Katier00:
You earn 60k to 80k and you were able to save 400k in less than a year. What's the secret bro? Don't leave your parents house just yet. Save up to 1m and buy a low cost land since you are not good in doing business. When it appreciates a little, sell and buy two more .Stay there sef till you wan marry. Be focus, you are not far from being successful

read his earlier post(he doesnt womanize,drinks nor smoke) and probably he doesnt put on xpensive clothes and accessories.in conclusion op is living a boring life

culturedboss:
Don't let any thing deceive u..u can start now and grow on ur own...Those telling u to Save more..Ask them how much have they saved?!My guy if u die today wetin u gain?!All those talking abt u Staying and contributing to the upkeep of the house,missed it...its better u're on ur own then send money to them when u can since they ain't the bothering type.
Ur parents are nice but don't let it fool u...The time must come when Obi has to be a Man.
I was like u at 26yrs after my youth service...It wasn't funny,Urs are nice coz my own parents branded me a Lazy man...I would go downstairs to check whats cooking just sighting me in the kitchen my mum would ask if i kept anything in the ppot?My Dad would quarrel with me for bringing friends around...it went on and on for good 2yrs,at some point i would sleep at friends or relatives.Just to have that peace of mind...Couldn't even bring some male friends to the house talk less of babe.
When i finally got a Job,i didn't wait til i had up to 400k like u...I rented a self-cont,bought a mattress and slept there in and some times at my parents til it was fully furnished and comfortable...Today,I visit my parents when i want and they beg for me to pass the night at theirs,Its been a decade tho..To cut the long story short.
My guy nothing is certain in this Life...U have to take the bull by the horn...It can only get better...Let no one chose for u...Its ur call...For ur info i started as a contract staff with 98k per month with a company that was even threatening to leave naija the following Year...Thats to say the Job was not stable but that was just what i needed to be a man of my own.
Like someone said:
On ur own u make mistakes and learn especially with Friends and Women.
Like they say"Its Better late than never but never too late is Better."

Best advice

LadySarah:
When did paying house rent and furnishing an apartment an investment?
They say You are eating Mama Thank You ,is that bothering your mama,no.
The truth:
your friends are jealous.They want Where they will have unrestricted access to enjoyment from you and the squatters gang.
that 400k that looks too big to Youwill dissappear in 1 week.

Remain Where You are until You are abt to get married.If they Talk ,ignore them.

Can someone help me give this girl 50 million naira for her wise words..... Made my first million staying in my parent house..... Save and invest before leaving house.

ediko5:


My achiever what have you really achieved.?

What is your investment?

Don't you know that all fingers are not equal, we are talking about securing his tomorrow's financial status.

I have seen many family men who were well to do left 3 bedroom flats apartment to a self contain in port Harcourt due to lost of jobs. Some even sold the house they built and move to a rented apartment. Stop bragging your little mouth cos you are yet to experience life.

So house owners sold their houses? So what advise are we really giving our friend here? When people begin selling their assets such as houses, it means that the situation is beyond remedy. Is it not the same house that you said others are selling due to hardship that we're now asking op to build? Sir, is a house really an investment? The key to financial success is not by living with one's parents till old age in order to save. The key is to establish multiple streams of income. That's the key to financial success and that's the advice we should give OP.

And thanks for saying I have a small mouth @ ediko5

Cc: neyobills, Tomide007 & ediko5

ashewoboy:
some people will storm this thread now. inviting you to do business. don't mind them. don't do any business with anybody here. they are all scammers. I don't know why people are inhumane. somebody comes here with his predicament. your own is how to scam him. don't call anybody.

Person scam you?

ediko5:


My achiever what have you really achieved.?

What is your investment?

Don't you know that all fingers are not equal, we are talking about securing his tomorrow's financial status.

I have seen many family men who were well to do left 3 bedroom flats apartment to a self contain in port Harcourt due to lost of jobs. Some even sold the house they built and move to a rented apartment. Stop bragging your little mouth cos you are yet to experience life.

Don't mind him..... The guy even said that he sends 30k to his mother. ...someone that should be praying that God should give him a break him a break is sharing success story in poverty

theButterfly:
If you think you've enough to get a place and sustain yourself and your other needs/expenses, move out. If not, stay where you are and save a bit more before you move out. Do start a side hustle or business to generate more income.

you cant save while living in ur parents house, most people dont know this,especially when ur pay is higher than that of ur parents or ur bro are still dependent,its a known fact,oga relocate so that u can think properly

Hullabaloon:


As for expenses, I'm frugal with expenses. I don't drink, don't smoke, ain't a womanizer.

Thanks for your input.

Your own better...

Bross dey were u dey until u are ready for marriage or u want use am do business in as much ur parents are not chasing u an ur office is close ur family house my brother keep on enjoining ur parental hood bro osheey

[quote author=Katier00 post=80159386]You earn 60k to 80k and you were able to save 400k in less than a year. What's the secret bro? Don't leave your parents house just yet. Save up to 1m and buy a low cost land since you are not good in doing business. When it appreciates a little, sell and buy two more .Stay there sef till you wan marry. Be focus, you are not far from being successful[/quote
Please be my gf nah mbok...

I find it very foolish for a father of a 28 year old man still renting an apartment

MasterRahl:


So house owners sold their houses? So what advise are we really giving our friend here? When people begin selling their assets such as houses, it means that the situation is beyond remedy. Is it not the same house that you said others are selling due to hardship that we're now asking op to build? Sir, is a house really an investment? The key to financial success is not by living with one's parents till old age in order to save. The key is to establish multiple streams of income. That's the key to financial success and that's the advice we should give OP.

And thanks for saying I have a small mouth @ ediko5

a house is not an investment,and money spent on d building cannot b gotten back in his life time,highest at old age,,,,,there are businesses u will do in nig ,if u understand dat biz,u can get what a landlord collects as rent in a year within a week,,,,,,the purpose of a house is for inheritance not profit

chii8:
You're lucky to have them (parent),save for two more years and invest big,in fact buy lunch box,and carry better mumsy delicacy to work, dem go talk,dem go taya

"Lunch box"...lol

Sir,
Let me give u good advice,
You will move out okay. But take a hold first.
Draw up a little 5 year plan.
That means an estimate of what u want to have and where u want to be in 5 years.( For a start , u can not really determine where u want to be but u have a little resource ( ur salary) to help u determine what u want to have which will in turn help u to get to where u want to be.
So sit down and put something hard to get but possible to achieve.
Include ur marriage plan too like midway into the plan.
If u draw that plan sir, I give u 100% assurance that u will know that 400k can't get u what u want.
The plan will give u direction on the earliest u can leave your parents house.
Infact u will tighten ur belt and save more.
By the time u can save 60% of ur salary,
The brain to do business will come ( this one u are saying u are not cut out for business-no be business somebody put for ground wey carry u dey chop 80k monthly.).
Not that u will go do business hung-ho.
U will invest in a -risk free business (e.g fixed deposit, treasury bill, comm papers) and then take a little portion to try something u think u can do.(the risk-free providing u a kind of security to fall back on.
U will surely fail in business if u are going to succeed later, it now depend on how u view that failure,
If u run from it, u will meet if later again especially u mentioned ur current job has no "security".
If it means eating 100 naira food per meal in order to be eating 1,000 naira food in 3 years time, it is very worthwhile.
Me I never regretted it.
Best of luck sir

Hullabaloon:


As for expenses, I'm frugal with expenses. I don't drink, don't smoke, ain't a womanizer.

Thanks for your input.

Tot as much with that number in ur savings. Thumbs up

Swargu:
I didn't bother reading people's comment, some may be right or wrong.

Bro please use 300k rent and furnish your apartment first you won't finish everything at once, you have alot to gain.
1. You can carry babes at will.
2. You will have time to read and learn new things.
3. You will have the mind to try out any small business without people or your parents feeling uncomfortable with it, or telling you can't make it.
4. You will go broke sometimes and learn to save better the next month.
5. You will earn respect automatically from colleagues and family...... And babes lol.
6. You will have time to embark on self discovery quests.
Alot of upsides i can't remember all tho...
Trust me if you invest that money you can't successfully make brain or much profit in the business from the comfort of your parents house.

If you are alone you will become more responsible and you will alot of alone time to think and plan ahead knowing that you have to pay bills monthly.

Well said bro...some will come here to attack you but if you know you know...

MasterRahl:


So house owners sold their houses? So what advise are we really giving our friend here? When people begin selling their assets such as houses, it means that the situation is beyond remedy. Is it not the same house that you said others are selling due to hardship that we're now asking op to build? Sir, is a house really an investment? The key to financial success is not by living with one's parents till old age in order to save. The key is to establish multiple streams of income. That's the key to financial success and that's the advice we should give OP.

And thanks for saying I have a small mouth @ ediko5

Cc: neyobills, Tomide007 & ediko5

Does living with his parents make him less successful,this isn't about him only it's about sacrifice for the family,thats what life is all about,his parents sacrificed time and resources to nurture him till now,this should be payback time and a walk in the park for him depending on the situation.

Originalsly:


Ehmmm..... I have a side business proposition for you... if you're very lazy... your ROI will be 5% minimum... if you're just ordinary lazy... 20% ROI.... if you will try... 50%... if you will push to get things done...100% minimum... and thus is foolproof business.... 100% legit...are you interested?

@ topic... you're not in a position to move as yet.... bank some more.

You didn't say anything nah...

Thnk God I left my parents house at 23 ,,,,even without a job,,,,,I know what I have become now,,,if u are not challenged and faced with strong situations d truth is dat u cant succeed,when u are with ur parents, u are still been pampered, with nothing to think abt,this can change ur natural make up, , they may pamper u to remain o,but before u know u are 32 and u are still there, God forbid it for u though, just follow ur heart dear

ladiesreject:
I will look at this from another angle

If I were you, I will move out! I will not move out because my friends want me to, I will move out because I need to know what it means to pay my bills.

You're with your family, you will never know what life truly is. You wake up in the morning, water to bath is there, food to eat is there, etc. Tell me, how will you understand responsibility?

You said you still contribute in the upkeep of the house but still.... When you move and start staying alone, you know that your next meal is not guaranteed, your next house rent is also not guaranteed in fact, you need to work harder. A man ought to have such experiences before settling down. How will you get it?

So, you will remain with your parents till when you want to marry? And when is that?

Bros, move out! When you do, know that every dime you spend has good or bad consequences.

Some people are saying what if you move out and then you lose your job? Actually, that's when you get to discover some of your money making abilities. Ok, what if after getting married you lose your job? Will you go back to your father's house? You said business is not your thing, yes, I understand. But like they say, necessity is the mother of invention.
You said you neither drink, smoke, nor womanise. So what is your fear?

Sha, it's your call to make

Nice write up...can't believe that some are advising a grown man to be under the same roof with his parents...how will tat person know what life is ol about...paying bills et el...

osazsky:
Thnk God I left my parents house at 23 ,,,,even without a job,,,,,I know what I have become now,,,if u are not challenged and faced with strong situations d truth is dat u cant succeed,when u are with ur parents, u are still been pampered, with nothing to think abt,this can change ur natural make up, , they may pamper u to remain o,but before u know u are 32 and u are still there, God forbid it for u though, just follow ur heart dear

Na so my brother...

Hullabaloon:
Guys I need advice on what to do at this point in my life.

Got a job, in my state, place of work not far from parent's house (rented flat).

I've managed to save up to 400k so far, I've always longed to move away from my parent's house and get my own place, but they'd always kick against it, citing that there's no need for that since work is close to home. Left for them, they'd like me to stay till I plan for marriage whenever that will be; Lol, parents sha.

I'm already 28 years old, so I think it's time.

My colleagues already yab me anytime they get the opportunity, they love reminding me that I still dey chop mama thank you.

Problem is, the job security at my place of work is not that encouraging. I have older colleagues who have been in the company for 8 to 15 years, I've also, within my short period (less than a year now) seen about 5 workers sacked, it's a place where any thing can happen at any time.

So, should I invest this 400k in renting and furnishing an apartment with the constant uncertainty hovering over the job,and no side income yet, or should I continue staying with my parents while I invest the money in a side business which I don't know how it'll fare...

Now, frankly speaking, I'm not cut out for business, it's not my forte at all, so starting any at all comes with great risk but I still feel the need for another source of income.

On the flip side, Staying with my parents is not even as economical as most would think. Ever since I got the job, parents no dey gree say them get money again. All the bills are on me.

I'm just confused.

Salary fluctuates between 60 to 80k

OP invest on yourself, since there's uncertainty about the job like you mentioned. Increase your market value Bro.

Lolz! 400k to rent and furnish an apartment? No make me laugh abeg... Na fowl cage be the house you wan rent and furnish with that kind tiny money?

Jayslicky:
Ok that's good, at least you earn over 700k in a year, the normal rule is that your rent should not be more than one-fourth of your salary in a year, it depends on how you spend money on things, it is better than if you calculate your expenses monthly, you calculate how much you spend on food stuff, calculate what you spend on clothes, calculate how much you give out to people sometimes, calculate the cost of maintaining the apartment you plan on getting(nepa bills, security bills etc) subtract it from your salary, if the remaining money is not up to 5k monthly, then don't even think of trying to move out of your parents house because that is not progress but waste of time. I suggest you still stay in your parents house till at least a year more, you just started working and you need to be balanced before getting your own apartment, I know you want your space as a man but just have patience.

Best advice anyone can get i hope u take this @Hullabaloon.

febble:
if you dont leave your comfort zone, you can never achieve more.

My kinda of guy...moved out from my parents place and presently in abuja job hunting...
Bsc industrial chemistry
Have experience working with NGOs, procurement, warehouse assistant and project manager...you can reach Me on philznnona88@gmail...
Remain blessed..

NkemChukwudi:


This is one of the manipulative dogshit that has been fed into all Nigerian child. This nonsense is not true. This lie is the reason many abled men and women in their senior age refuse to work when they still can. Unless you wrote a letter to them to born you into this world.

Well, if you come from a dysfunctional family or do not have biological parents, that's your problem not mine. We have a 28 year old still living with his parents and you don't have any solution to his problem. We are supposed to take care of those who took care of us, especially our parents. That's the difference between humans and animals. The choice will always be yours. Just calm down ok.

OgogoroFreak:
Lolz! 400k to rent and furnish an apartment? No make me laugh abeg... Na fowl cage be the house you wan rent and furnish with that kind tiny money?

depends on the state he resides ,there are some states u could still get a good one bedroom flat for 80k,chair 120k not complete set small TV for a start, then fridge,second hand them foam,he can get these with 400k and start buying d rest little my little .no apartment has it all ,

osazsky:
Thnk God I left my parents house at 23 ,,,,even without a job,,,,,I know what I have become now,,,if u are not challenged and faced with strong situations d truth is dat u cant succeed,when u are with ur parents, u are still been pampered, with nothing to think abt,this can change ur natural make up, , they may pamper u to remain o,but before u know u are 32 and u are still there, God forbid it for u though, just follow ur heart dear

.

Sir, u reached that time (stage)very early in life and I doff my hat for u.
The (your)hunger was there, the determination there, the will there, so u will leave.
The op has not reached that point.
He is busy " rushing" his wardrope.
Sir, if u ir anyone have the vision,
To leave is hard but to stay is harder.
400k will only make u good money if u already have a skill (at experience level).
Op has not gotten to that point. The job has no "security" , then he should leave. That's more dangerous.
He should go and get vision first.
Then he will know when to leave

virgindesy:
You this guy, You must be high on something. Are u serious? With so many national issues we have in this country, u still bring this kind issue up for us to help u decided... U must be taking something that is not good for your system when u decided to come here and ask us this rubbish question.

Make ona find chain....

ediko5:


There's another I observe from people like you.

From the OP'S post, there's much love between him and his parents.

I observe that 90% of people that usually advice people to hastily run out of the parents house are people from broken homes, polygamous family, barrack-like family (6-10) children in small apartment.

Children from united family, 2-3 children will hardly run out of their parent's house hastily.

If I happen to work in the town my parent reside I'll live with my parent and save to build my own house because:

I love my parents and wouldn't want to stay far away from them if I have the opportunity.

I have my own room for my privacy.

I have a friend who lived with his parent in a two bedroom apartment, saved money to purchase a land and build a 4 bedroom flat apartment in town.

OP, don't allow children from broken homes who are jealous of your parental love to lead you astray.

Its not children's fault that adults can not and do not want to sort things out among themselves...So why bring ur myopic reasoning into this?!.
What makes u feel u have a better say here coz ur parents can get along beats my imagination.
Pls,next time if u have nothing better to add just STFU...U just disgust me for undermining people from broken homes.

Hullabaloon:
Guys I need advice on what to do at this point in my life.

Got a job, in my state, place of work not far from parent's house (rented flat).

I've managed to save up to 400k so far, I've always longed to move away from my parent's house and get my own place, but they'd always kick against it, citing that there's no need for that since work is close to home. Left for them, they'd like me to stay till I plan for marriage whenever that will be; Lol, parents sha.

I'm already 28 years old, so I think it's time.

My colleagues already yab me anytime they get the opportunity, they love reminding me that I still dey chop mama thank you.

Problem is, the job security at my place of work is not that encouraging. I have older colleagues who have been in the company for 8 to 15 years, I've also, within my short period (less than a year now) seen about 5 workers sacked, it's a place where any thing can happen at any time.

So, should I invest this 400k in renting and furnishing an apartment with the constant uncertainty hovering over the job,and no side income yet, or should I continue staying with my parents while I invest the money in a side business which I don't know how it'll fare...

Now, frankly speaking, I'm not cut out for business, it's not my forte at all, so starting any at all comes with great risk but I still feel the need for another source of income.

On the flip side, Staying with my parents is not even as economical as most would think. Ever since I got the job, parents no dey gree say them get money again. All the bills are on me.

I'm just confused.

Salary fluctuates between 60 to 80k

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Stay with your parents as long as it takes to be successful. Have you considered other hidden costs of rental? Furnishings, electricity, food, etc. Once you sign the lease, consider the little money you saved gone.

The only person you should strive to impress is YOU.

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Conquerdem1:
Am 28. Dad n mom splitted couple of years ago after more than 35yrs of marriage. All my elder ones are married and I’ve got one junior Sis. Ever since mom left since two years now. Dad hasn’t been giving me any attention or talk to me since I came back from school 4years ago even before mom left. He goes on his own cos he’s got a Pussy outside but scared to bring her home cos of what ppu in the area will say cos he’s a churchy person and no one expected it. The pussy caused their fight and mom had to move to her own house that she built. I’m tired of the area too and I really wanna move out for greener pasture. I’ve gotten my own rented apartment but don’t know how to tell him cos I don’t think he believes in me but always imagining how am surviving without him. He’s 67 and sometimes am not always happy my mom and Dad are not together. I just want to move on with my life. Someone help me. I need work!! And Gods grace to make it cos nija no easy

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