mastermind1759:

What of d ones with all d money and it still crash..money shld not always be d yardstick..
This 5factors may help out
Must be born again
Good character
Check compatibility
Companionship
Capacity..

. Born again wetin. when she deny you sex , your head and eye go clear one time. don't ever try it. what you may see you won't like it. what happened to a God fearing woman.?

If he had managed to survive the first 1 year,he would have probably saved the marriage- Somebody had lived selfishly all by himself,for himself for over 40 years and you expect him to suddenly adjust within 3 months!

Okoyiboz3:


Oga 4 Million, you money can't buy a Naija used Venza, so stop making noise.

Use your money to improve yourself and stop disturbing us here. They said you're broke, you're mentioning that you have 4M. I spent more than that on my reception and it was a very stupid thing I did.

So, your 4M is nothing, don't be satisfied with that and go hustle bro. Don't let anyone push you into being stupid wedding like I was pushed.

disturbing you You quote me aren’t you?
Only a foolish man spend money lavishly.
I live in my own house, got car for my self, still have job that pays me 400k a month. And you say what? Bro you are very poor due to the way you talk.

ambivert27:
Maybe both of them are too stubborn. Two captains can't be in a ship

A million captains can be in a ship but only one can steer it.

golddust6000:
My job takes me Around the world. I need someone who is presentable, I am not in anyway rushing to marry, if my queen come over today so be it. But not a liability, more money to be made.

ok.

Sometimes, it is spouses that build each other, no be everytime dem dey buy ready made, some times, you have to work with what you have to get what you want.

Obviously, the working class women you want might not fancy you, or they have traits you don't fancy, because if you are looking for a working woman, you would have found a wife by now.

Take care, and best of luck.

Jantamanta1:
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shatap

lol that's how you guys are accusing livebyday mrvitalis even Gandollaar of being me

Una never see anything
hell is coming

Which Gandollar?

TourismMan:


And the guy is always preaching, trying to win soul for God but I think he is someone with pride. Perhaps he was exerting pride in the house with the ex wife.

To be fair, it worries most people too.
I think one unsaid key to marriage is HUMILITY. No one likes hearing this because we live in a world where everyone loves to be in charge. They got married in a church where they got told, “Husband love your wife”; “wife submit to your husband”.

If both of them fail to do this, the marriage will crash. If one does it and the other refuses, the marriage will be standing on one leg— and may crash eventually.

We can pretend about this, be feminist about this, but this is a simple fact people going into marriage should be ready to accept. Otherwise it would just be a waste of time.

Oyiboman69:

I pray you find what you're looking for

Really? Why?

Or are you just being sarcastic because my hobby make you uncomfortable?

I just wish I haven't started it! F*CK marriage.

donbachi:
No matter how d gods small reach,people wey dey go carry am...dey use two hands.

LOL. This okwu di heavy.

lanreHeda:
. i wonder what u would say, if someone told a woman that she cannot have it all and settle because her biological clock is ticking.

is it not what women are told all the time? How can you wonder how I would feel, when 'settle down' is a common anthem with women?

Unmarried women are more of a norm, because society has told women they should be chased and if no one is chasing you, wetin you go do? But a man that professes to be the stuff of dreams and is not married, must have something off and he should be reminded that his own clock too is ticking, since men don't remember that.

RisenPhoenix:
When you wait too long before you marry, you get comfortable in the self-centred bachelor lifestyle. Any wife after that will be seen as an intruder in your home, eating your food and destroying your appliances. It won't last before you vex pack the 'guest' commot.

That's the reality. Unfortunately, that's what some ladies want in the name of "maturity". Na guests una go be las las. Stay with one you love and build your relationship into what you want. Stop searching "already-made" low-budget grandfather with guest rooms.

golddust6000:
thats not true. I am almost 40, I can beat my chest and say the money in my account is over 4million.
The reason why I will not marry anytime soon is because I am looking for working class lady, or self employed person. I am afraid to marry a jobless lady or a liability, these are the reason why I will not rush my marriage.

Eventually you will marry a fellow 'boss'. You would later wish you had settled for someone you raised, with regrets though.

BlowYourMind:
I don't know what you mean by poverty, but I married without job literally, and my marriage is still intact, now I have a joy through my inlaw, just marry a woman not prostitute or a materialistic imp.

You are one in millions. Luck you. You will sure listen to her advice, 100%

mastermaestro:


Eventually you will marry a fellow 'boss'. You would later wish you had settled for someone you raised, with regrets though.

True

Okoyiboz3:


Oga 4 Million, you money can't buy a Naija used Venza, so stop making noise.

Use your money to improve yourself and stop disturbing us here. They said you're broke, you're mentioning that you have 4M. I spent more than that on my reception and it was a very stupid thing I did.

So, your 4M is nothing, don't be satisfied with that and go hustle bro. Don't let anyone push you into being stupid wedding like I was pushed.

you are a big liar? My guy bought to jumbo venza for owerri 2yrs ago for 3.1m

Okoyiboz3:


I agreed with you and Dannybrasky 100%.

On my reception alone, I was stupid enough to spend over 5M of my personal funds. Yet, some people were telling me they didn't eat.

He just shouldn't relax and feel rich cos he has 4M. In fact, he shouldn't spend the money on wedding, he should put it in business.

I promised myself not to spend above 500k when I want to marry.

Triniti:
This is so true..I have a 39 year cousin always complaining to me of how so so of our relations came and was invading his space and privacy. I’m like, how do someone invade your privacy in semi detached 4 bedroom duplex? Dude is growing so strong in this single lifestyle

The truth Is most learned people are fast loosing Interest In marriage and bringing offspring to this world. Technology Is gradually making humans obsolete. In most cases, Illetrates, Gullibles & Ill-Informed people are the ones always clamoring for marriage becos they have little understanding about life.

The main problems of marriages these days are incompatibility and pride.
Love is not enough to sustain marriages.

RisenPhoenix:
When you wait too long before you marry, you get comfortable in the self-centred bachelor lifestyle. Any wife after that will be seen as an intruder in your home, eating your food and destroying your appliances. It won't last before you vex pack the 'guest' commot.

U are full of wisdom cos this your words pierced thru my heart like a dagger. For a man that earns 7 figure monthly and he's approaching his 40's I've always wondered why I can't maintain a relationship for 3 months and u are very correct. I see them encroaching my privacy and reaping where they did not sow, I'm in trouble and it seems baby mama is the only solution now.

mastermaestro:


Eventually you will marry a fellow 'boss'. You would later wish you had settled for someone you raised, with regrets though.

You are not a good talker. You forgotten that as the sun rise that’s also how the sun set. Nothing is straight forward in life.

RisenPhoenix:
When you wait too long before you marry, you get comfortable in the self-centred bachelor lifestyle. Any wife after that will be seen as an intruder in your home, eating your food and destroying your appliances. It won't last before you vex pack the 'guest' commot.

perfect comment...

TourismMan:
So a guy we used to watch football matches together got married around November last year and I was happy for him cos he was already 40 something. I'm so shocked to have learnt days ago that the marriage crashed in less than 3 months. In fact, the informant told me the marriage packed up precisely in the month of March this year for undisclosed reasons.

Honestly, cases like this scare us the singles big time. To me, no marriage is better than broken marriage. What has become our marriage these days?

not everyone can accept the disrespect and selfishness that women display AFTER or near marriage..

..if you can't; better save that money or use it take care of your parents and FORGET marriage.

marriage is suffer with longsuffering for men.

if you give all the gold..problem!
if you give all the knacking..problem!

if you give small of both..problem!

if you talk.. problem!
if you no talk..problem!

its like INTENTIONALLY buying a CHUCKY DOLL! :-P

golddust6000:
disturbing you You quote me aren’t you?
Only a foolish man spend money lavishly.
I live in my own house, got car for my self, still have job that pays me 400k a month. And you say what? Bro you are very poor due to the way you talk.

Perspective bro, perspective.
In the city of the blind, a one-eyed man is the king.
When you leave your mediocre circles, you'll realise you have nothing.

As for me being broke, well I'm under 35, own 3 businesses. I solo founded 2 and the third one has investors on board. I won't state my revenues so it doesn't seem I'm bragging.

Maybe we have "perverted" the purpose of marriage. Maybe we should re-define our idea of marriage. I don't know.

RonaldoVido:


Having a car and a house doesn't even mean a man has enough money to feed himself..

In Nigeria, many people are living on hand to mouth except you have basic salary..

I know people who live in their own duplexes, living on hand to mouth. Forget what you see..

Many pockets are DRY.

True words spoken. I'm surprised to read this here....though I disagree with the "having a basic salary" part. Many people with basic salaries live from hand to mouth too. When bills/expenditure are more than income/earnings, you will live from hand to mouth.

What’s the different between someone that got married and divorce and someone that never get married? Pls explain to me.

mastermaestro:


Eventually you will marry a fellow 'boss'. You would later wish you had settled for someone you raised, with regrets though.

golddust6000:
thats not true. I am almost 40, I can beat my chest and say the money in my account is over 4million.
The reason why I will not marry anytime soon is because I am looking for working class lady, or self employed person. I am afraid to marry a jobless lady or a liability, these are the reason why I will not rush my marriage.

You have a point. But do you know if you are truly a man no matter the level you meet a woman, it wont be difficult for you to harness her potentials and turn her around to her utmost amazement and those around her. Now what if you marry a working class lady that's not supportive or a business woman who would later depend on you to pay her shop rent to stay afloat. Prayerfully ask God to lead you to someone who will help you to serve God better and fulfill your destiny. The purpose of marriage is to fulfill God's purpose for your life any other consideration is secondary, ignorance to this spiritual truth is the root cause of many divorce cases we now witness in our days.

golddust6000:
thats not true. I am almost 40, I can beat my chest and say the money in my account is over 4million.
The reason why I will not marry anytime soon is because I am looking for working class lady, or self employed person. I am afraid to marry a jobless lady or a liability, these are the reason why I will not rush my marriage.

At 40 it should not be a problem to find such a lady.

RisenPhoenix:
When you wait too long before you marry, you get comfortable in the self-centred bachelor lifestyle. Any wife after that will be seen as an intruder in your home, eating your food and destroying your appliances. It won't last before you vex pack the 'guest' commot.

You don hammer the matter with correct point.

golddust6000:
You are not a good talker. You forgotten that as the sun rise that’s also how the sun set. Nothing is straight forward in life.

hmm..your analogy...

sunrise and sunset is one of the most straight forward assurance one can get in life