sassysure:
So he can't go and dish out food?
I have never dished out food for my husband and he is not a small or hungry man. As a matter of fact even when I stopped working for sometime unless when we are eating together.
Once he finish eating, from the day one of our relationship, he will take his plate and wash, with every other thing he sees on the sink.
It has not reduced him from being a man and the man in the house that has my respect always.

Enough of all these gender rules. It has destroyed more than it builds.

Simple things like that are what endears your spouse to you but it seems like your friend is always trying to bring "I'm the man card" in his union like most of our men do.
The woman refused to dish out food, and she was forcing her?
If she usually dish out food, what made her not to do it at that time. Was she too tired or very angry over something?
Did he try to know what was her annoyance, rather he want to exert his right as the head by ordering her to do that. Somebody that houses and feed you?
Common, u guys are really very dumb sometimes. It takes so little to make women lay down everything they have for guys especially working ladies but pride will never allow you guys to see whats before u.

Bossjakande:
smiles

HBB1:


That's the order of life.
The buck stops somewhere.

God did not question Eve, he questioned Adam!

A head should never lord it over people he is responsible for-- that's positional leadership, which is weak. He is supposed to lead. He is on the front-lines, he is the most responsible, the most caring, the most selfless, he sacrifices for those he is responsible for.

Any association where there is no assigned "head" is doomed.

Marriage is not a competition, its a partnership-- 2 people should be more effective than when they are single. 2 people working towards a common goal.

kevin25:
D Man has warn her to stop calling him by his name stil no change d man has never called the wife by her name...

sassysure:
So he can't go and dish out food?
I have never dished out food for my husband and he is not a small or hungry man. As a matter of fact even when I stopped working for sometime unless when we are eating together.
Once he finish eating, from the day one of our relationship, he will take his plate and wash, with every other thing he sees on the sink.
It has not reduced him from being a man and the man in the house that has my respect always.

Enough of all these gender rules. It has destroyed more than it builds.

Simple things like that are what endears your spouse to you but it seems like your friend is always trying to bring "I'm the man card" in his union like most of our men do.
The woman refused to dish out food, and she was forcing her?
If she usually dish out food, what made her not to do it at that time. Was she too tired or very angry over something?
Did he try to know what was her annoyance, rather he want to exert his right as the head by ordering her to do that. Somebody that houses and feed you?
Common, u guys are really very dumb sometimes. It takes so little to make women lay down everything they have for guys especially working ladies but pride will never allow you guys to see whats before u.

5ublime:


I know your type. You enjoy dating foolish girls that have no future that you will just put in one shop. All they'll be doing is "issok like that" to any of your decisions.

5ublime:

Were they having this issue before they got married or after he got a job?
What has name got to do with anything?. Sigh.

African men die in their 50s because of their stupid ego.

oshaosha2014:
Your husband is not a man. All you have in your house is a fellow woman.

ibkayee:

Not everyone governs their lives by the bible

Also, when someone is being appointed as the the ‘head’, that’s not a ‘partnership’, it’s a hierarchy. And that’s ok, if that’s what both people want, if you like it for yourselves, I love it

NdiaraIGBO:



You kill them all with your stupid multiple births (having more than 1 or 2 children in this day and age).
And you are good at ambushing the weak souls with s..x

Angelfrost:
I find the topic/heading of this post very dumb... And quite "Nigerian"!.. Refined and successful men like Fela Durotoye, Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, Otedola, etc, will actually laugh at the falsehood... Why do poor men, and money miss roads in this part of the world think so naively?

I believe we addressed this issue of stereotyping... All women are not the same, just like all men are not the same. You don't paint all members of a gender with the same negative brush because of 1 or 2 bad experiences.

Respect, or lack of it, is not exactly a trait directly linked to one's financial status: A naturally disrespectful person would be that way whether rich or poor... That's like saying humility comes from lack, while wealth compels arrogance.

All I am saying is: Your friend's wife is probably naturally disrespectful, not necessarily because she is wealthier than he is.

...And I sense he needs to up his game and work on his self-esteem... That kinda includes you OP.

Marrying a woman financially better than one is, doesn't mean that will always be the case. With determination and unity of purpose, the husband can even become financially better (Ask Fela Durotoye).

Conclusion: Ignore the topic, and marry that good woman regardless of her financial stautus if her character is pure gold. Most evil and saucy ladies don't have a dime to their name... Same for men too.

NdiaraIGBO:



You kill them all with your stupid multiple births (having more than 1 or 2 children in this day and age).
And you are good at ambushing the weak souls with s..x

NdiaraIGBO:


I support everything you have said here BUT you African ladies also have to stop the mumu multiple birth (more than 2 children) that you are having all over the place knowing fully well that most those children will grow up into poor adults because our tiny national economy cannot sustain our ever ballooning population! Bringing a man doing well down financially!

sassysure:

U can never be half of who he is. When u see his type out there, u will only wish but your retarded mindset will never allow u to grow.
slowpoke and dunce.
U write like a gateman.

henryobinna:
no, don't tell her

ibkayee:
Wtf is this obsession some Nigerian guys have with washing their underpants though?

trapQ:
Polygamists?? Hahahaha.. and you think men in polygamous marriages have anything to gain? Lol.

What if the husband of the woman you quoted just prefers serving his own food?Some people are like that.

Let me give you an instance. My mother rarely ever goes to the market. And I mean it, she very rarely goes. Most of the time my dad does. This has been going on for the longest time. And guess what? It's my dad choice. And it doesn't mean he's jobless or emasculated, no. He's infact a very very busy man but he doesn't joke with his stomach and takes his little time off to head to the market and get what he wants. When someone hears it they'll probably think my mom is a bad wife but it's far from that.

GogobiriLalas:
I hate men like you more than the devil...all male feminists should be killed and their carcasses fed to dogs. You don't know what the eff you're saying.

5ublime:


I'll rather be a 'fellow woman' in a happy home than become an egoistic cunt in the name of "man of the house"

kevin25:
My neigbor got married to a woman that is financially and academically ahead of him yes they started with love at initial stage she did everything possible to make sure the man suceed i mean everything she sacrify evrytn kudos to her, but the problem now is how the woman talks to the husband with no atom of respect she goes around telling people what she has done for the man to the extent her friends no longer see the man as anything .. The one that pains me was the day she told the man to go and dish out food for himself even in my presence, wen the man try to force her my dear come see insult from how she feed him to how she made him who he is,just because the man ask her to go and bring his food even dou the man is working now but stil the woman stil look down on him.. The worst she stil call the man by his name . The man is talking about bringing another woman that wil respect him as The man of the house.. This is a big lesson without money i dnt think you can control a nigerian woman .

Macwrites:


Crazy Macho mentality.
What's the meaning of "Man of the house"?
Why can't he serve himself? Or even cook himself?
What's wrong with calling him by his name? Is his name not to be called?

This entitlement mentality is detrimental to some African men, and is destroying relationships.

OvaSabi1:
Mumu post. An adult that is not disabled cannot dish out food for himself.
Also, she calls him by his name? So, what should she call him? Daddy? Professor? Owner of my head and soul? When they're cuddling at night, she's supposed to say "move closer daddy" abi what?
You are nothing but an unexposed outsider who is jealous and gloating over the misfortune of another person.

kevin25:
the man is a very quiet man the wife dnt see him as anybody but she respect men who are rich or literate yes she does it... It is bcoz she knows the genesis of the man? Had it been she met the man financially ok i dnt think she wil insult him

sassysure:
So he can't go and dish out food?
I have never dished out food for my husband and he is not a small or hungry man. As a matter of fact even when I stopped working for sometime unless when we are eating together.
Once he finish eating, from the day one of our relationship, he will take his plate and wash, with every other thing he sees on the sink.
It has not reduced him from being a man and the man in the house that has my respect always.

Enough of all these gender rules. It has destroyed more than it builds.

Simple things like that are what endears your spouse to you but it seems like your friend is always trying to bring "I'm the man card" in his union like most of our men do.
The woman refused to dish out food, and she was forcing her?
If she usually dish out food, what made her not to do it at that time. Was she too tired or very angry over something?
Did he try to know what was her annoyance, rather he want to exert his right as the head by ordering her to do that. Somebody that houses and feed you?
Common, u guys are really very dumb sometimes. It takes so little to make women lay down everything they have for guys especially working ladies but pride will never allow you guys to see whats before u.

kevin25:
After eating ur husband wil wash his plate and clean anytn he finds in the sink chai dat guy must be ur puppet women get mind chai i know he must be washin ur cloth as well as cooking while u sat on ur sofa watching zee world... I cant take dat from any woman

kevin25:
Imagine if your friends came around and u instruct your wife to go and bring food for U and ur frd then she told you to go and do by urself how wil u feel? My girlfrd wont try dat talkles of wife

ibkayee:

Screaming

kevin25:
The man is working now not broke he provides but stil the woman dnt respect him coz no matter any amount the man has she has it times two

HBB1:


Sorry about the Bible reference...

Have you lead a team before, have you ever been a head of anything? Did it mean you were superior to your colleagues or you were the most "responsible'' for any happenings?

I have led teams of people older and younger and nothing changed. We were teammates, partners and we helped one another.

But whatever works for you luv, cheers!

ornicus:


Naija equivalent of swallowing I guess