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Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by kazyhm(m): 4:28pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Tehila07: The simplest mistake you could make is to sacrifice yours for hers............thats an honest trap 1 Like |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by mechanics(m): 4:28pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Keep talking sense to her to see reasons to support your business but yours and hers can be going together then no big deal. |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by donaldfafree(m): 4:29pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
GBAM!! internationalman: |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by islandmoon: 4:29pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Tehila07: women are more selfish than you think |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by midnighter(f): 4:30pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Tehila07: Therefore she's married to you so she should like it...sorry I don't get..which one is don't like it...she has accepted the prophecy already... I know i can't cope with pentecostal stuff myself that's why I won't follow anybody there...she's married to you so she has taken on your burden... Anyway I have read some other responses, have you considered keeping on as a teacher in the school and gradually building a ministry as a second business? Maybe that one would be better since she says she will not follow you |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by midnighter(f): 4:32pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Tehila07: So what exactly are you saying, did you discuss all this with her or not? Did you marry in her church or your own? To my knowledge she's supposed to follow you to your church unless you say otherwise, I don't understand your narrative... |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by Nobody: 4:34pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
midnighter: We got married while I'm in my church. |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by Gloriousheart(f): 4:36pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
It's better to start your own ministry, Oga. That is if you're really sure God and not money called you into the ministry. And by the way, your family is your first ministry. If you fail at that, you may fail at pastoral ministry too. Your lifestyle, family and marriage is your loudest sermon. Let your wife continue with her school business. Keep supporting her. She will in turn support your ministry with her whole heart. Kindness gives birth to kindness. If she doesn't support moving around, then I doubt you should be in a ministry that moves you around. God will convince her too or you know that's not for you. Open yours. You can start with a fellowship if she doesn't get conviction to move with you. God isn't an author of confusion. Pray and discuss together. Let God and love lead you guys. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by friendlyadvice: 4:36pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Tehila07:if to say you sabi speak English well u and your wife no go get problem |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by midnighter(f): 4:37pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Tehila07: Please you guys have witnessed how many times I have asked this guy a crucial question...please help him, amaro m |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by PHIPEX(m): 4:44pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Sterope:She's free to dream but her dream must align with the family's overall dream. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by Nobody: 4:45pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Very contradictory. But first, U were not clean with her. To start a school is like starting a factory. So hard to just uproot it and start somewhere again. There are so many expatriates who are pastors. Better than being a full time pastor for somebody else and starting new church isn't a joke. Reach a compromise with her and let the school become jointly owned. I wonder why it's not so as u are part of the system already. U can continue as part time pastor. Not every woman is keen to answer pastors wife. U sound so misogynistic. Come down from that cloud that normally covers una eyes to see all wives as obediently submissive bc it's in the bible. Pastorship is not a profession. Shouldn't be a profession. Jesus was a fisherman. Paul, a tent maker. 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by Sterope(f): 4:49pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
What is the family's overall dream? To globe trotting forming nice, wise and friendly to every dick and harry...what if that is not her. Who syas both dreams cannot can go hand in hand. It is left for both of them to sit and plan out their lives. Thank you very much for diminishing someone else's dreams because she has got a vagina. PHIPEX: 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by Sterope(f): 4:53pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Exactly, being a religious leaders should not be a profession. It is an avenue to start indulging in unbecoming behaviours because you want to reach the top of the ladder. Members can do without a 24/7 religious leaders. sassysure: 1 Like |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by icenti: 4:58pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
faithfull18: Coming from a woman. So am not surprised. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by UIA04(f): 5:00pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Tehila07: And you say she is selfish? Why don't you leave what you love for the sake of your family too? 2 Likes
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Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by UIA04(f): 5:03pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Chamladas: 1 Like |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by yeyeosoronga: 5:10pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Why cant you support her business? Why must she leave her business to support yours? God forbid if anything happens to either of you, won't your individual businesses survive without the other? Please, there's nothing wrong in each of you facing your individual businesses and helping each other out when you are able to. Employ people that can help you with your business, and let your wife do same. Why would you ask her to give up her career though? |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by yeyeosoronga: 5:13pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
OlawaleBammie: A woman achieving everything really has nothing to do with having an upper hand over her husband. Some of you men seem to have that false sense of importance and think everything is about you. The world doesnt revolve around the penis o. Do you know how stupid it sounds to say a man wants to achieve success so he can have an upper hand over his own wife? There are many reasons to strive for success, and having an upper hand over a man is not one of it. |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by UIA04(f): 5:14pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Tehila07: I know of a school being manned by a married Muslim lady as far back as I can remember. The owner of the school lives abroad. I don't think that woman ever visits. Although I'm sure the Muslim lady was 'chopping' part of the money but not in the way most school administrators do. Also, she ran the school so well it grew in leaps and bounds. If you guys can find an honest administrator to run the school ( by prayerfully searching) because I don't support a pastor and his wife being apart at all. I believe the church is either redeem or winners and these churches pay their pastors well with accommodation. If she is business savvy, as the mommy of the church she can colonize buying and selling activities there on Sundays. Also, I know many part time pastors who are even more anointed than the full time ones. Maybe you can look at that angle. That school is an asset you both can leave for your kids don't throw it away. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by TheStarsAlign: 5:16pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
vivypretty: Kindly check your profile, then read your comment again |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by vickydevoka(m): 5:21pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
faithfull18:If he tries dat de man is finished. According to my mum pray dat ur wife shouldn't be de bread winner |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by Premiumwriter: 5:32pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
subtlemee:you think before you open your mouth so? |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by AfroKnight: 5:56pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
faithfull18: Her business will take more time to grow before it can make sense. His own is already making money for the family. All she needs to do is come to his own side but no, she won’t. OP, there is a way forward that would support you both. Try to find it. |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by vivypretty(f): 5:57pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
TheStarsAlign:lol. that's for me, who is not married and has no one my decision to make money will affect. |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by naijadrivablog: 6:11pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
TechCapon:� with this comment, are you sure those people will push your topic to FP |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by lonzo(m): 6:15pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
OP which kain job you wan do, your post confuse person walai, hope no say you wan go commit fraud using your wife as proxy. Na joke I dey oo |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by Femsyn(m): 6:42pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
Number one, as a Christian, I dislike the way you keep calling your call to ministry, a business. Two, why must your wife join you in ministry, when you were the only one called? Three, on the brighter side, the school can be an appendage of the ministry. Churches do it all the time. Irrespective of whether you're the G.O. or not, as long as it doesn't carry the name of the church. You guys should reach a compromise, help her and she helps you. It shouldn't be that difficult. After all you are yet to be transferred. However, the difficulty I sense here is the man not wanting the woman to "own the business", and I feel the woman is smart and correct enough not to succumb to his pressure. We sometimes forget women have dreams too and want to thrive. Women can indeed be smarter than some men. So, instead of antagonism, why not support their dreams. Why is it so difficult for you to understand that your wife is not interested in your "business"? 1 Like |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by Femsyn(m): 6:44pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
vickydevoka: Your mum is/was wrong! It all depends on the characters in marriage. |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by OlawaleBammie: 6:53pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
yeyeosoronga: Ehh!! yeyeosoronga biiti bawoo?? Ahhh if soo den courtesy demand my salutation oo. yeye iba yin oo, a never reach to look ur eye oo. yeye i carry nyansh oo. see your nyansh. 1 Like
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Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by yeyeosoronga: 7:20pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
OlawaleBammie: K'Eledua s'anu fun gbogbowa. You're very funny |
Re: I'm Building A Future Not Supported By My Wife by gbogboija: 7:35pm On Sep 26, 2019 |
You're just saying rubbish. I think you must be dull a little. |
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