Hello Guys,

Please don’t Mind my English, am really typing this in tears and pain.

So there’s the babe I’ve been dating, I truly love her and we’ve been setting up my new flat and making plans for our Traditional wedding hopefully this November but something tragic struck and took away all d Joy and Happiness....

This was how it began, she took my phone and went through all my chats and I had some female friends I’ve been flirty chatting with but honestly I I was dumbed to have done dat...

I lied to them that I was single and searching I never accepted that I had a Fiancé just for the fun of it I also lied that she was my cousin and she found out all those stuffs and now she has ended the relationship...

I’ve cried and wept because my stupidity has made me to loose my angel...

She’s an ideal wife I never knew what got over me to just try being flirty....

I have involved my Family and her Family to beg her but she has refused. She told my eldest brother that she can’t love me anymore.

I’ve also pleaded with her best friend and siblings to plead with her but she’s not willing to come back....
I’ve sent her over 50 apology SMS I’ve called her line over a 30 times but she’s not willing to take my calls.

When I call with an unknown number and she hears my voice she will drop the call.
She doesn’t wana even talk to me.


The whole house looks empty without her I just can’t forgive myself for loosing the best gift God gave me. Now I feel so downcasted...

Brothers and Sisters please I need your candid advice. Your Free to Insult me

Am writing this because I’ve not been able to sleep. I can’t Forgive my self. I truly Love her.

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At this moment stop all calls and messages. Also stop sending people to her; don't continue "bombing" her. You've done your best. She's still hurting for now....okay. Just give her time. A few days or even weeks. When her head finally settles down; she'll definitely contact you. Believe me it works! Thereafter take things slow, one step at a time. Takecare...winks!

funshint:
At this moment stop all calls and messages. Also stop sending people to her; don't continue "bombing" her. You've done your best. She's still hurting for now....okay. Just give her time. A few days or even weeks. When her head finally settles down; she'll definitely contact you. Believe me it works! Thereafter take things slow, one step at a time. Takecare...winks!

Thanks a million

Kapello8:

Thanks a million

You're welcome bro.

The more you call her or send people to her you're worsening the situation, so free her.

If she doesn't come back don't beg.

Op. Lesson learnt

Don't blame her bro it's all your damb fault, because the way female folks reason differs from male folks.

To her, you're a cheat and will do more of such when she get commited to you in marriage.

They fear men that cheats alot.

Never joke with such things again.

Solution----

Relax. Don't call her. Don't text her. Don't send anyone to her. Look for ways go meet her yourself.

Give her sometime to vex at you then go back uninvited and talk to her the way she'll listen.

She's your girl and I believe you know her soft spot. Use it now.

I pray she forgives you.



And if she doesn't?

Lesson learnt.... Move on,don't harm yourself there are billions of women alive.

You can do without her with time.

You deserve anything you're getting bro. You didn't flirt for fun, you flirted to get some pûssy. You can lie to yourself but you can't lie to me. Who knows the guys she has turned down because of you only for you to call your fiancée your cousin. You fûck up Sha. Big Time! Anyways like my bros up there have rightly stated, give her time to cool off.


Cc lalasticlala mynd44 please help this young man

Thanks Guys

I know I messed up...

Many thanks for the undiluted advice...

God bless.

If she was meant to be yours, she will still forgive you and return but if she is not meant to be yours, forget it.

Na una way...

Sorry.

Anyway, let me sit and observe hypocrisy in full display.

@OP: Seems a little harsh to get upset over a flirty chat ... unless there are some more details you have left out, like you have gone "digging"

Allow her some time bro......

Its like she is still young...when she becomes an evening newspaper she will start calling you

Chai

Give are some time if she is yours she will accept your apology

Serves you right, weep

I bet she won't want to lose you as well.

Take the analogy of a hot water left unattended. E go later cold pass ice.

Her anger will evaporate very soon.

Just give her space and stop bothering her... She will come back to realize how much she's missed you.

Africa

She should dump your ass.


Before she takes you back you should get on your knees and offer her a remorseful apology, and most importantly turn a new leaf as you go forward.

ibkayee:
Serves you right, weep

Yes, serves him right.

funshint:
At this moment stop all calls and messages. Also stop sending people to her; don't continue "bombing" her. You've done your best. She's still hurting for now....okay. Just give her time. A few days or even weeks. When her head finally settles down; she'll definitely contact you. Believe me it works! Thereafter take things slow, one step at a time. Takecare...winks!

Guy, take this OP's advice. No further story.

ibkayee:
Serves you right, weep

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You learn to grow.

Never play with a good woman

I'm sorry for your loss mehn, you found an angel and you lost it. sad.

In life, there are consequences, and an integral part of adulthood is a thorough understanding that you shall reap the reward, or pay the price of your actions or inactions.

You've done your best, let her go, but be open that she might change her mind and come back. If she does, don't try it again.

If she doesn't, don't try it again with the next one you shall meet. Better woman scarce, hope you find another better one.

My condolence.

Mtcheww woman wey plenty so she can't forgive you even if its worse. When you get married she wont forgive you when you offend her ?. Behave like you've moved on if she wants you still the 'strong head' will leave her and she will come back.

Over flirting ? There's is more to this

1)either you are lying and did more than you are staTING
OR

2)she never loved you or found someone better and used this to end

If truly she's been setting up a home with you, she will definitely come back...

But if she doesn't come back to you, bro she too get option and probably using this as an excuse to move on...

Bro don't contact her again, if she doesn't after 1 week.... Japa!