Abagworo:



The harsh words some of you use on Nigeria amazes me.. There's room for all class of people to have as much children as they wish and take care of them.

Yes, I guess the constitution of Nigeria gives them the latitude to have as much children as they can but the real world will whip them into line when the bills & school fees pile up.

Why not have like 2 & give them your best? I rather look shabby & my children glow than giving birth to kids strangers wouldn’t even want to carry. I have many kids that I am not tempted to carry as it is evident that they are not well taken care of. Dem plenty well well for dis Lagos.

. The koko to how they cope is food rationing, they do not go to fancy restaurants only except on big occasions e.g Christmas. Food rationing is how they cope, once there is food they can manage to have 10 children . Hint they did not eat two times a day. So a child is always underweight or have kwaskhor.kwaskhor Your senior sibling outfit will eventually become your clothes. If a child is sick or dies, the family grieve and move on. Sometimes sex is the only way for the poor to enjoy hence the woman is pregnant again. Condoms are expensive to the poor, why buy condoms when you can use the money for good , transport or medicine. And their lifestyle is different, some can live in one small room with no tv , one stove and have 5 children. Have you met an Aboki who work as a gate man with 2 wives and many children?

2 minimum 4 absolute maximum for me

Pautacfm:
Some of us for no exist with this mentality o, as I be number 5 so

someone also could have been una number 6 or 7 na. God don put them for other families na

it's is a well known fact that too many children are the main reason people of this part of the world suffer. may God help those wishing to have more than 3kids.

uninspired07:
I know this my thread might get some people angry but it’s a subject that surprises me whenever I think of it. How do normal Nigerians who are educated have more than 2 children in a country like Nigeria with all the poverty & hopelessness? I am still single but I have it in mind to lay a ground rule that whichever woman I marry must agree to family planing methods after the birth of the 1st child whether male or female. And if the 1st baby is male, we can as well wait for another 5 years before having a baby of either sex as the last.

But I wonder when I see Nigerians that are not so wealthy giving birth to 4 - 5 kids in the midst of grinding economic depression and in a nation that has clearly failed. Don’t these Nigerians know that the country can descend into war anytime due to the instability that is so palpable? I get afraid when I see couples who have 4 children in this day & age so I always wonder how they are coping with the stress & the bills. I also wonder why they are not afraid of Nigeria.

Bro, don't work by sight, work by faith. I come from a family of 7 kids. We went through the toughest of times because my God fearing popsi will not compromise his faith to practice corruption. In the end what we gained most is character, humility, discipline and a fierce fighting spirit. No single sense of entitlement.

Today our last born is in a private university. Our first is a bank manager, second is a doctor in law lecturing in a prestigious university in Melbourn, I have just established a multi million naira factory, my younger ones are starting up real good.

Believe me when I say Nigeria is better now than before. I still remember during Abacha era when my family will have absolutely nothing to eat some days despite both my parents being senior civil servants. My popsi stayed beck at home on two occasions because no TP to get to work. People actually fed from trash cans back then.

Like I said don't work by sight. Work by faith. I know this because when I look at my popsi now am just happy for him. We are still coming up and he is already balling. Remember children are the blessing of God.

uninspired07:


Why can’t you stop at 2? Nigeria has changed radically from the time of our parents?

How do you know that I am not among the 1st two children of my parents?

Nigeria is just too failed a country to burden with overpopulation. I observe that people who give birth to many Children are always illiterate & stark poor. And they are not afraid of poverty do they hug it with gusto by having many children they can’t cater for.

NB: 10 Childern? That’s fantastic. I am sure your pops was doing fine back in the days to have been able to shoulder the responsibility.

Continue to have just one child while someone 10 yrs younger than u from the north already has 5 and still counting. Later you will wonder how come they have more population during election period. This your mentality is the reason the north will always dictate who wins election in this country. Shalom!

uninspired07:
I know this my thread might get some people angry but it’s a subject that surprises me whenever I think of it. How do normal Nigerians who are educated have more than 2 children in a country like Nigeria with all the poverty & hopelessness? I am still single but I have it in mind to lay a ground rule that whichever woman I marry must agree to family planing methods after the birth of the 1st child whether male or female. And if the 1st baby is male, we can as well wait for another 5 years before having a baby of either sex as the last.

But I wonder when I see Nigerians that are not so wealthy giving birth to 4 - 5 kids in the midst of grinding economic depression and in a nation that has clearly failed. [b]Don’t these Nigerians know that the country can descend into war anytime due to the instability that is so palpable? [/b]I get afraid when I see couples who have 4 children in this day & age so I always wonder how they are coping with the stress & the bills. I also wonder why they are not afraid of Nigeria.

The bolded worries me

If things continue this way over the next 10 to 15 years

Nigeria is done for
It's clear

While you keep limiting children or follow family planning on not having more than 2 children, the North keep breeding for political reason and advantage. They will keep ruling and lording over us with their population advantage.

FromZeroToHero:
Sometimes it's our poor mentality that is causing it. I know a family that has 9 girls because they are looking for a Male child.

That’s the fear. Not having male children will hurt me personally but I wouldn’t thrust myself into poverty because of it.

uninspired07:
I know this my thread might get some people angry but it’s a subject that surprises me whenever I think of it. How do normal Nigerians who are educated have more than 2 children in a country like Nigeria with all the poverty & hopelessness? I am still single but I have it in mind to lay a ground rule that whichever woman I marry must agree to family planing methods after the birth of the 1st child whether male or female. And if the 1st baby is male, we can as well wait for another 5 years before having a baby of either sex as the last.

But I wonder when I see Nigerians that are not so wealthy giving birth to 4 - 5 kids in the midst of grinding economic depression and in a nation that has clearly failed. Don’t these Nigerians know that the country can descend into war anytime due to the instability that is so palpable? I get afraid when I see couples who have 4 children in this day & age so I always wonder how they are coping with the stress & the bills. I also wonder why they are not afraid of Nigeria.

Who told you Nigeria has failed? Which war? Permit to say that this your write up is very stupid

Taeewo:
Ao ni ri iku omo

I won't say more than that..

Most iku omo is caused by poverty. When you born plenty, you can't take care of them cos your resources are stretched.

Those who born like rabbits find it very difficult to upgrade their lives out of poverty. For instance, they can't even get Canadian papers. Where them wan see POF for a family of 8 kids and 2 parents?

All these stories of 2or 4 kids doesn't add up to me: on the contrary, why should one have even 4 kids in a country with low life expectancy, bad road and terrible health couple non functional educational system when I have the financial capacity to take care of dozen.

Our problem is that we copy the white without applying any sense of logic.
In our peculiar environment, please born as many as you can take good care of. If you don't, sure you'll take care of other people or relative responsibility.

My father had 21 lost 2, having 19 left we are all are virtually doing great, supporting each other.
Having experience joy of large family, I can never ask for a thin or slim family.

My father about 2 years acknowledging that he would have been dead 10 years to his time if not for the children he had.

Suleja-Minna road was blocked down for his Janaiza prayer cos crowd and personalities that attended the burial.

I have 4 kids now, attending one of the best schools in town and by His Grace more are coming.

uninspired07:


Yes, I guess the constitution of Nigeria gives them the latitude to have as much children as they can but the real world will whip them into line when the bills & school fees pile up.

Why not have like 2 & give them your best? I rather look shabby & my children glow than giving birth to kids strangers wouldn’t even want to carry. I have many kids that I am not tempted to carry as it is evident that they are not well taken care of. Dem plenty well well for dis Lagos.

this 2 kids you dey place emphasis on so. How many people can raise 2 kids in 9ja Even people with 2 girls. By 13 14 the girls are already depending on men to survive

AmarachiAshawo:
While you keep limiting children or follow family planning on not having more than 2 children, the North keep breeding for political reason and advantage. They will keep ruling and lording over us with their population advantage.

And you think some of us want to be Nigerians for ever? What’s my business with Nigeria? The North can have the shithole to themselves. The sane ones will eventually emigrate out of Nigeria with their families.

tumababa:


Continue to have just one child while someone 10 yrs younger than u from the north already has 5 and still counting. Later you will wonder how come they have more population during election period. This your mentality is the reason the north will always dictate who wins election in this country. Shalom!

So we should breed kids like rats because of election?

My country "-\

justnock:
@uninspired07 na your type wife go end up giving birth to quadruplets.

I wonder what he will do once his wife gives birth to four at once. Kill the remaining two maybe?

With all the hatred and ill feelings people have been harboring these days towards their fellow human beings, sincerely, we are not supposed to be giving births again. The earth is already poisoned, if not for a few good ones, the current human race should go into total extinction. Seriously!

ememonl:



Bro, don't work by sight, work by faith. I come from a family of 7 kids. We went through the toughest of times because my God gearing popsi will not compromise his faith to practice corruption. In the end what we gained most is character, humility, discipline and a fierce fighting spirit. No single sense of entitlement.

Today our last born is in a private university. Our first is a bank manager, second is a doctor in law lecturing in a prestigious university in Melbourn, I have just established a multi million naira factory, my younger ones are starting up real good.

Believe me when I say Nigeria is better now than before. I still remember during Abacha era when my family will have absolutely nothing to eat some days. My popsi stayed beck at home on two occasions because no TP to get to work. People actually fed from trash cans.

Like I said don't work by sight. Work by faith. I know this because when I look at my popsi now am just happy for him. We are still coming up and he is already balling. Remember children are the blessing of God.

God bless you. If you think it is your money or the expensive schools your children go that will make them succeed you have already failed as a parent.

Deicide:
I think the op is forgetting something that the system is not made for the poor, people don't give birth to more children because they can they do so because of security reasons. if you check most third world country poor people mostly give birth to more children at least if one dies you wouldn't lose much, rich people have the money for security so they hardly give birth to more children, you could see this fact in first world country where the system works well despite being rich would hardly give birth to more than three. Logically @Op your point might make sense Logically but economically it doesn't, if the system works for the poor, they wouldn't have to worry about security thereby giving birth to less children.

this is a very thrashy opinion... Death visits anyone... Both rich and poor.... DJ olu that died of recent... Was his father poor, all those rich rappers that died before 21...were they poor... Bro... Death has nothing to with your pocket...

tumababa:


[b]Continue to have just one child while someone 10 yrs younger than u from the north already has 5 and still counting. [/b]Later you will wonder how come they have more population during election period. This your mentality is the reason the north will always dictate who wins election in this country. Shalom!

This is axactly what comes to my mind. The North keep breeding while we keep advocating on limiting. The North will continue to lord over us with their population.

uninspired07:
I know this my thread might get some people angry but it’s a subject that surprises me whenever I think of it. How do normal Nigerians who are educated have more than 2 children in a country like Nigeria with all the poverty & hopelessness? I am still single but I have it in mind to lay a ground rule that whichever woman I marry must agree to family planing methods after the birth of the 1st child whether male or female. And if the 1st baby is male, we can as well wait for another 5 years before having a baby of either sex as the last.

But I wonder when I see Nigerians that are not so wealthy giving birth to 4 - 5 kids in the midst of grinding economic depression and in a nation that has clearly failed. Don’t these Nigerians know that the country can descend into war anytime due to the instability that is so palpable? I get afraid when I see couples who have 4 children in this day & age so I always wonder how they are coping with the stress & the bills. I also wonder why they are not afraid of Nigeria.

pray your partner agrees with you


Some women will intentionally get pregnant four or five times

basty:
Op is actually, morally, reasonably and right in all sense.

I think same way and what the future holds for a brutish clime called Nigeria.

if only all other Nigerians thinks towards same direction as the op is doing. What are you going to tell the northern part then

abdulizom:
All these stories of 2or 4 kids doesn't add up to me: on the contrary, why should one have even 4 kids in a country with low life expectancy, bad road and terrible health couple non functional educational system when I have the financial capacity to take care of dozen.

Our problem is that we copy the white without applying any sense of logic.
In our peculiar environment, please born as many as you can take good care of. If you don't, sure you'll take care of other people or relative responsibility.

My father had 21 lost 2, having 19 left we are all are virtually doing great, supporting each other.
Having experience joy of large family, I can never ask for a thin or slim family.

My father about 2 years acknowledging that he would have been dead 10 years to his time if not for the children he had.

Suleja-Minna road was blocked down for his Janaiza prayer cos crowd and personalities that attended the burial.

I have 4 kids now, attending one of the best schools in town and by His Grace more are coming.

You are a northerner

So I am not surprised at your reasoning

Not at all

uninspired07:


Wow....triplets....I guess there’s no remedy to this one.

uninspired07:


They are mostly the poor & uneducated ones. But I see some enlightened Nigerians too having many Children ooo. They are fearless & committed Nigerians then.

I have seen a rich man give birth to ten kids from same wife.
First 8 kids were daughter
Ninth one was a son
They tried one more and a girl showed up again

So rich kids too go overboard depending on the circumstances

abdulizom:
All these stories of 2or 4 kids doesn't add up to me: on the contrary, why should one have even 4 kids in a country with low life expectancy, bad road and terrible health couple non functional educational system when I have the financial capacity to take care of dozen.

Our problem is that we copy the white without applying any sense of logic.
In our peculiar environment, please born as many as you can take good care of. If you don't, sure you'll take care of other people or relative responsibility.

My father had 21 lost 2, having 19 left we are all are virtually doing great, supporting each other.
Having experience joy of large family, I can never ask for a thin or slim family.

My father about 2 years acknowledging that he would have been dead 10 years to his time if not for the children he had.

Suleja-Minna road was blocked down for his Janaiza prayer cos crowd and personalities that attended the burial.

I have 4 kids now, attending one of the best schools in town and by His Grace more are coming.

I am Christian & a sotlutherner & my religion doesn’t teach me to have many children. In fact I am limited to one wife. If one is a northerner, it’s understandable if one births many children as the predominant religion other there & the culture encourages multiple birth. To each his own. But I would counsel that any reasonable southerner plans his family as Nigeria is not a good place to train kids.

uninspired07:


What empire is that? Farming empire?

You can do all you need to do on your with tractors.

My brother, just pray not to meet a bad woman like me, everything inside life is Grace of God,

uninspired07:


Why can’t you stop at 2? Nigeria has changed radically from the time of our parents?

How do you know that I am not among the 1st two children of my parents?

Nigeria is just too failed a country to burden with overpopulation. I observe that people who give birth to many Children are always illiterate & stark poor. And they are not afraid of poverty do they hug it with gusto by having many children they can’t cater for.

NB: 10 Childern? That’s fantastic. I am sure your pops was doing fine back in the days to have been able to shoulder the responsibility.

Bros, how old are you? No insult but you sound quite immature.

You can plan and plan for the future yet, it'll remain unknown to you.

Have you seen families with 2 kids in abject poverty? Have you seen families of 8 living very well (rich in fact)?

Have 2 kids out of preference and not because of economy. Recession affects everyone; 2 kids or 10 kids. It doesn't factor the number of seed you have. Okay?

permit:
if only all other Nigerians thinks towards same direction as the op is doing. What are you going to tell the northern part then

The North can keep populating the earth with children, they will eventually inherit a Somali like nation filled with instability & war. Na dem sabo.

uninspired07:
I know this my thread might get some people angry but it’s a subject that surprises me whenever I think of it. How do normal Nigerians who are educated have more than 2 children in a country like Nigeria with all the poverty & hopelessness? I am still single but I have it in mind to lay a ground rule that whichever woman I marry must agree to family planing methods after the birth of the 1st child whether male or female. And if the 1st baby is male, we can as well wait for another 5 years before having a baby of either sex as the last.

But I wonder when I see Nigerians that are not so wealthy giving birth to 4 - 5 kids in the midst of grinding economic depression and in a nation that has clearly failed. Don’t these Nigerians know that the country can descend into war anytime due to the instability that is so palpable? I get afraid when I see couples who have 4 children in this day & age so I always wonder how they are coping with the stress & the bills. I also wonder why they are not afraid of Nigeria.

You have a very good and healthy reasoning. Me, no matter where I live or how wealthy I am, I want to have just 2 or at most 3 biological kids of my own, and this my stand, my wife has accepted.

It doesn't have to be Nigerians living in Nigeria alone, even those living outside Nigeria should stop giving birth to more than 3 kids at most no matter the gender of your kids.

I think it is the ladies that cause it. Most Nigerian ladies love having plenty kids for reason I don't know. My wife for instance wanted 4 or 5 kids but I told her no, we can't have more than 3.

Northern Nigerians are another people posing big threat to Nigeria's population control with their polygamy practice without considering their financial or economic status, they are a ticking time bomb in Nigeria waiting to explode the nation

If you love plenty children or you love kids like me, you can accept from motherless homes which I plan to do by God's grace.

The whole world need population control, not just Nigeria

Oga it's different strokes for different folks. It all depends on which side you are looking from, either the glass is half empty or half full; Perception. One guy said" it's because of you kids that I'm poor" another said " it's because of you kids that I'm wealthy". Besides God said be fruitful, multiply and replenish. It all depends on your capacity bro not on the economy, inside this economy we are complaining, people are still hitting it big time. But then again it still our choice to make