My girlfriend and I have being together for almost three years now. We've had all the moments the good ,the bad and the ugly.

But recently she met a guy who asked her out, she refused his advances but the guy and her spend so much time on calls and chatting which I don't really like.

I've talked to her so many times about it but if she listens for a week the next week they are back in business.

Last week we were chatting and she just went offline I tried calling her to know what's up only for her number to be busy for like 20 mins. When she came back online and I told her she said she wasn't on call with anyone.

When I probed her further she said she wanted a two weeks break that I complain too much and I don't trust her.

I apologized to her so peace could reign but since then I've started losing interest in her.

my brother, move on with ya life, think of how you can better your life.

holaxi:
My girlfriend and I have being together for almost three years now. We've had all the moments the good ,the bad and the ugly. But recently she met a guy who asked her out she refused his advances but the guy and her spend so much time on calls and chatting which I don't really like. I've talked to her so many times about it but if she listens for a week the next week they are back in business. Last week we were chatting and she just went offline I tried calling her to know what's up only for her number to be busy for like 20 mins. when she came back online and I told her she said she wasn't on call with anyone. When her probed her further she said she wanted a two weeks break that I complain too much and I don't trust her. I apologized to her so peace could reign but since then I've started losing interest in her.

Bro na normal thing for girls..they will still have guys coming in their dms while they are in a relationship (esp. wen they are pretty, set, good body shape- u don't need to be told guys full their dms)...stop stalking her....she isn't married to u yet(relax ur mind)... no dey put mind for girl wey no be ur wife
Ladies are like that...esp wen they are not married...they want to explore ...they want to feel another man's presence apart from you...that's the nature of most of them.....
They go through a lot of temptations( some of them will open up to some men that they are engaged, married or they are in a relationship..some men na him go still insist say they must have a taste)...esp the ones wey fine and set die....even the married ones wey fine...let their husbands check their dms...he go just faint...
.but na woman go give herself Brain as she is trained and well cultured- she go surely survive temptations...some ladies dey even inform their husbands Abt any guy wey enter their dms..




Girls within the bracket age of 18-25 are always like that...

Now, the solution.. having warned her earlier...she changed but went back to her vomit..its obvious she has lost focus....

Now...call her..sit her down and man up...tell her the situation of things..u don't need to argue with her...u ain't married yet don't forget...if u were married now it's a different ball game entirely...
Tell her she has lost focus...that she isn't committed...ask her wat the problem is...(see..there is a way u talk to ladies and they will open up to you Even if na u dey at fault Dem go tell u...they are too easy to get info from)....she will tell u..... whatever she tells you will determine ur next actions.... whether u need to move on or make it up to her...( I realized that the lady in question is not a random girl to you.. because if she was u had moved on without coming on the platform).... serious relationship is for two matured minds - iron out issues when there is a challenge - becos there will surely be one.....

And for the people saying he should leave her and focus on career....op came on the platform for an advice concerning his relationship not career....

Bro, don't let me lie to you, we men understand ourselves better. Just forget her, am talking from experience. The same happened not less than three months ago. But now she is finding a way to come back but i told never again. And thank God i have moved on, even with someone more better 100 fold. Just try to keep yourself relax and hangout with friends.

Bro, don't let me lie to you, we men understand ourselves better. Just forget her, am talking from experience. The same happened not less than three months ago. But now she is finding a way to come back but i told never again. And thank God i have moved on, even with someone more better 100 fold. Just try to keep yourself relax and hangout with friends.

Arthur02:
Bro, don't let me lie to you, we men understand ourselves better.
Just forget her, am talking from experience.
The same happened not less than three months ago.
But now she is finding a way to come back but i told never again.
And thank God i have moved on, even with someone more better 100 fold.
Just try to keep yourself relax and hangout with friends.

Thanks bro I think I've put my mind on her too much for real. I guess its time to let her be on her own for a while.

holaxi:
My girlfriend and I have being together for almost three years now. We've had all the moments the good ,the bad and the ugly. But recently she met a guy who asked her out she refused his advances but the guy and her spend so much time on calls and chatting which I don't really like. I've talked to her so many times about it but if she listens for a week the next week they are back in business. Last week we were chatting and she just went offline I tried calling her to know what's up only for her number to be busy for like 20 mins. when she came back online and I told her she said she wasn't on call with anyone. When her probed her further she said she wanted a two weeks break that I complain too much and I don't trust her. I apologized to her so peace could reign but since then I've started losing interest in her.

How can a MAN possess this high degree of low self esteem?

He even apologized

If you're asked what she brings to the table I know you will say sex


The good thing here is, you will realize how stupid you were in months to come

lilmax:



How can a MAN possess this high degree of low self esteem?

He even apologized

If you're asked what she brings to the table I know you will say sex


The good thing here is, you will realize how stupid you were in months to come

No bro,its not about the sex... I just love this girl.. I know myself if I should get angry once it's over , but the girl has a lot of good attributes in her. I'm just trying to do everything to make her come back to her senses.

u no wan take her to the next level(marriage) or give indication of taking her to the next level hence she don see another available customer

lefulefu:
u no wan take her to the next level(marriage) or give indication of taking her to the next level hence she don see another available customer

My mum and sisters know her already and I know hers too. She's not a bad girl. Just don't know what got into her lately

holaxi:

My mum and sisters know her already and I know hers too. She's not a bad girl. Just don't know what got into her lately

maybe the new guy she"s chatting with has promised to take her to dubai or milan.u know how some babes loose their sanity when dem hear abroad .

holaxi:

No bro,its not about the sex... I just love this girl.. I know myself if I should get angry once it's over , but the girl has a lot of good attributes in her. I'm just trying to do everything to make her come back to her senses.

if you're not getting peace of mind from a woman dispose her immediately


If she was good as you claim, you won't be on nairaland at the moment

Dump her, find a better person, use your time for money not wasting it on a woman

lefulefu:
maybe the new guy she"s chatting with has promised to take her to dubai or milan.u know how some babes loose their sanity when dem hear abroad .

You might be right though cos I don't know what a guy and girl will be talking about at after 11pm for 43mins+. But I try my best for her. If my best isn't enough then she's free to do whatever pleases her. One bad thing about me is once I lose the feelings, there's no gong back.

You're losing no interest bro... You're simply hurt!!
Either you break up with her or you live with it!!

lilmax:
if you're not getting peace of mind from a woman dispose her immediately


If she was good as you claim, you won't be on nairaland at the moment

Dump her, find a better person, use your time for money not wasting it on a woman

Your words seem harsh but they are the bitter truth. I'll show her my other side soon. Thanks

holaxi:

You might be right though cos I don't know what a guy and girl will be talking about at after 11pm for 43mins+. But I try my best for her. If my best isn't enough then she's free to do whatever pleases her. One bad thing about me is once I lose the feelings, there's no gong back.

the guy is spinning her with lies to bust her head so he can get into her pant .if she still insist on giving the guy attention then maybe this will be the right time to think about moving on.dont wait till she tells u she aint interested anymore.

StrongandMighty:
You're losing no interest bro... You're simply hurt!!

Either you break up with her or you live with it!!

I'm thinking of breaking up because I've tried everything, I've talked to her I've scared her . In short I'm tired of everything.

holaxi:

I'm thinking of breaking up because I've tried everything, I've talked to her I've scared her . In short I'm tired of everything.

Bro your peace of mind must at all times be your utmost priority.. Don't trade that for nothing.


If that girl is not giving you peace of mind I don't know what you're still doing with her

holaxi:
My girlfriend and I have being together for almost three years now. We've had all the moments the good ,the bad and the ugly. But recently she met a guy who asked her out she refused his advances but the guy and her spend so much time on calls and chatting which I don't really like. I've talked to her so many times about it but if she listens for a week the next week they are back in business. Last week we were chatting and she just went offline I tried calling her to know what's up only for her number to be busy for like 20 mins. when she came back online and I told her she said she wasn't on call with anyone. When her probed her further she said she wanted a two weeks break that I complain too much and I don't trust her. I apologized to her so peace could reign but since then I've started losing interest in her.

Am really sorry on behalf of ladies on how you have been treated by your lady.

But I need to explain some few things
You may have not understood about ladies.... So you do not make the mistake again in your next relationshipssss

You can kiss a lady and still not know her
. You can sex a lady very well and she will still not be yours.
You may even spend money on her education, looks, parents, health and in gratitude she will cheat on you.

The key to a Lady's heart, soul and body is COMMUNICATION.

Once a guy has good communications with a lady NOT just talk games o, the girl is owned even if she denies it vehemently.

Many guys stop pursuing impressive communication once they have gotten the girl to date them or marry them. That's man's biggest mistake or oversight about women.

Communication is a life long work both parties must do for the relationship to remain strong and grow.

holaxi:

You might be right though cos I don't know what a guy and girl will be talking about at after 11pm for 43mins+. But I try my best for her. If my best isn't enough then she's free to do whatever pleases her. One bad thing about me is once I lose the feelings, there's no gong back.

Bro calm down, she jus a GF not yet ur wife, yu shuld be hapi u av a competition now is d time to show ur manly attributes, show less worry n let her see why u are d best option.
i didnt say impress or go collect renloan to start splashing, stop seein the other guy as a threat. i was two times in ur shoes

'She asked for a 2-week break'

Congratulations, you got yourself a girlfriend with scruples. She doesn't want to cheat on you. The two-week break is to allow the new guy twist, turn and tweak her system to his full pleasure and her carnal satisfaction without the accompanying conscience-crippling guilt of infidelity.

In plain terms,
She's going to get sexually intimate with the new guy.

And there's no stopping her. If after the tryst, she still fancies you then she can come back with a pure heart, devoid of guilt. Since, technically you guys were not together during the time she did the deed.

If on the other hand the experience was orgasm-inducing, she's going to dump you or fxck with your head and make you walk away.

So, you have to just understand that your girlfriend is gone with the new goon. Forget her and move on!

You can thank me by working on yourself and NEVER giving any girl your absolute commitment.

Rich Regards!

anslem04:



Bro calm down, she jus a GF not yet ur wife, yu shuld be hapi u av a competition now is d time to show ur manly attributes, show less worry n let her see why u are d best option.
i didnt say impress or go collect renloan to start splashing, stop seein the other guy as a threat. i was two times in ur shoes

I try my best and we both know. She says it herself also. I can't do beyond my capacity

Ladylite:


Am really sorry on behalf of ladies on how you have been treated by your lady.

But I need to explain some few things
You may have not understood about ladies.... So you do not make the mistake again in your next relationshipssss

You can kiss a lady and still not know her
. You can sex a lady very well and she will still not be yours.
You may even spend money on her education, looks, parents, health and in gratitude she will cheat on you.

The key to a Lady's heart, soul and body is COMMUNICATION.

Once a guy has good communications with a lady NOT just talk games o, the girl is owned even if she denies it vehemently.

Many guys stop pursuing impressive communication once they have gotten the girl to date them or marry them. That's man's biggest mistake or oversight about women.

Communication is a life long work both parties must do for the relationship to remain strong and grow.

If its communication I think we don't vibe like before . Sometimes when we chat she replies so late and she will be online. But I call her and she calls me. And I see her most weekends

Bros of you don't know, your girl is already bouncing on that guy's couch. Better bounce your own and checkout

lilmax:



How can a MAN possess this high degree of low self esteem?

He even apologized

If you're asked what she brings to the table I know you will say sex


The good thing here is, you will realize how stupid you were in months to come

I dey tell u... He will surely regret it

holaxi:

You might be right though cos I don't know what a guy and girl will be talking about at after 11pm for 43mins+. But I try my best for her. If my best isn't enough then she's free to do whatever pleases her. One bad thing about me is once I lose the feelings, there's no gong back.

Oga the feelings is gonna b dere


No matter wat.

Girls love guys DAT love chatting dirty, trust me on this

Dirty chat

Ladylite:


Am really sorry on behalf of ladies on how you have been treated by your lady.

But I need to explain some few things
You may have not understood about ladies.... So you do not make the mistake again in your next relationshipssss

You can kiss a lady and still not know her
. You can sex a lady very well and she will still not be yours.
You may even spend money on her education, looks, parents, health and in gratitude she will cheat on you.

The key to a Lady's heart, soul and body is COMMUNICATION.

Once a guy has good communications with a lady NOT just talk games o, the girl is owned even if she denies it vehemently.

Many guys stop pursuing impressive communication once they have gotten the girl to date them or marry them. That's man's biggest mistake or oversight about women.

Communication is a life long work both parties must do for the relationship to remain strong and grow.

Communication as in wat kind of communication?

Guy tbt ur dating urself

holaxi:

My mum and sisters know her already and I know hers too. She's not a bad girl. Just don't know what got into her lately

women do change easily bro, that's what got into her lately..

never put all your mind on them!!!

holaxi:

Your words seem harsh but they are the bitter truth. I'll show her my other side soon. Thanks

revenge is for kids


WALK

holaxi:
My girlfriend and I have being together for almost three years now. We've had all the moments the good ,the bad and the ugly. But recently she met a guy who asked her out she refused his advances but the guy and her spend so much time on calls and chatting which I don't really like. I've talked to her so many times about it but if she listens for a week the next week they are back in business. Last week we were chatting and she just went offline I tried calling her to know what's up only for her number to be busy for like 20 mins. when she came back online and I told her she said she wasn't on call with anyone. When her probed her further she said she wanted a two weeks break that I complain too much and I don't trust her. I apologized to her so peace could reign but since then I've started losing interest in her.

UBUNJA's MISEDUCATION: That Lil' Break-up She Initiated For No Reason, she said two weeks and you are begging her, it will end in tears bro.. am waiting for your next post

lilmax:



How can a MAN possess this high degree of low self esteem?

He even apologized

If you're asked what she brings to the table I know you will say sex


The good thing here is, you will realize how stupid you were in months to come

, at the bold......