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ornicus:
The internet is wonderful.small boys who may not even be dating forming authority on marriage. And some other fools will be looking to then for advice.

His work is well articulated. Maturity has nothing to do with age, his observations are correct.

kernel01:
His work is well articulated. Maturity has nothing to do with age, his observations are correct.

His observations are daft and reek of inexperience

joromii:
Like Timi Ended up in marrying a liar right?

Timi's wife was not lying. Your pastor fucccked that girl. Stop being gullible

joromii:
Like Timi Ended up in marrying a liar right?

If your sister or daughter reports a case of rape many years down line for fear of some sort, hope you will call her a liar?

Sorry... Remember to ask her for evidence before you believe.

ornicus:
His observations are daft and reek of inexperience

I challenge you to those points that aren't valid.

kernel01:
I challenge you to those points that aren't valid.

Are you dating?
Do you have children?
Are you married?
How long have you been married?

If none of your answers is in the affirmative then there is no point in talking to a small pikin yammering theory.

You are not even a woman, and neither is your joker friend.what arrogance.

franchasng:
The Curse of Your Ex!

I don't know why majority of ladies hold on to their past memories a lot to the extent they allow it to destroy their chances of meeting new great guys.

Your ex must not be your husband, if you were good to him and he found you unworthy to be his life mate, my dear sister please move on with your life and give the new guy a great chance to be your soulmate; don't be with your new boyfriend or husband and at the same time thinking about your ex and wishing you were with him, that's infidelity even if you haven't done anything with him at the present.

Bury your past forever and let the memory die with the past!

Don't jump back into the life of a guy that treated you without respect, show some self worth.

He deflowered you and so

You ladies are the reasons guys are bent on marrying only true virgins with the way you ladies attach so much emotion and importance to the man that broke your virginity, it is unfair to your new boyfriend and your husband that married you as a non virgin

I like this....a major problem for women and a few men also...

ornicus:
Are you dating?
Do you have children?
Are you married?
How long have you been married?

If none of your answers is in the affirmative then there is no point in talking to a small pikin yammering theory.

You are not even a woman, and neither is your joker friend.what arrogance.

Hahaha... Please read carefully, drop certain criteria that obscure the vision of virtue. So, if I'm not dating, married or have kids, I can't factor what makes marriages work, right?


If you've read through the article properly, you will notice that the writer telling Ladies what turns men off, he sharing experience and thoughts of men, not women.

Age has nothing to do with wisdom.

Nice!

jeroncomputers:
Likeness played out there. She does not like that your church bother, it happens

Now she regretted her action, oga. Reality is far far far different from fiction. We should wake up from dream and face reality.

He impregnated her o with no single ante nata care which made the child die during labor, through out pregnancy and after still born the guy and her people didn't't make a single call to console.
Was her decision not completely foolishness of highest order?

franchasng:
No issue at all, but most times women don't set realistic goals in life. They set unrealistic plans and goals, they live by ferry tales instead of facing reality.

Most men, not all, most men are realistic with life when they want to choose a life partner; they consider realistic qualities but ladies will be blabbing: I want a tall, dark, fair, short, rich, educated, God fearing, faithful, romantic, adventurous, intelligent man who is very endowed down stairs and good in bed, how

You must decide the qualities that matters most to you; is it his financial worth or his looks or his commitment to God or his intelligence or his fidelity to you or what exactly do u want Prioritize them and stop wishing to have everything in one man. You are searching for 5 different types of men in one man, how

A handsome rich guy will most likely not be faithful to you and may not be committed to religious activities.

A highly religious man maybe faithful but will most likely not be romantic and good in bed.

But men always prioritize the qualities they need most in their would be wife; some want good cook and home keeper and they go for it not minding her financial status or her looks or her family or educational background.

Some men want sexy hot working class ladies, they go for it and forget her cooking and home keeping skills.

Ladies should also be realistic with life so they can be more happy and enjoy life, that's my point okay

interesting discourse indeed

I'm following this topic to observe

ScotMisile:
My bro, you are right. Am an Igbo guybut i ended up with an Edo girl. All the Igbo girls I ever liked and desired exhibited 99percent of 5he above.

My bro, this Edo girl never asked me for a dime.. infact on the first date I wasn't ready but she sponsored with little amount and it was fun... My pretty Igbo girl was busy asking me for 10k.. according to her she was checking if I could take care of her in future... Last last Edo girl relaxed with me... One day she asked how much I earn monthly... I told her with evidence... She swore that I never looked that rich... I smiled.. today she has a beautiful baby boy for me

yea
I see your point

nice post I hope ladies learn from did wonderful piece

DanXplore:
LMAO. You made alot of points bro, but you need to understand that there is a cause to every effect. The effect will continue to persist until there is a cut in the supply of cause.

From my own side of experience, ladies (Nigerians especially) are the way they are for two main reasons:

1. Excess in demand over supply: Alot of guys are sexual animals and cannot control their natural biological urges. They don't mind disrespecting themselves for as long as it will afford them the opportunity to have a taste of the sweet agony of s*x. A person is treated according to how he/she presents him/herself. Guys beg and pester girls to the point that it becomes natural for the girls to become so annoyed. Aside s*x, how do you as a person treat importunateness? There is excessive demand for sex from the guys side and so the suppliers (i.e girls who have more discipline to control s*xual urges compared to guys) become incharge and exploitative in most cases.

2. Poverty in Nigeria: Nigerians/people in general are becoming more selfish and exploitative. It gets worse with increase in poverty levels. An average nigerian seeks to use their position of power/office for monetry gains due to the advanced level of poverty in Nigeria. For example in the nigerian airports, alot of workers there are looking for how to get money especially those at the baggage check-in points. Same could be said about public officers. Nigerian ladies are in position of authority in sexual issues as long as Nigeria is concerned because guys have not disciplined themselves to control their urges. They become exploitative and arrogant sometimes in a bid to drive a way annoying and persistent guys.

I am not taking sides here but according to the transitive property of the above logic, girls choose bad husbands/boyfriends because majority of men are desperate and annoyingly importunate in their approach. By deductive logic, it may be concluded that both parties need to correct their flaws for things to flow well.

interesting point of view you got there too

franchasng:
You are very correct, so many men are not worthy to be husbands and that was why I put up this thread to help discerning ladies flee from such disaster of men, nice contribution from you

True that

A good number of ladies are often attracted to men that are not marriage material

then blame the devil after

If it is a hit and run parole, then yea, but when you want a long term relationship with a man who is not marriage materiel

I dey sorry 4 u

franchasng:
oh good, but have you ever seen a man doing well financially that remained single for life because he couldn't find a lady to marry Be honest in your answer.

Also have you ever seen one or two ladies doing well financially that ended up single for life because they couldn't find any man to marry them If u are honest with your answer, I am sure u know many ladies in the last scenario but no man in the first scenario, that is not our making, it is how nature structured the world to be and the reason why ladies must be extra careful in handling romance and relationship issues without trying to compete or compare their life with guys

hypergamy is to blame in scenario two...

men (well most) marry in either direction

most women (in Nigeria) will rather marry up
than side ways or below

this is to blame for a lot of them being single (the career ones o)

the ones who ditched the hypergamy instinct are mostly happily married
like a neighbour who we had egikr growing up
she was a successful woman in her business but married a man who was just a school cert holder trader who was doing okay

but how many are willing to ditch hypergamy

franchasng:
lol, hope u are doing well financially I ask because u know the bigger a lady's booty in today's world, the more materialistic she will be and the more hard to get she will form for you, so get ready to chase a lot of big ukwu ladies till one agrees and hope u have a clean car too Lol

Me too I love ladies with big ukwu and flat tummy, I can ignore other looks, but big ukwu is one of my first point of attraction, so u are not alone, u are not setting unrealistic qualities but u will be ready to ignore some other of her flaws in place of the big ukwu and shape

chei nwanne

AZeD1:
I am struggling to understand the logic behind this post.

If it's possible for a girl to miss her true husband or boyfriend, then it means that husband/boyfriend has missed his true wife/girlfriend.

This raises the question if a girl is supposedly the true wife of a guy, why wouldn't the guy go to any length to get her?

I don't think any responsible and intelligent man with important things to do with his time will spend 6 months chasing a girl.

windofjustice:
I don't think any responsible and intelligent man with important things to do with his time will spend 6 months chasing a girl.

Then he would miss his true wife which nullifies the whole point of the post.

AAA593:
Seun please introduce unlike Abeg. This comment is a fan of unlike

True, we need unlike botton

AZeD1:
Then he would miss his true wife which nullifies the whole point of the post.

And it was caused by the girl and not the guy. That's what the post was still pointing out.

windofjustice:
And it was caused by the girl and not the guy. That's what the post was still pointing out.

That's not true.

If something is important to you, but you will chase it.

So no it wasn't caused by the girl.

Like a girl told me, she needs a God Fearing guy that clubs. I just laugh.

windofjustice:
I don't think any responsible and intelligent man with important things to do with his time will spend 6 months chasing a girl.

Two months maximum. There are girls everywhere.

Safitu:
aka How dare a woman have standards, she better just accept any and anything that comes her way. Even if he’s wretched, no purpose and empty, you better accept him like that because he might just be your husband.

Can you go into a brothel and marry an ashewo? Men always accept women for they can offer them NOW, they don’t look into future prospects, so why can’t women do the same? What absolute rubbish.

It shows you don't really understand the whole thing. I have learnt that you cannot truly convince human being. Either God convinces him/her or time teach him a lesson.

AZeD1:
That's not true.

If something is important to you, but you will chase it.

So no it wasn't caused by the girl.

Not when what you are chasing is rejecting you. If you are chasing money then you are right because money doesn't reject anyone. But when you are chasing a girl and she keeps rejecting you countless times it's just foolish to keep chasing for 6 months and counting. A responsible man shouldn't do that.

Dinho20:
As I grew up and began identifying myself as a feminist, there were plenty of issues that continued to make me question marriage: the father 'giving' the bride away, women taking their husband's last name, the white dress, the vows promising to 'obey' the groom. And that only covers the wedding.

Mangina spotted, you've drank the doctrines of feminism. Keep it up.

franchasng how far na?

Good points, just that some of the contributors are hell bent in interpreting your write up in the context you didn't mean, taking it to the extreme instead of its relativity, complexities, and application.

Happy Sunday mate.

Safitu:
aka How dare a woman have standards, she better just accept any and anything that comes her way. Even if he’s wretched, no purpose and empty, you better accept him like that because he might just be your husband.

Can you go into a brothel and marry an ashewo? Men always accept women for they can offer them NOW, they don’t look into future prospects, so why can’t women do the same? What absolute rubbish.

It's not black and white. A lady can have standards, she should go for it, but while having her standards, she should be realistic, level headed and not carry fire for head (in Mayorkun's words).

If you are honest with yourself, you'll acknowledge that the op has a point. There are reasonable standards, as well as an unreasonable one. The op is focusing on the unreasonable one, his write up is clearly worded and cant be misinterpreted out of its true intent unless you're being disingenuous.

Will you say wanting a man with some cash who can take care of you is unreasonable then?

pansophist:
It's not black and white. A lady can have standards, she should go for it, but while having her standards, she should be realistical, level headed and not carry fire for head (in Mayorkun's words).

If you are honest with yourself, you'll acknowledge that the op has a point. There are reasonable standards, as well as unreasonable one. The op is focusing on the unreasonable one, his write up is clearly worded and cant misinterpreted out of its through intent, unless you're being disingenuous.

ojuu4u:
Ladies used to go for wrong reasons when it comes for marriage and that's why they are abused and disappointed.

A recent story between my wife' friend and options opened for her then.

The lady in question was 30 then, I intervened because my wife used to nag then that when guys slept wt her friend, they used to leave and on many occasions they will not even give her transport fare.
Meanwhile there was particular brother in my church that wanted to get marry then and he wasn't into any serious relationship. I told my wife to inform her friend about my intention of match making her with my church brother which she obliged, the guy is handsome, working in government establishment and also have his own job.
The guy as a xtian, intended to marry this lady without having premarital sex with her (don't forget she complained to my wife, which happen to be her closest friend, that guys used to leave her after sleeping with her)
She travelled down from other state to meet the guy in my apartment, when the two came, I introduced them to each other and advised them I latter left them to discuss one on one, the guy left that day and came back 3rd day for further discussion, to cut story short,
This lady refused to marry my church member just because he met one particular guy online. Even though there were handwritings on the wall that the guy would not marry her
The guy he met online has no job, not to talk of setting business for her, the guy ready to sleep with her immediately and with no plan of get married soon even though the girl in question was 30 yrs old then
Yet the lady blindly and foolishly followed online guy just because they came from same town while my church brother came from other state (that was excuse she gave my wife)


Today at age 32 she is still wandering in the wilderness of singleness,to God be the glory my church brother married with kid

NB she left my house and meet the online guy from different town, the guy impregnated her and denied the pregnancy, she later delivered still born baby

God delivered that your Church brother.
God would never allow him to marry her because she would have damaged his destiny.

Many of them grope in darkness
They can't see far. They can't see when good is coming
Because they judge by the look of things.
And any man that marries them, his destiny and future generations are damaged, except divine intervention.

Okay


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