, I have to travel outside Nigeria about one year and 8month ago to further my studies and things was really going on well between us both before I left, I always try to creat time for her out of my busy academic schedule and I still send her money according to my pocket.

When I traveled down to Nigeria to celebrate Christmas with family&friends I ask her if she has ever cheated on me when I was away. She started lying till I have to force her to talk and give her the only bible to swear but she could not do that , she was scared so she told me that she has cheated on me twice, she said the first one was when she visited her friend in Ibadan for her sister wedding and a friend of her came in without her knowledge, that she was drunk and they have sex.

She said the second one happened when she went for a job interview in Edo. according to her she said when the the interview was over that she could not go back to Lagos so her male friend log her in an hotel which both of them sleep till morning but nothing happened between them! I don’t believe a man and woman would sleep in an hotel room till morning and nothing happened! I’m a street wise and well oriented so such story is not a welcome story to me .

I’m a Nigerian I study and live in the Netherlands.


Please my dear friends kindly advise me on what to do, she has been begging me with her mom who is asking me to forgive her and that such would never happen again

Matured advice please! That I will appreciate

timmybabyface:
Dear friends

Greetings to you and please pardon my manners if my ways of writing isn’t that perfect!

I met my Gf about 3years ago after my youth service in Nigeria l! she was in law school at that time and things was going on well till I finally found out that she has cheated on me when she traveled back to continue her law school in Abuja, she told me that she thought I wasn’t too serious at that time and that she’s truly sorry.

I forgive her because I love her and because of the good behavior of her parents towards me.

To cut the long story short, I have to travel outside Nigeria about one year and 8month ago to further my studies and things was really going on well between us both before I left, I always try to creat time for her out of my busy academic schedule and I still send her money according to my pocket.

When I traveled down to Nigeria to celebrate Christmas with family&friends I ask her if she has ever cheated on me when I was away. She started lying till I have to force her to talk and give her the only bible to swear but she could not do that , she was scared so she told me that she has cheated on me twice, she said the first one was when she visited her friend in Ibadan for her sister wedding and a friend of her came in without her knowledge, that she was drunk and they have sex.

She said the second one happened when she went for a job interview in Edo. according to her she said when the the interview was over that she could not go back to Lagos so her male friend log her in an hotel which both of them sleep till morning but nothing happened between them! I don’t believe a man and woman would sleep in an hotel room till morning and nothing happened! I’m a street wise and well oriented so such story is not a welcome story to me .

I’m a Nigerian I study and live in the Netherlands.


Please my dear friends kindly advise me on what to do, she has been begging me with her mom who is asking me to forgive her and that such would never happen again

Matured advice please! That I will appreciate

You really are something else.

What you don't know will not kill you.

I assume you were faithful all that time away, abi.

That your superiority complex will not kill you.

Abeg, free the girl, she deserves a better man, not an entitled one.

mrAMG2:
Bros broooooosss brosky.

Please answer these questions.

-Did you put a ring on it?
-Can you comfortably tell us that you did not cheat in all your years of traveling?
-What kind of girl is she? Your circumstances of meeting her? Her past?



As long as you guys are not married, take it that she has all the freedom that she feels she has.

And when it comes to relationships, the saying that “what you don’t know will not kill you” seriously applies.

Stop looking for confessions or going through her phone if you want to live a long life. If you can’t do that then find someone else.

All in all, you suppose dey sharp when e enter woman matter.

This is a recipe for fathering another mans child. U better be careful ur choice to ignore what’s important in a relationship leading to marriage not a fling.


A causal gf can cheat no biggie cos u probably have like 3 maybe bt fiancée cheating is a no no. It all comes down to what u want in life.

That gal can not be trusted when the guy isn’t around and it might still be the case when they are married. A lady must understand and know when to hold it, not moving up and down and jumping into the wrong company u can’t handle then give stories. Same applies to a guy at sm
Point. U shud know how to behave.

like some guys said the word cheat is for married couples.

* have you even propose to the girl? do introduction? any marriage plan before you leave us to this Buhari incompetency?


I don't know how you people forgive a cheater, if I caught my girl once with a guy, there is no second chance in my own side.

you need to stop giving yourself unnecessary wahala man, face your academic, you can easily get a woman when you're back home or before, after all you're a man

she&parent might be using you to even play puzzle knowing that you're abroad. Nigeria idolized people in oversea a lot hence why the mother stoop so low to be begging a man that had not pay her daughter bride price


wise up man!

Donald7610:
What loyalty do you expect, when you're far away
Hide your face bro
She be human
Not yet married

Gbam

U never marry am so she is not cheating on u

Marry her and she will keep the pussy for you.

Guys code:

Don't hurt your emotions by asking a lady silly questions

AntiBrutus:
I don't find her cheating as annoying as the fact that she is senseless and careless.




Who does this?
Someone is a serious relationship?
Someone with a working brain? Nah, she dumb. When a woman is dumb, the vagina suffers.

poco poco
how you dey

david22uu:


Gbam

U never marry am so she is not cheating on u

If ur gf cheats on u close to ur wedding or as ur fiancée my brother chances she will cheat on u after ur wedding with either same guy or another is 80% better don’t dull urself. We are not talking about causal gf here where u have like 3 ur dating. A gal who can not hold it can not hold it period! When Ure out of town u will understand the consequences of ur actions. This is what I call cluelessness of Jonathan and Buhari.

Donald7610:
What loyalty do you expect, when you're far away
Hide your face bro
She be human
Not yet married

SageMK:
SMH.

I don't know where this breed of men keep coming from.

To think your fiance, cheated on you twice with random modafúckers without a second thought but yet, here you are asking for directions on what to do?? Oh No.

Lol. I'll consider the fact that you are still in shock and just maybe that's why you can't decide on what to do.


Okay. Here's what you should do brother

1. Come back to Nigeria and call for a family meeting. Tell them you've forgive her and you'll like to marry her in the coming weeks.

2. Tell them their family house will be the venue of the grand reception you'll be holding for the wedding. And you need to fix their roof and a little renovation here and there.

3. Pay contractors to remove the roof and windows of their house. Then delete and block her contacts. Pack your bags and fly back to Netherlands.

Werey ni e !

I think you should focus more on the log in your eyes, how can anyone make their fiance swear first with a Bible just to catch them cheating? You have serious trust and low self esteem issues

You gave her the Holy Bible to swear on and that made her to confess her infidelity. It shows she has the fear of God. Some Nigerians will swear and still lie (except if they are swearing at a shrine). It may be that she still doesn't think you are serious.
Have you been faithful to her? To prove to her that you have been faithful, you should also swear by the Holy Bible. What is good for the goose is also good for the gander.

jaxxy:


This is a recipe for fathering another mans child. U better be careful ur choice to ignore what’s important in a relationship leading to marriage not a fling.


A causal gf can cheat no biggie cos u probably have like 3 maybe bt fiancée cheating is a no no. It all comes down to what u want in life.

That gal can not be trusted when the guy isn’t around and it might still be the case when they are married. A lady must understand and know when to hold it, not moving up and down and jumping into the wrong company u can’t handle then give stories. Same applies to a guy at sm
Point. U shud know how to behave.

Then he should find someone else

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Do you read to understand at all?

daddytime:
You went to further your studies abroad and still believe in swearing with a bible? Wetin be the name of your school for Netherlands and which city make I come give you brain resetting konk for head..

Ben je gek of zo jongen?

Continue to mumu follow woman when dem yakpa everywhere according to the latest report wey dey front page.

Funny dude.

GrabHisBalls:
You don't need to pray. It's who I am.

okay.

iTearHerToto:


You didn't mean to say that. But if you did then you seriously need to get your mouth fixed ASAP. Talking loose everywhere

Pukes

You puked ? From someone with your moniker? Please remember to remove the log in your eyes before looking for a speck in someone else's eyes.

Lots of drama going on here. Dude, why can't you find someone else right there in Holland? Most Nigerian women are un-faithful.

AntiBrutus:
I don't find her cheating as annoying as the fact that she is senseless and careless.




Who does this?
Someone is a serious relationship?
Someone with a working brain? Nah, she dumb. When a woman is dumb, the vagina suffers.

waoo thousand clap for u.
very dumb and simply,uncle my advice for u run for your life.
sometimes love is not enough to wifed a woman

annford:
My brother, from what you've written, I could easily deduce that you want to marry her. Can you marry someone who cheated on you in the past? Can you stay married and never have to worry about being cheated in again by your wife? Can you stay married to her without ever having to remind her of her dirty past? Would you go in with the relationship just because her mom is begging or because you still love her? The above questions are questions you should ask yourself and answer as well. Relationships are not for the weak and you need to be ready for whatever results you might get. Secondly, I've spent 5days with a woman In a Hotel in Uyo, Akwa Ibom State and nothing happened between us! About her spending the night in a hotel with another again and nothing happened, she might just be saying the truth. Don't be in a relationship with someone out of pity or reward for what ever reason but because you love the person and want to get your life improved and equally improve the other party. You seem to even be in the relationship because of her parents and not because you love her. Find out what you love about her and if that drives you, stay but if negative, then take your leave. Don't force it.

I just like what you said & the way you presented it. You are sensible.

SageMK:
SMH.

I don't know where this breed of men keep coming from.

To think your fiance, cheated on you twice with random modafúckers without a second thought but yet, here you are asking for directions on what to do?? Oh No.

Lol. I'll consider the fact that you are still in shock and just maybe that's why you can't decide on what to do.


Okay. Here's what you should do brother

1. Come back to Nigeria and call for a family meeting. Tell them you've forgive her and you'll like to marry her in the coming weeks.

2. Tell them their family house will be the venue of the grand reception you'll be holding for the wedding. And you need to fix their roof and a little renovation here and there.

3. Pay contractors to remove the roof and windows of their house. Then delete and block her contacts. Pack your bags and fly back to Netherlands.

wicked evil soul.why do all that pop.
guy u go badt gan oooo

Donald7610:
What loyalty do you expect, when you're far away
Hide your face bro
She be human
Not yet married

you damt right

Well, I think asking a woman to swear is unecessary and barbaric.
If you have to be away from a woman you are not married to, let alone a gf for about two years, these things are a possibility.
You need to understand all babes comes with their baggage and under same circumstances they will all behave alike.
That some women will collect the bible from you and swore doesn’t mean they didn’t cheat!
In view of these, I think you are in a position where 98% of women will do same. These position is ur long distance.
My candid advise: It sounds crazy but I think its better to settle with a lady that tells you she cheated rather than the ones that swore they didn’t and they did. Not all women cheat because they want to, some are due to the circumstance of long distance. However if u decide to forgive n marry her, u still need to keep close tabs on her to ensure she’s changed for real.
PS: If you know that ure still travelling n not gona be in the space with her for long to observe all these things, pls just move on coz theres no point. Reason being that the chances of it recurring is 99% or even marrying sum1 else. Women are also human not robots.

Omihanifa:
You better remember okafor's law and move on

No disrespect bro,, I'm kinda lost here, pls enlighten ME... Which law is Okafor's law??

This is not hard to figure out. You can continue with the relationship since you don't mind being cheated on. Since you have been forgiving her, you can as well keep doing so.

U r just an idiotic fool. U even gave her a Bible to swear.

U r senselessly senseless

Omihanifa:
You better remember okafor's law and move on

bros... state this law abeg... I wan hear am.

Twice! I don't believe her,she has lost count. Forgive her, observe her or put her to test if she fail dump her ass

SageMK:
SMH.

I don't know where this breed of men keep coming from.

To think your fiance, cheated on you twice with random modafúckers without a second thought but yet, here you are asking for directions on what to do?? Oh No.

Lol. I'll consider the fact that you are still in shock and just maybe that's why you can't decide on what to do.


Okay. Here's what you should do brother

1. Come back to Nigeria and call for a family meeting. Tell them you've forgive her and you'll like to marry her in the coming weeks.

2. Tell them their family house will be the venue of the grand reception you'll be holding for the wedding. And you need to fix their roof and a little renovation here and there.

3. Pay contractors to remove the roof and windows of their house. Then delete and block her contacts. Pack your bags and fly back to Netherlands.

You are a badest guy ever liveth

My own advise. Firstly, please point of correction you did not catch her cheating on you rather she intentionally narrated her weaknesses(cheating) probably because she loves you, because she was not 100% sure if you will still come back to marry her, because she was tempted by nature which can happen to anyone, because she believed that your coming to Nigeria is for a real relationship business rather than making a mobile phone calls and social media love vhats or messages, because she knew her parent will be disappointed and be mad at her if they eventually been told she was cheating on you and because there is need for her to learn a lesson. My question to you is, have you ever cheated on her too since you started the relationship with her? If yes please pray,confess to her too,promise her not to try it again, talk to her, counsel her ,beg her ,advise her and tell her the implication of wife or husband cheating on each other. Summarily, the 2 of you should endeavour to forgive each other, ask God for forgiveness. Then try get a matured and experienced with happy home elder in the church or spiritual father for spiritual intervention like MFM or RCCG or as the holy spirit directs. Happy Sunday

saasala:


@bolded

One or more of these 3 things:
1) She is ugly as fvck
2) You are ugly and broke
3) Either or both of you is gay

that is self control,it can be used against you if one cannot control his third leg and actions.

The fact that she cheated isnt a big deal but the fact that she did repeatedly is the problem.

If you dont trust her not to cheat, you should never consider marrying her.

The only thing that makes me scared of sex is fear of God and fear of STDs and STIs.

If not for God and STDs, I am sure by now, I should have like 1000 hottie sex partners


So any man or woman that thinks his or her partner is not cheating on him or her because of that nonsense non existent thing they call ROMANTIC LOVE is a joker!

The only thing that can make a man or a woman faithful to their partner is fear of something:

1.) Spiritual: fear of the God or god they worship

2.) Financial: fear of loosing money or their financial lifeline should they be caught

3.) Fear of disease

4.) Fear of being caught

All humans desire to tango with appealing opposite sex other than their partner, its natural in all humans!

That a girl or a guy love you is not enough reason to stop them from cheating!!