gbeseun:
Poor boy,go and find work and get money,
While someone is spending 20mins on calls burning credit, you are there chatting on monthly sub free.
Go and get money
The babe is going gradually

Jewessgratitude:


Abeg leave the girl! You haven't married her and you're trying to act husband to her. If you dont want another Man in the picture then marry her. After all you've been there 3 years without any assurance and may even dump her at last cos na una way be that.
Don't tie her down and when she's done chasing away other men, you'll now dump her.

I don't even know why she's still wasting her time with you. If the other guy is ready, let her go! Three years with you just gone down the drain and you're there saying yen yen yen...abeg park well... Awon time wasters.

Rilwayne001:
I can tell the OP is in severe pain

I don't want to say the truth that you had already been told, but if I were you, you create a viable career prospect for yourself. Stay focused and stay married to it; let it be more like you're dating that ambition. And whatever girls that's coming your way will be like second girlfriend. Let it be such a way that no girl is put above your ambition/happiness. By this, believe me, you'll be shuffling girls like cards hahaha.

Ladylite:


Am really sorry on behalf of ladies on how you have been treated by your lady.

But I need to explain some few things
You may have not understood about ladies.... So you do not make the mistake again in your next relationshipssss

You can kiss a lady and still not know her
. You can sex a lady very well and she will still not be yours.
You may even spend money on her education, looks, parents, health and in gratitude she will cheat on you.

The key to a Lady's heart, soul and body is COMMUNICATION.

Once a guy has good communications with a lady NOT just talk games o, the girl is owned even if she denies it vehemently.

Many guys stop pursuing impressive communication once they have gotten the girl to date them or marry them. That's man's biggest mistake or oversight about women.

Communication is a life long work both parties must do for the relationship to remain strong and grow.

Ladylite:


Am really sorry on behalf of ladies on how you have been treated by your lady.

But I need to explain some few things
You may have not understood about ladies.... So you do not make the mistake again in your next relationshipssss

You can kiss a lady and still not know her
. You can sex a lady very well and she will still not be yours.
You may even spend money on her education, looks, parents, health and in gratitude she will cheat on you.

The key to a Lady's heart, soul and body is COMMUNICATION.

Once a guy has good communications with a lady NOT just talk games o, the girl is owned even if she denies it vehemently.

Many guys stop pursuing impressive communication once they have gotten the girl to date them or marry them. That's man's biggest mistake or oversight about women.

Communication is a life long work both parties must do for the relationship to remain strong and grow.

Korllami007:


After the new guy have used her to cure konji for six month or 1 year and dump her, you want op to accept her back? But I don't think op is stagnant in life. He would have moved on with his life before then. The girl can start afresh by finding new guy to marry.


Please don't wish the op bad.

anslem04:



A lot of people view things from one perspective, d moment u av r/ship issues is either u're broke or jobless ... so wen d advice start rollin in, its all about go n make money or get a job or face ur career,aint yu pple tayad of these move on chorus. are there no solutions or way around tins other than discarding
2yrs ago my bestie had small issue wit his gf of 4yrs I was in position to resolve it but my chorus was move on, face ur career, make more money buh after 2guy my guy is yet to av even one serious r/ship that wil last 6months. most guys here are struggling dey don't knw hw hard its to find a wife wen yu are rich... d best time is b4 u make dat money.

Acore:
Grant her 2 weeks break request. If/when she eventually return, announce your 4weeks break. The standard with which she measured her 2 weeks, double it for your 4 weeks

holaxi:

You might be right though cos I don't know what a guy and girl will be talking about at after 11pm for 43mins+. But I try my best for her. If my best isn't enough then she's free to do whatever pleases her. One bad thing about me is once I lose the feelings, there's no gong back.

holaxi:
My girlfriend and I have being together for almost three years now. We've had all the moments the good ,the bad and the ugly.

But recently she met a guy who asked her out, she refused his advances but the guy and her spend so much time on calls and chatting which I don't really like.

I've talked to her so many times about it but if she listens for a week the next week they are back in business.

Last week we were chatting and she just went offline I tried calling her to know what's up only for her number to be busy for like 20 mins. When she came back online and I told her she said she wasn't on call with anyone.

When I probed her further she said she wanted a two weeks break that I complain too much and I don't trust her.

I apologized to her so peace could reign but since then I've started losing interest in her.

holaxi:

You might be right though cos I don't know what a guy and girl will be talking about at after 11pm for 43mins+. But I try my best for her. If my best isn't enough then she's free to do whatever pleases her. One bad thing about me is once I lose the feelings, there's no gong back.

pocohantas:
3yrs and counting...

How old are you?
How old is she?
How old is the agent of dickstraction?

We dump one, we marry another.

No one wants to become evening newspaper.

Few yrs from now, you will dickstract another young guy's babe and he will be here to wail too

Cold world.

holaxi:

No bro,its not about the sex... I just love this girl.. I know myself if I should get angry once it's over , but the girl has a lot of good attributes in her. I'm just trying to do everything to make her come back to her senses.

Starz825:


Bro na normal thing for girls..they will still have guys coming in their dms while they are in a relationship (esp. wen they are pretty, set, good body shape- u don't need to be told guys full their dms)...stop stalking her....she isn't married to u yet(relax ur mind)... no dey put mind for girl wey no be ur wife
Ladies are like that...esp wen they are not married...they want to explore ...they want to feel another man's presence apart from you...that's the nature of most of them.....
They go through a lot of temptations( some of them will open up to some men that they are engaged, married or they are in a relationship..some men na him go still insist say they must have a taste)...esp the ones wey fine and set die....even the married ones wey fine...let their husbands check their dms...he go just faint...
.but na woman go give herself Brain as she is trained and well cultured- she go surely survive temptations...some ladies dey even inform their husbands Abt any guy wey enter their dms..




Girls within the bracket age of 18-25 are always like that...

Now, the solution.. having warned her earlier...she changed but went back to her vomit..its obvious she has lost focus....

Now...call her..sit her down and man up...tell her the situation of things..u don't need to argue with her...u ain't married yet don't forget...if u were married now it's a different ball game entirely...
Tell her she has lost focus...that she isn't committed...ask her wat the problem is...(see..there is a way u talk to ladies and they will open up to you Even if na u dey at fault Dem go tell u...they are too easy to get info from)....she will tell u..... whatever she tells you will determine ur next actions.... whether u need to move on or make it up to her...( I realized that the lady in question is not a random girl to you.. because if she was u had moved on without coming on the platform).... serious relationship is for two matured minds - iron out issues when there is a challenge - becos there will surely be one...

holaxi:
My girlfriend and I have being together for almost three years now. We've had all the moments the good ,the bad and the ugly.

But recently she met a guy who asked her out, she refused his advances but the guy and her spend so much time on calls and chatting which I don't really like.

I've talked to her so many times about it but if she listens for a week the next week they are back in business.

Last week we were chatting and she just went offline I tried calling her to know what's up only for her number to be busy for like 20 mins. When she came back online and I told her she said she wasn't on call with anyone.

When I probed her further she said she wanted a two weeks break that I complain too much and I don't trust her.

I apologized to her so peace could reign but since then I've started losing interest in her.

holaxi:

Thanks bro I think I've put my mind on her too much for real. I guess its time to let her be on her own for a while.

deltateam:


We are saying the same thing. Anything you are doing for a woman that isn't your wife is charity.

If your friend married her before doing all these and even dash am belle. I doubt the end would be same.

holaxi:

My mum and sisters know her already and I know hers too. She's not a bad girl. Just don't know what got into her lately

sgtponzihater1:
Trust me. Cut it off. I saw the signs during my courtship, and went on with marriage. Today I am only praying not to get burnt. Trust me, run if u see any wrong sign.

holaxi:

No bro,its not about the sex... I just love this girl.. I know myself if I should get angry once it's over , but the girl has a lot of good attributes in her. I'm just trying to do everything to make her come back to her senses.

lilmax:
if you're not getting peace of mind from a woman dispose her immediately


If she was good as you claim, you won't be on nairaland at the moment

Dump her, find a better person, use your time for money not wasting it on a woman

holaxi:
My girlfriend and I have being together for almost three years now. We've had all the moments the good ,the bad and the ugly.

But recently she met a guy who asked her out, she refused his advances but the guy and her spend so much time on calls and chatting which I don't really like.

I've talked to her so many times about it but if she listens for a week the next week they are back in business.

Last week we were chatting and she just went offline I tried calling her to know what's up only for her number to be busy for like 20 mins. When she came back online and I told her she said she wasn't on call with anyone.

When I probed her further she said she wanted a two weeks break that I complain too much and I don't trust her.

I apologized to her so peace could reign but since then I've started losing interest in her.

holaxi:

I'm thinking of breaking up because I've tried everything, I've talked to her I've scared her . In short I'm tired of everything.

holaxi:
My girlfriend and I have being together for almost three years now. We've had all the moments the good ,the bad and the ugly.

But recently she met a guy who asked her out, she refused his advances but the guy and her spend so much time on calls and chatting which I don't really like.

I've talked to her so many times about it but if she listens for a week the next week they are back in business.

Last week we were chatting and she just went offline I tried calling her to know what's up only for her number to be busy for like 20 mins. When she came back online and I told her she said she wasn't on call with anyone.

When I probed her further she said she wanted a two weeks break that I complain too much and I don't trust her.

I apologized to her so peace could reign but since then I've started losing interest in her.