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one of the dumbest things I've done was to lend a b*itchy ex a substantial amount......#never again!

cy4eve:
Mr know all

instead of u to admit ur mistake and take correction. You are there calling him "Mr know all". Typical of many Nigerians.

hatbricker:
Think I remember clearly, I advised you not to do any birthday for her but you still proceeded with it. I'm saving my advice this time

you're right bro.this is an example of once beating twice shy.but she's so stupid ooo.does she think her problems will be over with the little money you helped her with by blocking you.abeg jor go disgrace her collect your money & never look her side again.what a foolish girl with small brain thinking she's wise.

Eldavis:
Nairaland english teacher weldone

.lol.correct one there, jare.

bestdudes:
na. Ogun go bend ur hand with leprosy. What nonsense..?

Tomorrow u will carry ur useless Toto dey claim say all. Men are scum or guys are not caring...

Stupid thing. That is why I don't feel pity for you ladies when I hear guys maltreating you... Even the ones killed in the process do not get any sympathy

Get your silly self off my mention

Godoverevery:
Good afternoon everyone ........

I posted a thread in may about my fiancée I helped with 100k to start a business and she couldn't produce the capital saying she lend her dad... just want give an update of things

I took majority of the people advise here and celebrate her birthday ....got her cake,wrist watch and celebrated it with my friends and hers at a lounge(paid all the bills).

So the following week I gave in to her pleading and sent her another 50k(she hasn't produce the previous 100k capital but still promised to produce it with time) to get new set of slippers to sell .....and the agreement was she will be sending the money to one of my accounts as she is selling and the capital will be there to reinvest.

This new week I asked why I haven't seen any money in the account.....she said she have sold but she wants some people to balance her to complete 20k and by Friday she will make d deposit.

On Friday I didn't see anything....asked her why didn't she send the money (dat was after bank closing hour)....she was like she wasn't feeling too well dat she told her friend to do the transfer but is not going and she has given her the cash ...... around past 9pm dat Friday she called me if I have seen the alert I said no......the next day she said the transfer wasn't going dat her friend tried it but it was failing so I felt pissed and told her straight she was lying (arguement broke out).

So I told her if she was telling the truth and have the cash with her I will come pick d cash myself today but to my surprise she has blocked me on whatapp and bar my number D's noon.

My friends here want us to go over to her place ..... cause a scene and get her arrested but I don't want to embarrass her parents or embarrass myself.
They are all on my neck rite now like dey ginger badly

...... honestly I don't no what to do.
Just want to know if the right thing is getting her arrested or just let go and move on.

brother just forget about it that's to me and move on you are too big for the cash, God will continue to bless you more than you can imagine. You try very well for her let her go for good.

Why are you bothering yourself over someone who doesn't care?

Godoverevery:
oooo is my fault for sincerely helping........why did I give wat I can't let go??.....I didn't even see were you condemn her actions..... well am not surprised dat why most of you end up having broken marriage and becoming single mothers becos you never condemn each other bad behaviours.

Lol, see how you're roaring like a lion because you were simply told the truth but you were cold as ice to the person who betrayed you acting like you've been given love portion.

@ the bolded. That is why you also become single fathers because you hurt the good girls from your past and will never receive sense despite being advised a gazillion times. Don't go and flex your muscles on someone who ran off with your money, keep attacking women.

Godoverevery:
oooo is my fault for sincerely helping........why did I give wat I can't let go??.....I didn't even see were you condemn her actions..... well am not surprised dat why most of you end up having broken marriage and becoming single mothers becos you never condemn each other bad behaviours.

Just leave her alone cos if u arrest her u will be one to bail her so cut the stress. Just let her go her way and u go ur way too. U are capable of the money that why u gave the first one and the second one. Free urself from her. She's not the house material Thanks

Godoverevery:
oooo is my fault for sincerely helping........why did I give wat I can't let go??.....I didn't even see were you condemn her actions..... well am not surprised dat why most of you end up having broken marriage and becoming single mothers becos you never condemn each other bad behaviours.

not all response are from sane fellows even when the response look or seem sane.
silence they say is the best weapon you can deploy against unreasonable fellows.

he without sin should cast the stone but that rule don't work on nairaland so expect the payload of Nigerian ballistics coming your way.

every man with all his flaws and goodness is but a man. we all at a point in time in our life has played the fool but we come out to play all wise, all knowing and Mr perfect.

irrespective of being in a relationship or not investing and contributing people's life is sure the best way to uphold humanity. in all you have done well and never come feeling discouraged or a loser but be you have joined the league of philanthropist.

I look forward to a day I would be able to give to humanity though too the way this turned out. truth here is the lady is the loser cos she has lost her credibility, a true love and a genuine man.

kindly walk up to her and her parents making them realize what has happened, your stand and how untrustworthy their daughter is. make them know you want a refund and how she claimed her father encouraged the scam.

from this point don't look back cos it's your patting line with her., make sure to be polite with the parents and hold firm your ground.

all the best.

Just leave her alone cos if u arrest her u will be one to bail her so cut the stress. Just let her go her way and u go ur way too. U are capable of the money that why u gave the first one and the second one. Free urself from her. She's not the house material cos if u invest 100billion naira on her she won't be able to account for it. Thanks

Godoverevery:
why are you crying more than the aggerive ......like my matter even dey pain you pass me.......i didn't lose anything I just posted the thread so people can learn and no what going on ......Pray God really bless you and you will understand.....she is already begging me......even her parent are already pleading on her behalf.......her stupidity out of fear just caused her getting married to me and I don't think it will go down well with her because she will really suffer.

Don't let the comments of these Nairalanders push you to do what you wouldn't do on a normal day. Kindly ignore all the bashing and all the ones saying you're a mumu. They are forming hard guys...most of them are highly broke, and the others most likely even do way more than you have done for their own girlfriends. I kid you not.

But let me give you my sincere advise. First of all, you alone know why you gave her an additional 50k after the first 100k went unaccounted for. But I'm not in the relationship with you. There might have been genuine reasons. Reasons I can't imagine. You weren't wrong for celebrating her birthday either. But somehow, what I deduce from this is that you seem to have been putting too much pressure on her with regards to her putting back the capital in your account. She felt boxed into a hole. Business isn't that simple. It was because you kept mounting pressure on her that the situation went awry!

But very importantly, I hope you've realised that she doesn't have the head for business... and she's not resourceful. Because trust me, in as much as most people don't hit the ground running on a new business, 150k put together should have been enough to show something at least. Is it not slippers you said she wanted to sell? Those aren't expensive.

150k is a lot... and small at the same time. So considering arresting a woman you call a fianceé over 150k is just very disappointing. How could you think that? And you've brought her low before your friends...to the extent that they are the ones agitating that you arrest a woman you call fianceé. That's crazy man. You're very wrong on that.

Summarise and make your deductions from this. Good luck.

Godoverevery:
wish I listened bro.....but d most funniest thing is am not angry as am supposed to be...... like have just been laffing has my guys dey para here.

Yes and that's the mistake you have been making in life, taking things slightly. You seem to be the type that please people at your expense. Putting her family 1st buttresses my point.
You gotta stop leaving life that way. Be serious. Be stiff. The time to play is different from the the time to be serious and stiff otherwise people will continue to take advantage of you.
People hardly pay back loans these days maybe you just have to forget about her and the money and just move on. Arresting her will lead to something else which you may regret and wished you never knew her.
Next time be serious.






And seriously,if you know both of you have serious plans for the future,I mean getting married,why LOAN her money?
You give her as support for her business.

And a wiseman once said:
To whom brain is given sense is expected

Godoverevery:
wish I listened bro.....but d most funniest thing is am not angry as am supposed to be...... like have just been laffing has my guys dey para here.

baba show her
Let her know that you are not a fool
If you just leave her she will think she is smart
She blocked you
Because of your own money
And you no get angry
Baba this girl don charm you
Better do something before she kills you........
If she can lie ,argue and block she can also kill

Godoverevery:
oooo is my fault for sincerely helping........why did I give wat I can't let go??.....I didn't even see were you condemn her actions..... well am not surprised dat why most of you end up having broken marriage and becoming single mothers becos you never condemn each other bad behaviours.

This is so low and irresponsible of you to say. You are the subject matter,you asked for advice and folks are giving it to you. This is such a bad response from you

you and the kind of friends you've are just funny


at first you don't borrow money you can't overlook to friends, relative &fiancée

secondly, how can you foolishly borrow her another money? Op forget even if you're a millionaire, her reckless spending should indicate to you how that she is non industrious and undetermined Lady?

thirdly, that lady is loyal to one jingolo outside, she's giving out her pvssy to him and your sweat to one guy he's loyal to outside.


the funniest part is that some of your friends or family might be in die need of the money that you're ignorantly loaning out


now you want to arrest her? I've no problem with the arrest but rather with the way you still addressed her should you arrest your fiancée isn't that a comic QST?. how can you arrest a fiancée or you meant your now ex?


that money is gone or what documentary agreement do you've before you loan her the money? forget the Lady, forget the money. you've a soft and good heart, don't allow a dumb lady to poison that human feelings

dirtycoin:
Lol.

He is in love with her, hence he only thinks with his heart and not his mind.

with his head and not brain u mean

InvertedHammer:
/ Good.
Isn't this the same format as Yahoo/419?
Keep promising phantom returns while bilking the maga.
You are her "oyibo man".
What do you intend to get her for your anniversary?
/

I be black maya abi Baba....... anyway you won't understand ...

Godoverevery:
Good afternoon everyone ........

I posted a thread in may about my fiancée I helped with 100k to start a business and she couldn't produce the capital saying she lend her dad... just want give an update of things

I took majority of the people advise here and celebrate her birthday ....got her cake,wrist watch and celebrated it with my friends and hers at a lounge(paid all the bills).

So the following week I gave in to her pleading and sent her another 50k(she hasn't produce the previous 100k capital but still promised to produce it with time) to get new set of slippers to sell .....and the agreement was she will be sending the money to one of my accounts as she is selling and the capital will be there to reinvest.

This new week I asked why I haven't seen any money in the account.....she said she have sold but she wants some people to balance her to complete 20k and by Friday she will make d deposit.

On Friday I didn't see anything....asked her why didn't she send the money (dat was after bank closing hour)....she was like she wasn't feeling too well dat she told her friend to do the transfer but is not going and she has given her the cash ...... around past 9pm dat Friday she called me if I have seen the alert I said no......the next day she said the transfer wasn't going dat her friend tried it but it was failing so I felt pissed and told her straight she was lying (arguement broke out).

So I told her if she was telling the truth and have the cash with her I will come pick d cash myself today but to my surprise she has blocked me on whatapp and bar my number D's noon.

My friends here want us to go over to her place ..... cause a scene and get her arrested but I don't want to embarrass her parents or embarrass myself.
They are all on my neck rite now like dey ginger badly

...... honestly I don't no what to do.
Just want to know if the right thing is getting her arrested or just let go and move on.

Obviously, the babe has never loved you. All she needed was your money. She has found someone she loves with all her heart. About 60% of the money you have given may have been spent on her new lovely boyfriend. Click on the first link on my signature if you are interested in making millions of naira from export business.

Godoverevery:
Good afternoon everyone ........

I posted a thread in may about my fiancée I helped with 100k to start a business and she couldn't produce the capital saying she lend her dad... just want give an update of things

I took majority of the people advise here and celebrate her birthday ....got her cake,wrist watch and celebrated it with my friends and hers at a lounge(paid all the bills).

So the following week I gave in to her pleading and sent her another 50k(she hasn't produce the previous 100k capital but still promised to produce it with time) to get new set of slippers to sell .....and the agreement was she will be sending the money to one of my accounts as she is selling and the capital will be there to reinvest.

This new week I asked why I haven't seen any money in the account.....she said she have sold but she wants some people to balance her to complete 20k and by Friday she will make d deposit.

On Friday I didn't see anything....asked her why didn't she send the money (dat was after bank closing hour)....she was like she wasn't feeling too well dat she told her friend to do the transfer but is not going and she has given her the cash ...... around past 9pm dat Friday she called me if I have seen the alert I said no......the next day she said the transfer wasn't going dat her friend tried it but it was failing so I felt pissed and told her straight she was lying (arguement broke out).

So I told her if she was telling the truth and have the cash with her I will come pick d cash myself today but to my surprise she has blocked me on whatapp and bar my number D's noon.

My friends here want us to go over to her place ..... cause a scene and get her arrested but I don't want to embarrass her parents or embarrass myself.
They are all on my neck rite now like dey ginger badly

...... honestly I don't no what to do.
Just want to know if the right thing is getting her arrested or just let go and move on.

And you call this one your finaancee ...dude you are just fùcked ! You are just stúpid....this one would ruin you ...are you a Yoruba boy? You must be

Godoverevery:
Do you no what you are saying is i should not help d lady in my next relationship...let now assume you d person I dated next ....but during the relationship you needed my help financially but I never helped ...how will you feel??
Because using my head like you meant is never helping !!!

...I understood ur actions but that lady is a wasteful person and not good for you. In ur next relationship, assist and help again but apply caution this time, there are still so many ladies out there that wouldn't take ur love and care for granted, serious minded girls that know life is about give and take not leeches that sucking u dry is what give them joy. God will bless you with one of those good ones cus I think u have a nice heart.

Godoverevery:
Good afternoon everyone ........

I posted a thread in may about my fiancée I helped with 100k to start a business and she couldn't produce the capital saying she lend her dad... just want give an update of things

I took majority of the people advise here and celebrate her birthday ....got her cake,wrist watch and celebrated it with my friends and hers at a lounge(paid all the bills).

So the following week I gave in to her pleading and sent her another 50k(she hasn't produce the previous 100k capital but still promised to produce it with time) to get new set of slippers to sell .....and the agreement was she will be sending the money to one of my accounts as she is selling and the capital will be there to reinvest.

This new week I asked why I haven't seen any money in the account.....she said she have sold but she wants some people to balance her to complete 20k and by Friday she will make d deposit.

On Friday I didn't see anything....asked her why didn't she send the money (dat was after bank closing hour)....she was like she wasn't feeling too well dat she told her friend to do the transfer but is not going and she has given her the cash ...... around past 9pm dat Friday she called me if I have seen the alert I said no......the next day she said the transfer wasn't going dat her friend tried it but it was failing so I felt pissed and told her straight she was lying (arguement broke out).

So I told her if she was telling the truth and have the cash with her I will come pick d cash myself today but to my surprise she has blocked me on whatapp and bar my number D's noon.

My friends here want us to go over to her place ..... cause a scene and get her arrested but I don't want to embarrass her parents or embarrass myself.
They are all on my neck rite now like dey ginger badly

...... honestly I don't no what to do.
Just want to know if the right thing is getting her arrested or just let go and move on.

Guy no do for person what u can't afford to loss...going to her house with ur friends to cause wahala..na pikin way b that..

cy4eve:
can u imagine, abeg am not the cause of ya misfortune, wen d luv d shake u, u did not call us oh, now u want pity party, my dear u deserve more of wat u got, b glad she's a Nyc gal for letting u go.

That his response is so irresponsible,I couldn't believe it myself!!!

Godoverevery:
Mumu botton you say.....bro I be confirm street I was born and brought up in mushin Lagos....I finished from lautech....so I no be Mumu Wen it comes to ladies.
I have dated alot of ladies dat if you ask me start counting I won't even remember some.
But a man get to a stage in life were you have to move Into dat level of having a family and building a home.....my intention is to marry her early next year.....so I knew wat I was doing not like I was fooled....maybe that why am not angry.

and you feel that you can buy your way in....trust me

Your mumu botton is active !

Godoverevery:
Baba I hardly even bleep her..... just loved her naturally ...... not dat am very rich but I could still afford to help someone I intend to marry with some money to get something doing but see wat it turned out to be....dat why I get pissed Wen ladies say some guys are stingy......after D's Will i ever want to help any other dat come my way and not be stingy.

Bros,

When are you going to realise that you're just an "assistant-boyfriend", "side-guy" and "ATM"?

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PrimadonnaO:
Don't let the comments of these Nairalanders push you to do what you wouldn't do on a normal day. Kindly ignore all the bashing and all the ones saying you're a mumu. They are forming hard guys...most of them are highly broke, and the others most likely even do way more than you have done for their own girlfriends. I kid you not.

But let me give you my sincere advise. First of all, you alone know why you gave her an additional 50k after the first 100k went unaccounted for. But I'm not in the relationship with you. There might have been genuine reasons. Reasons I can't imagine. You weren't wrong for celebrating her birthday either. But somehow, what I deduce from this is that you seem to have been putting too much pressure on her with regards to her putting back the capital in your account. She felt boxed into a hole. Business isn't that simple. It was because you kept mounting pressure on her that the situation went awry!

But very importantly, I hope you've realised that she doesn't have the head for business... and she's not resourceful. Because trust me, in as much as most people don't hit the ground running on a new business, 150k put together should have been enough to show something at least. Is it not slippers you said she wanted to sell? Those aren't expensive.

150k is a lot... and small at the same time. So considering arresting a woman you call a fianceé over 150k is just very disappointing. How could you think that? And you've brought her low before your friends...to the extent that they are the ones agitating that you arrest a woman you call fianceé. That's crazy man. You're very wrong on that.

Summarise and make your deductions from this. Good luck.

thrash!!

Godoverevery:
Good afternoon everyone ........

I posted a thread in may about my fiancée I helped with 100k to start a business and she couldn't produce the capital saying she lend her dad... just want give an update of things

I took majority of the people advise here and celebrate her birthday ....got her cake,wrist watch and celebrated it with my friends and hers at a lounge(paid all the bills).

So the following week I gave in to her pleading and sent her another 50k(she hasn't produce the previous 100k capital but still promised to produce it with time) to get new set of slippers to sell .....and the agreement was she will be sending the money to one of my accounts as she is selling and the capital will be there to reinvest.

This new week I asked why I haven't seen any money in the account.....she said she have sold but she wants some people to balance her to complete 20k and by Friday she will make d deposit.

On Friday I didn't see anything....asked her why didn't she send the money (dat was after bank closing hour)....she was like she wasn't feeling too well dat she told her friend to do the transfer but is not going and she has given her the cash ...... around past 9pm dat Friday she called me if I have seen the alert I said no......the next day she said the transfer wasn't going dat her friend tried it but it was failing so I felt pissed and told her straight she was lying (arguement broke out).

So I told her if she was telling the truth and have the cash with her I will come pick d cash myself today but to my surprise she has blocked me on whatapp and bar my number D's noon.

My friends here want us to go over to her place ..... cause a scene and get her arrested but I don't want to embarrass her parents or embarrass myself.
They are all on my neck rite now like dey ginger badly

...... honestly I don't no what to do.
Just want to know if the right thing is getting her arrested or just let go and move on.

Don't bother to arrest her, try and meet up with her and ask for the money, if she gives another excuse, leave her and move on. 150k is quite a sum but take it as a sacrifice. Boys dey blow more than that for club in one night.

You are a good man. Ignore all the fools here hurling insults at you because u gave the person u love and want to marry money to start a business.

She is the looser her not you.
Cheers.

Mariangeles:
This thread has revealed how hard times have negatively affected people's ability to have compassion ...patience running thinner everywhere !

lol that is why many girls are ungrateful...

Godoverevery:
oooo is my fault for sincerely helping........why did I give wat I can't let go??.....I didn't even see were you condemn her actions..... well am not surprised dat why most of you end up having broken marriage and becoming single mothers becos you never condemn each other bad behaviours.

Top 10 best nairaland 2019 comment for the year, Female Category

Godoverevery:
Mumu botton you say.....bro I be confirm street I was born and brought up in mushin Lagos....I finished from lautech....so I no be Mumu Wen it comes to ladies.
I have dated alot of ladies dat if you ask me start counting I won't even remember some.
But a man get to a stage in life were you have to move Into dat level of having a family and building a home.....my intention is to marry her early next year.....so I knew wat I was doing not like I was fooled....maybe that why am not angry.

Bros,

"Mumu-button" and "street" have no mutual exclusivity whatsoever. Mumu-button sometimes looks "spiritual"