Enchantaurl:
none that I can think of.

That's serious

Enchantaurl:
You don't use such foul words on someone's parents,it is uncalled for. You can comment without being uncivilized about it. Thank you

come and hold me na

Enchantaurl:
How is it that you sound so much like him!!!

I am nothing like him.
I am not a bunkerer,I don't take money from women.If at all I would,it wouldn't be that paltry sum i saw you put up there
We cool like that.
You on the other hand should brace up for the suffering that is about to befall you because of your foolishness.
Goodluck.

sisisioge:

Hian! You had to call me into this? Biko ask the oracle

Enchantaurl:
. I was doing something small in school, which I was able to use in feeding and buying materials but now we are on break. I'm in Port Harcourt tho job hunting before we resume, left the village I'm staying with a course mate at her parent's.

send me a PM

ebujany:



send me a PM

Done.

Enchantaurl:
Done.

check your inbox

It goes Both ways, many men have also ruined their families because of a woman outside, most times, all many of us want is someone to love and care about us, the longer it takes the more desperate we become, and soon we may begin to get depressed and doubt our self worth, so when a hint of love shows up. It can be consunming and easy to lose senses.

Your mum has lived her life, made mistskes etc, its now your your turn to live yours.
Truth is, whether up or down, life is meant to be lived, isn't it all we have , learn from it, enjoy the moment and don't forget to live

Enchantaurl:
But we her kids were there to show her love, we were supportive.

there are different kinds of love, the ones you guys gave her she had but she desired another.

Your mum made some mistakes, she didn't make use of her head. Don't on the other side allow your mum's mistakes to disconnect your heart from your head.

Try your possible best to raise up capital for any kind of business you can that would be compatible with your academics. Try snack making and confectioneries like peanuts, zobo drinks, meat pies, etc, these are things i have seen students do and do sell quietly in class even when lectures are going on.

Or you can buy pure bliss biscuits in cartons and , students love a tasty thing and you must make sales daily.

Your mum was not jazzed, don't underestimate the actions of a desperate woman in love, but my point here is if you believe in something like that, i suggest you drop it and believe more in positive things. Join a good church, be a student and worship God.

That above is the best advice i can give you now, at least from my own experience. You don't wanna hear my own story.

Aside from buying and selling, if you have other skills, engage it.

If you need any form of encouragement, dm me, I believe you need every support you can get.

Read my signature!

rychard:
It goes Both ways, many men have also ruined their families because of a woman outside, most times, all many of us want is someone to love and care about us, the longer it takes the more desperate we become, and soon we may begin to get depressed and doubt our self worth, so when a hint of love shows up. It can be consunming and easy to lose senses.

Your mum has lived her life, made mistskes etc, its now your your turn to live yours.
Truth is, whether up or down, life is meant to be lived, isn't it all we have , learn from it, enjoy the moment and don't forget to live

Thank you.

Les:
there are different kinds of love, the ones you guys gave her she had but she desired another.

Your mum made some mistakes, she didn't make use of her head. Don't on the other side allow your mum's mistakes to disconnect your heart from your head.

Try your possible best to raise up capital for any kind of business you can that would be compatible with your academics. Try snack making and confectioneries like peanuts, zobo drinks, meat pies, etc, these are things i have seen students do and do sell quietly in class even when lectures are going on.

Or you can buy pure bliss biscuits in cartons and , students love a tasty thing and you must make sales daily.

Your mum was not jazzed, don't underestimate the actions of a desperate woman in love, but my point here is if you believe in something like that, i suggest you drop it and believe more in positive things. Join a good church, be a student and worship God.

That above is the best advice i can give you now, at least from my own experience. You don't wanna hear my own story.

Aside from buying and selling, if you have other skills, engage it.

If you need any form of encouragement, dm me, I believe you need every support you can get.

Read my signature!

Thanks alot for the encouragement.

I feel like she was too desperate for love

Here’s your answer. When women are raised to believe their successes and accomplishments mean nothing unless there’s a man attached to it to whom the credit can be given, things like this happen. And they will keep happening because many women will fight those who try to talk sense into them.

If she manages to rise up again, she is still vulnerable to disastrous failure once another disrespectful man comes along.

By all means love love. I for one love love. But it MUST be reciprocal and the respect for the WOMAN must be non-negotiable.

Be kind

Logobenz3:
ABI you no read where she say she dey village
It's clear she has to make her own headway now and that my friend comes with a lot of suffering.
Either she will suffer her head,hands or Toto at this point,just the sad truth.
Ndi school.

cococandy:
Be kind

lol,I don't knkw what that means
This was where I had problems;
1)she calling that poor man an oil bunkerer.like why did she have to rubbish the name of such a high yielding profession by attaching that poor man to it?bunkerers are not that poor!!!
2)She is a selfish bastard that deserves all the sufferings that come her way.
Why did she have to go for school at the family business's expense?
Necessary sacrifices are made when times turn for the betterment of a people but no,she ignored.
So my dear cococandy,I will never have pity or sympathy for such an idiot.
People have started sending PMs to her already.talk to her o,because them go scatter her nyarsh now in the name of helping her.word on the street say 17 year old Toto are in high demand.
Atleast if she should Bleep anybody,it should come with a high price tag since she might be the tightest of them all at the moment.

cococandy:
I feel like she was too desperate for love

Here’s your answer. When women are raised to believe their successes and accomplishments mean nothing unless there’s a man attached to it to whom the credit can be given, things like this happen. And they will keep happening because many women will fight those who try to talk sense into them.

If she manages to rise up again, she is still vulnerable to disastrous failure once another disrespectful man comes along.

By all means love love. I for one love love. But it MUST be reciprocal and the respect for the WOMAN must be non-negotiable.

her mom's decision had nothing to do with love.
She fell for a classical scam.
She thought she has met a money pumping machine and life just got better with the little enticement she got from the diesel peddler.
She fell helplessly and bled for a nigga.that's all that happened.
Stop twisting simple things.

Logobenz3:
lol,I don't knkw what that means
This was where I had problems;
1)she calling that poor man an oil bunkerer.like why did she have to rubbish the name of such a high yielding profession by attaching that poor man to it?bunkerers are not that poor!!!
2)She is a selfish bastard that deserves all the sufferings that come her way.
Why did she have to go for school at the family business's expense? Necessary sacrifices are made when times turn for the betterment of a people but no,she ignored.
So my dear cococandy,I will never have pity or sympathy for such an idiot.

3)People have started sending PMs to her already.talk to her o,because them go scatter her nyarsh now in the name of helping her.word on the street say 17 year old Toto are in high demand.
Atleast if she should Bleep anybody,it should come with a high price tag since she might be the tightest of them all at the moment.

1)
So the man calls himself a bunkerer and she addresses him as such.What’s the crime? She never claimed to be an expert in oil-pilfering nomenclature. I don’t see what the big deal is. I’ve met bunkerers who actually go to the creeks. Not all of them are millionaires. Some physically go into the heart, dirt and swamp of it and they still have people they work for who call the shots.
There are different levels to it depending on your access and they all call themselves the same thing. Kini big deal? Note that I’m not claiming to be an expert either. Before I go to hell for dishonoring the profession

2)
You don’t have life figured out yet and you expect a 17 year old to have it all laid out and know the best actions to take when things go south? And she deserves all the suffering that comes her way because? She’s a monster? She’s a horrible evil person? Why exactly does she deserve all the suffering that comes get way?

3) crude. I won’t even respond to that part.

Okay sir

Logobenz3:
her mom's decision had nothing to do with love.
She fell for a classical scam.
She thought she has met a money pumping machine and life just got better with the little enticement she got from the diesel peddler.
She fell helplessly and bled for a nigga.that's all that happened.
Stop twisting simple things.

cococandy:


1)
So the man calls himself a bunkerer and she addresses him as such.What’s the crime? She never claimed to be an expert in oil-pilfering nomenclature. I don’t see what the big deal is. I’ve met bunkerers who actually go to the creeks. Not all of them are millionaires. Some physically go into the heart, dirt and swamp of it and they still have people they work for who call the shots.
There are different levels to it depending on your access and they all call themselves the same thing. Kini big deal? Note that I’m not claiming to be an expert either. Before I go to hell for dishonoring the profession

2)
You don’t have life figured out yet and you expect a 17 year old to have it all laid out and know the best actions to take when things go south? And she deserves all the suffering that comes her way because? She’s a monster? She’s a horrible evil person? Why exactly does she deserve all the suffering that comes get way?

3) crude. I won’t even respond to that part.

I don't have figured out yet?you must be joking!
I have it all figured out and at such a young age too you know why?
I started making life changing decisions at that age too.no excuses!
She could see her mom was irrational and she has been running the family's poultry business,POS too so why would she leave all of that vulnerability for uncertainty in the name of school?
She wants to keep up with her mates perhaps at the family's expense?
I have sister's too who made some sacrifices before I was born to make sure our family is where it is today and funny thing is they did so younger than this coconut head.
Well,I still wish her well.

Logobenz3:
I don't have figured out yet?you must be joking!
I have it all figured out and at such a young age too you know why?
I started making life changing decisions at that age too.no excuses!
She could see her mom was irrational and she has been running the family's poultry business,POS too so why would she leave all of that vulnerability for uncertainty in the name of school?
She wants to keep up with her mates perhaps at the family's expense?
I have sister's too who made some sacrifices before I was born to make sure our family is where it is today and funny thing is they did so younger than this coconut head.
Well,I still wish her well.

You are a very big idiot. I don't know why no poster has called you out yet. You that a small girl scammed you in the name of love and you opened a thread on nairaland for it. A teenager is here seeking advice from people and all you could do is insult her. You have it all figured out at a young age really? By sleeping and having sex with different prostitutes. Getting scammed by a small girl. You are a fucking disgrace to all men and you should shut the Bleep up. If you reply this with any nonsense I will bring all your rubbish and post them on this thread. Nincompoop.

tensazangetsu20:


You are a very big idiot. I don't know why no poster has called you out yet. You that a small girl scammed you in the name of love and you opened a thread on nairaland for it. A teenager is here seeking advice from people and all you could do is insult her. You have it all figured out at a young age really? By sleeping and having sex with different prostitutes. Getting scammed by a small girl. You are a fucking disgrace to all men and you should shut the Bleep up. If you reply this with any nonsense I will bring all your rubbish and post them on this thread. Nincompoop.

seriously I am a nicompoop?really?
Wow,this idiot whose life is yet to begin suddenly feel like he can call me names.
You think i am ashamed or scared or influenced by people here?
Dude I've got business to take care of,that will make me good money I will use to drink champagne,Bleep those hoes over and over,live in a great place and drive good cars.how does a person be ashamed of That?
You on the other hand still has nothing good going on for him,broke,miserable,live with parents etc..
Dude,in fact sis,you are just a dummy to think I am ashamed of my actions.
Go out,make good Money,be occupied and help your wretched state Ok?
Please bring my posts here,I want to laugh at your poor plans at blackmailing.
You picked the wrong target.
Also,I will still insult the smallie,she is a coconut head.
Now go hit your head for the wall in your father's house.
Poverty personified

tensazangetsu20:


You are a very big idiot. I don't know why no poster has called you out yet. You that a small girl scammed you in the name of love and you opened a thread on nairaland for it. A teenager is here seeking advice from people and all you could do is insult her. You have it all figured out at a young age really? By sleeping and having sex with different prostitutes. Getting scammed by a small girl. You are a fucking disgrace to all men and you should shut the Bleep up. If you reply this with any nonsense I will bring all your rubbish and post them on this thread. Nincompoop.

Enchantaurl:
I'm beginning to resent her, can't help it.
Thanks for your advice

your mom was jazz and that's why she behaved that way! Don't resent her just forgive her, she needed a man quite much and that's why the jazz worked much on her. Let her start her business all over again and she will have enough wealth to take care of you and your siblings.

she hasn't learned, cause she believe what the pastor said about her been charmed, when she gets to understand she is the cause of all these actions then she gets to learn from her mistakes, for me, she is yet to learn.

greatme2good:
Your mum is the cause of her problems and she learnt her lesson the hard way. If you have your way, start a business and not depend on your mum. Still keep encouraging her before she will become depressed, since you are in school always keep in touch with her.

Nobody has life figured out.
Not one person on earth.

When you started making life decisions then, you didn’t make any mistakes at all? Didn’t make decisions that you final reflected on and figured out that you could have done better? Didn’t waste time on things you later wished you didn’t waste time on?

Would it have been prudent to say you deserve all the suffering that comes your way because of any decisions you made then or are even making now?

@bold, you could have led with that

Logobenz3:
I don't have figured out yet?you must be joking!
I have it all figured out and at such a young age too you know why?
I started making life changing decisions at that age too.no excuses!
She could see her mom was irrational and she has been running the family's poultry business,POS too so why would she leave all of that vulnerability for uncertainty in the name of school?
She wants to keep up with her mates perhaps at the family's expense?
I have sister's too who made some sacrifices before I was born to make sure our family is where it is today and funny thing is they did so younger than this coconut head.
Well,I still wish her well.

Logobenz3:
continue making excuses for foolishness.
17 year old means what?
I made life changing decisions at that age too so I know too well what I am talking about.

Oga everybody is not the same. Stop being condescending

Enchantaurl:
She took loan from Bank of 1million and invested in the business , he bought a bus with it and the bus has just his name.
She kept borrowing and ended up borrowing 5m from the bank for this business and whenever they make profit he takes it all and gives her crumbs, things were so hard for us and she kept saying he loves her whilst complaining to us.

She took 2m from a contribution, gave it to him again and it sinked. Lapo and accion bank too she's owing them.

As if that wasn't enough he tried to break my family by calling my elder sister a witch and my mum supported him, my family almost divided.

Note: I didn't know of all this debts until recently a pastor saw her on the road she was walking like some one that was suicidal according to him, and he asked her what the problem was and she narrated things, he called for a meeting with the man and everything was revealed.


The banker who helped with the loan was in the meeting and when they asked my mum how she wanted the debt to be paid she said she was going to pay all that he should just give her the bus. The pastor said she was charmed but I don't believe she was, I feel like she was too desperate for love. This guy even beats her but she denies it, he talks to her anyhow.



I'm happy she's left him but right now to eat is a problem, the money I saved before entering school 60k I gave it to her and there's no hope of getting it back. He's destroyed everything. We've relocated to the village and I feel depressed and I've developed a hatred for men as I've never had a good male figure in my life, they are all assholes (my latedad inclusive).

I believe women should deal with men without their emotions. Be mean to them and they will adore you. After reading why men love bitches I realized a lot of things.

If you bitch around, you will be treated like a bitch. We won't adore you. Don't let any book fool you. I feel your pain though but note that you have learnt a valuable life lesson so early which should work for your betterment.

What about your elder ones? Seem like everything is resting on your shoulders.

It's not jazz, your mum was sexxx starved.

Power of dick?

djoe21:


If you bitch around, you will be treated like a bitch. We won't adore you. Don't let any book fool you. I feel your pain though but note that you have learnt a valuable life lesson so early which should work for your betterment.

What about your elder ones? Seem like everything is resting on your shoulders.

who's looking for male admiration? Certainly not me. I have never and I will never!!

djoe21:


If you bitch around, you will be treated like a bitch. We won't adore you. Don't let any book fool you. I feel your pain though but note that you have learnt a valuable life lesson so early which should work for your betterment.

What about your elder ones? Seem like everything is resting on your shoulders.

My elder sister kind of isolated herself from the family and she's in school too hustling for herself. My elder brother who is the eldest is also a student and in ibadan, I'm the only one close.

Enchantaurl:
who's looking for male admiration? Certainly not me. I have never and I will never!!

You need to take it easy dear. Both genders have the good, the bad and the ugly. Don't lose a good man when you see one because of the mishap of your mom.

Enchantaurl:
My elder sister kind of isolated herself from the family and she's in school too hustling for herself. My elder brother who is the eldest is also a student and in ibadan, I'm the only one close.

All right. Just keep doing the best you can and never forget to pray. You'll will be fine.