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scave:
SELF BELIEVE

Pls expantiate

scave:
SELF BELIEVE

When you get scared, ask yourself, do the people out there have gun and cutlass that when they see you they kill you?
None of them out there has two heads

Haven't you see an illiterate being wrong and talking boldly upon his ignorance.

When that social anxiety creep in go out and face it no body will beat you the worst that can happen when you talk in public is that people will talk back.

When start facing your fear little by little you will grow over it.

Don't fold your hand inside ur room expecting social anxiety to leave you.

social anxiety is a state of the mind and can only be conquered by taking action, which is going against that state of ur mind.

If ur mind put fear on going to a gathering challenge ur self and go there and see what will happen.

scave:
When you get scared, ask yourself, do the people out there have gun and cutlass that when they see you they kill you?
None of them out there has two heads

Haven't you see an illiterate being wrong and talking boldly upon his ignorance.

When that social anxiety creep in go out and face it no body will beat you the worst that can happen when you talk in public is that people will talk back.

When start facing your fear little by little you will grow over it.

Don't fold your hand inside ur room expecting social anxiety to leave you.

social anxiety is a state of the mind and can only be conquered by taking action, which is going against that state of ur mind.

If ur mind put fear on going to a gathering challenge ur self and go there and see what will happen.

Thanks a lot Sir, I will try as much as possible to put it into practice

tech18:
My own case I dont know where to even start...


PLease what are the best remedies to SOCIAL ANXIETY DISORDER?

Were you actually diagnosed to have S.A.D? If yes, how severe is it?
The severity will determine what will work and what may not easily work. Generally speaking however, two things that will sure help are 1) Therapy and 2) Self-hypnosis or Autosuggestion.

With the second option, it's just about what @scave explained to you. You have to literally "talk yourself out of it" and do what your head tells you not to do. In the end, what's the worst that can happen? It will have to be gradual and don't push yourself, but take one step at a time. In mo time, you'll find the anxiety and fear reducing.

We all make mistakes and we all fall short at one time or another. So begin by accepting that things go wrong. Then just try to be yourself around strange people and don't overdo anything. You will surely get better.

For the first option, you will need to see a therapist.

DonOms:
Were you actually diagnosed to have S.A.D? If yes, how severe is it?
1) Therapy and 2) Self-hypnosis or Autosuggestion.

For the first option, you will need to see a therapist.

I wasn't diagnosed ...based on my situation/condition and the symptoms of S.A.D I read online

I went to a Hospital (a Federal Medical Center) at the GOpd they directed me to another dept (Psychiatrist)

After a very long interaction with the Psychiatrist, he later prescribed one drug for me....which never worked


PLEASE Where can I be diagnosed ?

Where can I get a therapist?

Thanks

michealdeco:
you're still an introvert

I do same too
For example talking with my sister,(she's extrovert trying hard to turn introvert) I'll be talking Soo freely and lively but whenever any of her friend joins I keep quiet immediately and leave the area

Lol
U are funny

tech18:
I wasn't diagnosed ...based on my situation/condition and the symptoms of S.A.D I read online

I went to a Hospital (a Federal Medical Center) at the GOpd they directed me to another dept (Psychiatrist)

After a very long interaction with the Psychiatrist, he later prescribed one drug for me....which never worked


PLEASE Where can I be diagnosed ?

Where can I get a therapist?

Thanks

A psychiatrist or reqistered therapist can diagnose it. If it's Nigeria, it is usually cheaper and better to consult a psychiatrist at a Federal Medical Centre. However, they sometimes take things a little unseriously. If you have a good private hospital around you that offers psychiatry services, that should do.

I guess you were given some sort of antidepressant when you saw that psychiatrist. The things is those drugs are different and they work differently in different humans... so it sometimes require some kind of try and error to know what works well for you without having funny side effects. You know how Naija is... It is well.

Hello, everyone! I have been viewing this thread for quite a period of time and yes! I am introverted, I love my space and I believe it's gonna affect me if I have to carry out any thing relating to marketing because I don't really like meeting new people...I dunno what to say and that.

I have a question, is it weird if one plays games with his/herself? I mean, I play ludo, whots and any board game I can lay my hands on alone and some people see it as a weird stuff but I totally enjoy it.

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iamyemiakins:
I think we should have a Whatsapp group to connect better.

Hit me on Whatsapp 08134656117, to add u to our Whatsapp group

Exactly what I had in mind.... My own introverted nature is really epic, I really can't even express myself most times and at that, I am a core stammerer..


I will chat you up soonest so you can add me

Add me to 08139156449

starbuck:
Exactly what I had in mind.... My own introverted nature is really epic, I really can't even express myself most times and at that, I am a core stammerer..


I will chat you up soonest so you can add me

Lol
But ur mouth can run wide online like a tap

suregalluv:
Hello, everyone! I have been owing this thread for quite a period of time and yes! I am introverted, I love my space and I believe it's gonna affect me if I have to carry out any thing relating to marketing because I don't really like meeting new people...I dunno what to say and that.

I have a question, is it weird if one plays games with his/herself? I mean, I play ludo, whots and any board game I can lay my hands on alone and some people see it as a weird stuff but I totally enjoy it.

Hmm
How can only u be playing ludo?

Rubbiish:
Lol
But ur mouth can run wide online like a tap

Forget all the gra gra I am portraying, that's my defense mechanism... When you come in contact with me, I can't even start up a conversation

Rubbiish:
Hmm
How can only u be playing ludo?

It's possible, I play all the above games he listed and I am now a master at it... It's not bragging, no one beats me to it especially if any of my family members decides I should play with them

starbuck:
Forget all the gra gra I am portraying, that's my defense mechanism... When you come in contact with me, I can't even start up a conversation

Lol
Age may also be a factor
As u grow older u will learn to converse more with people

starbuck:
It's possible, I play all the above games he listed and I am now a master at it... It's not bragging, no one beats me to it especially if any of my family members decides I should play with them

@bold Introverts are intelligent people
When they put their mind to something, they are perfect at it

Rubbiish:
Lol
Age may also be a factor
As u grow older u will learn to converse more with people

Exactly, as a kid and a teenager, I never conversed with anyone not to talk of greeting anyone (mainly because I stutter) the only people I can categorically tell you I talk to was my mom and immediate elder bro, others assumes I was a dunce and over pampered brat.. Yet, they never knew what I was battling within..

But as age comes, mom no more, the rest of the family members are all hustling, I don't have any alternative than to choose friends who can understand me.. Atm, I have 3 friends who I converse without feeling detached, in their mist, I am an extrovert but they all know I am a core introvert because once someone interrupt, I go back at minding my business..

Rubbiish:
Hmm
How can only u be playing ludo?

Lol. I enjoy doing it...especially if I've asked someone to play with me and the person refuses, I just kukuma play my thing by myself till I get tired.

starbuck:
Exactly, as a kid and a teenager, I never conversed with anyone not to talk of greeting anyone (mainly because I stutter) the only people I can categorically tell you I talk to was my mom and immediate elder bro, others assumes I was a dunce and over pampered brat.. Yet, they never knew what I was battling within..

But as age comes, mom no more, the rest of the family members are all hustling, I don't have any alternative than to choose friends who can understand me.. Atm, I have 3 friends who I converse without feeling detached, in their mist, I am an extrovert but they all know I am a core introvert because once someone interrupt, I go back at minding my business..

I stutter too but I think only my close circle know about that because we talk often but it public, it kinda reduces but could come up if I'm excited.

We introverts are here.

babtoundey:
I was like you. I was a chronic introvert (I am still) I hardly talk, I hardly relate or initiate conversation no matter or crucial it may be to my favor. I am simply strange an odd. But I think my situation has improved. I'm very sure it has. You already know what your weaknesses are, so you need to work on them. Work on how to improve yourself in term of relating with strangers and relatives alike. Sumoun that courage to pick up discussion with people (anybody regardless of the gender and age) at the slightest opportunity given. Being an introvert, people will not only respect you, they, most times, respect your opinion and are always ready to listen to your once in a while talk or jokes. I don't like talking in public too but when need arises and I am chosen to say something to a group of large individuals, I don't bolt.
or panic. Preparing what you will say and what your response will be to questions ahead presentation and even conversation may be of great help. Not only that, you may consider going into teaching even if it is just for few months. This will help boost your self-confidence. I never thought I could teach because I hate talking and I hate being the focus of all. But then, I had the option to teach, I picked it up. The first classes may be boring and discouraging, don't be distracted by that. Always Prepare whatever you need to teach, say or discuss when you have the need to.
Being an introvert is challenging and difficult to contend with. Nonetheless, it is never a disadvantage.

Sir how do you deal with anxiety, sometimes if want to say something I panic and I don't say it. And I don't feel myself with new people, I get awkward and all and wish I could like have this unfiltered talks with people without having to fear what they'd think. Any advice on how to manage these fears?

[quote author=earthsync post=81596090]Sir how do you deal with anxiety, sometimes if want to say something I panic and I don't say it. And I don't feel myself with new people, I get awkward and all and wish I could like have this unfiltered talks with people without having to fear what they'd think. Any advice on how to manage these fears?[/quot

Most times, I think we are too judgemental about our status; appearance, mood, intellectual stance and people's perception of us. Reading into others people's thoughts about how we laugh, how we interact and relate with our immediate environment preclude us from doing what we really care to do or reacting as we would desire. To be candid, I enjoy my silence (in site the weirdness that comes with it) in a group. Even when I understand the subject of discussion and consider the people in discourse my equal, I always choose to observe and maintain neutrality. Avoiding public view is my most favorable comfort zone. But truth be told, it is not always nice. It affects ones confidence and drift potential friends, acquaintances and alleys away from one.

I will advise, you get yourself engage in things (exercises) where you can't avoid contributing your own input. If you are still in school, my dear, try and vie for some leadership positions. Aside the fact that being a leader affords you the privilege to meet and relate with people of different stocks, it prepares you for the impromptus. one way or the other, you may find it unavoidable making some clarifications to handful of your colleagues.

Most importantly, judge yourself less. I think that is the major restrain we encounter. The what ifs works against our confidence alot: "What if I am wrong?"' What I'm laughed at" What if I go off-point". You don't have to be a chatter box because you want to prove some point or talk for shiw-off sake. Keep being reserve. But sometimes, when you have an answer to a what seems a riddle to a lot of people, chip it in. It makes you popular and respected. I don't think it wise talking always and anyhow, just make sure you talk when you really need to (especially to save situations)

[quote author=babtoundey post=81597632][/quote]Thanks I'll do my best to get these voices off my head

starbuck:
Exactly, as a kid and a teenager, I never conversed with anyone not to talk of greeting anyone (mainly because I stutter) the only people I can categorically tell you I talk to was my mom and immediate elder bro, others assumes I was a dunce and over pampered brat.. Yet, they never knew what I was battling within..

But as age comes, mom no more, the rest of the family members are all hustling, I don't have any alternative than to choose friends who can understand me.. Atm, I have 3 friends who I converse without feeling detached, in their mist, I am an extrovert but they all know I am a core introvert because once someone interrupt, I go back at minding my business..

If u are a christian, join a society in your church, it works.

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Can anyone here really be as introverted as I'm!

I just feel like my level of being an introvert is very strong. Sometimes I just feel like, how am I even going to cope in a relationship. I rarely go out to the extent that most of my neighbors don't know me. I'm a very strong indoor person mehn!

Only God can save me!

iamyemiakins:
Can anyone here really be as introverted as I'm!

I just feel like my level of being an introvert is very strong. Sometimes I just feel like, how am I even going to cope in a relationship. I rarely go out to the extent that most of my neighbors don't know me. I'm a very strong indoor person mehn!

Only God can save me!

How old are u?

earthsync:
Thanks I'll do my best to get these voices off my head

All the best.

Can't actually say am an introvert, I just find myself staying alone away from the crowd, I have no friends around me and dont plan to have any, I spend most of my times indoors, this to an extent affected my relationship cos to an extent not being open to people makes me focus all my energy around my close circle and to an extent, people have met do take advantage of that. They often know am going nowhere and it's not as if I'll work up to any available person to start a conversation. Of recent depression set in, and I had to start a work even though it's killing me, like fucking stressful just to escape boredom and depression. The only thing is. At times I do turn up, like I can be the life of a party, must I say I dance a lot but mostly in my room alone... But it's as if anytime I do stuffs like this, it's not really me, like it's not who I am. It's endless. But just know one day, I will survive it all and it will end in praise