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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Bigcowhorn: 9:56am On Dec 15, 2019
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OgaBuhari:
omo this one deep chai cool grin cheesy
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Mu...mu.
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by CastingCrowns(f): 10:06am On Dec 15, 2019
OgaBuhari:
I guess you're still in your 20's. Don't worry by the time you start to deteriorate and metamorphose to the evening newspaper stage you'll even beg a brick layer to come and marry u with your own money just to avoid the shame.
With A Moniker Like Urs I Expect Nothing But Bigoted Misogynistic Filth To Come Out Of That Trap U Call A Mouth..People Like U Are Always Confounded When Strong Independent Ladies Have A Standard And Refuse To Settle For Mediocre Irritants.. Unfortunately For U Troll Ave Met My Spec And He Is All That And More..There Are Things Close Minded Simpletons Like U Can Never Understand.

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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by bukatyne(f): 10:29am On Dec 15, 2019
RealMrNigerD:

Good is relative. But for any 'good', we could always get better(maybe if we tell less lies). My validation??. Of course not. You're not one of my employees, never thought in the line of validation either. But what if I'm a spiritual man? As your claim that good always comes your way, answers always come to my prayers. So close your brown eyes let's pray. Which would you like me to pray for you? That you get the man you deserve? or that you get better than that(but you'll have to always remember you don't deserve that man, you're unworthy of him)?

I needed to quote this.

Nice.
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Nobody: 10:44am On Dec 15, 2019
bukatyne:


I needed to quote this.

Nice.
Why, thanks mademoiselle. Hope you're good today? wink
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by bukatyne(f): 10:50am On Dec 15, 2019
RealMrNigerD:

Why, thanks mademoiselle. Hope you're good. wink

I am good, thanks

You are welcome cheesy
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Nobody: 10:54am On Dec 15, 2019
bukatyne:


I am good, thanks

You are welcome cheesy
Ah! surely, the spirit responsible for that is gone, hmmm?
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by bukatyne(f): 10:55am On Dec 15, 2019
RealMrNigerD:

Ah! surely, the spirit responsible for that is gone, hmmm?

Maybe for these few minutes cheesy
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Nobody: 11:02am On Dec 15, 2019
bukatyne:


Maybe for these few minutes cheesy
You're not in church today, It seems. Maybe if you try going, with the help of a good pastor, the spirit will never come back.
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by OgaBuhari: 11:04am On Dec 15, 2019
CastingCrowns:
[s] With A Moniker Like Urs I Expect Nothing But Bigoted Misogynistic Filth To Come Out Of That Trap U Call A Mouth..People Like U Are Always Confounded When Strong Independent Ladies Have A Standard And Refuse To Settle For Mediocre Irritants.. Unfortunately For U Troll Ave Met My Spec And He Is All That And More..There Are Things Close Minded Simpletons Like U Can Never Understand [/s].
independent ladies my foot.
sorry your mr spec will only serve himself of your body and after he's done he'll move on to the next one.
it's obvious you don't have any other thing to offer in marriage asides from bearing children.
you're only good for "use and troway"
If you know what's good for yourself you better not mention me or quote me back
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by bukatyne(f): 11:10am On Dec 15, 2019
charliboy654:

you met your husband at 17 meaning he was quite young too. So am guessing he wasn't any experience as of the time you met him. You are just lucky in a nutshell.

Thank you.

We were lucky to find and keep each other.
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by bukatyne(f): 11:17am On Dec 15, 2019
RealMrNigerD:

You're not in church today, It seems. Maybe if you try going, with the help of a good pastor, the spirit will never come back.

If I try going to church at past 11am? angry

And I get there, I say 'Pastor, Pastor, I want you to deliver me from a spirit that makes me respond to mentions on NL late'. tongue

Do you have a 'good pastor' in mind?
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by CastingCrowns(f): 11:20am On Dec 15, 2019
OgaBuhari:
independent ladies my foot.
sorry your mr spec will only serve himself of your body and after he's done he'll move on to the next one.
it's obvious you don't have any other thing to offer in marriage asides from bearing children.
you're only good for "use and troway"
If you know what's good for yourself you better not mention me or quote me back
Lol I Shouldnt Quote U Or What Idiot? U Think I Am A Foolish Coward Like U.. Its A Pity U Think All Men Are Sootish And Ignorant Like Ur Slimy Ass.. Just Because All The Women In Ur Home Are Dependants And U Have No Independent Women There Doesnt Mean They Dont Exist.. I Reiterate My Point That U Are A Low Self Esteem Coward.. Let That Sink In Idiot.

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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Nobody: 11:25am On Dec 15, 2019
bukatyne:


If I try going to church at past 11am? angry

And I get there, I say 'Pastor, Pastor, I want you to deliver me from a spirit that makes me respond to mentions on NL late'. tongue

Do you have a 'good pastor' in mind?
You may have missed the service but can still get private counselling session. Oh, sure. I have a very good pastor in mind. And don't worry, he takes every case seriously. But first, upload a pic of yours quickly that captures your full view. You can take it off after my acknowledgement. Let me send it to him. He can always tell from one's picture whether or not they'll be 'delivered' (don't think in the line of a baby) with his help.
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by bukatyne(f): 11:27am On Dec 15, 2019
RealMrNigerD:

You may have missed the service but can still get privaate counselling session. Oh, sure. I have a very good pastor in mind. And don't worry, he takes every case seriously. But first, upload a pic of yours quickly that captures your full view. You can take it off after my acknowledgement. Let me show it to him. He can always tell from one's picture whether or not they'll be 'delivered' with his help.

I am amused grin

Greet your pastor for me and gave a great day.
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Nobody: 11:31am On Dec 15, 2019
bukatyne:


I am amused grin

Greet your pastor for me and gave a great day.

Lol. You'll rather keep your spirit than pay this little price. Alright, at least I guess you had a little dose of fun today, yeah? Maybe some other time, then. Have a great day too.
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Yxxx: 12:44pm On Dec 15, 2019
This thread has turn to fight.
Na wa o Nairaland.
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by oyetpel(m): 1:55pm On Dec 15, 2019
Yxxx:
This thread has turn to fight.
Na wa o Nairaland.

I am dissapointed, even those that claimed to be intelligent turned the thread upside down.
To think i was enjoying reading it, smh.

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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by OgaBuhari: 2:47pm On Dec 15, 2019
CastingCrowns:
[s] Lol I Shouldnt Quote U Or What Idiot? U Think I Am A Foolish Coward Like U.. Its A Pity U Think All Men Are Sootish And Ignorant Like Ur Slimy Ass.. Just Because All The Women In Ur Home Are Dependants And U Have No Independent Women There Doesnt Mean They Dont Exist.. I Reiterate My Point That U Are A Low Self Esteem Coward.. Let That Sink In Idiot. [/s]
sorry I couldn't waste my time to read those jargons and mumbo jumbo that u typed up there.
Learn how to write with upper case, apply punctuation where necessary and try to make use of good grammars cos your write up is nothing to write home about.
since you've not yet reach the evening newspaper stage, I'd advise u forget about your mr spec for now and go take a jamb form and find your way and get education for yourself cos u sound like an uneducated bitch

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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by CastingCrowns(f): 3:50pm On Dec 15, 2019
OgaBuhari:
sorry I couldn't waste my time to read those jargons and mumbo jumbo that u typed up there.
Learn how to write with upper case, apply punctuation where necessary and try to make use of good grammars cos your write up is nothing to write home about.
since you've not yet reach the evening newspaper stage, I'd advise u forget about your mr spec for now and go take a jamb form and find your way and get education for yourself cos u sound like an uneducated bitch
Oh The Grammar Is too Big For U Whiny Little Bitch.. This Is What Happens When Cheap Attention Is Given To Deluded And Delusional Little Pieces Of Shite Like U.. I Put It To U That U Arent A Man But A Pathetic Closed Minded Little Bitch..I Wont Waste My Time With A Waste Of Space Like U.
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Bigcowhorn: 5:06pm On Dec 15, 2019
[s]
OgaBuhari:
sorry I couldn't waste my time to read those jargons and mumbo jumbo that u typed up there.
Learn how to write with upper case, apply punctuation where necessary and try to make use of good grammars cos your write up is nothing to write home about.
since you've not yet reach the evening newspaper stage, I'd advise u forget about your mr spec for now and go take a jamb form and find your way and get education for yourself cos u sound like an uneducated bitch
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Trash. Fish brain
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by seunmohmoh(f): 6:24pm On Dec 15, 2019
LINTUNE:
I don't understand,u don't want kids again? undecided
Read well
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Nobody: 4:43pm On Dec 16, 2019
UyaiIncomparabl:


Lol. Na you sabi if you no understand say na joke joor. Good things always come my way so I don't need your validation. grin
Did you miss this?
Good is relative. But for any 'good', we could always get better(maybe if we tell less lies, huh?). My validation??. Of course not. You're not one of my employees, never thought in the line of validation either. But what if I'm a spiritual man? As your claim that good always comes your way, answers always come to my prayers. Shall we give it a try? Close your brown eyes, let's pray. Which would you like me to pray for you? That you get the man you deserve? or that you get better than that(but you'll have to always remember you don't deserve that man, you're unworthy of him)?
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 5:41pm On Dec 16, 2019
RealMrNigerD:

Did you miss this?

Wetin happen na? sad

Na must say you must see my reply ni?

You're giving me creeps.
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Nobody: 6:51pm On Dec 16, 2019
UyaiIncomparabl:


Wetin happen na? sad

Na must say you must see my reply ni?

You're giving me creeps.

Seriously? You're really an immature, unsophisticated, local rude kid, are you(definitely not '35')? Trust me, its only on social media, I mistakenly engage such caliber. Read your profile(which happens to be quite catchy to me) and thought I was holding an intelligent conversation with an average to high I.Q. lady who was well read and would decipher my innuendos to see the hidden humor, and thought I was catching fun while at it. The deceitfulness of a faceless forum, I guess. Forgive me, my bad. Well, at least, someone else was smart enough to decipher. For future purposes, learn to dismiss even the most obnoxious people as mannerly as possible. Shows rich self-worth and high enlightenment level. You also stand a greater chance succeeding in life that way and not losing help opportunities by capable contacts.
Please, forget our chat like a regret that never happened cause I've just done that. Bad bye.
Now, how to recover my lost seconds on unworthy causes? undecided where's my emergency einstein time recovery formula self?
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 9:26pm On Dec 16, 2019
RealMrNigerD:


Seriously? You're really an immature, unsophisticated, local rude kid, are you(definitely not '35')? Trust me, its only on social media, I mistakenly engage such caliber. Read your profile(which happens to be quite catchy to me) and thought I was holding an intelligent conversation with an average to high I.Q. lady who was well read and would decipher my innuendos to see the hidden humor, and thought I was catching fun while at it. The deceitfulness of a faceless forum, I guess. Forgive me, my bad. Well, at least, someone else was smart enough to decipher. For future purposes, learn to dismiss even the most obnoxious people as mannerly as possible. Shows rich self-worth and high enlightenment level. You also stand a greater chance succeeding in life that way and not losing help opportunities by capable contacts.
Please, forget our chat like a regret that never happened cause I've just done that. Bad bye.
Now, how to recover my lost seconds on unworthy causes? undecided where's my emergency einstein time recovery formula self?

grin

Whatever makes you sleep at night, sire. Apologies for my previous displays. It wasn't intended.
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Tiffany07(f): 10:19am On Dec 18, 2019
computergeek:
Ladies, let's gist.

If you ask the average 16-20-year-old to tell you what she wants in a man, it's not uncommon to hear her launch into a list of Messiah-like qualities.

It's funny to us now, but we all had similar lists at some point (some still do, and please enjoy it while it lasts).

My list scared me so much that sometimes, I felt I was going to remain single forever. Even when I prayed at night, I'd take so long reciting everything on my list so that God would know who he was sending my way. My friends and I spent a lot of time back then reading romance novels and the way the authors described the heroes fvcked up our imaginations grin.

I wanted:

-Tall
-Italian half-caste with very yellow skin
-Gorgeous shoulder-length jet-black hair
- Eight packs grin
-Catholic like me
-Tech savvy like me
- Extremely intelligent
-Smiling and cheerful
- stinkingly rich
-God-fearing (ever lady's list features this, even the atheists grin)
- Cool-tempered
- light brown eyes
- full red lips (lol, I was literally dreaming for a man doll)
-Amazing in za oza room

And all the other regular stuff like loving, romantic, funny, caring, gentle, kind, and so on.

Yimnu, no be like that ooo... By the time I hit 21 - 22, me was not doing again grin. I just wanted someone with whom I shared a strong attraction. A decent man who had a good head on his shoulders, a steady source of income and ambition.

When my list became reasonable and meaningful, I guess I found one who checked out grin. Guess what? I married that "big head".

He had some of the qualities on my first list shaa, like he's Catholic and tech savvy, tall and intelligent. But uncle is not Italian, he has brown skin and he does not like smiling grin.

**********************

It's different when a woman decides that she does not want to get married. Marriage is not for everyone and society needs to evolve to a time when it stops shaming single ladies.

However, some who may really want to be married are getting held up by the unrealistic qualities they seek in a life partner. It's your life, sure, but only Jesus is perfect Nne. Chase attraction and compatibility and quit looking for perfection. This doesn't mean you should settle for the first shit-head that comes your way or over-lowering your standards, but let's try not to chase a reflection of our 8-year-old imaginations.

So ladies, what changed about your own list? Even if you're not married yet, give us your evolved status grin.
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Pocohantas, Ishilove and Bukatyne - The three musketeers grin. Come and get the party started here. My babes from the Diary section, Pateffy, Tiffany07, MelaninQueen, Henriettttta, Luckygurl, Hermionegranger, Bloomingbud, Peacefulhome, y'all get in here!

Lol. Funny enough, I didn't have any of these lists about physical qualities between 16-20. I don't know if it was because I saw most of the guys around me as buddies then, so I didn't crush much.
But I still have
Tall, dark and handsome Yoruba men topping my non existent list. Nobody should just come for me if I end up marrying a fair, average height man sha. But I doubt it.
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Nobody: 5:30pm On Dec 18, 2019
UyaiIncomparabl:


grin

Whatever makes you sleep at night, sire. Apologies for my previous displays. It wasn't intended.
So maybe you're not that immature, after all. Apology acknowledged, although, would you believe I still haven't found where I put the formula? Searched everywhere. And for the record, mam, I don't sleep at night, those that do lose much in the day, and will serve those that don't. #Secrets of the successful#
Anyways, Bye.
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:57pm On Dec 18, 2019
RealMrNigerD:

So maybe you're not that immature, after all. Apology acknowledged, although, would you believe I still haven't found where I put the formula? Searched everywhere. And for the record, mam, I don't sleep at night, those that do lose much in the day, and will serve those that don't. #Secrets of the successful#
Anyways, Bye.

smiley
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by luminouz(m): 9:19pm On Dec 18, 2019
Tiffany07:


Lol. Funny enough, I didn't have any of these lists about physical qualities between 16-20. I don't know if it was because I saw most of the guys around me as buddies then, so I didn't crush much.
But I still have
Tall, dark and handsome Yoruba men topping my non existent list. Nobody should just come for me if I end up marrying a fair, average height man sha. But I doubt it.

What's special about tall,dark Yoruba men. Better do fair and average height before I change am for you. tongue

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Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Nobody: 8:32pm On Dec 21, 2019
charliboy654:

Doesn't mean the guy is dumb jor, since you are so intelligent come n talk with me about electrical engineering or about computer programming, you probably wouldn't be able to hold an intelligent conversation with me on those field i mentioned above. Does that make you dumb? Obviously not.
The fact that one cannot hold a conversation on politics with you doesn't mean the person is dumb.
You can't measure a fish intelligence by its ability to claim a tree.
Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Nobody: 8:42pm On Dec 21, 2019
LosC:
If you truly love someone, you won't know why you love that person. True love doesn't allow you state the reasons why you love that person. You can't just tell why.
If you love someone because of what he has or probably, you saw what you've been searching for in him, that love may not last because the very day that 'reason' vanishes, that love dies and unknowingly or knowingly, you lose interest and the moment you see the 'reason' why you loved that person in another fellow, you'll begin to desire that person.

Everything you see may not last forever. There's this peace you get when you meet the right person. In all, let's always pray for a partner that'll help you actualize that Destiny you never knew. Also, be a woman that makes an unprepared man ask God to prepare him.

Re: Ladies, What Was Your "Coming-of-age" List Of Qualities In A Man? What Changed? by Clashy(m): 9:57pm On Dec 21, 2019
Creativebae:
After reading lots of romantic novels and watching American best seller movies...
I just told myself he must be very handsome, must be light skinned, must know how to sing, must have gap teeth, broad chest, small sexy eyes and pink lips....
But now.. Lol
The reverse is the case oooo.
Just have sense and be creative. ..
That's my spec. ..
I dey crush oh

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